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Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Hathor5(f): 9:49am On May 14, 2020 |
Acidosis: These attempts to control other people (you should/shouldn't and my view of the family system/marriage is the only right view) are acceptable as long as they align with our world view but if we for a moment imagine that a Muslim brother or sister would want to dictate to us how we think and act (on/offline) and how we are supposed to live our lives and run our families, we cry foul. Muslim could be replaced with Hindu or Satanist for all I care. Freedom is one of the highest goods but we only understand its value the moment a different religious group takes our freedom to live according to our own belief system. Why am I saying it? Because this thread (and I was on page 1) was never meant to encourage a civil discourse. I have been cut off in a rather rude manner without the slightest spark of respect or openness to my willing to share my thoughts on the topic. Your repetition of the word 'should' points to the same direction. It's the mildest form of the Boko Haram syndrome. 14 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by crackland: 9:51am On May 14, 2020 |
crackland:Can someone please help me answer the question here, or maybe explain the irony in the first paragraph. We don't need the thread to be derailed once again from its purpose by engaging in chats about who insults, who is important, who should leave and who should stay, etc... This is not anyone's business. A thread about work/career is not for KG1 psychoanalysis on people's personalities. They will say have civil discussions but na still dem dey first start to carry on uncivilised discussions. Dunning-Kruger is a genius. 5 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by pocohantas(f): 9:52am On May 14, 2020 |
Hathor5: Hian!! 4 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by crackland: 9:56am On May 14, 2020 |
choice17:But won't it be so hard to just leave when she lives in a rent-free condo inside your head? 4 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Nobody: 9:57am On May 14, 2020 |
Acidosis: Good morning I struck out a very somehow part...(the other parts of the post I do not care about) On Nairaland I gravitate towards the family section because people my age (and or generation) are surer to be here, than say, on the romance section (which I actually have started liking lately, somehow. I also like culture, some politics and some religion). Not that you asked though, but manage it. Are you trying to bully me/people like me off here? You can’t shaa. But supposing you were a mod with powers to evict people from here- let me campaign “I have a lover, we have a lot of sex..I have money...I spend it too, on people, like give huge or tiny sums to people, including married men, relatives and non relatives ...I get food ready....an evening/night newspaper depending on who is reading...I can say that with my companion , that I luckily have the choice to bail easily if attraction wanes, and can hop into another one easily: freedom is nice. I consider this a blessing, marriage I consider can be a real trap. And I am a good person too, with all the fornication. I promise you I don’t lurk here wishing I was you, I am here because the posters are more mature. I also do a lot of marriage counseling (sometimes like a reverend father -at work with patients and like a person whose friends and acquaintances want her honest/real opinions on stuff the other times). They trust my opinions too, even if they may think some too wild, and as such may not take them! So you see? I belong here as much as you do Thanks for not hogging all the family section space! Lol! 7 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by pocohantas(f): 9:57am On May 14, 2020 |
crackland: Oga, go and rest abeg. Nobody is going to answer you. Highest, you will loose guard again and get banned. Bye bye 15 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by crackland: 9:59am On May 14, 2020 |
[s] pocohantas:[/s] Madam, I do not care about anyone answering me...although you just did since you can't help yourself As long as my comments are being read, the ministry is moving. 6 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by pocohantas(f): 10:00am On May 14, 2020 |
crackland: No, you actually care. You are waiting for who will reply you, so that you can drag the person into your endless arguments and semantics. Which by the way, is like heroin to your system Rest biko. You have tried for today. 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Liliantalks: 10:02am On May 14, 2020 |
Dande55:this lady writes a lot of nonsense n then call mediators , Am not surprised at all 5 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by crackland: 10:02am On May 14, 2020 |
[s] pocohantas:[/s] And here you are replying me, fulfilling my heroin addiction. Dunning-Kruger is a genius.. 7 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by ibkayee(f): 10:02am On May 14, 2020 |
crackland:Lol I don't think you quoted yourself and asked someone to answer it just for emphasis for some reason 15 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by crackland: 10:07am On May 14, 2020 |
ibkayee:The person that show was meant for knows he can't give a concise answer to his own irony. Stating it again is for emphasis, right emphasis this time... Not the one on the heading of the thread which got y'all worked up. Dunning-Kruger sure understands the science of humans, he is a genius. 3 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Acidosis(m): 10:07am On May 14, 2020 |
Hathor5: Perhaps you should ask Seun why we have a list of 22 rules on the forum. Freedom without boundaries ultimately will lead to chaos. I do not see anything uncivil on page 1 until a particular individual decided to attack the OP based on senseless preconceived ideas and prejudices. |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Acidosis(m): 10:09am On May 14, 2020 |
Liliantalks: So what is work to you, Madam/Mister? |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Acidosis(m): 10:13am On May 14, 2020 |
merahki: You're not considering marriage. Check. You're not married. Check. Are you a product of marriage? Remains uncheck. BTW, I'm wondering how you became a marriage counselor? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Nobody: 10:16am On May 14, 2020 |
Acidosis: Nodu chewe (Stay there and be wondering) Meanwhile all your check and unchecks will remain answers in your head. You know norrin Jon Snow I nukwam! 11 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Nobody: 10:18am On May 14, 2020 |
Las Las you will all log out and face reality. Speaking of reality, some haven't brush their teeth this morning. Yes! they slept and woke on the thread and continue the day's work. All of you will be alright! 3 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Nobody: 10:18am On May 14, 2020 |
eyinjuege: “wished away” is too funny! 3 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Nobody: 10:19am On May 14, 2020 |
ibkayee: Thank you! 5 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Nobody: 10:20am On May 14, 2020 |
Biglittlelois: They would have to ban me first 5 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Hathor5(f): 10:21am On May 14, 2020 |
Acidosis: And these boundaries should be defined by religion/beliefs of one group of people (to the detriment of another)? Is family life not a private matter? What concerns you with how others live their lives if they don't harm you? It is funny you want to regulate this sphere of life but most of you here will cry foul (again) when someone tells you that beating your child should be punishable by law. Then you remember that you are free to run your family as you deem fit. Please, let us focus on what concerns the public life like the rule of law, certain expectations of legality, expectations of due process, strong institutions, eradication of corruption, employment, accountability. Maybe then we will eventually get somewhere in this country. Obviously religion has not taken the country anywhere. Living by an outdated manual can never be the path to order. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Nobody: 10:23am On May 14, 2020 |
Liliantalks: she believes "work is work" if you disagree or have reasons not to get in bed with her... why not counter constructively. educate us |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by crackland: 10:28am On May 14, 2020 |
But Bukatyne, you're indeed a trailblazer... There's no place for argument. 1 Like |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Acidosis(m): 10:28am On May 14, 2020 |
Hathor5: Family life can be both a private and public matter. A controversial family arrangement, if left unaddressed, is capable of destroying an entire community. I'm not surprised reading words like "control", "freedom", and other new age concepts from the West in your previous writeup. Even Donald Trump was accused of controlling people because he instructed citizens to sit at home and protect themselves. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Nobody: 10:28am On May 14, 2020 |
Ariza: well thank God i brushed my teeth , i only left the house without bathing my head |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Nobody: 10:32am On May 14, 2020 |
anslem04:Have you been here since.... *Lemme check* two days ago? Arguing and playing super hero? if yes for you to achieve that fist (brushing your teeth) You are a genius! . Lol time to unfollow the thread now. Bye! 2 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Nobody: 10:34am On May 14, 2020 |
Biglittlelois: Very ridiculously amazing stuff 5 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Nobody: 10:40am On May 14, 2020 |
Acidosis: Bute egbe! (Bring your gun) 6 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by eyinjuege: 10:48am On May 14, 2020 |
Acidosis: On the contrary. Tuface has been consistent with his children and gets along with most of his baby mamas. He flaunts all his children from his various baby mamas. He has 3 or 4 sons and a daughter from his baby mamas (and we're still counting, because rumour has it that there is a new one recently impregnated while married. we will await the rumour to become a reality if true), and 2 daughter from his wife. He flaunts his daughters and sons, visits the ones abroad as circumstances allow. He gets along well with the one in Nigeria, and so does his wife get along well with her. The wife is working on her relationship with the one abroad. That's a blended family for you. Even Davido despite his immaturity flaunts all his children, as circumstances allow. Both the ones from his baby mamas and the newborn from his fiancee- 'Chioma my lover'. That's another blended family, right there. That's real life my brother. Not some bubble we have created for ourselves on how things MUST be, but rather how they actually ARE. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Nobody: 10:53am On May 14, 2020 |
Hathor5: I am sure you must av come across "rubbing minds" what people share as beliefs, assertion or opinion ... has no relationship with bin a "command" or "an order". Nigerians can be religious people buh do nigerians practice what religion says.. from politics to business down to marriage. is it not greed, selfishness n one party trying to outsmart the other. I think nigeria will get better when we as humans start looking inward n acknowledging we are the problem ... not religion, not the system and its not the devil fault anymore. 1 Like |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by budaatum: 11:20am On May 14, 2020 |
bukatyne:You failed to mention that her purpose was also to educate her son, and without her he would have been a carpenter. 1 Like |
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