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Bola146:
Ha.. Even a 20 years old can think better than this

When we fall inlove we think for 2people

justine94:
trust me bro...what this girl has done because of this relationship is more than what I can say...let me not say much

All those are stories for the gods

Nothing consign women with past tense
We talking about Current affairs not baba 70

dom80:
op, I understand you are doing everything possible to secure your gf because you love her and you are so much emotionally attach to her. so, it will be very bad if someone else steal your gf from you.

your gf should know that the fb guy is just trying to act like a cool guy just to get her. Your gf not being wise and mature enough will think the guy is a cool guy and perhaps start having feeling for him (not natural feeling). I want you to know that your gf will cheat behind your back with that guy if you don't act fast.

if truly your gf loves you, she will cut all contact with the guy or any other guys that will cause her problem in her relationship. if she loves you, she will endure with your character and perhaps tell you where you go wrong when you accuse her wrongly or when you do things and you may be thinking you are doing the right thing.

there is always issues in every relationship but with open communication you guys can be able to see where your faults lies and how you can solve those issues. it seems there is no open communication in your relationship and I want to believe you are the only one that is communicating while your gf is not open with you.

thanks alot..I have spoken to her about this. ..but I want her to decide this on her own, ..I don't want to be the one who does so

boxer022:
Before I give you my little advice, I need to ask you some questions. What is your intention for this relationship, where will this relationship lead to? I have seen your age and you are no longer kids. What do you want for yourself, is she type of lady you will like to spend the rest of your life with? From your write ups I see few problems, why do you like using the relationship as a threat to her, you always threaten to leave the relationship each time you have issues with her. That is not good at all for your relationship. You are really confusing her. In her mind she is always afraid of you leaving the relationship. That is not good for the relationship, which is why she fell victim to the other guy who is trying to get to her. Why should you slap her, you have no right to lay your hands on her as you are not married to her, you are just in a relationship. Apologizing to her is OK but, it has not left her mind. She is still afraid that you may slap her again tomorrow when you have issues. You need to control your anger. Now concerning the morning which the other guy gave to her so as to lure her to himself, she has the option of either returning it to him or spending it. Asking her to block him on all social media outlets is also good to save your relationship, but may not be the ultimate solution. He may still visit her thinking that his trap has caught a big meat. You have to convince her with your intentions for the relationship if she is the type of lady you want as a wife and also marry her, to stop being afraid of you quitting the relationship. If you know that you will someday leave her, well if she OK with it which I doubt, then convince her that you will remain with her till the end of your relationship.

I intend getting married to her ..she knows already. ..I don't want to be the one who decides on what to do in the relationship

2dice01:
One thing you should know my brother is we are all humans

Same way you fancy other girls
She also fancy them

Lol she nearly fall for bro you crack me up
Admit she likes the dude

She might be keeping him as backup plan when things goes South

Or already dating him too
She is still young
Girl wanna explore and its will look like you are caging her with this attitude

But be ready for Breakup anytime

Try having a beautiful female bestie

that's some tempting suggestion

Such bullocks! Such a control freak... It annoys me when guys become domineering and overbearing just like you are doing, its uncivil. Its a waste of energy and time. Your GF is unlikely to change her attitude ( can't even see anything wrong in her).

Why can't you quit the relationship and let her go? Instead of being abusive and controlling? It doesn't worth the stress and energy.

There are lots of pretty ladies out there. Go check and stop disturbing our peace with crappy post.

justine94:
thanks alot..I have spoken to her about this. ..but I want her to decide this on her own, ..I don't want to be the one who does so

Yes.. she needs to decide. you don't have to force her. I believe whatever you may be doing now will look as if you are forcing her because you want to know if she is into you the way you are into her. if you ask her if she wants to be with you, she will definitely tell you yes because she doesn't want you to feel bad but the truth is she got something else ringing in her mind. try to have one on one conversation in a cool place. ask her if she is tired of the relationship and if she is no longer interested or if she knows she has someone else in her life, she should just open up and you guys can end the relationship. Tell her you won't feel bad and you will take it as your faith.

justine94:
I slapped out of anger something I have never done for more than 3 years. .which i apologised for ...yes she's not my property. .but let's be honest when u have been with someone for a long time...u get really attached to them

Will you shut the hell up? You obviously lack self control. Imagine your whole GF? Someone you should cherish with love and care.

We are all muscular guys who can turn monsters if we wish, but hey, its uncivil.

Better to quit and let her go than bruising her for minor offences.

themaestro08:
Will you shut the hell up? You obviously lack self control. Imagine your whole GF? Someone you should cherish with love and care.

We are all muscular guys who can turn monsters if we wish, but hey, its uncivil.

Better to quit and let her go than bruising her for minor offences.

bro chill na..if I was a woman beater I bet she won't stay 3 years with me...she knew the only reason that triggered the anger was because the issue

justine94:
no dictating. ..even b4 this issue came up...I know other guys chat her on fb asking her out saying they want to see her...I know all this. .I dey see am..but I just see it as normal stuff ...I don't own her so I can't say she should not talk to him ...but my question is ..is it right for your gf to still be in conversation with a guy who was giving her reasons to exist her relationship with the aim of asking her out. .which she nearly feel for...

For your mind now, your girl don't have a mind of her own,

dom80:
Yes.. she needs to decide. you don't have to force her. I believe whatever you may be doing now will look as if you are forcing her because you want to know if she is into you the way you are into her. if you ask her if she wants to be with you, she will definitely tell you yes because she doesn't want you to feel bad but the truth is she got something else ringing in her mind. try to have one on one conversation in a cool place. ask her if she is tired of the relationship and if she is no longer interested or if she knows she has someone else in her life, she should just open up and you guys can end the relationship. Tell her you won't feel bad and you will take it as your faith.

thanks alot ...I appreciate your cool advice. ..

justine94:
bro chill na..if I was a woman beater I bet she won't stay 3 years with me...she knew the only reason that triggered the anger was because the issue

A lot of cool guys (including me) have pointed out to you that - its highly likely she has lost interest in you and even if mask it for now she will eventually leave you in a pathetic manner, but yet, you are bent on repairing the already weak relationship despite all the signs its crash is imminent.

Believe it or not she will leave you sooner or later.

Believe it or not quit and you will find a better girl out there who is way better than her.

themaestro08:
A lot of cool guys (including me) have pointed out to you that - its highly likely she has lost interest in you and even if mask it for now she will eventually leave you in a pathetic manner, but yet, you are bent on repairing the already weak relationship despite all the signs its crash is imminent.

Believe it or not she will leave you sooner or later.

Believe it or not quit and you will find a better girl out there who is way better than her.

let's see how it goes

justine94:
I intend getting married to her ..she knows already. ..I don't want to be the one who decides on what to do in the relationship

I quite understand you but you have to try as much as you can to control your anger. If you really intend to marry her then make it an assignment for yourself to control your anger as it may affect your relationship and marriage. No lady or woman will like to live with a man who slaps her or beat her at any slight provocation.

boxer022:
I quite understand you but you have to try as much as you can to control your anger. If you really intend to marry her then make it an assignment for yourself to control your anger as it may affect your relationship and marriage. No lady or woman will like to live with a man who slaps her or beat her at any slight provocation.

she has offended me othertimes and I did not Lay Amy finger on her...so this time it was really different. .but I have apologised about it

justine94:
she has offended me othertimes and I did not Lay Amy finger on her...so this time it was really different. .but I have apologised about it

I understand what you are saying, but just advising you on the anger part. Even as she knows that she was at fault in the first place, she didn't expect the slap. You have every right to be angry, but it is how you decide to channel the anger towards her that matters most.

boxer022:
I understand what you are saying, but just advising you on the anger part. Even as she knows that she was at fault in the first place, she didn't expect the slap. You have every right to be angry, but it is how you decide to channel the anger towards her that matters most.

I know...I have learnt from that...though am a temperamental person...but I don't physically abuse ladies...I have assured her that it won't happen again

justine94:
I know...I have learnt from that...though am a temperamental person...but I don't physically abuse ladies...I have assured her that it won't happen again

Good to know. Keep it up.

themaestro08:
Will you shut the hell up? You obviously lack self control. Imagine your whole GF? Someone you should cherish with love and care.

We are all muscular guys who can turn monsters if we wish, but hey, its uncivil.

Better to quit and let her go than bruising her for minor offences.

Must you insult him. You that you are just an online pig. Pls learn to be civil and grow up.