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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by jaxxy(m): 2:57pm On May 23, 2020 |
Stupid, temperamental and vengeful woman i don’t know what sm men are doing with them?? U still brought her to join u abroad? A notorious trouble maker? Lolz |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Calicoe: 2:58pm On May 23, 2020 |
My action if I were in your shoes would be this. I brought you here with my money, so I'll deport you ASAP |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by SILVERLINES: 2:59pm On May 23, 2020 |
LinLinGentle:brother I pray you succeed. I was scared when reading the upper lines of your stories until I got to know that the divorce process is ongoing. I thank God for you 4 Likes |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by adabaraabdul: 2:59pm On May 23, 2020 |
As a married man you get the worst comments or advice from single men. Single men should not comment on critical marital issues because really you know little or nothing. Bro reflect deep and follow up on the right steps to take. As men we love to keep our marital status and an upright family together but when it's all over with no hope insight the best thing is to move on. Painful but right. |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 3:00pm On May 23, 2020 |
perryy:But often look much more exciting, colourful and beautiful, don't they? Good home training, well behaved, good family background always has been the safest. 1 Like |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Happyguy201: 3:00pm On May 23, 2020 |
biggest mistake any man can make its bringing a Nigerian wife or girlfriend abroad 7 Likes |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by bayulll011(m): 3:01pm On May 23, 2020 |
LinLinGentle:Well this is no more marriage cos I see no coming back from all this,to be on safer side seek for divorced and full custody of the kids if there is any. I repeat do not accept her back, brother to live long and not end in jail do not accept her back 1 Like |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Nobody: 3:02pm On May 23, 2020 |
LONGPREEK:Self-entitled women are dangerous |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by SweetCunt97(f): 3:04pm On May 23, 2020 |
Ebenezer2O2O:no 1 Like |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by josh1998(m): 3:04pm On May 23, 2020 |
I pray the worst dosn't happen |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Ebenezer2O2O(m): 3:05pm On May 23, 2020 |
SweetCunt97:I'm in the U.S |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by apexx5133: 3:05pm On May 23, 2020 |
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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Coldie(m): 3:06pm On May 23, 2020 |
Send her back to Nigeria simple |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by grafixdon: 3:06pm On May 23, 2020 |
This same senero happened to my brother. The guy brought his family to UK. Wify started disrespecting him, he beats her up, she involved police and wholla my brother was sent back to naija without a dime. Today, he looks like a mad man, no income, no job, take excess alcohol and tramadol. The woman finished him, uk government sent him packing from his house he suffered to get in uk. Some women are evil 11 Likes |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by SOPWriter: 3:08pm On May 23, 2020 |
Firefox01:Passport can always be replaced. 1 Like |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Counselor123: 3:09pm On May 23, 2020 |
LinLinGentle:lol. You no try when you dey Naija o. Sorry bro! |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by tiredoflife(m): 3:09pm On May 23, 2020 |
SweetCunt97: So what if they are Shouldn't they do honest jobs Should they sell drugs or wire fraud U are no different from the woman U will push ur man to steal 2 Likes |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by apexx3142: 3:09pm On May 23, 2020 |
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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by apexx3142: 3:10pm On May 23, 2020 |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Richieniit: 3:14pm On May 23, 2020 |
lesson to every young guy out there especially the single ones.. No go do marry all these yeye girls that are so particular abt social media life. Every mins snap nd post just to get hyped n like. Awon slay queens n beauty nonsense. Calm down marry better woman way no go frustrate you to die young n end your career. I feel sorry for the man cos his marriage is war.. no more regards, true love, submission or happiness. [Qquote author=LinLinGentle post=89543812]Disclaimer: I AM NOT A SAINT AND MY WIFE IS NOT THE DEVIL. I HAVE JUST BEEN UNFORTUNATE TO BECOME A VICTIM OF MATRIARCHY WHICH MANY MEN SUFFER ABROAD... I have been hustling abroad for a few years while wifey was working in Nigeria and living with children. Marriage has always been turbulent and we even almost got divorced after I travelled out. We somehow worked on our issues with the help of pastors, family and friends, and after a few years of ''roughing'' it abroad to pave way for them, I finally succeeded and my family arrived a few months ago. I used to be hot tempered, but I have had enough time to gain insight into my inadequacies and reflect on them. I am now significantly calmer due to the determination to make my marriage better and as per ''abroad levels''. My wife on the other hand is fully taking advantage of me and the environment we find ourselves in. First thing she did on getting here was to cut of my entire family. She said she doesn't want to have anything to do with any of them anymore. She has also not been too keen to kickstart her career, as all she does is endless picture taking and editing for social media hyping. I know this might be due to the initial ''euphoria'' phase cos she is coming abroad to a big house, big car and having no limits on most things we used to manage back in Nigeria, and she thinks things are bread and butter. You would never think for a second that she is a married woman if you check her profiles on social media! She has become even more toxic person than she ever was in Naija. Now very bossy, never backs down, always the attacker, ever ready for a fight, lazier, always on social media, communicates with me as little as possible, embarrasses me in the neighbourhood with the constant noises from our house, and finally her threats have now tripled! Madam is now so fierce that I have become the house chicken. Just within a few months of being here o! She tells me that she will show me for all the ''gra gra'' I used to do back in Nigeria. Friends advised me against bringing this woman here but I no wan hear word as per responsible family man wey I dey claim to be. The popular threat is usually ''I will end your career''. I wasn't taking this too seriously initially, but she then started following through with the threats by constant calls to the police and other services, making spooky and baseless career ending accusations and allegations against me. I have never been the one to first lay my hands on her, but I have spilled drinks on her before when she attacked me. My wife now gets very physical without having any element of self control, fear or restraint after the simplest argument and sometimes, she damages things out of anger. She does this so often and never hesitates to dare me to do my worst. I discovered that she has signed up on dating sites and when I even caught her chatting about sex to a particular guy in our area, she said that it was all my fault. She did not apologise for this. She even referred to it one time after an argument that if I am convulsing like this over just a sex chat, she's waiting to see what I'd do when I see a man on top of her. My productivity at work has declined significantly and I am now on the verge of depression. Neighbours called the police on us one time after a lot of noise from out house. She accused me of domestic violence. The police had to separate us and I was stuck at home for an extended period and could not go to work due to this. I am now being investigated for domestic violence, which is a serious crime as madam wants it and I have had to report the situation to my company! The whole thing is so messy that I am scared that I have not seen the worst yet. I am so afraid of losing it all and returning to Nigeria broke cos I spent my last card and even racked credit card debt to bring them here hoping to pay off gradually. I still have a few years to get my citizenship and if I lose my job now, that is the end for all of us! For now, I don't know what is going to happen to us, as this woman is so determined to cause great and irreparable damage that could ruin our lives, just to get back at me and she is being cheered on by her family and friends. THE SITUATION IS SO MESSED UP! UPDATE: Divorce has now been filed. I also recently got lucky as I was able to secure a restraining order when she messed up again and hit me daring me to do my worst. I called the police and made a proper case and she was arrested. She has been banned from the house for a month. The police advised me to talk to my lawyer and extend indefinitely if I want to. I hope to get this done ASAP. The law here does not only protect women but also protects innocent men. All you need is patience and wisdom. Thank you all for your ideas. Still several hurdles to cross but I am on the winning side for now.[/quote] 1 Like |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by membranus: 3:14pm On May 23, 2020 |
Mcslize: Are you married too? Did you ask God for wife when you wanted to get married? How is the marriage doing so far? |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by vickydevoka(m): 3:14pm On May 23, 2020 |
Brother you are the caus of your problem. U knw your wife still u insist of bringing her to abroad 1 Like |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by davida222(m): 3:15pm On May 23, 2020 |
KristaPretty:The only lady with sense on this thread. Nice advice. 1 Like |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by harmony940(m): 3:15pm On May 23, 2020 |
My brother most times it better and wiser for couples who are living separate lives to continue living as such when they are still young till when they are older,with older in this context i mean when their children are grown ups....Some marriages will work that way why others will need both to be present.... You need to talk to your wife,you have hurt her so much in the past, prostrate to her if possible win her heart back,and see how your marriage will bounce back.....She just only trying to be a woman being backed by her family.....when begging her let her know that her family will be no where when you and her are deported back to Nigeria.....Please don't forget to have an heartfelt prayer to God before anything... Wish you the best brother! |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by tunjilana: 3:15pm On May 23, 2020 |
Use a two pronged approach 1. Install camera and let her know you will also involve the police when violence is involved or she attempts to lie as you cant watch your life scatter 2. Pet her more and show love, dont react to her anger, jokingly calm her and try to reduce the situations that lead to anger. The problem didnt start in America, it started in Naija, I dont knw how long u have bn married or dated for but you guys are yet to get to that point of understanding each other If after every, it doesn't work, please carefully leave and save your life and career, just ensure u are involved in your kids life and find a decent woman to love and understand. Dont rush, if u find none, enjoy your new found bachelorhood while raising your kids as best as you can. |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by safarigirl(f): 3:15pm On May 23, 2020 |
grafixdon:your brother allowed himself become a victim. Once a man beats a woman abroad, e no get defense again. Some women intentionally rile up their husbands, to achieve that, and your brother fell into the trap. So many Nigerian men that allow their tempers ruin them in that abroad, forgetting that abroad is not Nigeria that you can do anyhow. I wonder if he would have beaten a white wife. 6 Likes |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by promiseland245(m): 3:16pm On May 23, 2020 |
What an absurd mentality, so let's assume she wins in this game of hers and you lose everything, what would be her gain? LinLinGentle: |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by replete(m): 3:16pm On May 23, 2020 |
Chai! They still follow her from Naija |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Nobody: 3:17pm On May 23, 2020 |
My guy arrange for a trip back to Naija with her. Start beating the devil out of her life right from the Airport. Collect her traveling documents and damage them beyond repairs. Keep your papers and fly back to your base. My advice may sound odd because I don't know where exactly you are based. . But if what I said is possible and obtainable, do it. Let me tell you about a dead colleague of mine. His story is almost same as yours. Gbenga that is his real name. He was an artist. He was in the UK for like four years. ( I am not really sure how long though) He later brought the wife over and Gbam! The problems started. His wife started becoming uncontrollable and all. One day Gbenga left for work and forgot something. He came back and met a man in his apartment fucking the wife. My guy started problem with them and started beating the wife. The wife's lover called the police on him while escaping. That someone was beating his wife at so so and so apartment. Police came and whisked Gbenga away. To cut the long story short, Gbenga found himself in Nigeria. He tried to go back to no avail. Before you know it, Gbega started showing signs of insanity and eventually ran completely mad. Three Years ago my guy died in UCH Ibadan when he was taken there for treatment. The wife married one of his friends and life continues. Gbenga is dead but the wife remains in UK flexing You see life? Send that woman back by all means. You will take care of your kids in Nigeria when they are back. Trick her to come to Nigeria and collect her traveling documents and burn them. I pray you won't end up like my guy Gbenga. Take care 12 Likes |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by atoleybaba(m): 3:17pm On May 23, 2020 |
Just seeing this thread and it reminded me of what a Nigerian lady that was in the u.s illegally did for my late Aunty's husband ooo... Baba wanted to remarry, he saw this "innocent girl" she even called us and talked to us on phone(Jesus she sounded us nice) even promised to care for my late Aunty's kid. Few months to the marriage, they found out that she has a bf and only got married for the paper so she can bring her guy in. The funniest thing was that the stupid girl started holding this man on ransom, seized his passport and left the home for some time, when she is around dares the bro to do his worse and point fingers at him that he can't do her nothing.....thank God the worse is behind him and they have divorced each other and she has married whoever she wanted to marry. Something that is certain is she will reap the consequences of her actions in the future. One thing is to tell the person about what you're planning to do and another thing is to be dishonest about your plans and causing heartbreak and problems 2 Likes |
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Nobody: 3:17pm On May 23, 2020 |
dunk2011:Did you follow Amber Heard and Johnny Depp's case at all?? 4 Likes |
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