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Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by OsuIgboIpob: 5:27am On May 21, 2020
Premiumwriter:
forget this nonsense talk about not touching a woman.


Some women de f*ck up and if you no correct them with some methods such as a good slap dey will not understand the extent of their actions.
Forget that idǐot jor
Wey Meetme01?
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by OsuIgboIpob: 5:34am On May 21, 2020
iamjean:
Omo, this life Shaa, me I have been working since 22 yo, I earn 4 times that amount and still I don't even think I am ready financially for marriage, maybe because I am just 26 now though.

I am constantly thinking of personal development and how to make more money,I don't even have nor keep any girlfriend, I run from girls as if they are plagues.
Lol
Keep dreaming bra grin
U will make it truly one day...
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by zedman1(m): 5:37am On May 21, 2020
Aplaudez:
The truth is you guys ain't understanding yourselves, if truly she's your wife and she's the mother of your daughter, create a very sweet environment, you can even take her out and sit her down and talk things out!

I'm not happy you couldn't caution yourself, what's done is done, please try to caution yourself next time!

God bless your family!
Bad people are bad people, some may change though, but many only for a while. She might have been a material girl, a very beautiful girl from a very poor home before the husband met her. She might have changed and fallen in love when she felt she had met some one who could ' take care of her needs '. Notice I said 'might' because these are probabilities, but if they are facts then it seems she has reached her tolerance limit. Such people only understand one language ; Money and more money. There's nothing any 'sit her down and talk things out' can do to change them. They are not reasonable like normal people. They will dump Dangote for the next richer man. They just need more..... Money.
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by isartha2000: 5:46am On May 21, 2020
ademidedavid:
Its not for you to believe, just pray it doesn't happen to you.....but when it does happen, you will always live to believe any marital issues and work towards perfecting your home
stop justifying your misdeed and listen up!.Beg your wife, be open to her on financial strength,look for ways to raise funds to set her up, wittingly separate her from her mischievous friends and above all,a family that prays and read the words of God together stays together
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by mblarry1(m): 5:52am On May 21, 2020
Poorboy:
Broke man ,broke man if her father is not broke will she be totally dependent on you.

How old is she?

Is she educated?

Does she have a job?

Is the other sisters married and doing well than you people?

Is she from a wealthy home, like she is used to comfort already?

Which state do you reside?

See you cannot satisfy greed, your wife is a greedy person. How can your wife ask you to look for money for her to travel out then you feel you have a wife.

Work on your emotions don't allow the term wife to make you try to impress, if you put yourself in unnecessary pressure to make money and die before your burial another man will already be sleeping with her. She is the money type.

Tell people the truth and let them know their worth, I once told my fiancee I am not your responsibility, if you can't survive quit.

Don't regret beating her, though I don't subscribe to that.
Send u a mail... Please get bck to mi
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by emotionada: 5:52am On May 21, 2020
Titi03:
How old is your wife coz I don't understand this childish mentality.

Its 2020! do people still believe everything others post or "show off" on social media?
Some do.

I know of some women that their husbands beat black and blue but you need to see the romantic aura they create on Facebook. In fact to marry go sweet you.

Even those that give advice inclusive: Pastor Chris can organize 1 week marriage seminar but where is his divorced wife?
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by emotionada: 5:59am On May 21, 2020
travelland:
Mr cautioner, hope you don't continue this way, if your wife can't tell you to go out and hustle I wonder who can encourage you in this life
He's already hustling with 3 businesses.

You don't get it, his wife is pressurizing him which can lead to depression or early death.

No loving wife will do that.

There are men that are depending on wife for food and upkeep but we have a hardworking man who made the mistake of having an ungrateful woman as wife.
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by MSEdLAW(m): 6:07am On May 21, 2020
travelland:
You're already getting worked up sir please deal with your anger issues
There is no anger issues here ... don’t cross reference your idiosyncratic nature with his wife’s to arrive out myopic conclusions. His wife is a greedy animal that needs to be tamed by any means necessary.. marriage is a bloody contract if it ain’t working ducking terminate. Men of this generation are getting wiser don’t sell him illusory ideas that wouldn’t help. Rather advise his greedy ass wife to get a JOB!!!!!! It’s the 21st century feminist crusader women are presidents!!!!!
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by justsaypeter001(m): 6:16am On May 21, 2020
Watch her account(s). Wise up brother, a rich man is already asking her out. She may be sleeping with him already or planning to. Watch her closely. Woman don't just change attitude or behaviour, something is wrong somewhere already. Thank me later
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Nobody: 6:20am On May 21, 2020
KanwuliaExtra:
Indeed!
Which of your online personality am I dealing with? The abusive one or the cowardly one?

huh


Let me give you time to reveal your real agenda.

Welcome!
Hahahahahahahahahahaha. No entity o. I'm just a long time fan of yours.
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Nwaonyishi69: 6:20am On May 21, 2020
Aplaudez:
The truth is you guys ain't understanding yourselves, if truly she's your wife and she's the mother of your daughter, create a very sweet environment, you can even take her out and sit her down and talk things out!

I'm not happy you couldn't caution yourself, what's done is done, please try to caution yourself next time!

God bless your family!
Stories
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Nwaonyishi69: 6:30am On May 21, 2020
ademidedavid:
She's into her own business......that's my only regret, I wish I never raised my hands on her.
Guy, you really need to man up. Else, she will make life miserable for you and not for these armchair critics and advisers.
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by MSEdLAW(m): 6:43am On May 21, 2020
0go123:
He doesn't have anger issues here, try to be reasonable on your replies. I think you are the one with anger issues here tho
God bless you...it’s their type foul mannered irritants , insisting men must cope at all cost with their lack of proper parenting, peer pressure induced madness and/or poor upbringing in the name of marriage... The Ratio of men to women globally is 4(men): 6(women) any man that dies because of an insane woman dies foolishly there are POF!!!!
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Bola146(f): 6:44am On May 21, 2020
MansoryMX:
Not just some. A lot of women of this generation from the age of 14-40yrs lack basic parental home training. Broken marriages yakpata. My wife wan carry exactly this kind leg a year ago in our marriage. You know what I did? I transferred all my money from all 3 accounts to that of my company account and told her we are broke. We ate from the gutter, 4 good months to an extent 2 months she nor do hair and she learnt her lesson, today she nor dare ask me money for irrelevant things. I told her after u are done with your NYSC and working, you can lavish your own money. wink
Lobatan grin grin you are very wicked sir cheesy cheesy
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Bola146(f): 6:47am On May 21, 2020
yomi007k:
Bola o...I dey gbadun you everytime. You get sense. wink
Thank you sir grin grin
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by KanwuliaExtra: 6:55am On May 21, 2020
pDudd:
Hahahahahahahahahahaha. No entity o. I'm just a long time fan of yours.
DATZZZZZ GOOOD!
I dey kamkpeeeeeeee! cool
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Nonsoboy4life(m): 7:11am On May 21, 2020
klenton:
you are just an empty vessel, na coconut water full that your head

what is it with Africans and religious belief, kneel down pray, have faith like a mustard seed!!! must everything be about religionhuh the woman's request is stupid and that is what it is, which one is pray for God to give you the money, what happens to the woman praying on her own for God to give her the money.

do you know how many families that are looking for money just to eat, money to buy drugs, do you know how many families that does not have a decent shelter over there heads, families that cant afford a hospital, what happens to thanking God and been grateful, must it be pray for one luxury or the other.

and let's say u prayed ur way to a dubia trip, what if the woman needs a gwagon tomorrow or even cravings to fly private jet or a cruise trip round the world and you couldn't pray yourself out of it....i dont know why some women have failed to be reasonable as a people, is it that there processing brain is limited from birth, honestly it differs logic.
I'm telling u... very illogical..such an empty brain
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by kendo60(m): 7:14am On May 21, 2020
[Sometimes, it depends on kind of friends she's associating with. Is obvious to most of women on their suddenly changes of their attitude.
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by NaBanga: 7:23am On May 21, 2020
BluntTheApostle:
So, nagging makes a woman a strong vessel?

You people will just come and make some really annoying statements.

She was angry and abused him. He was angry, and he hit her. They were both weak, and gave in to their emotions.

Moreover, hitting a person is not the only weakness a person is capable of when provoked. Walking out on your partner is also a weakness. I have a lot of men like that in my workplace. They prefer to do overtime than to go home because home is hot. They are avoiding confrontation. But does that make them strong? They will tell you that their wives are demons and that if they stay with their wives for a second, they could strangle her. So, they stay until night in the office. Some of them even drive straight to the pub from the office. Anywhere but home. Is that strength?

Please, we should not be too quick to judge others.
Walking away from someone can never lead to hospitalization or death. Walking away will never lead someone to jail or execution for murder. It's unfortunate that many Nigerian men are still living in darkness and ignorance. However do as you wish. I'm glad so many are escaping the zoo.
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by m140(m): 7:28am On May 21, 2020
Mariangeles:
That is where self-control comes in.
It's only for men, shey...women no need am bah,,,
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by m140(m): 7:30am On May 21, 2020
emmaodet:
grin grin grin
Brosssssssss
You don vex?
Abi na, I wonder why women leave very wealthy men,,,, woman no be easy thing ooo. Make you meek pass cat , them go shaaa make you mad.... not all ooo, but most
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Nonsoboy4life(m): 7:38am On May 21, 2020
humilitypays:
I have said it over and over again, 99% of the problems in today marriages is as a result of money and then sex!

Guys don't allow anybody to push you to marry when you are not financially ready and settled because majority of ladies today want a flamboyant life even in marriage....social media have influenced today women, they now live for the gram!

Op, with the kind of life most Nigerian ladies of today want to live in marriage, no federal civil service job without corruption can afford it. How much do they pay most civil servants; NGN250,000 at most for level 12 above which most young people cannot attain until they have approached 50yrs+.


It is not a must to marry. If you cannot find a lady ready to work and till the soil with you to make that billions she wants to enjoy and flaunt, please stay single oh, the world is already overpopulated, we have enough humans so if you no born, its not a big deal!!

If you must marry, marry a working class lady, working class ladies seem to have sense small, more than jobless, unemployed ladies who only sit at home watching TV and fantasising to live flamboyant life like those they spend their whole time watching on TV. Guys stop glorifying unemployed, manner less ladies with wedding ring!!!

Marry financially productive ladies, they understand the pains of making a dime, they appreciate the little you have and are ready to put effort with you to build that dream future, not all those lazy, jobless ladies una de marry all because of big ass and big breast that you will still get bored and tired of after you marry her angry
You made sense bro..this advise will help me personally
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Poorboy: 7:57am On May 21, 2020
mblarry1:
Send u a mail... Please get bck to mi
done
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Ofadaman(m): 8:00am On May 21, 2020
If she wasnt this way before then Maybe she's keeping the wrong kind of friends, friends often have the strongest influence on the women and they may take if all out on their husband. Sometimes, it's not just the friends, but your wife, if her friends are flambolyant and all, she's likely get jealous and want u to di as much as their husbands.

This is the first symptoms, the next is cheating with married rich men.
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Nobody: 8:18am On May 21, 2020
osazsky:
pls how old are u don't quite me again..I have worked for various multinationals. Banks. Before I set up my biz...if u are a female and working for a good company once u give birth u are given 3 to 6 months leave with pay..have u finished secondary sch..I pray my son don't come across such..my wife is a caterer her least job is 1m for services and deco.if u price 999 thousand u will be directed to her friend..go and work this is the 21st century..the sex u can offer all other girls can offer it too.sex is overrated
like i said. I'll mind the business that pays me
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Nobody: 8:20am On May 21, 2020
MSEdLAW:
God bless you...it’s their type foul mannered irritants , insisting men must cope at all cost with their lack of proper parenting, peer pressure induced madness and/or poor upbringing in the name of marriage... The Ratio of men to women globally is 4(men): 6(women) any man that dies because of an insane woman dies foolishly there are POF!!!!
the ratio of vmen to women is actually 1: 1. Get your facts right
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Nobody: 8:24am On May 21, 2020
Heathrow44:
Nne & where re u in d equation or are u not a human being with d same no of hands & legs like d manhuh Y is it that women in relationship always feel entitled t be taken care of when both of u feel in love & took a decision t start a family, then out of nowhere d man is t work & then urs is t eat right? Madam, go & work & provide 4 d family.. In d animal kingdom is d lion & in most times lioness that hunt 4 food together as a pride(family), don't sit ur ass down like a toddler & wait t be fed like a quote & unquote "Queen" DAT obviously u re(sarcastic). A lot of all this stems from the lies that women are fed with that they are "Special" & should be treated as queen when in all honesty they aren't special anymore like a chocolate!
men are more disposable. The sooner you accept that reality, the better. It's a man's world afterall.
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Tyriq: 8:24am On May 21, 2020
meetme01:
You don F-up. Raising your hands on any woman talkless your wife has degraded you. That's the bitter truth.

Back to the main issue. Your wife needs your unreserved apology. You need remorseful which is through your attitude. Let her know you are deeply sorry.

To her, is she not working? Why have you refused to set her up in a biz? One problem I have realized in today's marriage is, finance. It's really creating a lot of issues in most marriage. As a man, if you earn from three sources, declare only two. Let her know how the money is spent to the last kobo. That was the initial problem, you need to fix that part asap
Sorry to bust ur bubble bro but this writeup is flawed! You totally exonerated the said lady from all evil, even though it was very visible even to the blind that the lady provoked the man.. A full civil servant and an engineer by the side, common Wat else do u want the man to do except consistent progress and he has been upto that.. Every action has and opposite or equal reaction, u bemoan the man for hitting his wife but u didn't see the emotional pressure and manipulation on the part of the woman.. Who said husband cannot hit their wifes but wifes have the right to insult and blackmail their husband's? If as a wife u don't give ur reasonable husband peace, don't also expect peace from him
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Nobody: 8:26am On May 21, 2020
Poorboy:
a girl is a commodity I should afford, that says alot about the family you come from.

My moniker is POORBOY, yes if I no be davido, Wizkid, e-money etc then I never rich na....
when i say afford. I mean that you cant afford to be in their presence.


I take no responsibility if you choose to misinterpret my statement.
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Poorboy: 8:31am On May 21, 2020
funmisticqueen2:
when i say afford. I mean that you cant afford to be in their presence.


I take no responsibility if you choose to misinterpret my statement.
who is the idiot that I can kill myself to afford to be in their presence?

Look I am not a type of person that chase fantasies!


My statement is grow with the mentality that no man on Earth owes you anything (money, clothes, food etc)
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Tyriq: 8:38am On May 21, 2020
Poorboy:
I like men wey get sense, who you owe are your parents, I doubt if he has a wife like that he can remember to buy anything for his parents.

I repeat young guys try and secure your future even though you are married, investing in a woman is bad business

Some will ask how is it bad business?

If you try all you could to satisfy a greedy woman when it's time to leave, she will leave you to your fate and by that time you won't have anything left with you again, because all your money was been consumed by her.

I was given a marriage list of about 1.5 million just the list only, that's what is delaying me from getting married, what did I do, I paused the marriage.

Now I am building a 5 self-contained rooms for rent, I will finish that before I continue the marriage because I come to realize that for marriage to be successful it's money that drives love now.
You've being on point man.. Thanks for the update.
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Poorboy: 8:39am On May 21, 2020
Tyriq:
You've being on point man.. Thanks for the update.
you're welcome
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