jansonn:
Chai, this life!! And me dey find girl I can discuss politics, nature, medicine and all that intellectual sturvs and all the girls I meet are as dumb as a chicken only Instagram and billing, even the fashion they claim they know and the movies they watch, they can't identify Sylvester stallion, they still call him Rambo for goodness sakes!! Let's chat pls, am really sapiosexual and am done with these "pretty" girls

Stallone

I guess u are type that raise discussion like question or argument, still the same to hold grip to your answer.... Hence, u conceive ur partner not intelligent Cuz he avoid prolong chat with u...He is simply avoiding u for ur backlash on that.

Believe me or not, the guy reads you.

He is just been patience & respectful not to jam you with anger.

Generally, guys enjoys discussion briefly not in details as Ladies often want....

Snipespeter:
This life self, you try to hold a meaningful conversation with your girlfriend she will say that you are claiming you know it all.
You keep quiet for peace to reign, they say you are not smart. I tire oh

My brother, I just weak myself...

Amanee:
He's probably not interested in the things you're interested in. The relationship is still young and there's time for the both of you to adjust to each other.

Nobody comes ready-made and relationships are hardwork. For youths nowadays, it's easy to see a couple in sync with each other and say 'goals, God when?' Etc. Forgetting that such relationship had a lot invested aside 'I love you' and sex.

Don't be overly conscious of trying to change him in this aspect if not you'll get frustrated. Give it time and try to learn his own interests too.

See a bright lady with brain.

Can you imagine how confused they are.

Snipespeter:
This life self, you try to hold a meaningful conversation with your girlfriend she will say that you are claiming you know it all.
You keep quiet for peace to reign, they say you are not smart. I tire oh

temperament are not the same

Iamgrey5:
Don't mind the boy

hmm I don't have anyone on Nairaland now

Lol...



Better o

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Ybaby:


I agree with you.....

What I am saying is that, the smart and brilliant lady most times is not the love of his life ( She maybe his wife) she is not the girl of his dreams, she does not make him beg, she is his ladder, his bob da builder, his rope to climb up, his dictionary, his map to success, what he can afford for now, his ride or die - she is many things but not the "love of his life"

He will NOT go out of his way for her - infact he will complain about feeding her - he wants her to pay for him being with her (bills) but when he meets the girl of his dreams he will toil for her, he will not use logic with her, he will provide for her

That is why these disillusioned women when they realised they have been scammed and thier "loving" husband who they feed, cloth and house has impregnated one village girl who he is clothing, housing and feeding they are extremely confused and make excuses for him.

Thier ego cannot take the fact that they are not his woman - they are the smart brilliant investor and that don't make a diickk hard. PERIOD!

she is the one who will say men are mean or scum when he is finished with her


The love of his life will say he is a good man, a great provider, a real man.

The ladder's sweat will be used to care for the love of his life and her kids.

Look around you before you reply me ........

Madam, are you married?

No offence. Text eternally fails to convey the intended tone.

Why don't you just dump him like a piece of rag since he's not intelligent and probably look for the intelligent one who sweet tongue you with things that fantasize you...
This like sef...smh

FlordFlorez:
No human is perfect. The bests are just near perfection. Even u urself isn't perfect. Just take that as his weakness and focus on areas where he's better. U can as well help him grow in that area u mentioned.

Good input

jansonn:
Chai, this life!! And me dey find girl I can discuss politics, nature, medicine and all that intellectual sturvs and all the girls I meet are as dumb as a chicken only Instagram and billing, even the fashion they claim they know and the movies they watch, they can't identify Sylvester stallion, they still call him Rambo for goodness sakes!! Let's chat pls, am really sapiosexual and am done with these "pretty" girls

inside life

Karlifate:

Damn!
I'm loving you already.

Tell him to buy the latest smart phone.

cynosuree:
Good morning. This issue has been bothering me for a long time, and I feel like it's too sensitive to ask for second opinions from people I know so I figured I'd maybe ask some strangers on the internet.

I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now and he's everything I ever wanted in a man. Physically, he's gorgeous, and he also loves me alot. He's kind, he's patient, communicates effectively and all. You know, all the good stuff.

But here's the problem, he cannot hold a conversation beyond "what are you doing" , "what did you eat" (and all that boring stuff) to save his life. I'm not even talking about intellectual conversations like quantum theory or anything, normal conversations about stuff that's happening around the world or around us. Anytime we try to, it usually fails spectacularly. He either ends up missing the ENTIRE point and saying something totally unrelated, or he just waits for me to say what I think so he can go "Yeeaaaa that's true" , leaving me really pissed.


He has absolutely NOTHING intelligent to contribute to any serious conversation, and this hurts me alot because it is a HUGE turn off and I'm slowly losing interest in him. It's a very tricky situation because he does/did well academically, he graduated with very good grades but that's about it...nothing more. I didn't notice it at first - before we started dating, or I would never have dated him because it is a deal breaker for me.

I have considered telling him but I don't exactly know how to approach the conversation without being rude/insensitive, I know telling him would really hurt him and I don't want that. I've also thought about learning how to live with it, because no one is perfect right? Maybe I'm asking for too much?

The latter option is what I've been doing and it's gradually killing me. I fear that I'll fall out of love completely with him and end up hating myself for ruining a good thing, because he's a really good guy .

I'd like to know what you think

Hope you know that is one quality that might not develop In him again. That's who he is. He might just be another triangular student that's why he did well academically.

And here you are wanting him to be able to discuss what covid-19 is, the effect on the world economy; how Ben Carson seperated the first Siamese Twins or how Awolowo, Ahmadu Bello fought for independence. That's a rocket science .

Since it is a huge turn off for you, don't even advise him to change. And don't ever think you can manage that. It will come back to haunt the relationship/marriage. You might use it to abuse him at any given opportunity.

Also, men like that are mostly weak. Can't handle women. They soon turn to what Yoruba will say "Won ti fi Ori e gba paaro- a weak man that yes that falls for anything from a woman; who has no standpoint.

Your best bet is to break up with him. Dont patch it.

cynosuree:
Good morning. This issue has been bothering me for a long time, and I feel like it's too sensitive to ask for second opinions from people I know so I figured I'd maybe ask some strangers on the internet.

I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now and he's everything I ever wanted in a man. Physically, he's gorgeous, and he also loves me alot. He's kind, he's patient, communicates effectively and all. You know, all the good stuff.

But here's the problem, he cannot hold a conversation beyond "what are you doing" , "what did you eat" (and all that boring stuff) to save his life. I'm not even talking about intellectual conversations like quantum theory or anything, normal conversations about stuff that's happening around the world or around us. Anytime we try to, it usually fails spectacularly. He either ends up missing the ENTIRE point and saying something totally unrelated, or he just waits for me to say what I think so he can go "Yeeaaaa that's true" , leaving me really pissed.


He has absolutely NOTHING intelligent to contribute to any serious conversation, and this hurts me alot because it is a HUGE turn off and I'm slowly losing interest in him. It's a very tricky situation because he does/did well academically, he graduated with very good grades but that's about it...nothing more. I didn't notice it at first - before we started dating, or I would never have dated him because it is a deal breaker for me.

I have considered telling him but I don't exactly know how to approach the conversation without being rude/insensitive, I know telling him would really hurt him and I don't want that. I've also thought about learning how to live with it, because no one is perfect right? Maybe I'm asking for too much?

The latter option is what I've been doing and it's gradually killing me. I fear that I'll fall out of love completely with him and end up hating myself for ruining a good thing, because he's a really good guy .

I'd like to know what you think

I'm so sorry about your situation.

I know that feeling.

In fact, it is the major reason why I haven't allowed myself to fall in love with any woman up till now.

I always enjoy having lots and lots of interesting and enlightening conversations but once I discover that the girl I am with knows next to nothing about anything in this life apart from the basic marriage this, marriage that relationship talk, it just kills my spirit.

It gets even worse when the babe is quite pretty and then you discover that she doesn't even know the full meaning of ATM or BBC or that she cannot name up to 10 West African countries and their capitals or that she has not read a novel in the past five years or that she can't even do simple arithmetic!

What I normally do when I find myself in such a situation is just to simply move on.

Well, for us guys, moving onto the next one is kinda easier, I know.

So I'd advise you to see if you can encourage your guy to become more versatile and interested in what is going on around the world. You can even start challenging him by throwing random facts and current affairs questions at him just to see if he's really interested in improving on his knowledge.

Let him know that such things really do excite and keep you interested.

But if you find out that he's just too _dull and his situation is beyond help, then you might consider dropping him and moving on with your life.

At least, if not for anything, the God of Sapiosexuals will understand why you did that!

Sorry.

cynosuree:
Good morning. This issue has been bothering me for a long time, and I feel like it's too sensitive to ask for second opinions from people I know so I figured I'd maybe ask some strangers on the internet.

I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now and he's everything I ever wanted in a man. Physically, he's gorgeous, and he also loves me alot. He's kind, he's patient, communicates effectively and all. You know, all the good stuff.

But here's the problem, he cannot hold a conversation beyond "what are you doing" , "what did you eat" (and all that boring stuff) to save his life. I'm not even talking about intellectual conversations like quantum theory or anything, normal conversations about stuff that's happening around the world or around us. Anytime we try to, it usually fails spectacularly. He either ends up missing the ENTIRE point and saying something totally unrelated, or he just waits for me to say what I think so he can go "Yeeaaaa that's true" , leaving me really pissed.


He has absolutely NOTHING intelligent to contribute to any serious conversation, and this hurts me alot because it is a HUGE turn off and I'm slowly losing interest in him. It's a very tricky situation because he does/did well academically, he graduated with very good grades but that's about it...nothing more. I didn't notice it at first - before we started dating, or I would never have dated him because it is a deal breaker for me.

I have considered telling him but I don't exactly know how to approach the conversation without being rude/insensitive, I know telling him would really hurt him and I don't want that. I've also thought about learning how to live with it, because no one is perfect right? Maybe I'm asking for too much?

The latter option is what I've been doing and it's gradually killing me. I fear that I'll fall out of love completely with him and end up hating myself for ruining a good thing, because he's a really good guy .

I'd like to know what you think

Damn I like ladies like you! So smart. I am attracted to you already lol. Now if you can live with it without it causing problems for you, then overlook it. But if you can't, it's best you walk away now that it's still early. I totally understand this feeling. Being with someone who can't hold conversations is a deal breaker for me.

But if you are just realizing this because there is someone else in in the picture then, I'd advise you to stay, the feeling will fade off.

cynosuree:
Good morning. This issue has been bothering me for a long time, and I feel like it's too sensitive to ask for second opinions from people I know so I figured I'd maybe ask some strangers on the internet.

I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now and he's everything I ever wanted in a man. Physically, he's gorgeous, and he also loves me alot. He's kind, he's patient, communicates effectively and all. You know, all the good stuff.

But here's the problem, he cannot hold a conversation beyond "what are you doing" , "what did you eat" (and all that boring stuff) to save his life. I'm not even talking about intellectual conversations like quantum theory or anything, normal conversations about stuff that's happening around the world or around us. Anytime we try to, it usually fails spectacularly. He either ends up missing the ENTIRE point and saying something totally unrelated, or he just waits for me to say what I think so he can go "Yeeaaaa that's true" , leaving me really pissed.


He has absolutely NOTHING intelligent to contribute to any serious conversation, and this hurts me alot because it is a HUGE turn off and I'm slowly losing interest in him. It's a very tricky situation because he does/did well academically, he graduated with very good grades but that's about it...nothing more. I didn't notice it at first - before we started dating, or I would never have dated him because it is a deal breaker for me.

I have considered telling him but I don't exactly know how to approach the conversation without being rude/insensitive, I know telling him would really hurt him and I don't want that. I've also thought about learning how to live with it, because no one is perfect right? Maybe I'm asking for too much?

The latter option is what I've been doing and it's gradually killing me. I fear that I'll fall out of love completely with him and end up hating myself for ruining a good thing, because he's a really good guy .

I'd like to know what you think

I've been looking for a girl like you for years. It's not easy. I've only dated girls that are not 30% my intellectual capability. Nothing is as sexy as an intelligent woman.

Oblitz:


I've been looking for a girl like you for years. It's not easy. I've only dated girls that are not 30% my intellectual capability. Nothing is as sexy as an intelligent woman.

Another zawo has commented....

cynosuree:
Good morning. This issue has been bothering me for a long time, and I feel like it's too sensitive to ask for second opinions from people I know so I figured I'd maybe ask some strangers on the internet.

I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now and he's everything I ever wanted in a man. Physically, he's gorgeous, and he also loves me alot. He's kind, he's patient, communicates effectively and all. You know, all the good stuff.

But here's the problem, he cannot hold a conversation beyond "what are you doing" , "what did you eat" (and all that boring stuff) to save his life. I'm not even talking about intellectual conversations like quantum theory or anything, normal conversations about stuff that's happening around the world or around us. Anytime we try to, it usually fails spectacularly. He either ends up missing the ENTIRE point and saying something totally unrelated, or he just waits for me to say what I think so he can go "Yeeaaaa that's true" , leaving me really pissed.


He has absolutely NOTHING intelligent to contribute to any serious conversation, and this hurts me alot because it is a HUGE turn off and I'm slowly losing interest in him. It's a very tricky situation because he does/did well academically, he graduated with very good grades but that's about it...nothing more. I didn't notice it at first - before we started dating, or I would never have dated him because it is a deal breaker for me.

I have considered telling him but I don't exactly know how to approach the conversation without being rude/insensitive, I know telling him would really hurt him and I don't want that. I've also thought about learning how to live with it, because no one is perfect right? Maybe I'm asking for too much?

The latter option is what I've been doing and it's gradually killing me. I fear that I'll fall out of love completely with him and end up hating myself for ruining a good thing, because he's a really good guy .

I'd like to know what you think

Your self proclaimed problem has a solution
...
Tell ur guy to visit nairaland every day...
There is virtually nothing that I don't know about everything happening around me....
This platform is a big deal at least

AfroKnight:



Madam, are you married?

No offence. Text eternally fails to convey the intended tone.

Why do you ask sir?

illicit:
I don't see any problem here

Exactly!

cynosuree:
Good morning. This issue has been bothering me for a long time, and I feel like it's too sensitive to ask for second opinions from people I know so I figured I'd maybe ask some strangers on the internet.

I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now and he's everything I ever wanted in a man. Physically, he's gorgeous, and he also loves me alot. He's kind, he's patient, communicates effectively and all. You know, all the good stuff.

But here's the problem, he cannot hold a conversation beyond "what are you doing" , "what did you eat" (and all that boring stuff) to save his life. I'm not even talking about intellectual conversations like quantum theory or anything, normal conversations about stuff that's happening around the world or around us. Anytime we try to, it usually fails spectacularly. He either ends up missing the ENTIRE point and saying something totally unrelated, or he just waits for me to say what I think so he can go "Yeeaaaa that's true" , leaving me really pissed.


He has absolutely NOTHING intelligent to contribute to any serious conversation, and this hurts me alot because it is a HUGE turn off and I'm slowly losing interest in him. It's a very tricky situation because he does/did well academically, he graduated with very good grades but that's about it...nothing more. I didn't notice it at first - before we started dating, or I would never have dated him because it is a deal breaker for me.

I have considered telling him but I don't exactly know how to approach the conversation without being rude/insensitive, I know telling him would really hurt him and I don't want that. I've also thought about learning how to live with it, because no one is perfect right? Maybe I'm asking for too much?

The latter option is what I've been doing and it's gradually killing me. I fear that I'll fall out of love completely with him and end up hating myself for ruining a good thing, because he's a really good guy .

I'd like to know what you think

Someone is sapiosexual. Just let go of him. I know that feeling . Find someone close to or on your level.
P.S I like u

Wait ooooo


Why are guys suddenly looking for intelligent ladies on this thread?

byemx06:


This life just know balance

At all.

Buy books for him on various subjects, compel him to read to them and also make sure you read them. Then you can have discussions about the books you read.

cynosuree:
Good morning. This issue has been bothering me for a long time, and I feel like it's too sensitive to ask for second opinions from people I know so I figured I'd maybe ask some strangers on the internet.

I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now and he's everything I ever wanted in a man. Physically, he's gorgeous, and he also loves me alot. He's kind, he's patient, communicates effectively and all. You know, all the good stuff.

But here's the problem, he cannot hold a conversation beyond "what are you doing" , "what did you eat" (and all that boring stuff) to save his life. I'm not even talking about intellectual conversations like quantum theory or anything, normal conversations about stuff that's happening around the world or around us. Anytime we try to, it usually fails spectacularly. He either ends up missing the ENTIRE point and saying something totally unrelated, or he just waits for me to say what I think so he can go "Yeeaaaa that's true" , leaving me really pissed.


He has absolutely NOTHING intelligent to contribute to any serious conversation, and this hurts me alot because it is a HUGE turn off and I'm slowly losing interest in him. It's a very tricky situation because he does/did well academically, he graduated with very good grades but that's about it...nothing more. I didn't notice it at first - before we started dating, or I would never have dated him because it is a deal breaker for me.

I have considered telling him but I don't exactly know how to approach the conversation without being rude/insensitive, I know telling him would really hurt him and I don't want that. I've also thought about learning how to live with it, because no one is perfect right? Maybe I'm asking for too much?

The latter option is what I've been doing and it's gradually killing me. I fear that I'll fall out of love completely with him and end up hating myself for ruining a good thing, because he's a really good guy .

I'd like to know what you think

The earlier you know that, 'this life no balance,' the better, Life becomes easier for you. There is no perfect somebody, i bet you, when you try to find a smarter person, there must be some deficiencies that he lacks that this your boo has to the fullest. What am i saying? Love conquereth all things, with love, talk to him about it in a subtle and lovely manner, he would be ready to learn and change. Talk to him at that moment when you two are catching cruise. TEACH HIM: Tell him; 'honey, this is how to do it, this is how to bring up discussions, this is how to keep a conversation going'.
(At first, his egoistical nature would rebuff (in)directly , but, in his solemn mode, he will try to learn what you taught him)

Buy the latest smart phone for him.

Nbote:
If he was smart enough to make U fall in luv with him den he's smart enough to b ur boyfriend.. Thing is U've found someone much more sociable dan he is and U are now beginning to see flaws.. If U have lost interest in the relationship jus waka pass and leave d young man alone

You just said it all

DIVINEEVIDENCE:




Sylvester Stallone.

Dogooders.

Chai!! This life eh

So many guys are like that ooo.

sosospence:
Exactly!

yeah.
Women will always want to change you to whatever they want as if u are not entitled to be yourself