₦airaland Forum

seanwilliam:
u see me ehn, If I dey vex, I go dey get temperature , my voice go dey shake, my eyes go red, I go feel like I'm in war.. that's why I dey always walk away at the slightest provocation...

DNSPro:
Honestly, I do not know. It is weird because she always pick my calls, no quarrel or anything like that.

Though my friend spoke to her last night and they were speaking in our dialect (let me not mention tribe before zombies turn it into another we VS them thread ) and she still hinge on faulty phone and assured my friend that she never blocked me. She told him a lot of things to assure him that it is not what I am thinking but I told my friend that dude,when people do something, you do listen to their words but watch their body language. I had to tell my friend that I do not buy that explanation.

So I asked my friend, why didn't she explain when I called instead she went defensive as if she can withstand my own rage, not my friend does not know this about me. He(my friend) tried to placate me and told me to put my anger under control.

Sure. Thanks for the you responded. I appreciate it.

AfroKnight:
Lame excuse. Nigerian girls will use real life facts to manipulate you. They will appeal to your mercy and ego.

You knew you were blocked right from the beginning but you were in denial.

Guys, I hope you can see that throwing money at a problem, orchestrated and sustained by your babe, won’t solve it. A normal human being would have a change of heart after receiving money from her boyfriend and may even unblock him but brokeass naija babes are not like that. They won’t even have the decency to reject the gift or unblock him.

She probably thought you’d send more money until you were tired.

Having a Plan B is good but it has to be a girl who can fend for herself without the financial input of a man. If you keep rolling with brokeass babes you will get similar results.

Men should learn to recognise manipulation. Naija babes won’t pity you once they decide to mess with your emotions. That’s why they should never be accepted back once you catch them cheating. Forgive if you want but don’t accept a woman back. Let the relationship end cos once you’ve been zoned, there is no good thing you can do to change their mind. You will only appear weak in their eyes.

Ishilove:
Why are there so many friends involved in your relationship?

DNSPro:
it is just two people ooo. her own friend and my own friend. sorry if i no sabi explain well.

DNSPro:
Recently,

I discovered that a lot of Nairalander men have been wailing about their sour relationships with Nigerian girls and it is not surprising to me.

You would be foolish if you do not have a backup when dating a Nigerian girl and I do not say this because I am a flirt or womanizer, at least I can boast that girls I have dated is laughably very very very low in comparison to what is obtainable out there.

It is no news that most Nigerian girls are unstable mentally and emotionally.

For the ones who lamented about money they spent or how they almost went bankrupt, I am not surprised about one not let other guys bully you as if they never fell "mugu" to any Nigerian girl.

However, you will run into problems when start treating them like wife instead just a girlfriend. This is were we make mistakes.

Early this year, I was chatting with my girl and before I know what's up, her whatsapp line became inactive. This was surprising to me and I called her immediately to know whether she blocked me to which she said why would she block me. I told her to check and she said she will cos she was charging her phone. Next morning it was still same thing so I kept calling because I thought maybe the phone had been stolen.

I didn't think she blocked me. Why would I? Eventually, she picked the call and told me she checked but the whatsapp is not on her phone and some other things were wiped off. I believed this because he had been complaining about the phone for which I sent her money to fix it prior to this.

Anyway, I didn't bother about it after while and I stopped asking and just kept communications on normal calls, at least she didn't block me there and that didn't give me any reason to suspect I was blocked. I also didn't want to seem like a pest if prop further (you know how Nigerian girls react when you do)

So last month, I was calling her and when I do, she would cut the call. This was unusual to me. She did this for almost a week until I reached out to her friend in order to know what was happening. The friend let me know that the mum's health is bad. Her friend sent me pictures of the mums condition and it was an eyesore.

I know my girl(I may not be her guy lol) to be one who does not like bugging you with her problem but why would her friend know this and I do not? I thought about this for some seconds and waved it off. I probed the friend further to know the expenses and the friend told me about 300k is needed. I wanted to sent 100k but for some weird reasons, I sent 60k with a plan to send 40k after a while. At least that will help start something.

few days after that, I noticed that the friend was getting response from her faster and relaying them to me on whatsapp since when I called she does not pick. I had to ask the friend if she is communicating with my girl (I may not be her guy lol) on whatsapp and the friend said yes, she is. I said okay.

Thereafter, my girl (I may not be her guy lol) called me, probably to thank me for the money, but I missed it so she left a text message. She told her friend that she called but I didn't pick and wondered whether I was angry. The friend messaged me in the morning and queried why I didn't pick the call or whether I am still angry. I told the friend I missed it because the phone was not with me and that I am not angry.

So this is where it got interesting...

last week, the friend upload a picture that looks like one from my girl's status wishing her happy birthday and today the friend uploaded another thanking my girl (I may not be her guy lol) for the cake.

At this stage, I was wondering whether I did anything wrong that made this girl not give me her "new" whatsapp number because that was what I thought. I looked at the status of her friend again, saw old pictures of both of them and concluded it is impossible to have new phone and still have this old pictures that were stored in an old phone.

I called her today after that and asked her whether there is any reason for not giving me her "new whatsapp number. That was all I asked and she went defensive and aggressive, saying am I not aware of what happened to her phone blah blah.. same phone I gave her money to fix? Was she expecting me to bring out another money to fix it again? She ended by saying she is not ready for this talk and that we talk about this later.

I said I know but it is just a question. She refused to answer a simple question. I told the friend her reaction when I asked and guess what the friend did? She tried to blackmail me like Nigerian girls do and said my girl is trying to make me understand something and that women like to be listened to all the time. That I should listen instead of reacting. I smiled and within me, I said this one think I am a JJC. What she meant is that I didnt do anything about my girl's phone and that is what she (my girl is reacting to ). WTF?

So, I installed whatsapp on a new line to check her status. Lo and Behold, the profile is active, which means I was blocked all along. I didn't waste time to let the friend know my findings that I was blocked. Same friend only replied "it is well"

Well, I went back to the new whatsapp line and told her I am aware she blocked me and it is good. At least I now know I was blocked instead of assuming

I am not so pained though because when dealing with a Nigerian girl, I have learned to always have backup... we move!

Ishilove:
You no sabi explain well at all

I hope you sort things out sha

Kingosytex:
You back up dating a Nigerian girl by dating another Nigerian girl...

Na him be say you don prepare to turn sim card cos na so so so so back up u go dey back up.

Intrepid01:
Guy listen, you see those guys consoling you, are your enemies and you will surely fall maga again, from all your comments I read. There’s a difference between helping a stranger and helping a lady you’re with.

Never in your life should you extend a hand of help to a lady you’re yet to confirm her loyalty 100%. Many of these girls are in it for the benefits, so you need to wise up.
Let me tell you, the highest I have given a lady is 5k, there’s nothing you wanna say in this world, it will never be more than that.

Let me share a personal story, there’s this lady I met when I wanted to acquire a landed property through all this agent companies advertising properties. The lady attended to me and saw how much I was dropping monthly for the instalmental payment. Although we’ve been friends before then, she got closer to me after then. This babe go dey stylishly ask me for money, we’ll hangout, ofcourse I’ll pay for everything but will not give her a dime. After a while she came out directly and ask me for money, I told her I don’t give anyone who is not my wife money, I am working for my future wife and children, anyone who isn’t part of that can’t have my money. She was shocked. But that’s the way it goes.

Another babe on WhatsApp was asking me last week to buy her a chop chop platter worth 12k , she knows I can afford it, I laughed at her, she asked why, I said you’ll eat it and take the energy to go to your boyfriends house baa...I don’t do such business.


Another thing is you people should stop doing as if you can’t do without sex, ladies are using sex as a weapon to get guys. You will not die if you don’t have sex. The estate agent lady was always shocked whenever she came to my house and I wouldn’t even make any attempt to touch her, yes I didn’t touch her cos I knew her game plan, I’ll touch her and then she says she needs money before she’ll allow me. But as a guy man, naaa I don’t fall for such trap, we see the end of the game from the beginning.

How in the world would you send 60k to one random girl all in the name of girlfriend, to even think you were planning to send additional 40k, whattt, forget all those rubbish you dey talk say you be nice person, you acted mugu.

You might be wondering if I ever sent money to a lady, yes I once did, but you know what I had already cut ties with the lady and the mother was sick, also her mum, who is a Pastor, had once helped me out on some spiritual issues before. So when I heard she had accident and needed money for operation, I sent 20k to the mum’s account. I and the mum still talk on the fone till today, but for the girl naaa, even when she called to thank me for the money I gave to her mum, I didn’t pick the call. I needed to give an impression that I didn’t give her cos of you, not at all and never will I.

So guy, WISE UP!!!!

Intrepid01:
Guy listen, you see those guys consoling you, are your enemies and you will surely fall maga again, from all your comments I read. There’s a difference between helping a stranger and helping a lady you’re with.

Never in your life should you extend a hand of help to a lady you’re yet to confirm her loyalty 100%. Many of these girls are in it for the benefits, so you need to wise up.
Let me tell you, the highest I have given a lady is 5k, there’s nothing you wanna say in this world, it will never be more than that.

Let me share a personal story, there’s this lady I met when I wanted to acquire a landed property through all this agent companies advertising properties. The lady attended to me and saw how much I was dropping monthly for the instalmental payment. Although we’ve been friends before then, she got closer to me after then. This babe go dey stylishly ask me for money, we’ll hangout, ofcourse I’ll pay for everything but will not give her a dime. After a while she came out directly and ask me for money, I told her I don’t give anyone who is not my wife money, I am working for my future wife and children, anyone who isn’t part of that can’t have my money. She was shocked. But that’s the way it goes.

Another babe on WhatsApp was asking me last week to buy her a chop chop platter worth 12k , she knows I can afford it, I laughed at her, she asked why, I said you’ll eat it and take the energy to go to your boyfriends house baa...I don’t do such business.


Another thing is you people should stop doing as if you can’t do without sex, ladies are using sex as a weapon to get guys. You will not die if you don’t have sex. The estate agent lady was always shocked whenever she came to my house and I wouldn’t even make any attempt to touch her, yes I didn’t touch her cos I knew her game plan, I’ll touch her and then she says she needs money before she’ll allow me. But as a guy man, naaa I don’t fall for such trap, we see the end of the game from the beginning.

How in the world would you send 60k to one random girl all in the name of girlfriend, to even think you were planning to send additional 40k, whattt, forget all those rubbish you dey talk say you be nice person, you acted mugu.

You might be wondering if I ever sent money to a lady, yes I once did, but you know what I had already cut ties with the lady and the mother was sick, also her mum, who is a Pastor, had once helped me out on some spiritual issues before. So when I heard she had accident and needed money for operation, I sent 20k to the mum’s account. I and the mum still talk on the fone till today, but for the girl naaa, even when she called to thank me for the money I gave to her mum, I didn’t pick the call. I needed to give an impression that I didn’t give her cos of you, not at all and never will I.

So guy, WISE UP!!!!

Icechillz:
Bro Nigerian girls ain't worth the stress, try dating a foreign girl..

bestabigaelever:
Nursing and you?

2dice01:
What did i just read

You mean you sent someone 60k after you heard the person problem from a third Party

Which shrine are these ladies using cus the Baba Jazz is in another level

Bros you have been dating yourself all this while

Take heart Bruv

Savage

seanwilliam:
see ehn, I no like your character on nairaland atall... but I completely agree with this post.. especially the emboldened..

Auxigen:
You also buy already loaded recharge card?
I am not understanding

bestabigaelever:
Amen in Jesus's name
Thank you sis

BabbanBura:
Good one again. Heart u sweetie! Shey u go invite ni? Your sins are unforgivable if you don't - just so you know!

DNSPro:
Just make sure you know a good one when u see it cos most of you ladies are blind.

DNSPro:

kemicalreact:
Accounting 400 lvl

victorian:
Its not about being blind. I believe in actions not sweet words . Sweet words are just empty promises . Do what's applicable and ladies will know u are a good guy who mean well and have her back!
Thank God , im taken by a good guy who knows his onions. Bliss and peace all the way.

DNSPro:
The last time a lady said the emboldened to a brother, I know how it ended lol.

Any guy who falls for this, we regret it. The best is to keep you starving for that "action"

DNSPro:
The last time a lady said the emboldened to a brother, I know how it ended lol.

Any guy who falls for this, we regret it. The best is to keep you starving for that "action"

victorian:
Well that's you.

Other guys who used such formula of starving me for whatever are now begging and crying to date me. But sorry , it too late .
While my boo whose head is screwed right , a man of few words and lots of action is now the one in charge of my heart and body. His nickname is Mr capable . No wasting , no fake promises , his own way is Action paves way!
God help me to keep him so happy and at peace ,with the way he has blossomed my life with great joy and contentment .

So dnspro, all women are not the same likewise all men cannot and will not be like you.

jericco1:
My brother better have like 4 or 5. Things might get messy

Auxigen:
No be lie.
Cloud storage things

DNSPro:
What I can deduce from is that ur guy has made clear that you are not indispensable and that alone is enough to keep women on her toes.

Like I said, the last time, someone said that, I know how it ended and dude was even nicknamed "desperate" because he didn't want to play hide and seek.

I don't take words from any woman who try to make it look like they are "different" so serious. The lady in my earlier post said more than you did, including how ex was bad but she ruined everything when another did right.

Wish u all the best but u can't fool me.

Do u know why I am not so pained about my experience of the story I shared, I have learned to always expect these things from you women. Call me pessimistic but it is what it is.