delkuf:
Good Nairaland I don't normally do this, bringing my family issue here but this issue is pissing me off.

Here is the story. I got married last year, and I thought I have known her enough that was why I married her. But to my surprise I started discovering that she is too stiff. She is too hard. When she says she is not doing something, that is it, she won't do it.

Sometimes if am broke, and I ask for Small amount of money, most time I want to use that money to get means for bigger money, she won't give.

She gives me time for sex. Presently am down with fever and the only thing she has ever asked me is how is your body. No what will you take or something. Am starting to think of quitting the marriage. The only issue is that she is pregnant and this is my first child.

You better quit that marriage after discussing it with her. Because you still have years to go together if she's doing this now what will she do in the next 10years

ModestGal:

1. Your wife is angry with you because you did exactly the same thing to her and she's paying you back. There's no human being that would not want to take care of a sick person naturally
2. If 1 is not the problem, then probably you are talking and thinking this way because you are sick. My fiancé do that alot,when he's stressed, and I do little bad things, he would express it as if I have done double of it.
3. If number 1&2 is not the problem, then she's either having mental illness or a wish. Number 3 is 10%chance. Personally, I believe number one is the problem. It's payback

pay back. So let us be counting it

You no dey read any articles that talk about people wey die trying to please their women find another person cos you are not born to IMPRESS her

I am currently facing similar issue even though we ain't officially married, though living together and raising our few months old son....I want to advice those who are yet to make the mistake we all made to thread with caution and never rush into marriage without carrying out all the necessary inquiry about ur partner. In my own case, I was forewarned by both a brother of hers and even her actions and reactions but I never heeded as local man was blindfolded by love...Now I feel guilty for subjecting myself to this torture. O Lord forgive my wrong choices and shorth-comings..

Davash222:
Treat her the way she treats you! Don't be crossing express for someone that can't cross a gutter for you.

You know the risk of crossing express these days. Be careful.

Sometimes two wrong makes a right.

*

Peterosky:
Anytime I read or hear stories like this, all I do is go on my knees to tell God thank you for giving me a wonderful wife. Even in my very difficult times,I still have my respect from my wife. Do I need to mention that my wife checks my wallet in my difficult times and drop money in it when she find's none? My God is indeed faithful.

You must have prayed a lot to get that kind of wife.

Very rare specie.

wany:


Hahahaha cave man rant.how many ladies do you see getting married from their father's house,go check 80% are living free and nice in their own creep.so which papa house are you sending her to.except na secondary school girl. While you will are flirting in her absent ,she will equally be doing same, abi you Don forget say Facebook, badoo ,exotiicnigeria and the likes full ground.ogbeni sitt down and communicate with your wife ,this is not the 90s but the melinium ,women are different

In other words, you support her actions. "Send her packing", it's more figurative than literal(who cares where she's going?). She obviously has enough money for herself and someone she's already having sex with outside her marriage. She's only waiting for our man to call off the wedding.

No matter how independent women get, they'll never be known to take responsibility and blame for their actions. She has successfully emasculated our brother by withdrawing sex and care. When she once showed altruism to him. It's a women's classic. I wouldn't be surprised why he has not called off the wedding, he probably spent a of money for the wedding, given up many things and concentrate on being a married man-something he should have never done.

It's quite obvious you can't spell correctly, I hope you can read what I wrote. If all independent women spelled their words this way, I fear how much independence they'll have had.

delkuf:
I don't have a girlfriend. if I start dating other, I might loss interest in her

Then bear a bit longer naw.....if she gives birth similar time gap or more till she HEALS whether she gives birth naturally or otherwise....
Remember baby must be breastfed and she would want to be on drug to prevent unwanted early pregnancy and this may not be too good for baby feeding on breast. Sacrifice\ self denial is what makes many women praise their hubby.

Many men behave as if when they leave this world they won't be able to cope without sex.

Most men will always say, they ask their wives for financial assistance only when they are broke. And the truth is, some have been broke for years now.
They don't care how the wife takes care of the home.
Their own na to eat finish, get strength take nack.
Lack of money kills libido ooo.

Bola146:
""Something if am broke, and I ask for Small amount of money, most time I want to use that money to get means for bigger money, she won't give""
"



Sir Kuku tell us the real truth that she didn't borrow you money You requested for Please tell us the full story not half story

Thank u jare.
U know how much he don borrow wey he Neva pay probably??
Before we advice married people on this platform, it will be better to hear from both parties. U will be surprised to hear what the wife will come say here.

RTSC:

You must have prayed a lot to get that kind of wife.

Very rare specie.

.You are not far from the truth. I started praying for a good wife while I was about 18 years.

sharone21:


Then bear a bit longer naw.....if she gives birth similar time gap or more till she HEALS whether she gives birth naturally or otherwise....
Remember baby must be breastfed and she would want to be on drug to prevent unwanted early pregnancy and this may not be too good for baby feeding on breast. Sacrifice\ self denial is what makes many women praise their hubby.

Many men behave as if when they leave this world they won't be able to cope without sex.

Sex is the chain that binds men and tames them. If a man can think logically enough, he'll know how much power that's been taken from him by his wanton desire for sex. Testosterone *smh*

delkuf:
Man u are lucky ooooo

.I am bro.

Graysons:
Your English is horrible. You finish secondary school?

No offense bro but you type like a village man.

YOUR ARE OBSERVING HIS ENGLISH WRITING SKILLS, MUST EVERYONE BE EDUCATED BEFORE HE/SHE CAN CONTRIBUTE!

SOME UNEDUCATED ONES HAVE BETTER EXPERIENCE AND MANAGE THEIR HOMES THAN WE SO CALL MSC AND PHD.

IS ENGLISH LANGUAGE OUR MOTHER TONGUE?

GIVE HIM A GOOD ADVICE AND WALKWAY. IF U DONT HAVE ANY ADVICE TO GIVE HIM. THEN LET HIM BE.

Graysons:
Then go and correct yourself. Educated man.

He came here to find a solution, and you're trying to create another problem for him.

Why

Hollasmall:

Congrats jare

.Thanks bro.

My brother ,life is a choice ,no die put on top anything ,...

Trust me when you ignore a lady ,she will find you

MetalJigsaw:
Which brand of beer do you take bro?

I don't segregate bro.

fuwaski:

To double money fit be bet9ja o. He hasn't said it all. He has to modify that post and tell us everything.

May wisdom be multiplied unto u jare.

delkuf:
Good Nairaland I don't normally do this, bringing my family issue here but this issue is pissing me off.

Here is the story. I got married last year, and I thought I have known her enough that was why I married her. But to my surprise I started discovering that she is too stiff. She is too hard. When she says she is not doing something, that is it, she won't do it.

Sometimes if am broke, and I ask for Small amount of money, most time I want to use that money to get means for bigger money, she won't give.

She gives me time for sex. Presently am down with fever and the only thing she has ever asked me is how is your body. No what will you take or something. Am starting to think of quitting the marriage. The only issue is that she is pregnant and this is my first child.

Quitting marriage for trivial reasons is not enough. Sex is over rated.

Emmypam:
Are you even sure if the baby in her womb is yours?

No, na ur own.

@op some women are like goods that need to be bought an change.when there is money a woman show u loves,when no money that is when woman wil show you are real behaviour an when no money that when u wil no if ur woman love you or not. Ur woman does not love you at all.she might have married you to just belong to the class of people that are married so many proble do this.she look at you as a poor broke man that why she they use sex as a tool to manipulate you. You no women can never spend their money they say my husband money is our money why my money is my money.As for divorce th choice is urs you no what to do.u are not supos be told bf ur wife will do worse such a woman can kill.who quote me should hug transformer.

delkuf:
Though on and off we dated for one year, but I never knew she is like this

how u wan take date person for just one year then the next thing na marriage.....Na wa oh!!

jesmond3945:
I think your wife is not investing emotionally into your marriage. It is one sided. Start checking whether she is cheating.

Na dem

Mr Man, calm down, you said she is carrying your baby, she needs you this time more than anything, all her attitude may be due to hormonal changes, observe her till when she put to bed, always makes her happy and remember marriage is for better for worse... This is your try time, go on your knees and pray... it's well

Graysons:
Your English is horrible. You finish secondary school?

No offense bro but you type like a village man.

who ur English epp, English nah ur papa language?

delkuf:
That is it. She is not investing. The cheating aspect is something she doesn't do. she is just stingy. stingy with everything including sex

Thank God u know ur wife good enough not to have allowed this evil seed to grown inside of u.
Cheating cheating cheating...
One even say, belle nor be ur own.
Hmmmmmm
Gone are those days when u get good counsel from nairaland

delkuf:
Good Nairaland I don't normally do this, bringing my family issue here but this issue is pissing me off.

Here is the story. I got married last year, and I thought I have known her enough that was why I married her. But to my surprise I started discovering that she is too stiff. She is too hard. When she says she is not doing something, that is it, she won't do it.

Sometimes if am broke, and I ask for Small amount of money, most time I want to use that money to get means for bigger money, she won't give.

She gives me time for sex. Presently am down with fever and the only thing she has ever asked me is how is your body. No what will you take or something. Am starting to think of quitting the marriage. The only issue is that she is pregnant and this is my first child.

Joseph Juliet
Please my brother divorce is not an option. You can report it to to either her parents or your pastors. Also most pregnant women swing moods. So try and understand her moods before you ask. Also the place of prayer and the word should not be neglected. If you have borrowed money from her with the promise to pay back and you failed then she will never trust you to give you again. Women don't play with their money no matter how little. God bless you

eni4real:
Useless?? The man that paid her bride price, paid for the wedding, paid the house rent , paid for upkeep but have a little challenge is 'useless'??

Is that how we define men now??

So, the lady can't endure or support as a life partner??

Tell me why the man should love her wholeheartedly when things are rosy for him

And u are so sure of who pays for those expenses u listed there?

Observer

Davash222:
Treat her the way she treats you! Don't be crossing express for someone that can't cross a gutter for you.

You know the risk of crossing express these days. Be careful.

I dey like advice like this, no time for bible or motivational talk, we need brutally honest advice to strive in this life.