Ybaby:


Going rate for online olosho is N15k

Going rate for kuramo ashewo is 2k

Going rate for Sanusi Fafunwa is between 5k to 15k

But OP does not have transport fare to go and meet them talk less of pay thier fees

And if he do and no pay they will beat him


I think it is cheaper at home... if he gives his wife 15k he will eat dinner and she will touch her toes for 2 nights and still give him a child.

Se le crazy ni ka ku ku logical gbogbo

Pls dont come here and say the wife is not ashewo........ since he can pay for seexx start from home - invoice the niggaaaaa

Hmmm.... never knew you were this so versed in the going rates and prices of ashewo.

Hope it's not what I am thinking?

Anyway sha, there are other cheaper ashawos which I presume you are already aware of.

Now, coming to the issue of giving his wife money because it is an easier option that spending on ashawos, I think that is where most of you women always get it wrong.

Only few men derive satisfaction for _fucking only their wives for a very long time.

Most guys just want VARIETY.

You see now why it is very difficult for guys to stick to just one sexual partner?

hmmmm u have to man up and work on ur marriage, na now she show her true color deal with it...marriage no bed of roses

delkuf:
This is not the issue of Manning up, you don't know what I am experiencing. she gives me time table for sex. is not like I am demanding. the last time I slept with is over three weeks ago. I have talked with her. Her younger sister have talked with her, she is to adamant.

This is too bad for a newly married couple. This ought to be the time you guys should enjoy yourselves more. Your woman isn't matured and submissive at all. What excuse is she giving you for refusal?

bluefilm:


Hmmm.... never knew you were this so versed in the going rates and prices of ashewo.

Hope it's not what I am thinking?

Anyway sha, there are other cheaper ashawos which I presume you are already aware of.

Now, coming to the issue of giving his wife money because it is an easier option that spending on ashawos, I think that is where most of you women always get it wrong.

Only few men derive satisfaction for _fucking only their wives for a very long time.

Most guys just want VARIETY.

You see now why it is very difficult for guys to stick to just one sexual partner?

It is exactly what you are thinking

I doubt if his wife cares of he has variety of women.....

She is unbothered.

The bone of contention is that he does not have N200 for transport talkless of going to a N50 ashewo and ashewo no dey do credit.

He has no transport fare!

By the way women too like variety - best believe..... obe o da lorun malu roju ni..... it takes alot of discipline the amount of toasters women get in a week to stay with one man..... bit if he is a good man who provides then a good woman focuses and devotes to him. If he is cheating she should cheat too...

He is the leader and has opened the marriage she must submit to his lead and do as he do.

delkuf:
Good Nairaland I don't normally do this, bringing my family issue here but this issue is pissing me off.

Here is the story. I got married last year, and I thought I have known her enough that was why I married her. But to my surprise I started discovering that she is too stiff. She is too hard. When she says she is not doing something, that is it, she won't do it.

Sometimes if am broke, and I ask for Small amount of money, most time I want to use that money to get means for bigger money, she won't give.

She gives me time for sex. Presently am down with fever and the only thing she has ever asked me is how is your body. No what will you take or something. Am starting to think of quitting the marriage. The only issue is that she is pregnant and this is my first child.

I'm sorry bro, you married a chameleon. She pretended to get what she wanted from you. Your best bet for now is to study her now and know how to get her to do what you want. In every woman there is a Queen and a fool. Find a way to bring out the queen in her. What you are seeing now is a fool part of her. Through an heart to heart communication with her, you will get to the root of the problem and solve it amicably. Best of luck

oodua1stson:
this is why I advise people not to marry when they are broke

I swear.
The comments from the females here got me shocked,they're kind of equating the relationship b/w a man and his wife like that of an ashawo and customer.
Now I appreciate why Anambra men have this knack for not getting married till they're super comfortable so they can provide for their wives well but it comes at d price that the woman will be made to know she is beneath the man.
He can cheat openly without remorse,take major decisions without consulting the wife etc

Ybaby:


It is exactly what you are thinking

I doubt if his wife cares of he has variety of women.....

She is unbothered.

The bone of contention is that he does not have N200 for transport talkless of going to a N50 ashewo and ashewo no dey do credit.

He has no transport fare!

By the way women too like variety - best believe..... obe o da lounge malu roju ni..... it takes alot of discipline the amount of toasters women get in a week to stay with one man..... bit if he is a good man who provides then a good woman focuses and devotes to him. If he is cheating she should cheat too...

Don't mix it up, please.

The bone of contention is that the wife is stiff in all ramifications.

The money part is just one part of the fraction.

But maybe, that's all you see... going by what you just admitted concerning your line of business.

You want to use the money to make bigger money.....hope it's not what I'm thinking

allwell21:
You want to use the money to make bigger money.....hope it's not what I'm thinking

That is our usual Bet9ja lingua franca na.

Look beyond Sex..

bluefilm:


Don't mix it up, please.

The bone of contention is that the wife is stiff in all ramifications.

The money part is just one part of the fraction.

But maybe, that's all you see... going by what you just admitted concerning your line of business.

You are reaching! Coming from Mr Bluefilm

If you ask the wife why she is stiff? Her husband has no transport fare

bluefilm:


That is our usual Bet9ja lingua franca na.

Birds feather flocking

Neddyogu:


Fvck off crazy ass bitch

Eya, sorry dear.

Davash222:
Treat her the way she treats you! Don't be crossing express for someone that can't cross a gutter for you.

You know the risk of crossing express these days. Be careful.

Man, thanks for the laugh

eni4real:
Men becoming the wife?? I don't think so!
You can't imagine the number of responsibility on the man's 'neck'!!

Pray for men in your life.. It is not easy being a man!!
Everywhere you go as a man, responsibility is seducing you!!

OK sir

Bros u need to take ur time and understand her abeg. Not all of them are wired the same way!

Graysons:
Your English is horrible. You finish secondary school?

No offense bro but you type like a village man.

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delkuf:
That is it. She is not investing. The cheating aspect is something she doesn't do. she is just stingy. stingy with everything including sex

Don't be too sure...
Love is blind they say

Ybaby:


You are reaching! Coming from Mr Bluefilm

If you ask the wife why she is stiff? Her husband has no transport fare

Well, I think I just have to let you go since you are bent on tying everything down to money.

It is a shame you just cannot see beyond your own nose.

My dear, kindly take your time to study your wife because the marriage is still very much fresh.
She might be testing you and how you can control your temper as well. You can’t possibly understand a woman in totality, especially when she is pregnant you’ll experience some harsh behavior due to the pain she’s experiencing.
But one advice I will give is that please; Make it a habit not to ask/request money from her rather ask a closed friend to solve whatever problem you have at hand.
Let me tell you that irrespective of how good or well mannered a woman is, asking money especially from them will in no time lower your self esteem. Please note my word that no matter how well respected she’s to you, the moment she knows you’re always broke she won’t be given much of the respect you deserve as a husband. Be a man and try as much as possible to set a standard of living you can control and let he know you for it and you’ll realize that she will respect you for it. Please Divorce is never an option. To me your wife is a good wife. Make are understand. Then you win her totally. Above all pray.

wildcatter23:
With the Advent of technology, internet and exposure, it has been become quite unfortunate that ladies these days have become less submissive in their role as wives and help mates.

You are very correct about this, I was with my wife's phone for like a month and I was shock at the discussion on most of this women's Facebook group and women's telegram group, honestly they are teaching each other bad things in the name of advice and discussion.
Most of their discussion claims to solve marrital issues but what I read will create more marrital issue and probably damage such marriage.
When I discussed about it with my wife she just asked me if she has ever acted in such manner and she told me only fools will takes their advices but many will not see it in her own perspective, majority will be influenced by those bad advices in those groups.

You want to quit the marriage because your pregnant wife is not pampering you like a baby?

Dont you think you are sounding petty and insensitive?

delkuf:
Good Nairaland I don't normally do this, bringing my family issue here but this issue is pissing me off.

Here is the story. I got married last year, and I thought I have known her enough that was why I married her. But to my surprise I started discovering that she is too stiff. She is too hard. When she says she is not doing something, that is it, she won't do it.

Sometimes if am broke, and I ask for Small amount of money, most time I want to use that money to get means for bigger money, she won't give.

She gives me time for sex. Presently am down with fever and the only thing she has ever asked me is how is your body. No what will you take or something. Am starting to think of quitting the marriage. The only issue is that she is pregnant and this is my first child.

I can imagine how you feel it is not funny at all. My sincere advice is for you to consult a counselor. If you don't mind I am recommending the love doctor for you. You can listen to his shows on max fm 102.3 Lagos. Mondays to Thursdays from 11pm to 3am. If you want a one on one talk with him which may benefit you more listen to his show and when he give out a WhatsApp number write it down and chat him up.
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God is love. God is merciful. God is also a consuming fire. I know this is not a popular discuss but am not surprise at all. Because I have been warned several years ago. Matthew 7:13-14
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[14]But the gateway to life is very narrow and the road is difficult, and only a few ever find it.
Matthew 5:30
[30]And if your hand—even your stronger hand—causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.
What you need to stay free from sin and be at peace with God is Jesus. Receive Him today and He will transform your life. 2 Corinthians 5:15,17
[15]He died for everyone so that those who receive his new life will no longer live for themselves. Instead, they will live for Christ, who died and was raised for them.
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thorpido:
You dated her enough to know her response to matters or were you two just fvckin?
Na now you wan bend person wey stiff?

You're thinking of quitting the marriage without working at it so your child will suffer?You've got to man up.
People may hardly change when they are grown.You need to talk to your wife from time to time and make her see reasons to compromise sometimes.
The best way to encourage someone to give is by showing examples of giving too.Make sure you do this to your wife often - time,attention,help with house chores and money.

You've said it all

Cammo:
You have a marital problem this serious and decided to bring it to Nairaland infested with
guttersnipes, deranged lesbians, expired feminists, heartbroken ex housewives, oloshos living in a single room, angry single ladies and dirty, jobless single girls.
Good for you, bro.

You are the psychopath here,cause if you read through all post ,you will notice that guys have been against him most and not the females,but chauvinism has blinded your sight.if you have nothing to contribute,look for water and drink ,then continue reading. Mitchew

Davash222:

I don't segregate bro.

you deserve your choice bro

thelish:


Thank u jare.
U know how much he don borrow wey he Neva pay probably??
Before we advice married people on this platform, it will be better to hear from both parties. U will be surprised to hear what the wife will come say here.

Davash222:
Treat her the way she treats you! Don't be crossing express for someone that can't cross a gutter for you.

You know the risk of crossing express these days. Be careful.

Two wrongs don't make right abi how dem dey talk am?
Two hot-heads don't work in marriage.
The marriage is young. Patience, selflessness with consistent encouragement will change the wife.

Didn't you notice all these during courtship ? She is heavy and might be ragging hormones, the Lord is your strength dear!

Mcslize:


Bola, hope you won't be like that to your husband.

"My husband money is my money but my money is not my husband money". Women!

Good forbid I should be a burden to my husband in future, we are helpmates. We should be caring to one another. This Op might have borrowed more money from the wife that he never returned which might want to be a burden or debt to the woman. Some men will never say the truth when it's comes to this kind topic

delkuf:
Good Nairaland I don't normally do this, bringing my family issue here but this issue is pissing me off.

Here is the story. I got married last year, and I thought I have known her enough that was why I married her. But to my surprise I started discovering that she is too stiff. She is too hard. When she says she is not doing something, that is it, she won't do it.

Sometimes if am broke, and I ask for Small amount of money, most time I want to use that money to get means for bigger money, she won't give.

She gives me time for sex. Presently am down with fever and the only thing she has ever asked me is how is your body. No what will you take or something. Am starting to think of quitting the marriage. The only issue is that she is pregnant and this is my first child.

Eeya, sowie bro!

I feel your pains but this matter is quite easy.

Every woman, once they get married, start churning out some rules (giving timetable for sex etc) that usually spells dooms and disaster for them! So your case is not special!

They will even go to the extreme by not caring about how you feel etc and its always like that so don't get mad bro!

And as regards money, you should be smart enough to create a budget! Once it is exceeded, she should know she is on her own!

If your salary is 50k and every month your total recurring expenses is 20k, budget 10k for yourself and let her know! Keep 10k as something to fall back on and give her 5-10k for her personal upkeep.

She should know your financial upper limit so that u don't end up spending far above your income!

And always have a backup plan for funding business opportunities that comes your way.

Back then when i wanted to start a biz that would bring in money, a silly lady i was dating back then was against it! I didn't mind her. I just went ahead and started the damn biz! When the thing begin bring in some money to augment my take home, then she understood what i was trying to do.

Our ladies hardly understand the business side of life! Hence they tend to hold on to money, even if u wan use 10k do small web design business to make 30k, they will refuse!

As per your malaria thing, bros, you must belong to our AA O+ group! If so, then always ensure u have artemether + lumefantrine based malaria drug(s) always handy! And ensure u treat it once in 3 months or less (depending on how frequent the thing comes).

Sit her down and discuss.

Don't quit that marriage, rather make it work! No relationship is perfect!

Her present pregnancy period might be messing with her emotions so she needs u just like u need her!