iHart:
God please help me in my marriage, I don't want to experience all these stories I read on nairaland.

Ybaby:


My bro every man has a 3 months grace to get his shit together.

Life happens and most wives especially in a society like NG prefer to be married at least for appearance sake so for a woman to go from angel to witch ... it takes 3 months.

Now for better for better not worse ..... that statement does not supercede the man being an infidel or worse than an infidel when he cannot provide. They will be together but he will leave by himself when the fury of hell is brought on him.

No one is more resilient than women - she is programmed to carry a child for 9 months - but no matter how.much money she has..... for emphasis I will repeat no matter how much money she has - she is not programmed to shelter, feed or cloth a man least of all her husband.


See the bible said worse than an infidel - meaning he will be treated worse than an infidel.

Teach your sons how to make money. Let the girls go to school and let the boys learn to trade and go to school.

A man is practically useless in a family setting if he is not providing

Ire o

Obingene:
Hian!!

Cold shivers ran down my spines as I read this.

I'm so not enthusiastic about marriage anymore.

Ceasardgreat:
Me

Told my girlfriend to send me a certain amount of cash to my account, was at the hospital and having transfer/network difficulties and she did.
Later on in our conversation she asked me when we'll resume work again, maybe insinuating that I don't have the cash and wouldn't pay back.
Anyways, she did and when the network was through I sent it back Asap..

But that was a red flag for me and she started acting funny (I laugh). I'm taking my time and her behavior is not far from what this man complained about her wife.

Samakus:


My dear Lamanii22, never allow your head to believe that. That it didn't work for others doesn't mean it won't work for you. I'm not married yet but I will be and I will enjoy it.

Of course, these tales of marital issues we're seeing on Nairaland helps to put in perspective that marriage involves work. I will work for my marriage to work. There are no other options other than that I will marry and I will enjoy it.

Do have a nice day

Prymestrr:

Myself Better to save and plan for my old age than depend on another human being who will use me as target practice for their weird fetish
Besides, my son would have been a made man in my old age

faithfull18:
Hmmn, this sounds like fiction. I don't support divorce but if adultery is involved with evidences, then separation is advised. Biblically, either partners are expected not to marry again but you know in our present world, we read and act upside down.

crackland:

That comment was based on what those two women were ranting all over the thread. One even said, her limit is 3months for a husband who's not providing.

Bruv, with that kind of wife...my advise is best for the man.

Ybaby:
Such a sad story. Glad you are doing well.

See women are not good at paying a man's bills. We are not wired that way.

She starts seeing such a man as a child.

Once a man stops seeing the woman as his bread winner - the way will open for him like it opened for OP.

Young men get money! there is a financial clock for men.

OP, happy for you.

emmaodet:



Ohhhhhh
Modern man don suffer .... Chaiiii

CHoccolaTE:


Its better you work extra hard towards making sure your son ends up as a rich man, because if not......hmmm
And pray hard that he outlives you

Telling your story to defend yourself is a waste of time... At the appointed time the truth will unleash itself but not through me

PrimadonnaO:


You’re living in fantasyland. Better snap out of your reverie.

LadyGA:
Your wife was meant to be your help mate....

Seeing you through your trying times at least she had. Job,yeah it can be stressful sometimes with the pressure and all but then as your wife she should have been able to see the potentials in you...and keep going but then I guess she broke off along the line and became inpatient....

That's why it's important to marry who truly likes you that way when u fall they stick by you against all odds.

tunmiluabi:


Defending yourself does not even help. The strength to write this note is my willingness to see beyond myself, there might be need for more insight. I know love is not one directional neither is it "multi-directional", it’s usually in the eye of the one looking at you. Love has no other name but LOVE. I might not be perfect but imperfection can still be unlearned by truly appreciating the situation. There is absolutely no reason to hurt anyone. I would believe that I failed to see her expectations through her lens and she failed to notice my sincere affections towards her. I might not be happy with the way things turned out but the situation has not made me any angrier. But it’s normal to be unhappy and I know that when I don’t mind being unhappy – It won’t last and eventually all will be alright and I hold same for her. Although, with all honesty, I did not see this happening, but I would like to know what our “stupidity” and “failure” has caused us. This will help if we finally move on with our lives. Given the situation, I believe I tried my best, but was not good enough. I am inspired by opportunities life has offer. I will channel my rage, drain and pain for a renewed future without my current dilemma. I am sure it will end in PRAISE. Thank you... there might not be need to tell it all. Life is like WIND it either blows in your favour or against.. Its your choice to stay strong. For those who might not understand that its not a struggle between the MAN the WOMAN, the only existential threat couples face is LIFE itself. But if you haven't been bitten in the face by a bear before, you will not appreciate how bad it is to loose ones identity. But on a happy happier note, if my heart is broken a million times, I will still love again There are good women out there. Its just a matter of time. Telling your story to defend yourself is a waste of time... At the appointed time the truth will unleash itself but not through me.

zeus2412:
God help me, my wife and my children. bless my marriage. many of us go through things. that's why many ladies getting eager to marry out there, u need to be prepared to face the war. only the fittest can survive. *PRAYER IS THE KEY*

Ybaby:


Do not marry a man who is happy to eat from your sweat.

No infidels

OkoroPeugeot:
Your story is common.

Men just don't talk about how badly their women treat them.

BlissB:
All I can say is to watch out for your kid, he/she should never feel your absence....
I really feel bad when a home is broken......
Because I'm from one and I don't wish it on anyone but then we should all do what makes us happy with due consideration....

Goodman247:
The op was talking about a kid, later he was talking about kids, most of the stories in nairaland are fake

Renida:




God bless you