delectablegyal:
Nigerian men are the same. polygamous, liars, patriachial, archaic, obstinate, flirts and above all, unfaithful lots.

delectablegyal:
Nigerian men are the same. polygamous, liars, patriachial, archaic, obstinate, flirts and above all, unfaithful lots.

Kobojunkie:


I do not believe it is as clear cut as you make it out to be. Many of these women are blind -- they cannot see what they do. Why? Because they themselves where raised in a culture and society that endorses male superiority. And so with this already built into their identity, they are essentially lost as far as even recognizing the problem that you point out there.

Imagine the case of a woman who already has 5 daughters, but still believes that she has to have a male child in order to properly validate her place as wife of her husband. This Nigerian woman has lived in the U.S for over 12 years. So, this cultural cancer runs deep for some of them.

Kobojunkie:


I do not believe it is as clear cut as you make it out to be. Many of these women are blind -- they cannot see what they do. Why? Because they themselves where raised in a culture and society that endorses male superiority. And so with this already built into their identity, they are essentially lost as far as even recognizing the problem that you point out there.

Imagine the case of a woman who already has 5 daughters, but still believes that she has to have a male child in order to properly validate her place as wife of her husband. This Nigerian woman has lived in the U.S for over 12 years. So, this cultural cancer runs deep for some of them.

GIdiata:
They are so selfish and mean which is why GENDER equality is almost impossible and FEMINISM is causing more harm than good in this part of the world.

An average Nigerian mother enjoys it if her husband do house CHORES but if they see their son doing same for his wife, they get pissed.

They hit a guy(not their husband, brother or even a boyfriend) first like we see viral videos online in banks, clubs e.t.c they expect the guy to be a gentleman and not retaliate but if a random girl do same to their husband or brother or boyfriend they call the guy a weakling if he doesn't retaliate.

Them and their daughter(s) all want to marry a husband that will do house CHORES. Even during this Lockdown, all their brothers and sons do is sleep, eat, play game, watch movies and sleep again but they EXPECT another family to teach their male children/brothers how to do House chores for them to marry.

I can go on and on and on. let me draw the cotton here.

ladyGKilaBCrueD:
I hear you, you're right, oya just stick to your foreign women and leave us the fukc alone instead of always whining and crying and nagging about us like little bitches haba!!!

Seandisputed:
Una no dey tire?.
If you can't deal, leave them and become a priest or something.

sexylassie2:
I hate men that nags.

These nagging boys or men are the broke and jobless ones.

Stop showing your frustration on Nairaland.

GIdiata:

leaving mothers out of this. many of the young generation that want these respectful attitude from men are slaves to their brothers at home. that's why I also used the lock down to site example. your brothers only enters the kitchen to fetch food after which he drops his plate on d sink for you/mum to wash. and many others and you expect that kinda child to respect women
THAT'S THE SELFISHNESS I'M TALKING ABOUT

my post is JUST CLEAR
DO UNTO OTHERS WHAT YOU WANT DONE UNTO YOU.

bring ur brothers up well for his future girlfriend/wife to enjoy then expect same from boyfriend/wife

Kobojunkie:


I understand how you feel about them, and I get it. However, I still say that when it comes to the issue of gender equality, these things should be of no issue as far as decisions are concerned, because many of these women are too blind(some of them cannot think for their own selves even) to see the connection between what they do and the consequences that stems from such acts. These women were themselves raised to believe in rigid gender roles and stereotypes, with an understanding that men control and define them as humans. So I think rather than see them as selfish people, you should probably pity them, cause one could even say"... they know not what they do"

Gender Equality will likely not benefit these women, or even this generation. What it will do however is provide others, yet growing up in the same Nigeria, an alternative to the general gender narrative that is still Nigeria. It will open a door for those who are willing to set a path different from the status quo, giving them the tools to blossom right there in the same country Nigeria.

GIdiata:

gender equality is already in practice in Nigeria. only thing is it haven't been officially signed into law.

GIdiata:

the MENTALITY is what you need to change. you mentioned women being raised to believe in rigid gender role. u and I know it's no longer true in the present generation. what we have now is wanting more and not read to give any let alone more.

GIdiata:

women's voice have actually gained every necessary attention it need in Nigeria. all you gats do is take the responsibility of sinking sense into your male children/siblings.
imagine a son of a woman who is a woman/girl child right activist not knowing how to do any house chores because his mumband sisters are his slaves

a girlfriend complaining about his boyfriend but in her house her brothers both elder n younger are worse. she knows it's right for her bf to change but doesn't know she've got to work on hers.

CHoccolaTE:
just look at kobojunky wasting her time trying to interact intelligently with trolls.
These small boys only write these insultive topics to get females to react and give them the female attention they desperately lack in real life. I wish all female nairalanders would realise this and learn to ignore topics and posters like the ones in this thread.

Many boys on romance section cannot even talk to girls in real life, nairaland is the only place they can talk to females.
Foolish societal rejects

Kobojunkie:


Honestly, maybe educating the Nigerian men, one mind at a time, is something we ought all to start trying. That women are still subhumans in the most populous African nation in the year 2020 is a thing of shame. We need to tackle this issue of slavery once and for all.

CHoccolaTE:


Okay but romance section guys are mostly irredeemably dense trolls so you might end up wasting your time here.

Tozic:

Baby I love you so much for this.

Kobojunkie:

The bill would not need to be signed into law if Gender Equality was already a culture in Nigeria. You just discussed at length of how women are selfish because they themselves raise one gender over the other, and the same you now suggest that gender equality is already the norm in the same Nigeria? Come on dude!! Even you know that cannot both be true.

It is still the present generation. This present generation where raised by Fathers and mothers who were themselves raised to believe that men were superior to women. Up till this day, the very laws of the land Nigeria have the woman as a subhuman living at the mercy of the males in their lives. [s]A Woman's right to own property is still subject to her subhuman status in the same country. [/s]
Violence against women is still excused in that same country. [s]Rape victims still made to carry the blame for their rape. Women in marriages, still relegated to second-class status.... And you want us to believe Gender equality is already in place in your Nigeria[/s]

That more and more women are more vocal about the abuse and violence that is perpetrated against them DOES NOT then mean the problem has been resolved. The cultures and rules that relegate them to subhuman status still exist and until those are rectified, nothing has changed.

CHoccolaTE:
just look at kobojunky wasting her time trying to interact intelligently with trolls.
These small boys only write these insultive topics to get females to react and give them the female attention they desperately lack in real life. I wish all female nairalanders would realise this and learn to ignore topics and posters like the ones in this thread.

[s]Many boys on romance section cannot even talk to girls in real life, nairaland is the only place they can talk to females.
[/s]
Foolish societal rejects

delectablegyal:
Nigerian men are the same. polygamous, liars, patriachial, archaic, obstinate, flirts and above all, unfaithful lots.

Remaboy:

MhizJoyc.e na grown ass man o.

Tozic:

How many days ban them dash you? Never knew it was you until I checked ur profile.

delectablegyal:
Nigerian men are the same. polygamous, liars, patriachial, archaic, obstinate, flirts and above all, unfaithful lots.

Remaboy:
Hehehe. Na 7 days ban but Remaboy is back I don free that girl. Now, she hardly comments again.
One by one, their wings must be clipped I dey alright sha.

Seandisputed:

And you think I'm here for validation from mo'erfuckers like you?