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Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by friday2011(m): 8:15pm On Apr 30, 2020
Millenniumlady:
Use the both guys to your advantage


Keep joe guy for assignments and handout test and other class stuff



While use the new guy for your finances phones,clothes,eateries wigs


And please stay in school hostle that way non of them can bother you with sex cause they can't gain access to girls hostel and you ever visit any of them reduce your sexual conversation with joe guy and learn to keep your phone private.....Hope it helps smiley

Hmnnn, experienced hire

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Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by Nobody: 8:15pm On Apr 30, 2020
Weebo:
Joe messed up by not smashing you earlier and leaving
.
Poor timing
Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by wifeesnatcher(m): 8:15pm On Apr 30, 2020
your real boyfriend is in trouble. you've a bf but you don't found him attractive to you if you'd you won't be worried about Joe friendship



is your bf not suppose to be your bestie and best confidant ?



you're emotionally unstable Op and I see your relationship with your guy hitting the wall by the time you go to a long length in getting Joe's attention


I sincerely hate ladies like you and I doubt if you're still intact
Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by Benjamin4388(m): 8:16pm On Apr 30, 2020
humblemikel:
So you actually wanted to frienfzone Joe for Mr. Dickson
Is not fair nna. cry

lol you so right ..and it seems no be today mr joe have been friendzone ..he just took the best drastic to help himself...later on, the op would be using mr joe for mr consultant on her relationship
Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by Codedworld1: 8:16pm On Apr 30, 2020
I beg which school u dey
Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by Giwoni: 8:16pm On Apr 30, 2020
Suzzi23:
Hi guys. Please I need advice.

There is this guy in my department. Let's call him Joe. He is good looking and very intelligent. He also has this very nice voice and good vocabulary. Initially we were just normal casual classmates, we greet, exchange notes and all that, nothing serious. I've always found him attractive but have not found him special in any way because I've met lots of guys like him in my University.

But few months ago he started becoming more friendly towards me. We got talking and we realized we shared a lot in common. He asked me if I was single and I told him I was. This was the truth because I wasn't dating anyone then.

Few days after another guy I was very close to asked me to be his girlfriend and I agreed. I'm in love with this guy. He is very jovial, intelligent and he knows how to treat me well. I know he loves me because I've known him for a while and he has treated me with love, affection and respect. It's always fun being around him and I enjoy his company.

Despite now being in a relationship, I still continued spending time with Joe. We shared a lot of deep intimate info about ourselves with each other. I have never felt more comfortable talking to someone before. Talking to him always made me feel good. I felt I could be vulnerable with him. He was very honest and didn't hide the dark aspects of himself. He wasn't the type to pretend he was a good person. And he wasn't. He had done a lot of bad things in the past and he wasn't afraid to talk to me about them. And although this might sound weird I liked the fact that he wasn't the typical "moral individual" I was used to meeting. I liked the fact that he had a dark personality that only me knew about. He said things to me that made me begin to explore myself and my sexuality in ways I didn't even imagine that I could. He was always fond of teasing me and never hesitated to correct me if I did anything wrong. I loved that kind of honesty.

As we talked more Joe opened up to me that he was attracted to me and had feelings for me. He would flirt with me and I'd try my best not to flirt back but I enjoyed his flirting and I enjoyed his company. He asked me if I felt the same way about him and I was honest and I said I had feelings for him, because I did. He is an attractive guy and even though I have a boyfriend I can't help being attracted to him..

He then asked me to be his girlfriend and I told him I was already dating someone. He was surprised by my response. He told me he was under the impression that I was single and that's why he had gotten so close and intimate with me. But he didn't appear angry or sad. He even told me my bf was lucky to have me.

The problem now is that since that day he hasn't talked to me. When I see him in class, he doesn't even act like I exist. He doesn't reply my messages, doesn't pick up my calls and doesn't check up on me. Throughout this lockdown he hasn't even texted me once. This is unlike him. I feel very bad about the whole thing. It's almost like our relationship didn't mean anything to him and I didn't mean anything to him. I want to still be friends with him.
Do you want to use one stone and kill two birds at once? You told him that you already have a boyfriend and you still want him around you as friend, rethink. my question to you is that if he did exactly what you did to him to you, will you still accept him as your friend and him expecting you to be calling and chatting him? The biggest problem about most girls is that they don't really know what they want.
Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by udemzyudex(m): 8:17pm On Apr 30, 2020
CsRockefeller:


She is d strict one. I have been at her place, all of them are strictly Muslims from Lagos, even in school then, she used to say that she cant convert.

Lol every Muslim girl will tell you that they can't convert, it's normal but when better prick handle her, believe me she will convert.

There are some Muslim girls that have converted to Christian because they married a Christian.
Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by Nobody: 8:17pm On Apr 30, 2020
othermen:
Buy 7 candles, when it is 12AM, light it all. Call out his name 21 times, do these while fasting for 20days. He will talk to you.

grin grin grin grin why are you like this

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Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by Nobody: 8:18pm On Apr 30, 2020
Millenniumlady:
Use the both guys to your advantage


Keep joe guy for assignments and handout test and other class stuff



While use the new guy for your finances phones,clothes,eateries wigs


And please stay in school hostle that way non of them can bother you with sex cause they can't gain access to girls hostel and you ever visit any of them reduce your sexual conversation with joe guy and learn to keep your phone private.....Hope it helps smiley
You need deliverance
Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by izubext007: 8:18pm On Apr 30, 2020
girls with fake green light

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Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by Innomoney: 8:18pm On Apr 30, 2020
...he couldn't do less, because he had a purpose for the friendship. Boys don't go very close to girls just for fun. It could be to date, advise and/or learn from. You occupied his heart, while the relationship lasted,but now he is aware that his dating ambition is distorted by your admittance that you have a guy. He has to stay aside because he has a wound to heal, it's normal even for girls. So just give him time okay.

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Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by Theboss100(m): 8:20pm On Apr 30, 2020
Millenniumlady:
Use the both guys to your advantage


Keep joe guy for assignments and handout test and other class stuff



While use the new guy for your finances phones,clothes,eateries wigs


And please stay in school hostle that way non of them can bother you with sex cause they can't gain access to girls hostel and you ever visit any of them reduce your sexual conversation with joe guy and learn to keep your phone private.....Hope it helps smiley
Shut up. I repeat shut the hell up. What kind of human are you If it was a guy that said this now, heaven would have let loose. Goan hustle to earn ur respect. And don't forget that karma is a bitch. It will get out uif u don't change this stupid mindset. No insult intended.
Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by samzy(m): 8:20pm On Apr 30, 2020
If it were me I would have dine the same.....

Somehow I'll feel you lied to me or I'll feel you favor the guy much more than me...

My secret is not save with you...
Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by katheeroh: 8:20pm On Apr 30, 2020
But sorry to say ....
you made a mistake by accepting the second guy at the very first place when you know that the first guy has feelings for you .
you are not patient enough dear.
you should have waited a little to see if the first guy will pup out that question.. "will you be my girlfriend?".
I can't blame Joe....he's hurting ...as in deeply hurt .
put yourself in his shoes and view from that angle .
some guys can never accept friend zoning.



if you cannot feed a bird at least free it to eat from earth.

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Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by omorttee4u(m): 8:21pm On Apr 30, 2020
You have to own up to the mistake made. He knows the kind of guys he is, then asked if you are single. Your reply made moved close to you.

But, hey ,the more you expect his text or call, the more your heart move close to him, you might think is love but is just a friendship bond.

So, concentrate on your boyfriend. Expect less in other not to get heart broken.

That's my take!
Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by Arewa1408: 8:21pm On Apr 30, 2020
Millenniumlady:
Use the both guys to your advantage


Keep joe guy for assignments and handout test and other class stuff



While use the new guy for your finances phones,clothes,eateries wigs


And please stay in school hostle that way [b]non of them can bother you with sex [/b]cause they can't gain access to girls hostel and you ever visit any of them reduce your sexual conversation with joe guy and learn to keep your phone private.....Hope it helps smiley

Did you comprehend the story? As if she herself, you typing now, don't crave, need, want, indulge it.
Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by Minemrys: 8:21pm On Apr 30, 2020
Suzzi23:
Hi guys. Please I need advice.

There is this guy in my department. Let's call him Joe. He is good looking and very intelligent. He also has this very nice voice and good vocabulary. Initially we were just normal casual classmates, we greet, exchange notes and all that, nothing serious. I've always found him attractive but have not found him special in any way because I've met lots of guys like him in my University.

But few months ago he started becoming more friendly towards me. We got talking and we realized we shared a lot in common. He asked me if I was single and I told him I was. This was the truth because I wasn't dating anyone then.

Few days after another guy I was very close to asked me to be his girlfriend and I agreed. I'm in love with this guy. He is very jovial, intelligent and he knows how to treat me well. I know he loves me because I've known him for a while and he has treated me with love, affection and respect. It's always fun being around him and I enjoy his company.

Despite now being in a relationship, I still continued spending time with Joe. We shared a lot of deep intimate info about ourselves with each other. I have never felt more comfortable talking to someone before. Talking to him always made me feel good. I felt I could be vulnerable with him. He was very honest and didn't hide the dark aspects of himself. He wasn't the type to pretend he was a good person. And he wasn't. He had done a lot of bad things in the past and he wasn't afraid to talk to me about them. And although this might sound weird I liked the fact that he wasn't the typical "moral individual" I was used to meeting. I liked the fact that he had a dark personality that only me knew about. He said things to me that made me begin to explore myself and my sexuality in ways I didn't even imagine that I could. He was always fond of teasing me and never hesitated to correct me if I did anything wrong. I loved that kind of honesty.

As we talked more Joe opened up to me that he was attracted to me and had feelings for me. He would flirt with me and I'd try my best not to flirt back but I enjoyed his flirting and I enjoyed his company. He asked me if I felt the same way about him and I was honest and I said I had feelings for him, because I did. He is an attractive guy and even though I have a boyfriend I can't help being attracted to him..

He then asked me to be his girlfriend and I told him I was already dating someone. He was surprised by my response. He told me he was under the impression that I was single and that's why he had gotten so close and intimate with me. But he didn't appear angry or sad. He even told me my bf was lucky to have me.

The problem now is that since that day he hasn't talked to me. When I see him in class, he doesn't even act like I exist. He doesn't reply my messages, doesn't pick up my calls and doesn't check up on me. Throughout this lockdown he hasn't even texted me once. This is unlike him. I feel very bad about the whole thing. It's almost like our relationship didn't mean anything to him and I didn't mean anything to him. I want to still be friends with him.
Isn't it obvious? The guy is a nice guy. He got interested in you, but found out u are in a relati0nship, and n0w he wants to m0ve on by avoiding you. He didn't get close to u just to be friends, and when he figured things w0n't go his way, he lets things be. Probably the guy is an em0ti0nal pers0n and doesn't want to get hurt, so he figured he has to leave in time. I suggest u let him be rather than u give him hope on s0mething that would never be.
Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by Hameex(m): 8:22pm On Apr 30, 2020
grin grin grin
othermen:
Buy 7 candles, when it is 12AM, light it all. Call out his name 21 times, do these while fasting for 20days. He will talk to you.
Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by maestroferddi: 8:22pm On Apr 30, 2020
See your life...

You want to eat your cake and have it.

There appears to be nothing wrong in your estimation in toying with Joe's emotion when you are hooked with another man.

If I tear you slap you will leave Joe alone to sort out his feelings..


You have a guy...stick with him and stop being a controlling siren who is showing incipient signs of infidelity in marriage.
Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by Justdare: 8:24pm On Apr 30, 2020
Lamanii22:
You broke his heart... He has no reason to continue the friendship... Having you in his life is like having a chicken, the chicken he was suppose to eat and now somebody else has eaten it....

LOLZZZ

Too much sense

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Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by Hndrrxxx(m): 8:26pm On Apr 30, 2020
He's INTERESTED






VERY SIMPLE
Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by here: 8:27pm On Apr 30, 2020
I think you fancy the dark side he told you about and you dont want his progress because you are indecisive. A man doesnt tell you he likes you so after you turn him down you both can be just friends suggesting it is manipulative and childish. He knows what he wants. Imagine you making it about you saying like he doesnt value what you both had,kai you are funny. You are the one who doesn't because you saw all the signs and played him. Even when you got a bf you ought to tell your best friend you hide it. Practically you were just wasting his time and he was basically getting you both to know so it doesnt seem desperate. I know what you feel, you feel abandoned because to you you want it all and be the one to decide the fate of 2 grown men,Its childish. Youre lucky he left because he is nice some would have stayed and get to lay you and leave. You need to grow up as yoi seem young and manipulative because when you think you figured it your choice might just be the bigger evil.Goodluck

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Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by Offorgerald15(m): 8:28pm On Apr 30, 2020
A guy like me,we share things in common
Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by Minemrys: 8:28pm On Apr 30, 2020
Ochiban:
Abeg. one yeah the guy was only interested in you to date you so there is your answer
two- lets be honest, you were using this guy as your backup/spare tire in case bf doesnt work. I mean, you guys joking about exploring your sexuality? abeg- not platonic.
Lets be honest with ourselves here
lol, no mind them jor. D guy got wise in time.
Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by gowonmaharajah(m): 8:28pm On Apr 30, 2020
Jeweltz:


Dangle sex infront of joe but don't give him. Manipulate him and have him your way. Men are meant to worship us
like how your father worships your mama abi?

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Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by Nobody: 8:28pm On Apr 30, 2020
Raydos:
Girls like OP will be very easy to have sex with!!

If Joe had waited a little bit longer, He will definitely Kpansh this OP, But I guess He isn't a bad guy, Cos According to this write-up, OP likes Joe already!

I was once in Joe's shoes too, She also told me She has a boyfriend, But by the look of things, I sensed she's still kinda into me

Las Las I Yansh the girl, Upon say she get Boyfriend ooo!!
aswear the guy ain’t patient grin him for nyash tire
Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by Egoveen: 8:29pm On Apr 30, 2020
Millenniumlady:
Use the both guys to your advantage


Keep joe guy for assignments and handout test and other class stuff



While use the new guy for your finances phones,clothes,eateries wigs


And please stay in school hostle that way non of them can bother you with sex cause they can't gain access to girls hostel and you ever visit any of them reduce your sexual conversation with joe guy and learn to keep your phone private.....Hope it helps smiley
You are as confused as the opwinkwink
Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by Brunicekid(m): 8:29pm On Apr 30, 2020
The young man knows what he wants. Most male friends only but wait for an opportunity to get their female friend laid. The young man is simply not a waiter, life isn't a restaurant to him because if it was he could have "chop and gone". He has moved on and will succeed in life.

[b]He sees through your indecision and myopia. I wouldn't blame you because it is not uncommon with girls your age.[/b]This matter strong ooo!!!

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Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by Hotguy27: 8:30pm On Apr 30, 2020
Op

It is obvious you are beginning to fall in love with the joe of a guy who has discovered that you would double date if given a chance.
Please move on too. Joe definitely deserves a better girl. The only regret he has is that he has poured out all his dark sides for an "ingrate" like you.�

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Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by Distevo(m): 8:30pm On Apr 30, 2020
Common what do you expect.....
Doe he didn't shoot his shot on time....
Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by babyfaceafrica: 8:30pm On Apr 30, 2020
GBOKASINCHA:
aswear the guy ain’t patient grin him for nyash tire


He is a nice guy.. It is not a out patience
Re: A Male Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Have A Boyfriend by Farki: 8:30pm On Apr 30, 2020
Why are women like this? undecided

You told him you were single, he was obviously trying to build a relationship with you. You had a boyfriend yet continued to form another relationship with 'Joe'. Now that you have told the truth he isn't allowing you to waste his time anymore and you're complaining.

You can not have 2 boyfriends please.

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