Dear Genevieve,

My name is.... doesn't matter. A question was asked by a guy if there is any guy that has been molested or raped. Immediately I saw the question I knew it was triggered by your post on twitter. Yes, I know you were raped by a "man" and that figure (men) hunts you till date. Well, sorry!

RAPE IS BAD REGARDLESS OF THE GENDER OF THE RAPIST.

To answer that guy's question, Yes, I've been molested and even at a tender age. I was 7 years old when it first happened. She was a friend of the family and I had no understanding of what was going on. The act repeated itself again but with another lady, multiple times with this one until I finally had the courage to threaten her that I was going to tell my elder sister. That was how it ended but my episodes didnt end there as I was molested again less than a year later by a very close friend of the family who happened to be a guy. I had so much hate for him, but I'm better now. All of these happened when I was between 7 - 10 years.

Am I to hate all men and women because of what happened? Should I call every man and woman out there, "Paedophiles"? Well, I dont let that experience define the way I see women/men neither do I blame everyone of them like Genevieve is doing right now. The world is not a bed of Roses, there are "wolves in sheep clothing amongst SHEEP." Yes, there are bad people (men and women) in every facet of life pretending to be good. Though we have pretenders, we also have people that are actually good.

Dear Genevieves, rapist has no specific gender. The act "Rape" is bad and inhumane not the gender.

I truly hope this gets to you, Genevieve, someday, soonest if possible so you can truly educate your followers.

Ok, bye!
Amb. Genie

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Every sane person knows that rape is very bad and inhumane.
When a woman is raped,everywhere is on fire,even some men selling out there senses and accusing all male as rapist.
But when a guy is raped, the narrative change !
You're even mocked and ridiculed for saying you're raped !
So pathetic and disgusting !
Rape on both genders should be treated with equal emotions and attention .
Even these very thread,you're going to see how both males and females will avoid it like a plague.
Guys,society don't and will never value you. Get that into your head !
Men's plague may be considered and looked into after those of dogs,pigs,birds,furnitures, roads has been fully attended to !
That's how much society deem you useful.

Cellenero:
Every sane person knows that rape is very bad and inhumane.
When a woman is raped,everywhere is on fire,even some men selling out there senses and accusing all male as rapist.
But when a guy is raped, the narrative change !
You're even mocked and ridiculed for saying you're raped !
So pathetic and disgusting !
Rape on both genders should be treated with equal emotions and attention .

EXACTLY

Rape is not gender specific. Most male child at some point in their life had been victimized. Lack of self esteem is the core reason why most men couldn't speak out after such encounter. This is the reason why am avoiding some female friends like COVID19. If you can fight it out of their hands, they'll tag you "small boy" while your fellow male will join in calling you such name(s). Playing hard to ridicule and body shame you.
May God deliver us all from the hands of rapists, irrespective of our gender.

Hmmm...
Ok, it's alright, we will see where all these would end, since she called all men rapists let us watch how she will fight for justice for the girl without the help if the men she labelled rapists.

You dey answer person wey never marry @ 40. She has been heartbroken several times by men. Same with her friend, Rita in the movie industry.

You won't hear Omotola say all these nonsense cos she's happily married.

Frustrated and heartbroken women always look for avenues to accuse men. There so many frustrated female OAPs who pick up issues like this with relish.

MhizJoyce:
You dey answer person wey never marry @ 40. She has been heartbroken several times by men. Same with her friend, Rita in the movie industry.

You won't hear Omotola say all these nonsense cos she's happily married.

Frustrated and heartbroken women always look for avenues to accuse men. There so many frustrated female OAPs who pick up issues like this with relish.

You just talk am as it is.

futurerex:
Rape is not gender specific. Most male child at some point in their life had been victimized. Lack of self esteem is the core reason why most men couldn't speak out after such encounter. This is the reason why am avoiding some female friends like COVID19. If you can fight it out of their hands, they'll tag you "small boy" while your fellow male will join in calling you such name(s). Playing hard to ridicule and body shame you.
May God deliver us all from the hands of rapists, irrespective of our gender.

What most of them dont know or wont acknowledge is the fact that a man/guy/Male child cant even speak up because of the way the society will ridicule him.

When a boy was raped to death in Warri, nobody heard the news. When a young man was blackmailed into having sex with an elderly woman (church woman o), nobody heard the story. Why? Maybe because nobody will take them serious or better still.

#RAPE IS AN ACT AND IT IS NOT RESTRICTED TO ANY GENDER

How Gene go con see this one now

I don't even know how at a time like this some called "men" are still trying to make this about themselves. Pls who trained you?

Rape is different from molestation. If they were the same thing there wouldn't be two different words for them. Women are molested on a regular, majority of girls are molested at one point in their lives or another but that is not even the issue on ground.

The issue right now is RAPE, how many victims of molestation are killed? Rape is carried out with so much anger and force that the perpetrator can often harm the victim, does this happen to victims of molestation? How many of you "men" that were molested where killed or injured during the incident.

Men need to do better, instead of whining and being attention seekers, be the stronger vessels that God created you to be and protect women. What goes around comes around, if you dont stand up for others in their time of need dont be surprised when no one stands up for you.

on point

Kyom20:
I don't even know how at a time like this some called "men" are still trying to make this about themselves. Pls who trained you?

Rape is different from molestation. If they were the same thing there wouldn't be two different words for them. Women are molested on a regular, majority of girls are molested at one point in their lives or another but that is not even the issue on ground.

The issue right now is RAPE, how many victims of molestation are killed? Rape is carried out with so much anger and force that the perpetrator can often harm the victim, does this happen to victims of molestation? How many of you "men" that were molested where killed or injured during the incident.

Men need to do better, instead of whining and being attention seekers, be the stronger vessels that God created you to be and protect women. What goes around comes around, if you dont stand up for others in their time of need dont be surprised when no one stands up for you.

What most of them dont know or wont acknowledge is the fact that a man/guy/Male child cant even speak up because of the way the society will ridicule him.

When a boy was raped to death in Warri, nobody heard the news. Did you hear about it?

When a young man was blackmailed into having sex with an elderly woman (church woman o), nobody heard the story. Why? Maybe because nobody will take him serious

#RAPE IS AN ACT AND IT IS NOT RESTRICTED TO ANY GENDER

ecstasy357:
Dear Genevieve,

My name is.... doesn't matter. A question was asked by a guy if there is any guy that has been molested or raped. Immediately I saw the question I knew it was triggered by your post on twitter. Yes, I know you were raped by a "man" and that figure (men) hunts you till date. Well, sorry!

RAPE IS BAD REGARDLESS OF THE GENDER OF THE RAPIST.

To answer that guy's question, Yes, I've been molested and even at a tender age. I was 7 years old when it first happened. She was a friend of the family and I had no understanding of what was going on. The act repeated itself again but with another lady, multiple times with this one until I finally had the courage to threaten her that I was going to tell my elder sister. That was how it ended but my episodes didnt end there as I was molested again less than a year later by a very close friend of the family who happened to be a guy. I had so much hate for him, but I'm better now. All of these happened when I was between 7 - 10 years.

Am I to hate all men and women because of what happened? Should I call every man and woman out there, "Paedophiles"? Well, I dont let that experience define the way I see women/men neither do I blame everyone of them like Genevieve is doing right now. The world is not a bed of Roses, there are "wolves in sheep clothing amongst SHEEP." Yes, there are bad people (men and women) in every facet of life pretending to be good. Though we have pretenders, we also have people that are actually good.

Dear Genevieves, rapist has no specific gender. The act "Rape" is bad and inhumane not the gender.

I truly hope this gets to you, Genevieve, someday, soonest if possible so you can truly educate your followers.

Ok, bye!
Amb. Genie

This is educating the people especially women who have become men haters and preach same on account of their sad experience with a man or two.
Great job Sir.

ecstasy357:


What most of them dont know or wont acknowledge is the fact that a man/guy/Male child cant even speak up because of the way the society will ridicule him.

When a boy was raped to death in Warri, nobody heard the news. Did you hear about it?

When a young man was blackmailed into having sex with an elderly woman (church woman o), nobody heard the story. Why? Maybe because nobody will take him serious

#RAPE IS AN ACT AND IT IS NOT RESTRICTED TO ANY GENDER

These your "cases" are one in how many? Under normal circumstances how many women can rape a man? And in turn how many men cant rape a woman if they want to? Naturally women are not as strong to defend themselves against these attacks. Thats what makes theirs more sensitive.

Dyu know the generation upon generation of torture and abuse women have seen at the hands of men that makes them angry with men? Men dont see half of it, so why try to drag popularity with people who have been through so much.

But like I said earlier now isn't the time to be hustling for attention but instead stand up for the cause at hand. Then when it blows over you can make ur own cause trend.

Kyom20:

These your "cases" are one in how many? [/b]Under normal circumstances how many women can rape a man? And in turn how many men cant rape a woman if they want to? Naturally women are not as strong to defend themselves against these attacks. Thats what makes theirs more sensitive.

[b]Dyu know the generation upon generation of torture and abuse women have seen at the hands of men that makes them angry with men? Men dont see half of it, so why try to drag popularity with people who have been through so much.

But like I said earlier now isn't the time to be hustling for attention but instead stand up for the cause at hand. Then when it blows over you can make ur own cause trend.

When people like you keep trivialising Male victims, you will never know the true number or the way they've been affected.

I AM NOT ON A POPULARITY CONTEST WITH ANYONE. ALL I'M SAYING IS... THEY SHOULD TREAT THE ACT, "RAPE" AS A CRIME AND NOT THE GENDER.

I believe you were here on Nairaland earlier this year when someone committed suicide because he was accused of rape, "a crime he didnt commit". You read about it, didnt you? Not every man would be as lucky as Joseph from the Bible.

Do you see what I am saying?

Writing epistles never solved anything in life. If such worked then Nairaland would become the yardstick when setting standards for governance. Lawmakers need to create rules to counter these evil vices in the environment, without that we shall continue writing letters back and forth for decades to come.

ecstasy357:



When people like you keep trivialising Male victims, you will never know the true number or the way they've been affected.

I AM NOT ON A POPULARITY CONTEST WITH ANYONE. ALL I'M SAYING IS... THEY SHOULD TREAT THE ACT, "RAPE" AS A CRIME AND NOT THE GENDER.

I believe you were here on Nairaland earlier this year when someone committed suicide because he was accused of rape, "a crime he didnt commit". You read about it, didnt you? Not every man would be as lucky as Joseph from the Bible.

Do you see what I am saying?

You are deviating to something else now. Stay on track, false accusations are not limited to rape cases.

As an adult male how many women can rape you? A woman is at risk for rape from the day shes born till the day she dies. Men are often stronger than women, nature has made it so. What does that tell you? That you should help protect those who are at greater risk.

No one is trivialising anything, what am saying is you should man up and stop seeking attention at a time like this.

Kyom20:

You are deviating to something else now. Stay on track, false accusations are not limited to rape cases.

As an adult male how many women can rape you? A woman is at risk for rape from the day shes born till the day she dies. Men are often stronger than women, nature has made it so. What does that tell you? That you should help protect those who are at greater risk.

No one is trivialising anything, what am saying is you should man up and stop seeking attention at a time like this.

Shut up, he is talking about male rape, if you don't like it go and talk about female rape, everyone is fighting for their gender. Get lost ignoramus.

meobizy:
Writing epistles never solved anything in life. If such worked then Nairaland would become the yardstick when setting standards for governance. Lawmakers need to create rules to counter these evil vices in the environment without that we shall continue writing letters back and forth for decades to come.

I completely agree but what I don't agree with is when they call every man a potential rapist.

Or are u a potential rapist?

Kyom20:

You are deviating to something else now. Stay on track, false accusations are not limited to rape cases.

As an adult male how many women can rape you? A woman is at risk for rape from the day shes born till the day she dies. Men are often stronger than women, nature has made it so. What does that tell you? That you should help protect those who are at greater risk.

No one is trivialising anything, what am saying is you should man up and stop seeking attention at a time like this.

I have one question for you, dear sir... Genevieve and her followers are calling every man a potential rapist, are you a potential rapist?

ecstasy357:


I have one question for you, dear sir... Genevieve and her followers are calling every man a potential rapist, are you a potential rapist?

Dats where you step in and fight the suggested stereotype not trying to play d victim card. Wheres ur pride as a man?

U might as well go n start saying dat while they have menstrual cramps u also experience blue balls.

LedRock:
Shut up, he is talking about male rape, if you don't like it go and talk about female rape, everyone is fighting for their gender. Get lost ignoramus.

Keep fighting 4 ur gender. Defender of men
I hope when any female close to you experiences rape u also comfort her by telling her dat men experience same. Mtscheww

Kyom20:

Keep fighting 4 ur gender. Defender of men
I hope when any female close to you experiences rape u also comfort her by telling her dat men experience same. Mtscheww

Yes, let her go and meet a female to complain to, at least all men have been labelled rapists or potential rapists, I am only concerned about male rape. You can slam your head on the wall if you like.

ecstasy357:
Dear Genevieve,

My name is.... doesn't matter. A question was asked by a guy if there is any guy that has been molested or raped. Immediately I saw the question I knew it was triggered by your post on twitter. Yes, I know you were raped by a "man" and that figure (men) hunts you till date. Well, sorry!

RAPE IS BAD REGARDLESS OF THE GENDER OF THE RAPIST.

To answer that guy's question, Yes, I've been molested and even at a tender age. I was 7 years old when it first happened. She was a friend of the family and I had no understanding of what was going on. The act repeated itself again but with another lady, multiple times with this one until I finally had the courage to threaten her that I was going to tell my elder sister. That was how it ended but my episodes didnt end there as I was molested again less than a year later by a very close friend of the family who happened to be a guy. I had so much hate for him, but I'm better now. All of these happened when I was between 7 - 10 years.

Am I to hate all men and women because of what happened? Should I call every man and woman out there, "Paedophiles"? Well, I dont let that experience define the way I see women/men neither do I blame everyone of them like Genevieve is doing right now. The world is not a bed of Roses, there are "wolves in sheep clothing amongst SHEEP." Yes, there are bad people (men and women) in every facet of life pretending to be good. Though we have pretenders, we also have people that are actually good.

Dear Genevieve, rape has no specific gender. The act "Rape" is bad and inhumane not the gender.

I truly hope this gets to you, Genevieve, someday, soonest if possible so you can truly educate your followers.

Ok, bye!
Amb. Genie

Dear OP, you have no idea what Genevieve meant.

Everyone knows rape is not gender specific. I don't want to say much, but answer this question honestly;

when walking home alone at night, do you get scared when you see a lone woman either in front or behind you? Or do you get scared when you're about to enter a public bus at night, with only the driver and two women sitting at the back seat?

You might answer yes or No, both answers are valid

Ask this same questions to 100 men, and you will get some that say "No" they're not scared.

Ask this same question to your sister, daughter, mother or female relatives and hear their response. Ask this Same question to 100 Nigerian women, and compare their response to yours.

Then and only then will you understand why Genevieve and other women say what they say.

All men are not rapists, everyone knows women rape young boys everyday.
But I can walk down my street by 2am and only be scared of police or thieves.
But a woman walking along by 2am, will be scared of the man beside her.
At that point, it doesn't matter if the man is a rapist or not. It doesn't matter if he can't hurt a fly. He doesn't need to have preek sef, by virtue of being a man, the woman should be scared.

This does not happen in Nigeria alone, it happens worldwide, ask foreign women the same question and they will give you the same answer. But it is worse in Nigeria for some reason, and we need to tackle it, not raise counter arguments like you're doing.

ecstasy357:


I have one question for you, dear sir... Genevieve and her followers are calling every man a potential rapist, are you a potential rapist?

Haba! Make we dey talk true na, guy. Rape na serious issue.

She said women live in constant fear of men, which is very true.

If I say I live in constant fear of SARS, does that mean all SARS members will shoot me on sight? No! It simply means a SARS member is more likely to shoot me than a traffic warden. No be the same police them dey?

futurerex:
Rape is not gender specific. Most male child at some point in their life had been victimized. Lack of self esteem is the core reason why most men couldn't speak out after such encounter. This is the reason why am avoiding some female friends like COVID19. If you can fight it out of their hands, they'll tag you "small boy" while your fellow male will join in calling you such name(s). Playing hard to ridicule and body shame you.
May God deliver us all from the hands of rapists, irrespective of our gender

This is exactly what I've been saying

Why are topics like this not hitting front page is what I don't understand. Let's keep fighting for equality in the rendering of justice on rapist. Rape is rape

MRosario:


Haba! Make we dey talk true na, guy. Rape na serious issue.

She said women live in constant fear of men, which is very true

If I say I live in constant fear of SARS, does that mean all SARS members will shoot me on sight? No! It simply means a SARS member is more likely to shoot me than a traffic warden. No be the same police them dey?

The women around you are in constant fear of you!

Be objective please... Chimamanda is also a feminist, one I respect a lot. Go here her speak

Rape is not gender selective, the male gender is also molested but tries to keep it to himself because he knows the society that breeds him won't accept such claims..Rape shouldn't be condone in any part of the society, Rapists deserved not to be pardoned for their mischievous.... no to rape...

MRosario:


Dear OP, you have no idea what Genevieve meant.

Everyone knows rape is not gender specific. I don't want to say much, but answer this question honestly;

when walking home alone at night, do you get scared when you see a lone woman either in front or behind you? Or do you get scared when you're about to enter a public bus at night, with only the driver and two women sitting at the back seat?

You might answer yes or No, both answers are valid

Ask this same questions to 100 men, and you will get some that say "No" they're not scared.

Ask this same question to your sister, daughter, mother or female relatives and hear their response. Ask this Same question to 100 Nigerian women, and compare their response to yours.

Then and only then will you understand why Genevieve and other women say what they say.

All men are not rapists, everyone knows women rape young boys everyday.
But I can walk down my street by 2am and only be scared of police or thieves.
But a woman walking along by 2am, will be scared of the man beside her
At that point, it doesn't matter if the man is a rapist or not. It doesn't matter if he can't hurt a fly. He doesn't need to have preek sef, by virtue of being a man, the woman should be scared.

This does not happen in Nigeria alone, it happens worldwide, ask foreign women the same question and they will give you the same answer. But it is worse in Nigeria for some reason, and we need to tackle it, not raise counter arguments like you're doing.

Your points are valid. Maybe what you are saying is what Genevieve meant but that's not the understanding most of our girls got from it.

As true as @bold is, let's not forget that in that same situation they run to men for cover. If you've not experienced it, I have. Are they really scared of all men?

Again, if what you're saying is what she meant, let her re-educate her followers and clarify this misconception