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Re: Should The Man Pay It? by Unigweson25(m): 8:50am On Jun 16, 2020
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Sometimes I wonder how some women reason. It is in your hands as a wife to amend what your parents destroyed. You should not pour fuel more. Beside , help is not by force; and forceful help is not entitled to heavenly blessings. You should blame your own very brother for irresponsibility. Who feed them after marriage? Your husband? Allow the man to be.
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by Lakes1: 8:50am On Jun 16, 2020
Jezus Xrist....some ppl are very funny o. Ur hubby earns 70k monthly... From that 70k, he's going to pay house rent and so many other bills and u can't even help as u don't have a job for now....and ur folks ask him to cough out 120k...ppl shld fear God o..
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by Xbwavy100(m): 8:51am On Jun 16, 2020
When a man can't make money and get married there is no need for him to fault him self to get married because is not making sense at all
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by umarshehu58(m): 8:52am On Jun 16, 2020
Maybe if it was me, I kay be able to give them 20k sha
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by Djerrie(m): 8:54am On Jun 16, 2020
Mstick:
What kind of shameless family is this? Since your brother doesn't have money to sponsor his own wedding isn't it obvious that he shouldn't be getting married?!

Calling your husband irresponsible because he refused to bear your brother's responsibility shows that the entitled mentality of your family is hereditary.
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by buchai: 8:55am On Jun 16, 2020
woman please beg your husband to please borrow you some money to contribute in your brother's wedding that you will give him back give him that promise that you will pay him back, do not be angry with him that he didn't contribute rather be happy with him that you still borrow from him to contribute in your brother's wedding.
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by paix(m): 8:58am On Jun 16, 2020
rawpadgin:
Let me not type what's on my mind. Because it won't come out well
Try and type it well na.
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by Moneyboyz: 9:01am On Jun 16, 2020
The husband na mumu, I impregnated mine before going for any traditional stuff, they had to abide by my rules or keep their daughter.

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Re: Should The Man Pay It? by Ogbeniomo: 9:02am On Jun 16, 2020
sim37:




Please rephrase POVERTY DE BURY LOVE
Yes poverty is a big hindrance to Love ,with out rest of mind Love will be much limited and if u have experience poverty u will understand better, poverty can limit ur boldness to Love,it can make u shy to ur responsiblities, so when u are in ocean of poverty rest of mind will be far from u and when u don't have rest of mind u can mistaken Love to lust, and if u don't have Jesus poverty can kill love.
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by Nma3595: 9:05am On Jun 16, 2020
Babes ooooooo hmmmmm am a woman like you, I wedded last august and this your story eeeeh, first why will you allow your family to milk the man you love? I told my father that if you dont treat this man well, you will never see me again........forget me as your daughter.

You are not working? No business? in this 21st century......sis you better have a rethink.... do you think that its easy to feed someone? pay rent, buy clothes, do everything in the house, DO YOU WANT TO KILL HIM? then you will marry another man.....

Why will your hubby contribute to your brothers marriage? pls what did your brother do when your parents gave him the list of 680k? he did not talk because he has a cut there abi?

How did you even keep your mouth when you were telling him what your family discussed?

See there are things i dont even allow my hubby to hear from my people...i kill the talk first first with my parents...why should i kill him and become a widow......... you better sit up and look for something doing. shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked grin grin grin grin grin grin

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Re: Should The Man Pay It? by BABANGBALI: 9:06am On Jun 16, 2020
buchai:
[s]woman please beg your husband to please borrow you some money to contribute in your brother's wedding that you will give him back give him that promise that you will pay him back, do not be angry with him that he didn't contribute rather be happy with him that you still borrow from him to contribute in your brother's wedding[/s].
absolute trash
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by Ifebazz(m): 9:07am On Jun 16, 2020
Firstly, the wife is quite ungrateful. Her family too, are an ungrateful bunch of illiterates. Milking a young struggling man of N580k then expecting him to contribute to another man's travails is just plain stupidity. I love that dude (if actually he exists). That's exactly what I would have done if I were in his shoes. Send money to my in-laws who didn't feel my pain during an 'ordinary wedding ceremony' is a no no for me even if my money in flowing like river. They are seeing their daughter as an investment and the husband as the trophy.
The wife herself is someone I can't even describe. Knowing the strength of her man and still be expecting him to bleed himself to satisfy her own family is dullness, no matter the attachment she feels towards her folks. Same lady would not cut the husband slacks if he doesn't provide for her upkeep and when the children starts coming she would whine and yap and bug the man to insanity.

Women should learn to draw a line between family and folks especially when they are not contributing to the financial strength of the immediate family. If she was earning, would she be sending money to the man's parents? That I doubt vehemently. They see men as horses that should provide everything and when the man starts seeing himself as 'god', they'd be crying to high heavens that men are misogynist.

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Re: Should The Man Pay It? by oka4mt: 9:09am On Jun 16, 2020
Mstick:
What kind of shameless family is this? Since your brother doesn't have money to sponsor his own wedding isn't it obvious that he shouldn't be getting married?!

Calling your husband irresponsible because he refused to bear your brother's responsibility shows that the entitled mentality of your family is hereditary.

Badest. i feel you
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by QuinModah(f): 9:12am On Jun 16, 2020
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Stillthebest:
shocked
Why is your bro getting married when he can't fool all his bills. Do you know the pain your husband went through to do his?
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by 234bbc: 9:14am On Jun 16, 2020
Mstick:
What kind of shameless family is this? Since your brother doesn't have money to sponsor his own wedding isn't it obvious that he shouldn't be getting married?!

Calling your husband irresponsible because he refused to bear your brother's responsibility shows that the entitled mentality of your family is hereditary.
May Almighty God bless you for this comment
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by Presh900(m): 9:16am On Jun 16, 2020
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Re: Should The Man Pay It? by loadedvibes: 9:17am On Jun 16, 2020
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Presh900:

How much and what are their specs
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by oka4mt: 9:20am On Jun 16, 2020
my point of view though,
the wife and her family do not have a sense of development and responsibility but a sense of entitlement.
as for you, the wife, you better develop a sense of growth and development. so u can support your husband so your family(you, your husband and kids) can grow and develop to a better standard. the marriage is too early to suffer all this unnecessary bills. if u continue like this your family will never grow.
your Husband owes ur family nothing but willful support.
your brother should should look to his committee of friends for support.
Madam wise up, your hubby is no fool.
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by oka4mt: 9:23am On Jun 16, 2020
Moneyboyz:
The husband na mumu, I impregnated mine before going for any traditional stuff, they had to abide by my rules or keep their daughter.


*LEGEND*
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by oka4mt: 9:26am On Jun 16, 2020
580k, money for Land. make your family comot 300k from the 580k give your loviiiing brother. LOL grin

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Re: Should The Man Pay It? by romenna: 9:27am On Jun 16, 2020
a lot of ladies from poor and broken homes are just a big bag of baggage in marriage.
as a man, if u happen to marry from such a home, be ready to put ur foot down, be ready to end d marriage the moment it gets really uncomfortable in ur home, prepare a will and make sure u dnt have her name there, be on the look out for poisonous substances in ur home cos u r fightin a battle
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by oka4mt: 9:30am On Jun 16, 2020
Naso girls wey their papa no fit train for school go dy look for mugu wey go make them feel like dj cuppy. i pity some guys sha.
allow big yash and bobby dy put you for trouble grin
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by dododawa1: 9:33am On Jun 16, 2020
Don't marry from poor family, AVERAGE better and not marry lazy woman finish.
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by Tonysmith4sure(m): 9:33am On Jun 16, 2020
Your husband na Solomon I tell you. He is wise. Nice decision
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by oka4mt: 9:36am On Jun 16, 2020
i dy sure say na him buy the pone and the sub wey u take post this your yeye matter for here, well done ma grin
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by dododawa1: 9:40am On Jun 16, 2020
Fake story but it can happen in one TRIBE in Nigeria.
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by Menesh: 9:43am On Jun 16, 2020
Think9ja:
But what's with Nairaland and fake/cooked up stories? I'm just so tired of reading fake stories on front page. It's very ok to bring such stories to nairaland BUT NOT FRONT PAGE.

Someone somewhere with his masters degree believes this rubbish.



What's your own. Even if this particular story is fake, this sort of phenomenon is trivial in most of Nigerian families.
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by tightpussy156: 9:44am On Jun 16, 2020
stupid an selfish girl.some girls have taken marriage as business were they obtain money from their husbands from all hook an crannies.it is not compulsory that a man must send money to ur parents monthly.A man can only do that when he is willing to do it not obligatory to do it.once a man get married u see the foolish women put all there family responsibility on the man.if ur husband can satisfied you well an ur needs.All other things become non obligatory.who quote me hug transformer.
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by bejeria101(m): 9:45am On Jun 16, 2020
Who your brother epp? As if your brother didn't stress your husband and you think he would forget that in a hurry?
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by Samadict(f): 9:51am On Jun 16, 2020
Wait o, dem don chop all the 580k items finish? Make dem sell the remaining biko....lol. But seriously, brides to be should speak up for their grooms on this list issue. Marriage is more than a one time list. If your parents had thought of your husband's contributions after the wedding, they wouldn't have loaded the list like they have never eaten in their lives. If na me, my parents no go even tell me say dem share money reach my hubby side....Haba!

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Re: Should The Man Pay It? by AreaFada2: 9:52am On Jun 16, 2020
Maybe it's a cultural thing but I am scratching my hear.

When the hubby was paying 580k for the list, did he call husbands of his sisters to contribute too? Because if that is the custom, then OK.

Sending money to inlaws if one can afford it is very good. If inlaws have fallen on hard times a man can assist out of discretion.

But a man has a primary obligation to care for his wife, kids, and elderly parents if needs be.
A young marriage does not need all this distraction at all.
Re: Should The Man Pay It? by francis2565(m): 9:52am On Jun 16, 2020
DominusPrime:
Before I say anything when your husband wanted to get married which of your own brothers contributed to the wedding? Now your own brother, a full grown man like your husband wants to get married and they want to bill him another 120k? A man who is managing 70k salary? Anyway I blame your husband. You are earning 70k per month and you went to marry from a poor family. Their demands will definitely be higher than you can afford. Like I always say poverty dey kill love!!! It is better to cut your coat according to your cloth than deceive yourself to marry with poverty hugging you because you are in love. Sheybe the love dey help una foot una bills nah? Even if the wife gets a job things will never be the same. Even if the man gets a higher well paid job they will either hate him for the previous way he treated them or milk him more as money don come...


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