₦airaland Forum

hahn:
I have this business associate. Last year, he told me he was getting married and even invited me to the wedding that was supposed to happen in Delta state. He did tell me she was pregnant and as a good guy that he was he decided to marry her and finally settle down. Fast forward to some months back, I was chatting with him on bbm and I asked him about his "wife" and he told me she was fine.

Concidentally, the next day I was on the Island running businesss when I met him going to the bank. He told me to follow him since I had finished all my transactions. Then I asked him again, "how's your wife?" And I got the shocker of my life, they weren't married. Here's the story: apparently, just about a week to the wedding, his fiance's ex came with some elders to meet him and explained to him that he, the ex, is actually the owner of the pregnancy and since he is not interested in getting married to the lady and he doesn't want his child to grow up with someone else or even exist he came to tell my friend the truth.

After enough consultations with some elders, he took his time and told his wife-to-be that they should go on 3 days fasting. After the first day he told her that the spirit of God revealed to him that there was something she was hiding from him(yes, he'll make a good pastor) and after enough pushing she eventually confessed. Apparently she still had the fear of God in her. In her confession she said she and her ex had a one nighter when he travelled for business. Obviously the wedding was cancelled and till today he has been unable to explain why he cancelled the wedding to his parents because they really loved the girl and sent money to her when they discovered she was pregnant.

Believe it or not, this same lady got married to someone else this year and again she was "pregnant" for the guy.

I have had a similar experience, my ex and I were doing it raw but since I was applying the withdrawal method, she decided to lie that she was pregnant barely 2 weeks into the relationship(she don see mugu). I told her no problem and a week later she was on her period. She later claimed she "made a mistake". Needless to say the relationship ended.

The funny thing is these ladies will suddenly flare up when you suggest or attempt to use a condom. Is this the new trend? Since these ladies have nothing to offer that will convince the guy to marry them they have to use these tactics. OR probably, they are in love with the guy but feel he needs a little bit of "convincing" because he feels he isn't ready yet.

Guys share your experiences. Ladies, give us your reasons.

Votukpa:
Listen up...

It all starts with you. That is, the conversations you are having within your spirit as a man. Your mindsets and therefore your goals should come first before you face a woman. Focus on this. Particularly, if you desire to marry, you need bear a some things in mind:

1. Her past is of paramount importance because it's a pointer to the future. Why do you think our parents used to thoroughly investigate a marriage prospects, even right down to her lineage and village? We should do the same. We have the spirit of God to help us know the unknowables about ladies. It's even them who will confess to you. My point is, if you have questions in your mind that need answers, the answers will be presented to you IF and ONLY IF your mindset and desires drive you to investigate.

2. Virginity in a woman is spiritual first, before it is physical. Please understand this thoroughly. A lady can be a virgin and still be impure spiritually. It will only be a matter time before she will act it out. There are ladies out there who have kept their hymen but have been thoroughly fondled and defiled in many ways other than vaginal penetration. These are NOT virgins. By implication, a lady would have to have degraded herself spiritually before allowing physical premarital vaginal sex. Adopting this paradigm makes virginity testing EASY. Have a talk with a young girl, while holding this mental frame. I guaranty you that you won't be in doubt of her virginity. The answer will jump at you. Virginity for men is a matter of the heart and we should hold women to the same standards. Foolish men (I once was) are hymen centric. They erroneously rationalize that "so long as her hymen is intact, she is marriageable no matter what".

3. With regards to being able to know a lady's abortion history, know this: If a woman has been having sex for some years, it is very likely the has aborted at least once. Women abort hormonally as well as surgically. The stigma attached to this behavior in Nigeria will make many of these women take their secret abortion histories to their graves. This means that you may never actually know for sure unless the lady tells you herself. Most ladies would rather lie about it. This is why you should hold any woman you want to marry to high standards and demand purity. Unfortunately, most men won't do this because they too are unable to hold themselves to the same standards; and would rather sell their souls just for a piece of used up vagina.

A good and pure woman for a wife is VERY hard to find. If you do, sell all you have to get her. However, such a wife is not crafted or molded, she is a gift from God. So, this means that she cannot be bought nor sold in the realm of the physical. Therefore, only the men who are GODREADYMADE can have and recognize this gift.

Joyousjoe:
I'm currently face with this same experience and I need advice!
I have known this girl for about four months now and we have been making out severally strictly with condom.
Few days ago I.e. May 14, 2020 she chatted me up that she did a pregnancy test on herself that she was pregnant just 10days after we last had sex which was on may 4. I was shocked and surprised. she saw her mense last April 26 and the next one is over a week ahead.
So I suggested she come over to my place so that we can go for a confirmation test. she said she had no money for Tfare. I sent her money through her acct. she promised to come the following. the following day she said she didn't get alert for the money I sent and couldn't withdraw either. No one to borrow money from too. I asked her to send her sisters acct detail which she did. I made another transfer through her sister and called later to inform her that have sent the money, she should notify her sister and equally make plans to come the next day so we go and confirm the test. All of a sudden she got angry and said she doesnt like it when I say 'confirm'. what is PT test that she can't do. infact she isn't coming again. I will see it after few months when I see her. I should leave her alone that she can handle it. the pregnancy issue is none of my business. she will clean it off in such a way there will be no trace. she thought I love her.
I have been so confused and don't know what to do or believe. I will appreciate some advice here

ireneidiva:
Stop going about experimenting with/without condoms. How can you even comfortably sleep with a lady without protecting yourself? Are you a kid? Your sense should tell you that any lady that insists on sex without condoms has an ulterior motive. Last bullet- abstinence will protect you from these 'evil' ladies. Duh

Liposure:
Ladies, change your ways

Joyousjoe:
I'm currently face with this same experience and I need advice!
I have known this girl for about four months now and we have been making out severally strictly with condom.
Few days ago I.e. May 14, 2020 she chatted me up that she did a pregnancy test on herself that she was pregnant just 10days after we last had sex which was on may 4. I was shocked and surprised. she saw her mense last April 26 and the next one is over a week ahead.
So I suggested she come over to my place so that we can go for a confirmation test. she said she had no money for Tfare. I sent her money through her acct. she promised to come the following. the following day she said she didn't get alert for the money I sent and couldn't withdraw either. No one to borrow money from too. I asked her to send her sisters acct detail which she did. I made another transfer through her sister and called later to inform her that have sent the money, she should notify her sister and equally make plans to come the next day so we go and confirm the test. All of a sudden she got angry and said she doesnt like it when I say 'confirm'. what is PT test that she can't do. infact she isn't coming again. I will see it after few months when I see her. I should leave her alone that she can handle it. the pregnancy issue is none of my business. she will clean it off in such a way there will be no trace. she thought I love her.
I have been so confused and don't know what to do or believe. I will appreciate some advice here

Truth801:
Don't be deceived bro, she is definitely lying. It's a psychological battle that you shouldn't lose. Insist on the confirmatory test and watch how she would always look for a way to avoid it. I remember when I was in your shoes in 2016. They aren't worth the stress

Swealy:
Condom takes away the intimacy in sex with a trusted partner withdrawal method is better
But us condom for olosho and people you don't know well oo

cococandy:
All these withdrawal method guys.
Una never see anything.

pocohantas:
I have no pity for Nigerian men. None at all...

pocohantas:
I have no pity for Nigerian men. None at all...

Progress2468:
This sh!t has happened to me twice, two to three weeks into relationship, booom! pregnancy. However I dint even gbensh the first day we started dating. I will insist on scan (to know the exact pregnancy duration) which usually brings big conflict. Imagine scan showing as 5weeks and 4days when it's not up to a month we started dating and we had the first sex not up to two weeks ago.

Meanwhile aunty was already telling me how traditional marriage is not expensive in her place.

Forget these my talk o, those days were emotionally draining.

After having this experience back to back, nobody advised me to zip up

Joyousjoe:
I'm currently face with this same experience and I need advice!
I have known this girl for about four months now and we have been making out severally strictly with condom.
Few days ago I.e. May 14, 2020 she chatted me up that she did a pregnancy test on herself that she was pregnant just 10days after we last had sex which was on may 4. I was shocked and surprised. she saw her mense last April 26 and the next one is over a week ahead.
So I suggested she come over to my place so that we can go for a confirmation test. she said she had no money for Tfare. I sent her money through her acct. she promised to come the following. the following day she said she didn't get alert for the money I sent and couldn't withdraw either. No one to borrow money from too. I asked her to send her sisters acct detail which she did. I made another transfer through her sister and called later to inform her that have sent the money, she should notify her sister and equally make plans to come the next day so we go and confirm the test. All of a sudden she got angry and said she doesnt like it when I say 'confirm'. what is PT test that she can't do. infact she isn't coming again. I will see it after few months when I see her. I should leave her alone that she can handle it. the pregnancy issue is none of my business. she will clean it off in such a way there will be no trace. she thought I love her.
I have been so confused and don't know what to do or believe. I will appreciate some advice here

pocohantas:
I have no pity for Nigerian men. None at all...

gypsey:
The same way one gyal claimed to be pregnant for me on one of my visits to nigeria, she rang me after 2 weeks after sex to say she is 2 weeks pregnant, can women be 2 weeks pregnant? i don't know, anyway, i said to her NO problem! she ask what now? i answered nothing! when you have the baby i will do a DNA and i will look after you and the baby! she asked, you na go marry me? i answered NO! after 2 weeks she rang and crying said she lost the pregnancy.

I was confused, till now since february she told me that i am still confused. was she ever pregnant? did she terminate? I don't know. but i really wanted that baby desparately, she could have just had the baby and let me have it and raise him/her myself.


Funny thing is, now in May 2020 she wants to get pregnant again for me even without marriage, i am even more confused.

Nyamve1:
Why sleeping with a lady when u haven't make ur wife officially? Now u are calling them "evil" girls. I will blame those girls that their legs can easily be opened especially to those guys that does not have anything to offer in a relationship

Nickymichy:
My friend ran into my house shivering that the girl he has been banging was pregnant...I laughed.. before I knew it this guy started crying... honestly it's a funny scenario...I told him it was not true but he was so afraid that he almost pass out while I was consoling him... finally, I advised him that he should tell d girl that he will accept the pregnancy...that he has consulted his mom and she is really happy about what happened..I just told the guy to summon courage to do what I told him.. he did... after two days this girl confessed that she was just playing with him... that she wanted to test him if he actually love her...naso she for scam my guy... some ladies are not just wise...

seanwilliam:
what of your hus and dad?

pocohantas:
Did you think of your MOTHER and SISTERS when a good Nlder dashed you money and you used it to go fck olosho?

Don’t let me descend on you.

seanwilliam:
I no go mind to borrow money and fhuck you to nah..

pocohantas:
The number of calories you exhaust fcking oloshos, use it and hustle. Efulefu

pocohantas:
The number of calories you exhaust fcking oloshos, use it and hustle. Efulefu

pocohantas:
I have no pity for Nigerian men. None at all...

hahn:
You were bitter in 2015 and you are still bitter now and women are still scamming men with pregnancy

pocohantas:
Stale. The only thing that is bitter is the truth you guys find so hard to gulp down.

Ain’t gat no pity for you. Choke on it!

seanwilliam:
no worry, I get calorie booster.. and what is efulefu?

Ishilove:
Poco, the day dem go trace you and gather beat you for road my hand no dey there.

pocohantas:
Water and oil doesn’t mix na. They don’t come off like people I share same ecosystem with.

Ishilove:


Kai, you get acid mouth sha