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3plecz:
I don't know how to start but I guess I will just start anyhow, please don't mind the punctuations if use wrongly or not used at all. I met this girl where I was working like 2 years ago she came there for her youth service, she is very nice and so charming, guys in my work place always trying to make her theirs but I was more interested in just a friend, this made us very close and eventually we started connecting, the chemistry between us is so much that I did not even know I was already falling for her. After months of friendship I eventually told her how I feel but because she is a Muslim she said she doesn't feel it is possible for us to be together based on the difference in religion but since my intentions was to be just a friend all along I was not so bothered about her reply so we continued with our friendship. The friendship was so great that there is nothing I can't do for this girl and I guess this made her started falling for me and we eventually we started dating after about a month of dating she Finnish her service (she redeployed to the the state I was cause that is where she base also so she going back to her state after service is out of it) after her services year unknown to me she already making plans to travel abroad tho she told me she will be traveling but she did not tell me where or how long she going to be staying. Few days after she traveled she send me a message apologizing that because of the situation in Nigeria she had to try and find a way to make her life better. The traveling did not stop us from talking infact we talk almost every day through chats, video calls and phone calls. Settling abroad was a little rough for her due to new environment and stuff so for her not to feel the change that much I do help in the ways I can which includes me sending her money and encouraging her to stay strong. Things continue like that till she secure a job tho we still talk but due to her work and time difference we don't do talk as much as we use to do. Fast forward to November last year my intention was to travel over to meet her to propose to her but before taking that step I decided to ask her that( if I ask her to marry me what will her response be) at first she sounds excited and say her answer will always be yes but after that conversation I noticed changes in her attitude she started ignoring my calls and not replying my texts if her i ask her what is going on she will say you no I am always busy. I noticed she do upload a guy picture this is when I realized probably she is into another person so I chat her up and ask her if we are done and to my surprise she said but she already told me we are just friends this hurt my feelings so bad because for almost a year that she left I have been faithful to her and always help her the way I can (I have never demand anything from her since she traveled abroad I was the one doing the giving instead even when I don't have much) now here is my problem it's been 5months since we broke up but I still find it difficult getting over her we still do chat not as much as we use to tho and she still refers to me as her favorite person. Recently a friend who happened to know her told me he do see her around with a guy over there and that with the information he was able to gather it seems she is staying with the guy, I became angry and call her immediately out of jealousy to confront her and her response was it's her life she can Live it the way it pleases her although eventually she deny it but ( I don't even know why I made the call in the first place a because I know we are no more together since December) I have try everything possible to make me forget about her(delete her number, clear our chat even delete her pictures and unfollow her on IG) but it's very hard for me to forget her, this maybe as a result of the kinda person I am, let's say I am an introvert kinda person who hardly associate or make new friends I don't know the next step to take that is why I decided to share what I am going through cause to be honest the thought of her is affecting alot. I don't want to fight her but I just want to stop loving her, loving her is not as a result of we talking every day but as a result of the feeling I had for her naturally which has grown over the past few months....... please help

3plecz:
❤️ thanks

bestabigaelever:
Welcome hun
Can we be friends?

Kdon2:
Bros move on girls aren't worth all this trouble. Your problem is that you have been mumufied, you have spent so much on her material and emotional wise that's why letting go of all that investment is not easy.

Kdon2:
Bros move on girls aren't worth all this trouble. Your problem is that you have been mumufied, you have spent so much on her material and emotional wise that's why letting go of all that investment is not easy.

Peacefullove:

Sorry boss

Keep it in mind that sometimes people wont know your value until they go with someone else. Scarcity beings value. Now considering how u have treated her if true. Free her and let her taste the other side .

Cc: Eulalia

bestabigaelever:
Please let me shoot my shot in peace

yppah:
bro, it's crazy but everything's going to be alright. focus more on you and express yourself. cry and do everything possible you'll get over it eventually. It took me 2 years. you just have to move on and don't commit suicide no matter how hard it feels and don't hustle to make her come back you'll just verify she's a biatch. just do you and always wear a smile. flirt with other girls. observe more & talk less. depression was a blessing in disguise for me

Kenplay:
You are are simply weak and have low self-esteem. Sorry if am too blunt its just a truth to wake you up.

I have had 3 broken relationship and it takes me just 2 month at most to get over it because
(1) I put myself first ask myself; Why should I worry about something that doesnt add or remove anything from my destiny.
(2)I exist before meeting her and will continue to exist if she leave.
(3) If she values me she would stay, therefore while should i worry myself about someone who never made sacrifice to be with me.
(4)have children to take care of in the future and another woman can still be the mother to my unborn children

LIFE IS NOT FOR THE WEAK. YOU SHOULD PREPARE TO LOSE ANYTHING FROM THE DAY YOU GOT IT.

EMOTIONAL MEN HARDLY ACHIEVE GREATNESS IN LIFE, THE WORLD IS BUILT ON LOGICS AND PRINCIPLES AND NOT ON EMOTIONS.
3plecz

3plecz:
I don't know how to start but I guess I will just start anyhow, please don't mind the punctuations if use wrongly or not used at all. I met this girl where I was working like 2 years ago she came there for her youth service, she is very nice and so charming, guys in my work place always trying to make her theirs but I was more interested in just a friend, this made us very close and eventually we started connecting, the chemistry between us is so much that I did not even know I was already falling for her. After months of friendship I eventually told her how I feel but because she is a Muslim she said she doesn't feel it is possible for us to be together based on the difference in religion but since my intentions was to be just a friend all along I was not so bothered about her reply so we continued with our friendship. The friendship was so great that there is nothing I can't do for this girl and I guess this made her started falling for me and we eventually we started dating after about a month of dating she Finnish her service (she redeployed to the the state I was cause that is where she base also so she going back to her state after service is out of it) after her services year unknown to me she already making plans to travel abroad tho she told me she will be traveling but she did not tell me where or how long she going to be staying. Few days after she traveled she send me a message apologizing that because of the situation in Nigeria she had to try and find a way to make her life better. The traveling did not stop us from talking infact we talk almost every day through chats, video calls and phone calls. Settling abroad was a little rough for her due to new environment and stuff so for her not to feel the change that much I do help in the ways I can which includes me sending her money and encouraging her to stay strong. Things continue like that till she secure a job tho we still talk but due to her work and time difference we don't do talk as much as we use to do. Fast forward to November last year my intention was to travel over to meet her to propose to her but before taking that step I decided to ask her that( if I ask her to marry me what will her response be) at first she sounds excited and say her answer will always be yes but after that conversation I noticed changes in her attitude she started ignoring my calls and not replying my texts if her i ask her what is going on she will say you no I am always busy. I noticed she do upload a guy picture this is when I realized probably she is into another person so I chat her up and ask her if we are done and to my surprise she said but she already told me we are just friends this hurt my feelings so bad because for almost a year that she left I have been faithful to her and always help her the way I can (I have never demand anything from her since she traveled abroad I was the one doing the giving instead even when I don't have much) now here is my problem it's been 5months since we broke up but I still find it difficult getting over her we still do chat not as much as we use to tho and she still refers to me as her favorite person. Recently a friend who happened to know her told me he do see her around with a guy over there and that with the information he was able to gather it seems she is staying with the guy, I became angry and call her immediately out of jealousy to confront her and her response was it's her life she can Live it the way it pleases her although eventually she deny it but ( I don't even know why I made the call in the first place a because I know we are no more together since December) I have try everything possible to make me forget about her(delete her number, clear our chat even delete her pictures and unfollow her on IG) but it's very hard for me to forget her, this maybe as a result of the kinda person I am, let's say I am an introvert kinda person who hardly associate or make new friends I don't know the next step to take that is why I decided to share what I am going through cause to be honest the thought of her is affecting alot. I don't want to fight her but I just want to stop loving her, loving her is not as a result of we talking every day but as a result of the feeling I had for her naturally which has grown over the past few months....... please help