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No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by BobbyHammar: 11:33pm On May 29, 2020
Anybody who still believe in the scam of no sex till marriage needs to get their head checked. If only you know how many marriages have been destroyed or are still suffering because of this, you will never think of falling for such a scam.

What baffles me is those who keep going to church but yet don't know anything about bible and will keep deceiving themselves that sex before marriage is a sin (WHICH YEYE SIN).

Many will say it's formication but they don't even know the true meaning of fornication as referred to in the bible. Take for example when Joseph was dating Mary, yes we agree she was still a virgin because it was their own decision not to have sex yet but how many people realized that there were other young women that existed then as well. Many had boyfriends too and some had sex with their boyfriends while some didn't because Mary wasn't the only virgin.

The bible never condemned those that had sex with their boyfriends before marriage but it was just the divine choice of the Father to select a virgin rather than a lady that had sex already.

Let's stop all these brohaha low African mentality of calling sex before marriage a sin. God only sees a clean and a pure heart, not who had sex when or how. You all should better respect yourself and save the doctrine of marriage by testing the waters to ensure you are ready to sail on that water for the rest of your life. Not after marriage you start looking for divorce because penis is too big or too small or maybe Virgina is too tight or too wide or its always one minute sex.

Haba.

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by Emmacolinho(m): 11:42pm On May 29, 2020
I wish a friend of mine can read this

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by Nobody: 11:45pm On May 29, 2020
It has since been reversed at the last meeting of Bachelors Association of Nigeria. The decision unanimously reached at the meeting was NO MARRIAGE BEFORE SEX.

However, I want to remind you that our brothers at Deeper Life church, MFM, and other related churches are not members of the association so the decision at that meeting is not in any way binding on them.

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by habsydiamond(m): 11:51pm On May 29, 2020
i will only say one thing.. no sex without marriage is like buying okrika for market without testing if it fits you. if e no size when u get home what will u do other than to discard it. thats what ends most no sex b4 marriage... divorce ni oo

in the bible the rate of virginity among men and women was very high then same as in the olden days where dignity and pride was attributed to someone who married as a virgin and a shame to a family where a lady was found not. nowadays virginity is not recognised by both male and female only few still believe in it. ladies sell their body to the highest bidder these days. while men too have high sexual drives.
[/b]imaging observing no sex before marriage as a man and u end up marrying a borehole as ur wife or as a woman imagine marrying a man with a pestle between his legs for ur small arena.. what will you do[b]

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by Scot1255: 11:54pm On May 29, 2020
A new and better forum strictly for relationships. Let's relocate cheesy
https://romanceland.com.ng

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by Avoidsexxx(m): 11:59pm On May 29, 2020
BobbyHammar:
Anybody who still believe in the scam of no sex till marriage needs to get their head checked. If only you know how many marriages have been destroyed or are still suffering because of this, you will never think of falling for such a scam.
What baffles me is those who keep going to church but yet don't know anything about bible and will keep deceiving themselves that sex before marriage is a sin (WHICH YEYE SIN). Many will say its formication but they don't even know the true meaning of formication as referred to in the bible. Take for example when Joseph was dating Mary, yes we agree she was still a virgin because it was their own decision not to have sex yet but how many people realized that there were other young women that existed then as well. Many had boyfriends too and some had sex with their boyfriends while some didn't because Mary wasnt the only virgin. The bible never condemned those that had sex with their boyfriends before marriage but it was just the divine choice of the Father to select a virgin rather than a lady that had sex already.
Let's stop all these brohaha low African mentality of calling sex before marriage a sin. God only sees a clean and a pure heart, not who had sex when or how. You all should better respect yourself and save the doctrine of marriage by testing the waters to ensure you are ready to sail on that water for the rest of your life. Not after marriage you start looking for divorce because penis is too big or too small or maybe Virgina is too tight or too wide or its always one minute sex.

Baba.
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Wrong number! There is no way to qualify a sin, u either rejects or falls into.
The only and real reason why God created sex is for unification btw a man(adam) and his wife(eve). Do not be decieved whatever a man sow so shall he reap.
hey! Do yourself a divine favour and try visiting this websites(christian truth center) run by joshua mugunti, to open ur eyes and shame the devil.

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by phelonrays: 12:00am On May 30, 2020
Please I'm just curious about this marriage of a thing embarassed

My questions are


Is Sex a prerequisite for marriage ??

Is it (sex) the sole factor of a successful marriage??

Isn't Marriage a hoax??

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by BobbyHammar: 12:03am On May 30, 2020
phelonrays:
Please I'm just curious about this marriage of a thing embarassed

My question is


Is Sex a prerequisite for marriage cry


Normally it is not suppose to be but in this present generation, you better ensure it is center of the marriage if you don't want a broken home or you don't want to kill the person you will finally catch having sex with your partner.

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by phelonrays: 12:20am On May 30, 2020
BobbyHammar:


Normally it is not suppose to be but in this present generation , you better ensure it is center of the marriage if you don't want a broken home or you don't want to kill the person you will finally catch having sex with your partner.
Thanks for your insightful answer....


But it still left me more perplexed than before

My observations are....... @the emboldened

Can't we function with the ''Normal'' while letting go of the '' present generation' toxicity?? embarassed

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by Freestainworld(m): 12:25am On May 30, 2020
Mr op, your write up is as sweet as horney, pleasant to the ear but misleading, no matter how you want to view sex, the truth is that, it is meant for married couples, not even for courtship people, don't justify a sin out of ignorance, if everyone should get married as a virgin, believe me, the sexual relationship in marriages will last, and the marriage sustained, but because we have tasted every dick and Tom, and every pussycat, that is why it becomes a problem, rethink again.

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by BobbyHammar: 12:35am On May 30, 2020
phelonrays:

Thanks for your insightful answer....


But it still left me more perplexed than before

My observations are....... @the emboldened

Can't we function with the ''Normal'' while letting go of the '' present generation' toxicity?? embarassed

You can try and it can work for you. But whereby it doesn't work for you if you function with the "Normal" and your partner does not, then be ready to carry your cross. Prevention they say is better than cure. My point is ensure you go for sex before marriage to be sure of the sexual aspect of your marriage. Every other major ingredients of marriage might be very good and rosy but trust me, if they are but only the sexual aspect is terrible, the wall is already cracked and it must surely fall apart sooner or later.

If you have watched the movie "kingdom of heaven" there was a part before the way when the dying king and his sister the princess wanted a young man to marry the princess so he could become king and they will kill her husband because they knew he will bring war upon them if he is crowned king. The young man refused because he didn't want the princess's husbands blood on his hands. Then the queen told him something very simple "one day you will wish you did a little evil just to ensure a greater good".

What am I trying to say, it is better you test the water before marriage (do a little evil if you call it sin or bad) in other to strive for a life long marriage (to ensure a greater good).

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by Psalmspsalms: 12:57am On May 30, 2020
Do not be deceived. God can not be mocked. Seriously, you disappoint me... Something that's written black and white in the Bible. If u can't keep to bible standard, then pls don't mislead others.

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by MajorOvakporaye(f): 1:12am On May 30, 2020
sex is good

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by pek(m): 1:23am On May 30, 2020
@BobbyHammar
Your opinion. And it belongs in the trashcan.

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by VickyRotex(f): 1:35am On May 30, 2020
Mr. English Dictionary, welldone! So what is the definition of fornication?

I stopped reading at this point: "Many will say its fornication but they don't even know the true meaning of fornication as referred to in the bible"

Like are you for real? please scholar, what's the "true" meaning of fornication in the bible?

The fact that we go against some set rules/moral standards (and I'm talking in general here) doesn't justify our acts, neither does it change what is right.
It's even funny how you reference the other people living in the time of Mary. And so what? Because they engaged in pre-marital sex automatically means its not a sin? It's like saying because "sinners" existed in the time of Jesus and some even became His disciples, so believers should also keep sinning that Grace may abound.

I'm so happy you're ranting. you know why? its because you're being convicted for something you've done or planning to do. You just dont know it. There are different phases in conviction, so dont worry, you're getting there.


And it's so funny you say African mentality? really? is that what you were told? cheesy because a lot of foreign churches actually preach marriage and purity. maybe you should make more research on that and expand your knowledge.

I understand if I'm having this conversation with an atheist, but if as a "believer" like you claimed you are, you dont see fornication in the bible the way it is clearly defined, then I dont know what to say to you.

And please don't bring up the "let he who is without sin" card. There's a difference between admitting/acknowledging one's sin vs being ignorant about it and defending it at all cost.

Btw, please dont quote me. Cos even if you do, I wont be responding to any quote on this thread.

Selah!

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by peropoliet(m): 3:05am On May 30, 2020
VickyRotex:
Mr. English Dictionary, welldone! So what is the definition of fornication?

I stopped reading at this point: "Many will say its fornication but they don't even know the true meaning of fornication as referred to in the bible"

Like are you real? please scholar, what's the "true" meaning of fornication in the bible?

The fact that we go against some set rules/morale standards (and I'm talking in general here) doesn't justify our acts, neither does it change what is right.
It's even funny how you reference the other people living in the time of Mary. And so what? Because they engaged in pre-marital sex automatically means its not a sin? It's like saying because "sinners" existed in the time of Jesus and some even became His disciples, so believers should also keep sinning that Grace may abound.

I'm so happy you're ranting. you know why? its because you're being convicted for something you've done or planning to do. You just dont know it. There are different phases in conviction, so dont worry, you're getting there.


And it's so funny you say African mentality? really? is that what you were told? cheesy because a lot of foreign churches actually preach marriage and purity. maybe you should make more research on that and expand your knowledge.

I understand if I'm having this conversation with an atheist, but if as a "believer" like you claimed you are, you dont see fornication in the bible the way it is clearly defined, then I dont know what to say to you.

And please don't bring up the "let he who is without sin" card. There's a difference between admitting/acknowledging one's sin vs being ignorant about it and defending it at all cost.

Btw, please dont quote me. Cos even if you do, I wont be responding to any quote on this thread.

Selah!
thanks a lot even if jesus come and preach to youth about fornication they wont listen

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by Olunmercy56(f): 4:03am On May 30, 2020
What is good for you might be ba for me, the best thing is TRUST

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by Bola146(f): 4:31am On May 30, 2020
grin grin grin Op are you sure? Let me read comments

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by Westernlove: 4:42am On May 30, 2020
habsydiamond:
i will only say one thing.. No sex without marriage is like buying okrika for market without testing if it fits you. if e no size when u get home what will u do other than to discard it. thats what ends most no sex b4 marriage... divorce ni oo

Guy.....You don tey for this Parole lol....

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by Tallesty1(m): 7:29am On May 30, 2020
What the poster is saying in essence is that all the married people who had sex before marriage are all happy in their marriage while those who waited till after marriage either divorce before their first anniversary or live unhappily in the marriage till they die.

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by Masterclass32: 8:21am On May 30, 2020
Sex is meant for married couples. Any sexual gratification outside of marriage is sin.

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by CAPSLOCKED: 8:30am On May 30, 2020
Tallesty1:
What the poster is saying in essence is that all the married people who had sex before marriage are all happy in their marriage while those who waited till after marriage either divorce before their first anniversary or live unhappily in the marriage till they die.

VERY USELESS THREAD I SAY.

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by habsydiamond(m): 8:55am On May 30, 2020
Westernlove:


Guy.....You don tey for this Parole lol....
not like that now... to some people its just an avenue to hide some deficiencies till after marriage. thats why some guys would impregnate their girlfriends before they propose or marry. i no fit blame them because everything don dey turn audio these days.

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by FromZeroToHero(m): 9:09am On May 30, 2020
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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by dmgr(m): 9:44am On May 30, 2020
Marriage weh no go out no go work out, sex before marriage still remains a sin.
So what u re saying is one should sample his/her partner to see if they re sexually compatible? what if it turns out they re not compatible, then break should follow,then u will search for another partner and still sample, and that is how u will keep sampling people daughters all the name of am looking for the one am sexually compatible with before u know u don sample reach 10.

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by Ayemileto(m): 9:46am On May 30, 2020
Chai!

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by LordIsaac(m): 9:55am On May 30, 2020
We know what the Bible says... We know what the flesh dictates... And we know that in the Social Sciences, issues like this are a matter of perspectives such as abortion. wink

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by Stephenmoka4(m): 9:56am On May 30, 2020
Many tested the waters and puts the other in trouble

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by Stephenmoka4(m): 9:57am On May 30, 2020
Is fornication is a moral act.

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Re: No Sex Before Marriage Is A Scam by Nobody: 9:58am On May 30, 2020
The one who took the devil's key from the op and bind his lion's mouth and trample upon his adder's head is VickyRotex. With her flawless reply, she holds the key of this thread already.. Nothing more to say.

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