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decatalyst:
Bro, she is sending you a clear message!

1. She wants to be the one to call the shots. She wants to be in charge of her man's 'house'!

2. Why should you be cooking when she dey house to cook for the 'love of her life'? Why?? You want to take her place?

3. You want to advise your brother not to marry her? Nah you help am toast her? Your egungun needs to be careful cuz e be like say you don face express o Seems you have never been caught in between two lovers shey? Nah your head dem go take break coconut.

Your best option and decision will be to leave that house and maintain a distance. If your brother is smart enough, he will notice and ask for the reason why you took the decision, then you can legitimately air your views. Otherwise, doing so now will mean you are reporting the love of his life to him.

Op, use your head make you no go chop poison o

Semperty:
Ancientbeing my guy hits the limelight with yet another lie story
I respek you sire

ibkayee:
His brother isn't under obligation to spend a dime on her either, but would it also be a 'nice' gesture? Sure. She'd be wrong for demanding he spends on her just because he's male.

If the OP is to be concerned about her lack of helping out within the household, it should be on account of her being a houseguest alone, not because of his notions on gender roles.

donbachi:
Hated on arrival...u just don't like her.

ibkayee:
His brother isn't under obligation to spend a dime on her either, but would it also be a 'nice' gesture? Sure. She'd be wrong for demanding he spends on her just because he's male.

If the OP is to be concerned about her lack of helping out within the household, it should be on account of her being a houseguest alone, not because of his notions on gender roles.

Trex4:
She's not under obligation to cook or clean, but she's under obligation to scatter and dirty what one has cleaned. Even if she doesn't help out, is it good for her to scatter the house the OP cleaned? Abeg not all threads you should give opinion.....no offence funny how your talking about gender role but it's clearly the male doing everything here.

ibkayee:
It's common courtesy and basic good manners for anyone to pick up after themselves, so she's wrong as far as that goes.

Other than that, she isn't under obligation to cook for or clean after anyone, it would be a 'nice' gesture obviously, but she doesn't need to do anything, especially on account of her being a 'girl' which you seem very focused on

It's also none of you business, your brother has eyes and can make any decision concerning their relationship himself unless he specifically asks you

ibkayee:
I've kind of already addressed this

Trueigbo:
Don't complain to your brotherooo else you will create problem between you and your brother . Allow your brother to see things for himself unless he ask for your opinion.

That woman can make your brother hate your family for life

Trex4:
sorry about that didn't see

Collins4u1:
Sharap, if your siblings scatters something after arranging them repeatedly, I hope you give them award?

Rickmann:
There s absolutely nothing wrong in complaining to your brother only about her behaviour. He needs to see and understand wot you are going through in the house cos you are human. If he loves and cares about your happiness as his kid brother, he ll come up with sometin. If he wanted you out before her arrival, perhaps he would ve told you..so leaving shouldn't be an option for now. I'm pretty sure he likes you around .Please,Do not advice him against marrying her as that could blow things outta proportion. Just talk to him about her hygiene and lets see wot happens.

Psalmspsalms:
The Bible say ''women shouldn't be bothered about the man they marry but rather the men should be mindful of the women they marry. My brother, talk to your bro abeg. If he marries a trash, your whole family will suffer it

Jflex07:
My friend do not listen to all these jargon about not telling your brother. This is what you should do, tell your bro privately that you will need to have a discussion with him, explain to him what is going on, see, everything here depends on how you flow and rapport with your bro, let him know that he should trust you and you will do everything to keep his relationship. Tell him that you meant no harm and he should be observant before making any conclusion. I see some people asking you to leave the house. what if you do not have any place to go to yet? So discuss with your brother albeit in a brotherly and polite manner.

BurnStoner:
Dumbshiit, Your Bro is Dumb; his Fiancée dumb too; family isn’t suppose to make you happy at all times Niggah! Have you got your bro’s back or you gon sisi out a d regret never having a conversation with your bro about his Dumb fiancés behavior? Don’t be dumb, do the right thing and Bleep him if he gets upset, don’t fucking Leave his house for the LovePeddler. Don’t give a Bleep but continue with house chores . Don’t worry, the truth will one day set you free.

ibkayee:
It's common courtesy and basic good manners for anyone to pick up after themselves, so she's wrong as far as that goes.

Other than that, she isn't under obligation to cook for or clean after anyone, it would be a 'nice' gesture obviously, but she doesn't need to do anything, especially on account of her being a 'girl' which you seem very focused on

It's also none of you business, your brother has eyes and can make any decision concerning their relationship himself unless he specifically asks you

Ancientbeing:
I better leave him to see things by himself before his fiancee attacks me. Its not even my business. My business is really to stand fully on my own.
Thanks

kestolove95:
I know she must be an Igbo girl

ibkayee:
I've kind of already addressed this

aswani:
Very impressive posts they were as well ibkayee.

To be fair to the op, society generally tends to expect females to be a lot tidier than males.

Anyway, my suggestion is that the op leaves the house for a week. If the house is in a mess when he returns and his older brother doesn't complain, maybe that's how he likes it. If it isn't messy, then maybe op needs to do less around the house.

Jflex07:
Ok na.. When he gets married to her and he then realises and regret,do not let him know that you were aware of this, else he will blame you for not telling him.

delugajackson:
You are a disgrace to every responsible man out there. When others are thinking of how to better their lives through legit means, all your dead brain could come up with was being a male prostitute. I spit on your shapeless, good for nothing head. Get the hell out of here!

Ancientbeing:
This lady ain't ready for no marriage, she can't raise a home this way!
She's f*cking lazy but what if my bro doesn't see it this way if i tell him?
What if he thinks we aren't just not getting along and I'm trynna spoil his love's name.
Mehn!

Millenniumlady:
Don't you have a sister or mum to put her in her place ? Someone like me I'll travel down to his place and course great wahala nah she go run.....in my brother's house you want to be doing the most nah fight we go use scatter that house