| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by mycheney(f): 9:16pm On May 15, 2020 |
Just give Jesus Christ a chance in ur heart. Only him can help u and make every wrong right in ur life. Don't waste ur precious life seeking help where u can't find any. Jesus loves u and want u to live in total freedom. 1 Like |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by IbrahimSkiba(f): 9:22pm On May 15, 2020 |
Monfeels:
Why would I be ashamed?
I love myself and I've embraced what I am.
It's not like I chose to be what I am.
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| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by Dollabiz: 9:24pm On May 15, 2020 |
Reallly |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by Ojuri20: 9:27pm On May 15, 2020 |
Monfeels:
What kind of games? Like Call of duty, GTA and the likes
OR
Like getting 5 freezers and hiding a baby in one of them and giving the mum 3 chances to guess which one the baby is in? Don't scare me please  |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by Iykeprima: 9:27pm On May 15, 2020 |
OP story has every shade of the movie fifty shades of grey all over.
OP don't worry true love will set you free. 1 Like |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by igolowo1: 9:31pm On May 15, 2020 |
Monfeels:
I want to share my problem with you guys in the hopes that maybe I'll get some good advice or at least some insight into my problem.
When people first meet me their impression of me is that I'm good looking, cool and intelligent. Most girls usually assume that I have a girlfriend or a legion of side chicks that I Bleep whenever I want to.
The truth about me is that I've never been in a proper relationship with another woman before. All I've had is sexual partners that I stop talking to after I have sex with them, and girls I get intimate with just to control them and get them to fulfil my desire of having a female to own, please me and do my biding, and then I get bored of them and cease contact and move on like I never knew them.
The reason for this behavior is that I don't possess the emotional resources needed to engage in a healthy relationship with another human being. I have no empathy and I usually feel no guilt or remorse for my actions. It's impossible for me to care genuinely for another person. I don't feel people's pain or suffering and I'm not moved by the death of family members or friends. I simply do not care for any other person but myself. I've been this way for a very long time. I lack the ability to maintain relationships with people hence why I lose friends often. Relationships are usually a means to an end for me and when that end is met, I become irritated by the person I've gotten close to.
Despite the fact that I don't see the point in relationships, I still find that I get jealous of couples in healthy relationships. It's not like I want to experience what they experience, just that I am envious of the fact that they are participating in something I can't participate in.
When I find a girl that I want to get close to, I'm usually consumed with jealousy over her previous relationships, and over any current relationship she has with any member of the opposite sex, even if it's merely platonic. All I want is for her to devote all her time to me and shower me with attention and love. The problem with all this is that I don't want to reciprocate this behavior. In fact the idea of devoting attention to, and showering affection on someone else irritates me. It's all pointless, but I enjoy when it's done to me.
Another weird side to all this is that I don't just want to control the girl, I also enjoy making her feel bad, but in a way that makes her crave for me more. I enjoy poking holes in herself esteem, making her second guess the presumably good qualities she thought she possesed, making her not feel wanted by me, and making her do more to please me.
I don't love women, I only become obsessed with them. Obsessed to the point that I'm constantly tortured by thoughts of them being sexual with another guy especially when it's someone she has dated before. I want her all to myself and even if she had sex with someone before I met her or before we became close, I am filled with anger and jealousy whenever the thought crosses my mind, and I want to punish her for that. It's like I want to erase her past and replace it with me. I want to be all she's ever had. I don't want anyone else in her life and I don't want anyone else in her past.
All this must sound crazy to you guys but this is my reality and it's eating me up. I need advice. continue karma is coming |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by K4daniel: 9:33pm On May 15, 2020 |
Sorry op..Am sorry to say, you are showing some traits of babies.No matured mind will have all these plenty weaknesses, am very sure the girls you were dating are zombies and mumus. You need an iron lady..Lol.
I cant stop laughing..Until you meet a lady with beauty and brain who is matured enough to also turn u to mumu and handle all these your baby like traits you may not change even with our advice.
Above all, Please work on yourself and be a man, you have just one life....surrender that your life to JESUS and He will manage it for you, all these evil traits will go.You can't manage your life well with all these evil characters but i know jesus can help and your real person will emerge.Your life will not remain the same again.
Shalom!!! |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by vickydevoka(m): 9:38pm On May 15, 2020 |
Mine is quite different from yours. I stop giving them money after having sex with them. n if de keep pestering me I will delete them completely 1 Like |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by OOLUSOGA(m): 9:39pm On May 15, 2020 |
Haven't read your post, sir, you are somehow self-centered person who all things for himself only. My recommendation is simple pls seek the REDEEMER (Jesus Christ) of your life. You can later apply medical. Matt 6:33. Pls SEEK Jesus First. You need JESUS now NOT TOMORROW. Devil want to DESTROY you. Come to JESUS. After your salvation all others steps will make meaning and impact in your life. This is my submission. |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by philcz(m): 9:40pm On May 15, 2020 |
LadyHeaven:
I thought you came here to seek assistance? But your subsequent posts have really been terrible, life should be lived and enjoyed, may you not look back at your choices and regret why you didn't make conscious efforts to change. GL He’s not here to seek for any assistance. I am surprised a lot of you didn’t know he was manipulating your emotions from the write up. SMH. This post is a ‘high’ for him. He’s enjoying the attention. Monfeels is a Sociopath to the core. 2 Likes |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by LadyHeaven(f): 9:43pm On May 15, 2020 |
philcz:
He’s not here to seek for any assistance. I am surprised a lot of you didn’t know he was manipulating your emotions from the write up. SMH. This post is a ‘high’ for him. He’s enjoying the attention. Monfeels is a Sociopath to the core. I had no idea, I read each thread with a open mind, I was very aghast reading his subsequent mentions to people...its his cup of tea, people like him should be ignored. Imagine been glad to be a Narcissist Sociopath 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by InvertedHammer: 9:44pm On May 15, 2020 |
Monfeels:
I want to share my problem with you guys in the hopes that maybe I'll get some good advice or at least some insight into my problem.
When people first meet me their impression of me is that I'm good looking, cool and intelligent. Most girls usually assume that I have a girlfriend or a legion of side chicks that I Bleep whenever I want to.
The truth about me is that I've never been in a proper relationship with another woman before. All I've had is sexual partners that I stop talking to after I have sex with them, and girls I get intimate with just to control them and get them to fulfil my desire of having a female to own, please me and do my biding, and then I get bored of them and cease contact and move on like I never knew them.
The reason for this behavior is that I don't possess the emotional resources needed to engage in a healthy relationship with another human being. I have no empathy and I usually feel no guilt or remorse for my actions. It's impossible for me to care genuinely for another person. I don't feel people's pain or suffering and I'm not moved by the death of family members or friends. I simply do not care for any other person but myself. I've been this way for a very long time. I lack the ability to maintain relationships with people hence why I lose friends often. Relationships are usually a means to an end for me and when that end is met, I become irritated by the person I've gotten close to.
Despite the fact that I don't see the point in relationships, I still find that I get jealous of couples in healthy relationships. It's not like I want to experience what they experience, just that I am envious of the fact that they are participating in something I can't participate in.
When I find a girl that I want to get close to, I'm usually consumed with jealousy over her previous relationships, and over any current relationship she has with any member of the opposite sex, even if it's merely platonic. All I want is for her to devote all her time to me and shower me with attention and love. The problem with all this is that I don't want to reciprocate this behavior. In fact the idea of devoting attention to, and showering affection on someone else irritates me. It's all pointless, but I enjoy when it's done to me.
Another weird side to all this is that I don't just want to control the girl, I also enjoy making her feel bad, but in a way that makes her crave for me more. I enjoy poking holes in herself esteem, making her second guess the presumably good qualities she thought she possesed, making her not feel wanted by me, and making her do more to please me.
I don't love women, I only become obsessed with them. Obsessed to the point that I'm constantly tortured by thoughts of them being sexual with another guy especially when it's someone she has dated before. I want her all to myself and even if she had sex with someone before I met her or before we became close, I am filled with anger and jealousy whenever the thought crosses my mind, and I want to punish her for that. It's like I want to erase her past and replace it with me. I want to be all she's ever had. I don't want anyone else in her life and I don't want anyone else in her past.
All this must sound crazy to you guys but this is my reality and it's eating me up. I need advice. / Nothing is wrong with you. It is a phase. / |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by Arthur2021: 9:46pm On May 15, 2020 |
BusterG:
It a disorder you have bro.
Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a personality disorder characterized by a long-term pattern of exaggerated feelings of self-importance, an excessive need for admiration, and a lack of empathy toward other people.
Just like Judas, some people are destined to be destroyed by their own self sooner or later. You are one of such.
Don’t stress yourself looking for advice.
It’s your destiny.
oga why the hate? Did OP haunt you?leave him jare... The world is liberal, everyone is having their choices. No man owes a woman commitment after sex the same way no woman owes a man sex after his spending. The world is now lawless,norms that were to put everyone in check so they dont hurt others or hurt themselves are now being fought as oppressive... So let everyone enjoy their freedom. If a lady is free to have sex,then men should be free to have sex without commitment, we owe no one anything. If you tell the girls he chopped and dumped to close their legs you are a sexist/misogynist. So please leave us alone to enjoy modernity abeg.... 2 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by Jimmyld231: 9:46pm On May 15, 2020 |
Atomemmy:
I DON'T FIND ANYTHING WRONG IN UR CHARACTERS. I ONLY FIND SOMETHING WRONG WITH UR MINDSET. U FEEL LIVING UR LIFE IN CONTRAST TO THE WAY OTHERS LIVE MAKES U REJECTABLE, AND THEN U WANT TO PLEASE THEM.
IT'S NOT BAD NOT HAVING FEELINGS FOR WOMEN. IT'S A GOOD SIGN U'RE MORE THAN A MAN. TRY USING THIS NATURE OF URS TO ADVANCE GOD'S KINGDOM LIKE BECOMING A PREIST UNNO? waiting this one they talk. Must you talk ? |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by Monfeels: 9:49pm On May 15, 2020 |
LadyHeaven:
I had no idea, I read each thread with a open mind, I was very aghast reading his subsequent mentions to people...its his cup of ogogoro, people like him should be ignored. Imagine been glad to be a Narcissist Sociopath I'm not glad to be a narcissist sociopath or whatever label that fits my personality. I am just a guy who has embraced who he is and found solace in loving himself. And I can't help acting the way I act. Trust me, I'm very self aware and very knowledgeable and I've realized that there is no cure to what I am. So I have two options.: Try to be a different person and suffer dissatisfaction and an internal turmoil so excruciating that it tears me inside out, or just do stuff that makes me happy, even though it might hurt someone. I know you'd pick the former but whatever argument you'd make would fly in the face of my lack of empathy. 2 Likes |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by Monfeels: 9:52pm On May 15, 2020 |
philcz:
He’s not here to seek for any assistance. I am surprised a lot of you didn’t know he was manipulating your emotions from the write up. SMH. This post is a ‘high’ for him. He’s enjoying the attention. Monfeels is a Sociopath to the core. Finally someone smart just made a comment. You know I actually took screenshots of some posts that I liked. |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by philcz(m): 9:54pm On May 15, 2020 |
LadyHeaven:
I had no idea, I read each thread with a open mind, I was very aghast reading his subsequent mentions to people...its his cup of ogogoro, people like him should be ignored. Imagine been glad to be a Narcissist Sociopath Lol, he will always find a thrill for himself, he can’t help it. PS. He’s done with this post, I doubt it’s still giving him the high it did earlier. |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by LadyHeaven(f): 9:54pm On May 15, 2020 |
Monfeels:
I'm not glad to be a narcissist sociopath or whatever label that fits my personality. I am just a guy who has embraced who he is and found solace in loving himself.
And I can't help acting the way I act. Trust me, I'm very self aware and very knowledgeable and I've realized that there is no cure to what I am.
So I have two options.: Try to be a different person and suffer dissatisfaction and an internal turmoil so excruciating that it tears me inside out, or just do stuff that makes me happy, even though it might hurt someone. I know you'd pick the later but whatever argument you'd make would fly in the face of my lack of empathy. Lmao... |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by EricMason(m): 10:02pm On May 15, 2020 |
Monfeels:
I want to share my problem with you guys in the hopes that maybe I'll get some good advice or at least some insight into my problem.
When people first meet me their impression of me is that I'm good looking, cool and intelligent. Most girls usually assume that I have a girlfriend or a legion of side chicks that I Bleep whenever I want to.
The truth about me is that I've never been in a proper relationship with another woman before. All I've had is sexual partners that I stop talking to after I have sex with them, and girls I get intimate with just to control them and get them to fulfil my desire of having a female to own, please me and do my biding, and then I get bored of them and cease contact and move on like I never knew them.
The reason for this behavior is that I don't possess the emotional resources needed to engage in a healthy relationship with another human being. I have no empathy and I usually feel no guilt or remorse for my actions. It's impossible for me to care genuinely for another person. I don't feel people's pain or suffering and I'm not moved by the death of family members or friends. I simply do not care for any other person but myself. I've been this way for a very long time. I lack the ability to maintain relationships with people hence why I lose friends often. Relationships are usually a means to an end for me and when that end is met, I become irritated by the person I've gotten close to.
Despite the fact that I don't see the point in relationships, I still find that I get jealous of couples in healthy relationships. It's not like I want to experience what they experience, just that I am envious of the fact that they are participating in something I can't participate in.
When I find a girl that I want to get close to, I'm usually consumed with jealousy over her previous relationships, and over any current relationship she has with any member of the opposite sex, even if it's merely platonic. All I want is for her to devote all her time to me and shower me with attention and love. The problem with all this is that I don't want to reciprocate this behavior. In fact the idea of devoting attention to, and showering affection on someone else irritates me. It's all pointless, but I enjoy when it's done to me.
Another weird side to all this is that I don't just want to control the girl, I also enjoy making her feel bad, but in a way that makes her crave for me more. I enjoy poking holes in herself esteem, making her second guess the presumably good qualities she thought she possesed, making her not feel wanted by me, and making her do more to please me.
I don't love women, I only become obsessed with them. Obsessed to the point that I'm constantly tortured by thoughts of them being sexual with another guy especially when it's someone she has dated before. I want her all to myself and even if she had sex with someone before I met her or before we became close, I am filled with anger and jealousy whenever the thought crosses my mind, and I want to punish her for that. It's like I want to erase her past and replace it with me. I want to be all she's ever had. I don't want anyone else in her life and I don't want anyone else in her past.
All this must sound crazy to you guys but this is my reality and it's eating me up. I need advice. Hey man, I don’t know you but everything u said is me 101%. Just don’t know who to talk to bout me. |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by philcz(m): 10:02pm On May 15, 2020 |
Monfeels:
Finally someone smart just made a comment.
You know I actually took screenshots of some posts that I liked. I don’t see myself as being smart, I am just me. I thought you’ve had your ‘fill’ with this post, clearly I was wrong. |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by Jeffy1206(m): 10:09pm On May 15, 2020 |
Remind me of a character in the series Sistas. You're an isolator |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by Monfeels: 10:13pm On May 15, 2020 |
philcz:
I don’t see myself as being smart, I am just me. I thought you’ve had your ‘fill’ with this post, clearly I was wrong. I had my fill when I posted it 4 days ago. But I just realized minutes ago that it made front page. Front page means more comments so I'm still enjoying the comments for now. |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by BlackLaw: 10:13pm On May 15, 2020 |
this shayt's made up |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by dvson1: 10:17pm On May 15, 2020 |
This is complete me you're talking about.... this same problem has been eating me up but I I've been able to trace mine to my parents ..... let's go
At a very tender age my dad was in the north working while I was in the village with my mum ...being the last and the only son mum handled me with iron hand she decided to take no nonsense from me (to her understanding Male children tend to be stubborn...she was ready for me) my home was like hello, am only happy when am away from home maybe school..... there's nothing I'll ever do that's please mum, if at all I do something good she'll never tell me or appreciate it ,she's always looking out for error in anything I do to the fact that I don't even know how right to do anything .... she's never corrected me...there's always fear in me till today. I lost myself , self esteem, all my abilities to fear (use brilliant in school not the best though) .... after much heartbreak to people I dated and people around me I went on social media and I met this girl with intention to victimiz her but she won me ..... she did so much work much in me ,....I can't say all cause it's gonna be long epistle ... @OP if u can relate to me chat me up ... might be of help 1 Like |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by philcz(m): 10:19pm On May 15, 2020 |
Monfeels:
I had my fill when I posted it 4 days ago. But I just realized minutes ago that it made front page. Front page means more comments so I'm still enjoying the comments for now.
 Enjoy then. We all have issues we battle with, don’t allow your issues control you. This might sound ‘dumb’ to you, given your intellectualism but do think about it. Adios, |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by Monfeels: 10:19pm On May 15, 2020 |
@philcz
Coupled with the traits I mentioned I also have even more severe sexual disorders.
I'll give you a riddle because I'm not comfortable mentioning it here. Figure it out.
All beauty is to me stale except it be preserved in silence. 1 Like |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by Monfeels: 10:22pm On May 15, 2020 |
BlackLaw:
this shayt's made up
It's not made up. |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by philcz(m): 10:33pm On May 15, 2020 |
Monfeels:
@philcz
Coupled with the traits I mentioned I also have even more severe sexual disorders.
I'll give you a riddle because I'm not comfortable mentioning it here. Figure it out.
All beauty is to me stale except it be preserved in silence.
Fûck  no way, Man! SMH. You need help bro. 1 Like |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by philcz(m): 10:35pm On May 15, 2020 |
Monfeels:
@philcz
Coupled with the traits I mentioned I also have even more severe sexual disorders.
I'll give you a riddle because I'm not comfortable mentioning it here. Figure it out.
All beauty is to me stale except it be preserved in silence.
This is you trying to manipulate me into continuing this conversation with you after I said goodbye  |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by Monfeels: 10:36pm On May 15, 2020 |
philcz:
Fûck no way, Man! SMH. You need help bro. You figured out the answer to my riddle? Give me a hint. |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by Monfeels: 10:39pm On May 15, 2020 |
philcz:
This is you trying to manipulate me into continuing this conversation with you after I said goodbye Maybe. It's always fun talking to someone who kinda gets me... well under the veil of anonymity that is. |
| Re: I Have A Serious Problem Concerning My Relationship With Women. by philcz(m): 10:40pm On May 15, 2020 |
Monfeels:
You figured out the answer to my riddle?
Give me a hint. Preserved in ‘eternal’ silence? |
