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| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by wisdomiskey(m): 6:26pm On May 23, 2020 |
Drigby2: Drigby2:No shaking bro. Dande55 was banned too ![]() |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by lordtim001(m): 6:41pm On May 23, 2020 |
KingSatan:King Satan dey quote Pastor Sam Adeyemi ![]() |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Akeem79(m): 7:28pm On May 23, 2020 |
KingSatan:
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| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Drigby2: 7:52pm On May 23, 2020 |
wisdomiskey:Lol I sabi ![]() I don see her alternate at work. At least mods bias dey less now. |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by clintz(m): 7:57pm On May 23, 2020 |
KingSatan:You have said it all and that is QED. I respect you! |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by JustforMen: 9:24pm On May 23, 2020 |
Rozz:. |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by ademajek(m): 9:27pm On May 23, 2020 |
KingSatan:Sir I'm really glad to have read your comment May your live long enough to reap the fruit of your labor The whole truth and nothing but the truth. |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Nwaonyishi69: 9:49pm On May 23, 2020 |
Please, have you got any willing man that said 'yes I do'? Or, like many endless waiters for Mr perfect, are you still a Rolling Stone? If you are still rolling, please, I advise that you try not to find yourself among the desperate 'around 40yrs husband or sperm donor beggers'; because, logic may never stop the hand of the clock. |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by abu12: 10:02pm On May 23, 2020 |
KingSatan:great |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Emanodimo(m): 10:37pm On May 23, 2020 |
Ent3rpreneur:That question dey annoyed man ehnn.... |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Prof0fficial: 10:56pm On May 23, 2020 |
Thread owner is liable to have difficult times with men. Loosen up |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Joshforeal: 11:04pm On May 23, 2020 |
chillybrandy:You're beautiful on ur dp. |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by AlhajaChinyere: 2:06am On May 24, 2020 |
Lexusgs430:Shut up idiot, putting forward statements you cannot substantiate. |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Lexusgs430: 4:15am On May 24, 2020 |
AlhajaChinyere:Again you're the bigger idiot, for not minding your business...... You loved my post so much, it's turning you on...... |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by crazycrypto710: 5:37am On May 24, 2020 |
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| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Nobody: 7:58am On May 24, 2020 |
JustforMen:what |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Hybridwhite(m): 8:17am On May 24, 2020 |
KingSatan: |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by bamasite2: 9:18am On May 24, 2020 |
Bros! Chai ![]() E go hard for you to make heaven I swear. You too wicked! Snaagg: |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by AlhajaChinyere: 9:34am On May 24, 2020 |
Lexusgs430:Okoro! Bleep off! |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Ishilove: 10:12am On May 24, 2020 |
KingSatan:If not for your username I would have followed you. Excellent submission ![]() |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Nobody: 11:03am On May 24, 2020 |
KingSatan:You're very right. Things has changed but we shouldn't be reduced by it, rather we should change our mentality. Both spouses should be concerned about finance rather than sex and childbirth because finance can sustain the home while sex nor childbirth can't. We can't solve today's problems by using the kind of thinking we had then. Unless we think beyond our mentality, we wouldn't grow. The wife should be the expectation she demands from her husband. As far as I can see, It is time women contribute pecuniarily to the home besides sex and childbirth. |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by mydeporch(f): 11:10am On May 24, 2020 |
Nonsoboy4life:Yes, I am . |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Nonsoboy4life(m): 11:21am On May 24, 2020 |
mydeporch:Nice...I'm looking for a partner though |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by mydeporch(f): 11:36am On May 24, 2020 |
Do you all know as we have women of various attitudes that you have all been calling names, so do we have some men too who are not responsible and it's the woman that takes up all the responsibility in the house. Just as there are men too taking up their responsibilities, some women too are.... I always say in this our present age, the faults falls on both sex....its just different strokes for different folks..... People just need to be wise and learn from post like this . There is need for our orientation to change..... both parties should bring so.ething to the table.... The issue of men are deep The issue of women are deeper Joining them together in marriage, their issues become deepest of deepest Marriage is deep just like life Let's choose wisely nd if its beyond what u can endure ..for ur safety and peace of mind...get out please.... |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by mrLhanray(m): 1:51pm On May 24, 2020 |
KingSatan:You've spoken well sir. bitter truth for our ladies to swallow. |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by mydeporch(f): 7:08pm On May 24, 2020 |
Nonsoboy4life:Dont worry.you will find the right person. Am saying a word of prayer for u ..God will fulfill ur heart desires.all d best bro.... |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Nonsoboy4life(m): 7:42pm On May 24, 2020 |
mydeporch:Amen.. thanks..I'm grateful |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by ademajek(m): 8:42pm On May 24, 2020 |
NoToPile:I also read the comment you quoted, I chose not to comment. But after I read your comment I had I feel I had to say this. There are different kinds of men and women, ladies, guys, girls, boys or whatever you may want to call them. We have different background, experiences as well as exposure. These things often time influences our thoughts, perception and ultimately our decisions. I'm married and I can proudly that there is absolutely nothing I can't for my spouse when it comes to house chores, just name it. Anything, anything you can think of or imagine. And still have to provide for everything to the best of my financial capability. The question then is, did all that changed her entitlement syndrome/mentality? I'll keep that answer to myself. one is certain, I love my wife dearly and won't place any other man or woman above her. During my little experiences so far, I have seen enough to tell you emphatically that a man or woman will always chose to be what or who they want be regardless of what you do or didn't do. That's the power of choice. You mentioned something about how a woman is wired, although I do not totally agree with your postulation. I believe its one of those catches employed to douse tension or console. Let me ask, do you know how a man is wired? Can you handle or stand it. Nobody is wired in any such way that you may have your mind. What you see is who we have become due to experiences, information, exposure, background etc. Be whoever you want to be, I can tell that there will always be somebody that thinks, reasons or see things the way you do in a man or woman. There are men with entitlement mentality just as there are in women just that nnà own too much abeg . There are women building houses and empires through their hard earned money like men. And there are also men who only want to reap where they did not sow like some {most} women do. Bottom line is: you are who choose to be. |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by UncleJJ(m): 8:18am On May 25, 2020 |
cooooooks:I know what I am missing. Please, I would never marry an old maid. You do not marry a woman for things you have, you marry her for what you don't have. That is how to marry well. - I have money, so I don't need a woman to work. - I am no idiot, so I don't need a woman with so-called life experience or street smart. - I have a few principles, so a younger woman is better for me. As I can explain why such and such is so, and with time she will grow to understand + them, unlike an older woman who would challenge them, even when it's in her favor. - I am not one for side chicks or old squeeze's, hence my preference for a younger wife. - A younger wife creams, makeup, and cosmetics are far cheaper than an older woman's as old girls need double strength for most things. - Risks are higher when marrying an old girl. She starts to reproduce like a hen, and her children cannot be as healthy as a younger girls. |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by UncleJJ(m): 9:24am On May 25, 2020*. Modified: 9:42am On May 25, 2020 |
wirinet:Young man, it is obvious you are. It's unfortunate Nigerian men, now think like women and our women like men. You say immoral; You are likely one of the men in this country that spend their time and money sleeping with women of all shapes and sizes. You want to sleep with them but you don't want to marry them. You start training them for sex from the age of 16 by the time a girl is 21; she is officially a free agent. You still sleep with her afterward you call her Olosho. But, when that young woman says, no to sex or decides to marry at 18, 19, or even 17 you remember morality. When you drink Alomo bitters and tramadol... .. bouncing on the small girl like a master five ball .., what do we call that? If your sisters and mine think like Regina, they would consider only two options: 1. Marry young, once a girl is sexually attractive she begins to get suitors. No woman, who is 25 and above and not married can claim that she has not had at least 3 men interested in marrying her - I am talking about serious men, this is as long as she is physically attractive. Consequently, a young girl's suitors are always successful and well to do.... or on a clear path to the top.... always! 2. Keep her virginity, go to school, graduate, maybe get a job, then go back to option 1. The disadvantage here is that you may be a little too old for the market. So, you will compete with girls who have decided to use option 1 from the get-go. If you are in this group and kept your virginity, you can be a tough competitor for a younger girl. If you have not, the odds may be against you. Regarding your Niger-Delta, Itshekiri culture; where women are taught to be independent. This is only for women, who will end up with poor men or struggling men. I have said this before, I have money so a woman, who can make or conserve money won't impress me. Men are not impressed or attracted to things they have. "Remember I said Nigerian men now think like women". It's only a woman, who may have a good husband in the house and still admire her neighbor's husband because he does this or that. A man will not have an interest in an item without clear benefits unless, he is been guided by his uncontrollable libido. If you are wealthy, marrying a wealthy woman will not be at the top of your list. We see this happen for thousands of years. If you are wealthy, marrying a materialist woman will not bother you. Wealthy men marry women, who love Designer bags and shoes all the time. In fact, we train them to like designer bags and shoes, once a rich man marries a woman, he upgrades her instantly - if she's not up to par. As I said, Regina decided to marry the money, not sleep with the man for money. |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by NoToPile: 11:01am On May 25, 2020 |
ademajek:Firstly the person I quoted was responding to the post about how not to marry a woman not working, how things are changing, more money is needed in raising children etc etc , how a woman needs to contribute as it makes ecomonic sense to do so and she noticed ( I also noticed ) that the poster in all the long epistle didn't say anything about the nurturing aspect which primarily is the wife's responsibility, who shares in that, will he share the wives responsibility when his primary responsibility is being shared by the woman. Lots of threads, lots of comments about how you must marry a working wife, I am not against that, it makes sense for the wife to work but will he take part of her own responsibility? there's always a silence on NL about that.You too are silent about that in your post. Now I believe no matter the background, culture (I am talking about Nigerian culture) even religious wise. Men have always been the provider, women the nurturer. Good to admit you can do all manner of chores despite you being the provider, your spouse misbehaving its a personal thing and most likely has nothing to do with your provider status. At the bolded, let's not deceive ourselves most men feel out of place (trying to put it mildly) if they are being provided for by the spouse, same way a woman can nurture ( this is very broad) and not break down but give her the provider role and as strong as she is you will begin to see cracks. Now economy and life generally is beginning to make a switch in this order and add an egoistic man to the mix - a disaster is in calling. Life happens sometimes ,the man loses his income and the wife steps in and she's expected to fully play both roles, trouble starts, any little complain you get the 'is it because you are feeding me' you expect me to babysit. Wife begins to crack under pressure and boom she breaks one day and says out her mind and hubby opens a thread on NL on how 'wifey changed after I lost my job' and the woman bashing begins forgetting that even the men can't do both roles fully without cracking too. I do agree that our background influences our perceptions etc but that doesn't change our original roles. How is a man wired ? to be polygamous like I read on NL (just joking ) |
| Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by cooooooks(m): 5:33pm On May 25, 2020 |
You make no sense. UncleJJ: |
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