Carry ur cross

gregyboy:
Guy marriage is not a do or die affair

Send her parking to her fathers house to learn how to be a good wife....

WHILE SHE IS AWAY FLIRT AROUND AND LET IT BE OBVIOUS, WHEN I SAY FLIRT NO GO FALL INLOVE WITH ANOTHER WOMAN OOH

while she is at her father's house let her know you can do without her, and you only come to visit her because of your child

When she finally get back to the house, her brain go don reset.....


If you didnt offend her she has no right to keep sex from you, only on the case you wronged her, and if you force sex on her by this it is considered pure rape,

Hahahaha cave man rant.how many ladies do you see getting married from their father's house,go check 80% are living free and nice in their own creep.so which papa house are you sending her to.except na secondary school girl. While you will are flirting in her absent ,she will equally be doing same, abi you Don forget say Facebook, badoo ,exotiicnigeria and the likes full ground.ogbeni sitt down and communicate with your wife ,this is not the 90s but the melinium ,women are different

delkuf:
Good Nairaland I don't normally do this, bringing my family issue here but this issue is pissing me off.

Here is the story. I got married last year, and I thought I have known her enough that was why I married her. But to my surprise I started discovering that she is too stiff. She is too hard. When she says she is not doing something, that is it, she won't do it.

Sometimes if am broke, and I ask for Small amount of money, most time I want to use that money to get means for bigger money, she won't give.

She gives me time for sex. Presently am down with fever and the only thing she has ever asked me is how is your body. No what will you take or something. Am starting to think of quitting the marriage. The only issue is that she is pregnant and this is my first child.

Bros its obvious you didn't notice these red flags during courtship. The red flags were obviously there, its only very I mean very experience people that can unearth some certain characters in people even if its hidden. There is always a trace, nah eagle eye go pick am, lol. That's why its good and advisable for young guys to always mandate their families to help check their wives to be properly and go with their unbiased opinions.

Secondly some things might be responsible, take a look inward e.g pregnancy hormones or bad character from you, so examine yourself.

Thirdly if you've examined yourself and your conscience is clear, I will strongly advised as an experienced ninja in the game. Don't allow her get pregnant for you again, re-evaluate your relationship with her and prepare for the worse, who knows you may need to travel light without baggage, if kids are many it will be difficult and you will be miserable and stuck.

People may advise with their own opinions but won't share in your misery, we all deserve to be happy. Money isnt everything life isnt a bed of Roses. Dont allow anyone makes you feel less of a man.

Now your experience in life in now plus one, meaning I can't know it all till it happens to you.

Gracias

delkuf:
That is it. She is not investing. The cheating aspect is something she doesn't do. she is just stingy. stingy with everything including sex

Ladies are kind of stingy so know this but not all of them though as a lot of them are wired to receive only with very high expectations from their husband & don’t give nor contribute much

The marriage is Obviously not For better for worse.
And I will blame you for getting married to a lady you only dated for a year. Humans are not computers

True. She might not be comfortable speaking out or maybe the atmosphere isn't just right..

KristaPretty:

I agree with you Bashiru, remember also that people are different. Some won't express themselves verbally so matter hiw terrible they feel, until you find a way of making them do so. They instead give you body language. I have met people like that. So he can try to find out from her ,if she is such a person.

she must hav that mood swing when pregnant u hav to manage her till she conceive,sex shld not occupy yur mind all time,b occupy with how u can make money.No marriage is bed of rose,so dnt think of quitingfor now.

delkuf:
That's what she is a professional pretender

. Graysons is right about this guy‘s English afterall. Instead of that‘s WHY he typed “that‘s WHAT. Despite all, his pride won‘t let him accept his limitation. Rubbish.

Davash222:
Treat her the way she treats you! Don't be crossing express for someone that can't cross a gutter for you.

You know the risk of crossing express these days. Be careful.

Na Egungun dey cross express,normal human being doesn't while pedestrian bridge dey by the side.

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just to many children in adult clothing these days.

imagine this bloke, who just wants to answer the title married man but is not ready to be a father, intact he is not a man.

If your wife gives you timetable for sex, then she married you, probably paid your bride price.

The the price for bring a teddy bear hubby, its too late for any advice IMO.

You better follow the timetable jeje. At least she is not cheating.. Don't go and accuse her oo!!!!. How much did you spend on the marriage? Its like when you get married easily you start to think you can afford another one. My two scents.. Become extra funny like a clown in the house.. Get her to laugh first.. Let it continue like that then after a few months, discuss things one at a time with her.. She may be scared things won't be back to normal after the baby. She may be thinking you want her to die while giving birth. She may be sad that you are not going through the result of sex the way she is so why should she enjoy such.. She may be thinking your long john will put a hole in the baby's head. Preg hormones are that crazy

Davash222:
Treat her the way she treats you! Don't be crossing express for someone that can't cross a gutter for you.

You know the risk of crossing express these days. Be careful.

I'm afraid this advice is too late! They are a married couple expecting a child for goodness sake. If they were still dating, this advice would have been perfect.

atarapa:
elder afroknight u Don chop kola? Make u take one cup of snap, u talk well

My Chairman sir. Thank you.

No matter how long we think we know a woman before marriage, I bet we hardly know 50% of her.

They are good at telling you little things that will make you think you know all about them when you ask them.

However, there are ones that will voluntarily tell you alot about them even when you don't ask.

Perhaps, we must experienced both. In all pray, pray and pray and do things to make this work out and if doesn't, marriage according to my faith isn't for better for worse I'd both partners aren't enjoying it again. Do go your separate ways without hatred, but hoping for a better lives for both.

Man! This is an issue with many ladies and in newly married couples.

My candid advice is: call her, sit her down, talk to her in a lovely way. Quitting the marriage should not be an option.

This is where you need to start building the home. Remember, you are both different individuals coming together from different backgrounds to make a home.

You need to teach yourselves many things!

I am happy you said your marriage is just about a year. Meaning there is room for improvement. Send me an email ivokingjur@yahoo.com for more encouragement and counselling. All for free!

delkuf:
Good Nairaland I don't normally do this, bringing my family issue here but this issue is pissing me off.

Here is the story. I got married last year, and I thought I have known her enough that was why I married her. But to my surprise I started discovering that she is too stiff. She is too hard. When she says she is not doing something, that is it, she won't do it.

Sometimes if am broke, and I ask for Small amount of money, most time I want to use that money to get means for bigger money, she won't give.

She gives me time for sex. Presently am down with fever and the only thing she has ever asked me is how is your body. No what will you take or something. Am starting to think of quitting the marriage. The only issue is that she is pregnant and this is my first child.

Women make rules for beta men and break them for alpha males. Even if you quit the marriage, you'll still find yourself in a similar predicament in a short while. Take the red pill and double your hustle.

Ningen:
Her attitude is because you're obviously broke.

Go out and hustle.
Stop asking your pregnant wife for money.

Be her provider and she'll become FLEXIBLE.

You are 100% correct. The amount of money a man makes is directly proportional to the quality of love and attention he receives from his wife. Only pretentious people will argue against this position.

The wives of rich men who are happily married today and displaying that happiness, are more terrible except that money has eliminated their nonsense.

Bro, calm down.
You didn't marry her at a gun point nor what you are passing is life threatening.

Remember your vows.. *(For better for worse)*

Don't consider divorce but set ur mind on fixing things with her and try more to understand ur wife.

And pls, fix this before the arrival of the young lad.

God Bless Your Home.

delkuf:
Good Nairaland I don't normally do this, bringing my family issue here but this issue is pissing me off.

Here is the story. I got married last year, and I thought I have known her enough that was why I married her. But to my surprise I started discovering that she is too stiff. She is too hard. When she says she is not doing something, that is it, she won't do it.

Sometimes if am broke, and I ask for Small amount of money, most time I want to use that money to get means for bigger money, she won't give.

She gives me time for sex. Presently am down with fever and the only thing she has ever asked me is how is your body. No what will you take or something. Am starting to think of quitting the marriage. The only issue is that she is pregnant and this is my first child.

Did you marry her as a virgin? Cos I want to marry one soon.

I'm suspecting that virgins are too stiff when it comes to sex. Please I would be greatful if you reply me

Graysons:
Tell that to GrammarNazi1

He has told you the bitter truth guy. Behave like a matured man now, stop acting like a fool . Wetin concern you with his English? Is that why he's here?

Quitting marriage should never be anyone's plan except when violence, physical abuse is involved. Issues that bother you in your marriage are best discussed with your better half, talk to her, she's pregnant and deserves all your help, remember this is your first child, she might have a bad trait, but she needs all your help now, hold no grudges against her for now till when things normalizes for her. Again, talk to her, money is essential in marriage, but that's not all about marriages, couples should know how to support each other to navigate through hard times with genuine and sincere work out plans with actions. I have seen a woman who helped her husband become great when things were really down, extremely down for the man, it's not as if she is a big madam, just help here and there, and boom, she met the right person ready to help. Talk to your wife, tell her your expectations, it might not be easy for her, but always ensure your communication at home is great. A marriage purpose is defeated if you can't share with your wife what pains you the most in your marriage, two of you should be best of friends and should submit to each other, same way you help each other. Make her see things this way, the right way, the Bible way and share God's words in your home, pray together, have time for intimacy discussion, tell her what she does wrong, say it to her face when the mood is calm most especially after sharing God's words, and hopefully you find your feet to lead your home right.

delkuf:
Guy, God has blessed me. sincerely am living a good life. I have most of the things I need. am taking good care of her. what I can't stand about her is this, if I give you 200k for example and I need just 1000 from you, and even though you don't have, there is a way you go about it, but she will just bluntly refuse. I hate such behavior. this is just an example

Lol most women are like children, u will buy a child suya and he/she will not give u. U will open super market for a woman and when you are broke she won't give u money from it.

Women are naturally selfish. She will use her money for investment while depending on yours. Be careful with type of woman

My brother, I advise you begin the observation and adaptation game. First years of marriage are usually turbulent, its safe to say that these things are expected.

Coupled with the fact that she is pregnant, it could be the penchant for women to act irrational while pregnant.

Take it a step at a time, a day at a time, and trust me you will be fine.

Chochovini:
. Graysons is right about this guy‘s English afterall. Instead of that‘s WHY he typed “that‘s WHAT. Despite all, his pride won‘t let him accept his limitation. Rubbish.

let me write what you said and I said, and see who is right. Your English: that's why she is, a professional pretender. Now my English, that's is what she is, a professional pretender.

A broke man with constant erection will earn no respect from his wife. Barely 2 years of marriage you're already broke. Didn't you plan for the marriage.

You can barely feed yourself yet you went ahead and add another liability, marriage isn't by force.

Start by getting your life together. Improve yourself, put yourself first in whatever you do for now until you get your life together.

If things continue this way, I can assure you, you'll hate your life, depression will be your companion, someone else will heat on your wife. No woman likes a man who can't take charge, enough said

Graysons:
Your English is horrible. You finish secondary school?

No offense bro but you type like a village man.

I knew it, one mumu will try to form Mr smart.

AfroKnight:

I have edited my previous comment.

I will tell you one truth. It is better to borrow/collect from your friend (your guy) than from your wife even if it’s for small expenses.

Also, don’t accept that nonsense timetable for sex. Women can be illogical all day but when it comes to enjoyment of sex they’d rather get “rational” and set up impractical timetables. They will deny themselves the pleasure in the bid to deny you. Don’t accept that nonsense.

Sex should not be used as a weapon for manipulation.

I disagree with you on this one.

Who is a wife? She's also a helper and should be there to support him too.
I don't see anything wrong is borrowing from his wife, he should borrow and learn to return it back or even hard something to it when returning it.

If his wife can't help who will?

Emmypam:
Are you even sure if the baby in her womb is yours?

. GOOD Observation there! This is one question no one cares to ask.

delkuf:
Good Nairaland I don't normally do this, bringing my family issue here but this issue is pissing me off.

Here is the story. I got married last year, and I thought I have known her enough that was why I married her. But to my surprise I started discovering that she is too stiff. She is too hard. When she says she is not doing something, that is it, she won't do it.

Sometimes if am broke, and I ask for Small amount of money, most time I want to use that money to get means for bigger money, she won't give.

She gives me time for sex. Presently am down with fever and the only thing she has ever asked me is how is your body. No what will you take or something. Am starting to think of quitting the marriage. The only issue is that she is pregnant and this is my first child.

na men like you dey say "a man dat won't marry you u within 3 months isn't a real man" you don rush marry winch you come here dey cry....enjoy the ride real man. SMH

9ja083:


Was she like this before the pregnancy?
You can't be having regular sex while being pregnant. Do u know it can cause bleeding in pregnancy which cab lead to miscarriage? Try to understand that when a woman is pregnant, u don't have sex all the time especially during the 1st trimester ( 1st three months).

I don't have a girlfriend. if I start dating other, I might loss interest in her

Karlifate:
OP don turn mechanic

. Na there U go fia nau?