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drmikeadams:
. Ur mentioned me wrongly,,am not the OP...pls redirect ur mention ma

sorry dear

Ajens1991:
Start by giving her shop back. Spend time at home. Give her money for food. Eat her food.

I won't her advise him to eat her food just yet, until he is sure that woman has forgiven him.

Yes, he should ensure everything in the house is taken care of including food, even if he doesn't eat for now.

Your wife hold nothing against you but you can NEVER get her heart back. You are such a useless and shameless Old man

May God bless that innocent woman and her children!

drmikeadams:
. Ur mentioned me wrongly,,am not the OP...pls redirect ur mention ma

bros sorry but I don't know how to redirect

Get your wife gifts.

Go to the market and get expensive lace, Ankara and jewellery.

The money you have is no longer yours until you have your wife back.

I would have sent the biggest thunder to fire you, but I didn't just know how to do that.
Buy still, thunder will not hesitate to fire you.
Hamimal!

And lastly, if you have not begged her to the point where she breaks down, cry her heart out openly and abuse you terribly for everything you have done to her.

Then she has not forgiven you yet. She is still holding it in.

Sarah20A:
bros sorry but I don't know how to redirect

...no problem. OP will get d message nice shoes eh

Kingsleyyx:
I love my wife but I have been hurting her for years. In fact I had make her look like a devil in the eyes of my parents and siblings. I will not hide any truth from you because right now, I am trying to find a solution on how to win my wife's heart back.

I womanize a lot. I have a particular side chick that my wife is even aware of down our street. I love this girl with the whole of my heart. Anytime am with her I feel contented. I sponsored her through school with her younger brother and I also set up a provision store for her mum. I so much love this girl and infact I stopped having numerous chicks because of her. She is everything a man can wish for. She pampered me like a baby and she is an expert on how to sex a man and make him draw spits. I invested alot on this lady and never cared for the mother of my children.

The first and the last time I beat my wife was the day she called my girlfriend to insult her and I was with the girl that night. She put it on speaker. I went home and beat my wife blue black. Though I regretted my action and apologized to her.

Since then I didn't hide my extramarital affair from my wife. My girl will call and I will speak freely in the presence of my wife. She won't say pim. I wanted this girl to be pregnant but she just wouldn't be.

After, I started frustrating my wife so that she can leave the house and the girl can move in, but no matter what I did to my wife, she will never talk. I stopped having sex with her and and she never for once complained. I started taking my girlfriend to family function in place of my wife, still my wife was not affected. I siezed her shop key and gave to this girl as her graduation gift. My wife did not talk and she didn't leave my house. I planned all evils but she wasn't affected by it.

This my side chick is now pregnant with another man's. I have threatened her to abort the baby that I will forgive her and marry her, but she said am too old for her. When she and her family was collecting and spending my money, she didn't know that I am too old then.

Now am tired of fighting for someone that can never be mine. I want to face what's mine. Can you imagine that I just realised that my first born will write WAEC this year. Am so ashamed of my self. My wife has become so old and very slim. I wanted to hug her, but I don't know where to start from. It's been years we last had a physical body contact. We don't even sleep in the same room. The kids are looking at me like a stranger. I can't even crack jokes with them.

Please help me, how do I start and what should I do to win my family love back? I promise to do whatever you tell me to.

Hmmm, men.... I'm dumbfounded. Your wife is a rare gem. In Beyonce's voice" they won't love you like I love you" side chicks can never love you like your wife.
Just show her how sorry you are,
with time she'll come around

drmikeadams:
...no problem. OP will get d message nice shoes eh

thanks

Ayomideayo:
I doubt this story joor...u mean u did all that to her and she's still with you

she just decided to stay because of her children

Jgoldie:
Man!!!
You will burn in hell

That woman will never forgive you

She has taken her kids as her husband,the reason she isn’t moved is because she has conditioned her mind that she is a widow so what ever you do won’t hurt her anymore.

You better pay her off and leave that woman to live the rest of her lives with the kids happily

Dont mind the baga. So he is expecting her to leave and espose those kids to that useless vulture to devour.

Kingsleyyx:
I love my wife but I have been hurting her for years. In fact I had make her look like a devil in the eyes of my parents and siblings. I will not hide any truth from you because right now, I am trying to find a solution on how to win my wife's heart back.

I womanize a lot. I have a particular side chick that my wife is even aware of down our street. I love this girl with the whole of my heart. Anytime am with her I feel contented. I sponsored her through school with her younger brother and I also set up a provision store for her mum. I so much love this girl and infact I stopped having numerous chicks because of her. She is everything a man can wish for. She pampered me like a baby and she is an expert on how to sex a man and make him draw spits. I invested alot on this lady and never cared for the mother of my children.

The first and the last time I beat my wife was the day she called my girlfriend to insult her and I was with the girl that night. She put it on speaker. I went home and beat my wife blue black. Though I regretted my action and apologized to her.

Since then I didn't hide my extramarital affair from my wife. My girl will call and I will speak freely in the presence of my wife. She won't say pim. I wanted this girl to be pregnant but she just wouldn't be.

After, I started frustrating my wife so that she can leave the house and the girl can move in, but no matter what I did to my wife, she will never talk. I stopped having sex with her and and she never for once complained. I started taking my girlfriend to family function in place of my wife, still my wife was not affected. I siezed her shop key and gave to this girl as her graduation gift. My wife did not talk and she didn't leave my house. I planned all evils but she wasn't affected by it.

This my side chick is now pregnant with another man's. I have threatened her to abort the baby that I will forgive her and marry her, but she said am too old for her. When she and her family was collecting and spending my money, she didn't know that I am too old then.

Now am tired of fighting for someone that can never be mine. I want to face what's mine. Can you imagine that I just realised that my first born will write WAEC this year. Am so ashamed of my self. My wife has become so old and very slim. I wanted to hug her, but I don't know where to start from. It's been years we last had a physical body contact. We don't even sleep in the same room. The kids are looking at me like a stranger. I can't even crack jokes with them.

Please help me, how do I start and what should I do to win my family love back? I promise to do whatever you tell me to.

When the agents of the devil that he sends to frustrate people are being counted, you should put yourself on top of that list.Very stupid man. So much foolishness.You are not repentant, you just got played & remembered you have a wife & children.Otherwise if that girl was still with you, we would not have read this write up. Go & seek genuine repentance with both God & your family.After you are done, everywhere you went painting your wife as the devil, go and paint her an angel.

Na wah, this life wey be vanity na him some people the misbehave anyhow. God forbid

I don't have advise for you o. I came to vast you. YES I AM A MAN so it coming straight from me.

Why is it that we don't value what we have. We treat women like they are of no feeling. Those family members of yours are stupid, so they can't correct you on bringing your girlfriend to the family meeting. Can't even turn their back on you so probably you would get sense.

You have nearly lost the WHOLE of your investment (family) because of one Sexy but smelly pussy.

You were lucky, she didn't kill you, turn you to mumu and turn you family against each other.

I know I said I didn't want to advise you but I would say this; blast every one of your family for seeing the evil you did and didn't rise to chastised you.

Two call your wife and children together, POSTRATE BEFORE THEM REMOFULLY AND ASK FOR THEIR FORGIVENESS. TAKE TIME TO BE WITH YOUR FAMILY MORE AND ENGAGE IN YOUR SON'S ACADEMIC LIFE.

It going to be hard, but turn your life over to Jesus, and be a better man. With time they would come back. BUT IF YOU EVER TURN BACK, I WOULD PERSONAL CUT YOUR BALKS IF I KNOW WHERE YOU STAY.

Kingsleyyx:
I love my wife but I have been hurting her for years. In fact I had make her look like a devil in the eyes of my parents and siblings. I will not hide any truth from you because right now, I am trying to find a solution on how to win my wife's heart back.

I womanize a lot. I have a particular side chick that my wife is even aware of down our street. I love this girl with the whole of my heart. Anytime am with her I feel contented. I sponsored her through school with her younger brother and I also set up a provision store for her mum. I so much love this girl and infact I stopped having numerous chicks because of her. She is everything a man can wish for. She pampered me like a baby and she is an expert on how to sex a man and make him draw spits. I invested alot on this lady and never cared for the mother of my children.

The first and the last time I beat my wife was the day she called my girlfriend to insult her and I was with the girl that night. She put it on speaker. I went home and beat my wife blue black. Though I regretted my action and apologized to her.

Since then I didn't hide my extramarital affair from my wife. My girl will call and I will speak freely in the presence of my wife. She won't say pim. I wanted this girl to be pregnant but she just wouldn't be.

After, I started frustrating my wife so that she can leave the house and the girl can move in, but no matter what I did to my wife, she will never talk. I stopped having sex with her and and she never for once complained. I started taking my girlfriend to family function in place of my wife, still my wife was not affected. I siezed her shop key and gave to this girl as her graduation gift. My wife did not talk and she didn't leave my house. I planned all evils but she wasn't affected by it.

This my side chick is now pregnant with another man's. I have threatened her to abort the baby that I will forgive her and marry her, but she said am too old for her. When she and her family was collecting and spending my money, she didn't know that I am too old then.

Now am tired of fighting for someone that can never be mine. I want to face what's mine. Can you imagine that I just realised that my first born will write WAEC this year. Am so ashamed of my self. My wife has become so old and very slim. I wanted to hug her, but I don't know where to start from. It's been years we last had a physical body contact. We don't even sleep in the same room. The kids are looking at me like a stranger. I can't even crack jokes with them.

Please help me, how do I start and what should I do to win my family love back? I promise to do whatever you tell me to.

May God punish you

RTSC:
I won't her advise him to eat her food just yet, until he is sure that woman has forgiven him.

Yes, he should ensure everything in the house is taken care of including food, even if he doesn't eat for now.

He should eat her food, if she wanted him dead, by now he should be decaying 6 ft under.

Never underestimate the angry of a hurt woman especially one who did you no arm.

By eating, you are telling her, I am ready for reconciliation.

kunletexs:
He should eat her food, if she wanted him dead, by now he should be decaying 6 ft under.

Never underestimate the angry of a hurt woman especially one who did you no arm.

By eating, you are telling her, I am ready for reconciliation.

True sha

Braindealer:
Sorry bro
Am also a victim
My father nt jst chases women.
He does it in front of his children,
Doent crare abt the welfare of his children despite all the money he has,
And even when we decide to ignore him and make ends meet, he would look for one or two problems to make.
Have ur own dad arrested u jst 4 little things?

Hmmmm... Some fathers Sha.
Thank God I married an opposite of my dad.
We bless God for our lives.
Truly, mothers are jewels.

But the lady he did all those to even though I don't believe this story is also somebody's daughter na.

Haba he is somebody son. I beg we all erred one time or the other

Please dont kill youself, just start buying things for your children and wife stay home and dont go into sin again with time everything will straighten out, Bros the part that say you collected your wife shop key make the story look like fiction[/quote]

This is my shout out to all men here who gave this guy their piece of their minds.

How I wish we can all gather round and beat this guy small then all go for some pepper soup with Malta. Sorry I don deal with alcoholic drinks.

frozen70:
For the fact that she kept quiet all this while, means a lot

He has to beg her spirit

Exactly. He had vexed her spirit and needs to draw it out and beg for genuine repentance.
I know a man who repeatedly gives his wife std and claims he is not cheating because no woman had been found with him. The wife is frustrated to her spirit and soul and is in the marriage cos of the kids. May God help us to be careful

Your girl friend and her family has used your life play ludo. You need to beg your wife and your children and ask her for forgiveness. She will accept you back. She might have been prayed for this day to come. Please, beg her and let her pray for you to have a good future. If she refuses to pray for you, guy you are sorry in advance

Mr, this’s just the best advice. You promised to do what ever you are advised. Sure you wife won’t mind you dead. My regards to Abba kyari.

fulaniHERDSman:

Oga the only thing you deserve is to buy sniper and swallow. U r not fit to live.
You didn't repent. You got played and then remembered home. Just go hang pls

Sirvingeo:
His children are even living with us now because of the stupidity of their father. This is someone that retired as a manager in central bank . He couldn't even sponsor his own children in school but he is sponsoring his girlfriend's brothers education abroad. He beats his wife(my aunt) but she has been baring this act for over 20 years . Like I said it was recently we delivered our aunt. My dear with my experience such people should never be forgiven . Anyway his children are cooking up plan to suffer him in his old age. I know the op's children have already kicked up plan to suffer him . I will definitely subscribe to it. Useless man !!!

Irrespective of what these men did. Children holding grudges and unforgiveness against them, always sets up a pattern.

Irrespective of whatever is done. Forgiveness is still the key.
Joyce Meyer the American preacher was sexually abused by her father for years as a child. It affected her growing up

But when she was grown she had no option but forgave him. She even bought a house for him way before he died.

Holding grudges against a parent for a justified wrong has its own reward.
In spite of whatever done, forgiveness must be given.

If Joseph didn't forgive his brothers that sold him as a slave to Egypt. There was no way he would have achieved his success.
Not offering forgiveness stops people from reaching and attaining greater heights in life. It brings serious limitations and setbacks.

RTSC:
I won't her advise him to eat her food just yet, until he is sure that woman has forgiven him.

Yes, he should ensure everything in the house is taken care of including food, even if he doesn't eat for now.

she didn't kill him while he was misbehaving u think she will try that now?

If the story is true, it's a really sad one. Women dey try abeg.

OP, I will try to be as straighforward as possible.
It is a good thing that you now realise that you have maltreated your wife and your family/children. My advice will be:

1. Do a deep search of your heart. Check if you are truly sorry or you are in this state because of what your side chick did to you. This is very important because if you are not truly sorry, you may repeat the mistake.

2. If after self-reflection, you realise you are truly sorry, go to God and beg for forgiveness. Truly beg for forgiveness from the depth of you heart and ask God to touch the heart of your wife.

3. Then, please call your wife and be plain to her as you have been plain to us in your post. If need be, prostrate before her and beg her. Prostrating does not remove your role as a man but it will humble you. Tell her you're sorry and that you will not repeat the error again. She needs to truly forgive you before you before you move to step 4.

4. Together with your wife, call your children and ask for their forgiveness too for neglecting them. They also need to forgive you.

5. Ensure you never make the same mistake again. Treat your family better than before. In fact, compensate for past errors. Buy gifts, appreciate them.

Money talks bullshit walks a 100 miles buy her a phantom and watch her go crazy all her life

Definition of a useless man

Kingsleyyx:
I love my wife but I have been hurting her for years. In fact I had make her look like a devil in the eyes of my parents and siblings. I will not hide any truth from you because right now, I am trying to find a solution on how to win my wife's heart back.

I womanize a lot. I have a particular side chick that my wife is even aware of down our street. I love this girl with the whole of my heart. Anytime am with her I feel contented. I sponsored her through school with her younger brother and I also set up a provision store for her mum. I so much love this girl and infact I stopped having numerous chicks because of her. She is everything a man can wish for. She pampered me like a baby and she is an expert on how to sex a man and make him draw spits. I invested alot on this lady and never cared for the mother of my children.

The first and the last time I beat my wife was the day she called my girlfriend to insult her and I was with the girl that night. She put it on speaker. I went home and beat my wife blue black. Though I regretted my action and apologized to her.

Since then I didn't hide my extramarital affair from my wife. My girl will call and I will speak freely in the presence of my wife. She won't say pim. I wanted this girl to be pregnant but she just wouldn't be.

After, I started frustrating my wife so that she can leave the house and the girl can move in, but no matter what I did to my wife, she will never talk. I stopped having sex with her and and she never for once complained. I started taking my girlfriend to family function in place of my wife, still my wife was not affected. I siezed her shop key and gave to this girl as her graduation gift. My wife did not talk and she didn't leave my house. I planned all evils but she wasn't affected by it.

This my side chick is now pregnant with another man's. I have threatened her to abort the baby that I will forgive her and marry her, but she said am too old for her. When she and her family was collecting and spending my money, she didn't know that I am too old then.

Now am tired of fighting for someone that can never be mine. I want to face what's mine. Can you imagine that I just realised that my first born will write WAEC this year. Am so ashamed of my self. My wife has become so old and very slim. I wanted to hug her, but I don't know where to start from. It's been years we last had a physical body contact. We don't even sleep in the same room. The kids are looking at me like a stranger. I can't even crack jokes with them.

Please help me, how do I start and what should I do to win my family love back? I promise to do whatever you tell me to.

Are you sure you were not under any spell

Kingsleyyx:
I love my wife but I have been hurting her for years. In fact I had make her look like a devil in the eyes of my parents and siblings. I will not hide any truth from you because right now, I am trying to find a solution on how to win my wife's heart back.

I womanize a lot. I have a particular side chick that my wife is even aware of down our street. I love this girl with the whole of my heart. Anytime am with her I feel contented. I sponsored her through school with her younger brother and I also set up a provision store for her mum. I so much love this girl and infact I stopped having numerous chicks because of her. She is everything a man can wish for. She pampered me like a baby and she is an expert on how to sex a man and make him draw spits. I invested alot on this lady and never cared for the mother of my children.

The first and the last time I beat my wife was the day she called my girlfriend to insult her and I was with the girl that night. She put it on speaker. I went home and beat my wife blue black. Though I regretted my action and apologized to her.

Since then I didn't hide my extramarital affair from my wife. My girl will call and I will speak freely in the presence of my wife. She won't say pim. I wanted this girl to be pregnant but she just wouldn't be.

After, I started frustrating my wife so that she can leave the house and the girl can move in, but no matter what I did to my wife, she will never talk. I stopped having sex with her and and she never for once complained. I started taking my girlfriend to family function in place of my wife, still my wife was not affected. I siezed her shop key and gave to this girl as her graduation gift. My wife did not talk and she didn't leave my house. I planned all evils but she wasn't affected by it.

This my side chick is now pregnant with another man's. I have threatened her to abort the baby that I will forgive her and marry her, but she said am too old for her. When she and her family was collecting and spending my money, she didn't know that I am too old then.

Now am tired of fighting for someone that can never be mine. I want to face what's mine. Can you imagine that I just realised that my first born will write WAEC this year. Am so ashamed of my self. My wife has become so old and very slim. I wanted to hug her, but I don't know where to start from. It's been years we last had a physical body contact. We don't even sleep in the same room. The kids are looking at me like a stranger. I can't even crack jokes with them.

Please help me, how do I start and what should I do to win my family love back? I promise to do whatever you tell me to.

I am not here to judge you.
Assuming this story is true, your wife have already give up on you because if she die while fighting for you, who will train her children? Her children is the one comforting her and she is staying because of them. That means that in your old age, you will greatly suffer while your children will take care of their mum. The big question for you is that have you truly repented or are you waiting for another side chick to show up. The good news for you is that all hope is not lost yet. I have seen more than this happened in nigeria. Don't expect your children and wife to openly accept you. You have work to do. It is obvious that you don't spend much time at home and don't even know how your children behave. You can start by during morning and night devotion with them. They might find it strange but a family that prays together stays together. Start spending time with them but don't be quick in correcting them, don't shout at them. Then try changing your wife wardrobe, she has to look sweet first. You can start going to church with them after Corona saga.

Forgiving is easy, forgetting is almost impossible