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Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by heskeyw(m): 9:44am On Apr 16, 2020
Galactico4ever:
The next day i came with his dad and the mumu have been beaten to pulp. Let me cut this short;HIS STORY: The idiot actually spent the money on his girlfriend's matriculation(whom i have never heard of by the way) who studies at Uniben and also bought a new phone. Well,because of his dad and our friendship,i took the new phone,begged them to release him and forget the case. His dad had to bail him out though. He Stopped being my friend or roommate that day.
What Girlfriend matric?? On behalf of all the boys on nairaland, I reject him and am giving him freely to the shemales

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Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by sharpwriter(m): 6:59pm On Apr 17, 2020
Galactico4ever:
The next day i came with his dad and the mumu have been beaten to pulp. Let me cut this short;HIS STORY: The idiot actually spent the money on his girlfriend's matriculation(whom i have never heard of by the way) who studies at Uniben and also bought a new phone. Well,because of his dad and our friendship,i took the new phone,begged them to release him and forget the case. His dad had to bail him out though. He Stopped being my friend or roommate that day.

Na wa o... people bad gan o ... he probably thought he would get away with it by you letting it go after minor troubles ... madness dey worry am.

Thanks for the complete story.
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Gbengageorge: 4:25am On Apr 18, 2020
Hoeees!!! Them plenty for my office, and anything that happens in the office them must to tell the MD, married ones dey among them o, see how useless them be.


antocreative:
I could remember going through something and people said a lot of bad things about me, not knowing I was very highly depressed. I almost committed suicide then.
Also I worked with one very useless pastor, who pretends alot. He will use and use you but will never give you a dime. Very manipulative selfish man. It will never be well with you wherever you are Mr fake pastor. You will continually beg to feed in this land of the living. This man will sell you for just 10000 naira. Because of this useless man, i honestly have a natural hatred for pastors. Fool.

Also be weary of close friends in the work place. I have learnt a lot from keep close friends in the work place, especially females. They are not worth it. I was best friends with one useless hoe in my former work place. I didn't know the idiot was sleeping wiith the MD. Anything I tell her, she goes and tells him. I have never seen someone that placed little value on herself like this woman (she's not even a girl again ooh). Agbalagba somebody

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Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Gbengageorge: 4:41am On Apr 18, 2020
The most painful thing is that if you hear what they are saying behind your back, they will be calling you mumu, as if it is a sin to help people.

indoorlove:
I made some cool money few years back and decided to help my friends and family. Gave about 8 of them 300k each to push into their businesses and asked them to pay back after a year. No collateral, no interest. Its been over 2 years now, only one person has been able to return 132k. Others simply do not care. I thought I was helping them so they could help themselves, now I know better.
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Gbengageorge: 4:44am On Apr 18, 2020
So sad. God will help you find your feet again. Oore niwon indeed.
Lighthammer:
The one that affects me most and turned my life upside down
turning me into someone who now begs,cnt boast of ordinary 1 k again
a friend that i brought from my town in osun state to kwara here,housed him,fed him and clothed him fr almost 6 month last year,got a job paying almost 50 k fr him,while am earning 35 k myself,
so i took a huge loan of almost close to 500 k to start a business but my so called friend joined league with some people and defrauded me,then shit hit the fan,i lost my job,got arrested many times,almost commit suicide because i was overwhelmed....
i was evicted from where i was paying close to 100 k as rent,my other friends and people i have helped in the past turned their back on me...
i lived in an uncompleted building fr two month...till nw am nt balanced financially,emotionally and psychologically....
as am typing now,been surviving on water and mangoe fr d past one week....
fear people......fear people and limit who you help.
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by indoorlove(m): 8:53am On Apr 18, 2020
Gbengageorge:
The most painful thing is that if you hear what they are saying behind your back, they will be calling you mumu, as if it is a sin to help people.

One of them actually say something close to that. However, I have learnt an invaluable lesson after the whole drama.

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Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by QuinModah(f): 3:44pm On Apr 18, 2020
PeaceGord:


HelenMax did.
I least expected it that fateful day in May, 2009!


It's a tale of a lifetime!

And the cold meaness with which she looked me in the eyes?

Swallow my sacrifices!

Gosh!
Who is helenmax, you mind sharing the story
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by QuinModah(f): 3:44pm On Apr 18, 2020
maasoap:


I already applied this principle to my life since 2013.

My wife and I won USA visa lottery in 2013 and were scheduled for visa interview just second week of the 52 weeks that interviews for all the applicants were supposed to take place. No one to assist us financially, even the two brothers who could easily help us out. The lottery wasted just like that. Then, I learnt the human nature the hard way.
The same brother I transferred my saving of 200k to when I just finished my service. Many years after, he was telling me that he didn't want me to go to USA and become a slave. Hear that!
This is just to mean
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by QuinModah(f): 3:45pm On Apr 18, 2020
Ghostmode2two:


I am currently receiving treatment for a serious heart problem, I spent 4 months in the hospital before I was discharged a month before this covid-19 out break. My own immediate elder brother, that is I was born after him, when I was okay and well doing, I always send him cash, if he ask or not as I hate anyone near me to be suffering. Could you believe that he never visited me while in the hospital and never called my phone. I am the one who still call him. It breaks my heart till today and tomorrow. we are from same parents. This is the worst betrayal for me so far.
Eyah sorry I feel you pain.
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Ghostmode2two(m): 3:48pm On Apr 18, 2020
QuinModah:
Eyah sorry I feel you pain.
Thanks and God bless
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Olamsoh: 8:42pm On Apr 20, 2020
IceColdVeins:
Bro this right here is also my strict principle. They always think that I'm been weird.
Stick to it o
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by U1(m): 10:04pm On Apr 27, 2020
Came across this thread and the original narrative brought an experience of over 12 years ago to mind - when my hand was deformed by a machine where I worked then.

I didn't really have a girl or close friends back then - just acquaintances. This was due to my personality. The story hasn't really changed that much today.

So, I didn't actually expect people to come flocking around to show me love back then. But I felt hurt that people who should have shown more concern couldn't be bothered.

The guy who normally operated the machine that caused the accident only came around once, if at all. I stayed at the Igbobi orthopaedic hospital for at least 50 days.

I think the fellow even claimed a special flash drive I had on me at the time of the incident - won it from the Chinese Embassy in a quiz. He never had one before the accident, but I saw him with a drive that looked exactly like mine when I got discharged.

Pa came around only once (from a state about two hours away). A girl I admired and who was willing enough to exchange numbers and calls with me never visited at all. cheesy There were others I can also mention, but... undecided

I didn't expect things to have turned out that bad. This is because I believe I couldn't have done such to someone I have related with at a similar level.

However, the experience made me to rely more on myself. I live my life not expecting help from anyone and I pray to never have to depend on anybody. But if help comes from anywhere unexpected, I am always grateful, usually very so.

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Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by BetterPoison: 10:38pm On Apr 27, 2020
U1:
Came across this thread and the original narrative brought an experience of over 12 years ago to mind - when my hand was deformed by a machine where I worked then.

I didn't really have a girl or close friends back then - just acquaintances. This was due to my personality. The story hasn't really changed that much today.

So, I didn't actually expect people to come flocking around to show me love back then. But I felt hurt that people who should have shown more concern couldn't be bothered.

The guy who normally operated the machine that caused the accident only came around once, if at all. I stayed at the Igbobi orthopaedic hospital for at least 50 days.

I think the fellow even claimed a special flash drive I had on me at the time of the incident - won it from the Chinese Embassy in a quiz. He never had one before the accident, but I saw him with a drive that looked exactly like mine when I got discharged.

Pa came around only once (from a state about two hours away). A girl I admired and who was willing enough to exchange numbers and calls with me never visited at all. cheesy There were others I can also mention, but... undecided

I didn't expect things to have turned out that bad. This is because I believe I couldn't have done such to someone I have related with at a similar level.

However, the experience made me to rely more on myself. I live my life not expecting help from anyone and I pray to never have to depend on anybody. But if help comes from anywhere unexpected, I am always grateful, usually very so.
eeya humans are funny..
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by RaymondFantasy(m): 11:28pm On Apr 27, 2020
Cchuks27:
But really why are Nigerians/Nairalanders always unserious? Someone asks a legit question, instead of people contributing significantly they start joking about it. Sometimes, I honestly prefer browsing Reddit because there, people will share their heartfelt experiences and you will learn a lot. Personally, I cannot remember when last I opened a meaningful thread on nairaland and learnt something without some f00ls derailing it and ultimately sabotaging the thread.

Back to your question, last night, someone special to me sold me out. Like I don't even have a problem with that but at least the person should have told me what they did instead of leaving me to my faith and hanging. It was a souring feeling I tell you.
Reddit and Quora which is better?
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Electricityprov: 3:01am On Apr 28, 2020
Mine is quite terrible , This year January 2020 , me and my close friend came up with an idea to start an electronics business , I poured my life savings of 300k into the buiness and he also did too , about 500k , he was to take care of getting the materials for sale , while I acquire the shop and furnish it to taste , 1 week later , his line suddenly became unreachable and I could not find him , I went to his family house and they could not also find him , I prayed that it wasn't what I taught ,but alas I recently received news that he travelled to Canada , I have been severely depressed since and contemplating suicide , I have cried ontop this money , I know how much I sweat for my 300k , the sacrifices I made and my close friend who knows my struggle did this to me , this year has been horrid for me , I now know the true meaning of poverty , feeding is hard , even my rent will expire soon , I just hope I don't kill myself because this pain my friend has inflicted on me is too much

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Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Greenbullet(m): 3:15am On Apr 28, 2020
Electricityprov:
Mine is quite terrible , This year January 2020 , me and my close friend came up with an idea to start an electronics business , I poured my life savings of 300k into the buiness and he also did too , about 500k , he was to take care of getting the materials for sale , while I acquire the shop and furnish it to taste , 1 week later , his line suddenly became unreachable and I could not find him , I went to his family house and they could not also find him , I prayed that it wasn't what I taught ,but alas I recently received news that he travelled to Canada , I have been severely depressed since and contemplating suicide , I have cried ontop this money , I know how much I sweat for my 300k , the sacrifices I made and my close friend who knows my struggle did this to me , this year has been horrid for me , I now know the true meaning of poverty , feeding is hard , even my rent will expire soon , I just hope I don't kill myself because this pain my friend has inflicted on me is too much
Hello sir , please on no account should you think of killing yourself , i know you have been hurt , imagine killing yourself and also hurting your parents , please stay calm God will provide for you and replenish your lost possession and also be more vigilant with money , when it comes to money , I don't even trust my mother , be very wary . God bless

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Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Spray(m): 7:09am On Apr 28, 2020
rapid101:
well,
mine was wen I was in Benin
I ran laundry and to some extent it was successful. I had 3boys working for me . I had a keke which I use in delivering to my customer who re in far distance. then I had a friend who told me about a business which he ll like use to go into. the business was into phone accessories coupled with phone parts. I agreed, I rented the shop at oba market, did furnishing and other body works. during this time I borrowed money from lapo microfinance 300k, borrowed money from money lender about 580k. then I gave osas my friend to come to Lagos to buy the goods we re going to sell in our shop. osas come Lagos, osas no come back. I was so worried I had to go to his family house to know if his back but they said they didn't see him. I called his number and his number was switched off. call his gf and she said she doesn't know his were about. after a month I heard osas don go Malaysia. I ran back to his family house to ask his pple if it true. low and behold osas don travel and he knew I borrowed almost all those money for the business. I almost died. the pressure started coming in as to pay the loans I collected back. I had to sell my two washing machine, my dryer, and my keke and other tins from my shop and house to pay some of the debt. I had to let go of my two staff till I cud pay the money. but after every tin I found Benin uninteresting again cus I Ve lost every tin I Ve built over the years because of one person. I had to move from my room and palour selfcon to a one room, face me I face you, cus I cudnt afford it. my gf left me cus I too de complain money no de as b4. after the whole gbas gbos I relocated to Lagos for a fresh start as not kill my self cus of too much tinking and pressure. till today I pray for osas were ever he is, he ll find good in all he does. but I ll never trust any body again not even my family member. note trust is very expensive

hope u re doing very good now?
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by rapid101(m): 11:29am On Apr 28, 2020
Spray:


hope u re doing very good now?
not really but we thank God

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Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by gremp(m): 11:48am On Apr 28, 2020
RaymondFantasy:
Reddit and Quora which is better?

Depending on what you want, Quora is more of question and answers/opinions from people who are knowledgeable in the field asked about.

Reddit is a social news platform with different communities for different interests.

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Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by RaymondFantasy(m): 1:13pm On Apr 28, 2020
gremp:


Depending on what you want, Quora is more of question and answers/opinions from people who are knowledgeable in the field asked about.

Reddit is a social news platform with different communities for different interests.
okay
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by U1(m): 2:21pm On Apr 28, 2020
BetterPoison:
eeya humans are funny..
I think "unreliable" might be the more appropriate word. grin
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by U1(m): 2:44pm On Apr 28, 2020
Electricityprov:
Mine is quite terrible , This year January 2020 , me and my close friend came up with an idea to start an electronics business , I poured my life savings of 300k into the buiness and he also did too , about 500k , he was to take care of getting the materials for sale , while I acquire the shop and furnish it to taste , 1 week later , his line suddenly became unreachable and I could not find him , I went to his family house and they could not also find him , I prayed that it wasn't what I taught ,but alas I recently received news that he travelled to Canada , I have been severely depressed since and contemplating suicide , I have cried ontop this money , I know how much I sweat for my 300k , the sacrifices I made and my close friend who knows my struggle did this to me , this year has been horrid for me , I now know the true meaning of poverty , feeding is hard , even my rent will expire soon , I just hope I don't kill myself because this pain my friend has inflicted on me is too much

Hang in there, bro. You'll be all right las las. Suicide is never an option, maybe except when worse death is waiting (but I am God will be happy even with that).
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Nobody: 5:53pm On Apr 28, 2020
Eulalia:


Like I said, I hide away from him most times. And sometimes when he calls me to come close for a discussion, I just bone him.

He doesn't even have my active number. Gave him a fake one and warned my sis not to give him.
Though I was shocked when he called during this lock down and said the son wants to talk with me. Guess he collected number from her recently with excuse of this lockdown. ** yinmu*


You have a very very strange sister sha
lipsrsealed
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Nobody: 6:22pm On Apr 28, 2020
merahki:



You have a very very strange sister sha
lipsrsealed

Nope. She's not strange. Its what she wants. Let her have it. I'm not bothered.
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Nobody: 6:43pm On Apr 28, 2020
Eulalia:


Nope. She's not strange. Its what she wants. Let her have it. I'm not bothered.


It’s a bit disgusting sha, to me
But I guess I understand. Some years ago I was linked to a man who lives outside Nigeria. We talked a few times ...I may have been blowing hot and cold. My history was later used against me in the aftermath, where, a couple of months later, a friend of mine started “seeing” him. You should hear her excuse shockedlipsrsealed
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Nobody: 6:49pm On Apr 28, 2020
merahki:



It’s a bit disgusting sha, to me
But I guess I understand. Some years ago I was linked to a man who lives outside Nigeria. We talked a few times (I admit this- I was not picking his phones a lot, but, the couple of time I did, he was trying to let me know about him and his life)
About a couple of months later, a friend of mine started “seeing” him. You should hear her excuse. But I didn’t really mind.

Hm. She should have at least let you declare your lack of interest before concluding on your behalf. Some people are just naturally wired to look on other peoples' things and its very bad. That's why I don't keep friends till today. Backstabbers everywhere.

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Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Nobody: 7:02pm On Apr 28, 2020
Eulalia:


Hm. She should have at least let you declare your lack of interest before concluding on your behalf. Some people are just naturally wired to look on other peoples' things and its very bad. That's why I don't keep friends till today. Backstabbers everywhere.

Lol
You excuse your sister but not my friend
At least friends are outsiders when the chips are down. In my case, I don’t know what the outcome would have been, I wasn’t given a chance to find out because my friend “knows” my history. She robbed me of a boyfriend at least but rationalized it away. I let her do so because honestly I was in a crazily happy, other, space then and therefore didn’t mind like that.
But I know that’s major greed right there. I would never do that too. But it’s every person to their life finally.
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Nobody: 7:18pm On Apr 28, 2020
merahki:


Lol
You excuse your sister but not my friend
At least friends are outsiders when the chips are down. In my case, I don’t know what the outcome would have been, I wasn’t given a chance to find out become my friend “knows” my history. She robbed me but rationalized it away. I let her do so because honestly I was in a crazily happy, other, space then and therefore didn’t mind like that.
But I know that’s major greed right there. I would never do that too. But it’s every person to their life finally.

Well...say what? She's my sister. So I should make excuses for her. wink.

Yeah...people can be very greedy.

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Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by BetterPoison: 6:32am On Apr 30, 2020
U1:


I think "unreliable" might be the more appropriate word. grin
good morning sir. Please I need your help
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by U1(m): 7:42am On Apr 30, 2020
BetterPoison:
good morning sir. Please I need your help

Good morning, sir. What might that be?
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by blessedvisky(m): 11:02am On Apr 30, 2020
Galactico4ever:
The next day i came with his dad and the mumu have been beaten to pulp. Let me cut this short;HIS STORY: The idiot actually spent the money on his girlfriend's matriculation(whom i have never heard of by the way) who studies at Uniben and also bought a new phone. Well,because of his dad and our friendship,i took the new phone,begged them to release him and forget the case. His dad had to bail him out though. He Stopped being my friend or roommate that day.

Sharp. I like how you handled this
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Cchuks27(m): 3:52am On May 02, 2020
RaymondFantasy:
Reddit and Quora which is better?

Funny enough, I have both apps on my phone. I use them simultaneously. However, I guess I prefer Quora only because of their algorithm.

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