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Try and apologize to your husband for telling him he is not responsible, find means to have good home with your spouse, Your parents didn't treat him well in the name of tradition , It is obvious your husband is not happy with how they treated him
Nowadays parents don't get mean with their in-laws like that again.
If you settle with your husband he may eventually change is mind and assist you not tasking him.

nextstep:
Na bros... I love my woman no mean say I will put hand for fire. After all, if she loves me as she claims, she won't put all these burdens only on me, and will work hard to share the load... she went to school too abi? These are not the 1920s where women were denied opportunity for education and employment. Let her love me enough to provide for her family.

Question :

Did she try to find a job and did not get one or she didn't make attempt at all.
I might be wrong though, but if she's doing well financially it's possible she won't put that burden on you, right?
Men are supposed to protect their wives with security in every aspect which include financial security..

Like I said it's just my opinion..

In conclusion, do your possible best to make you a wonderful and respected husband, inlaw and father.
Remember nothing is as special as having a loving family.

Sheggy13:
Including going to steal and borrow about above your means so you can give the money to them to prove you love the woman and her people, isn't it? How old are you please?

Am very young sir

PrecisionFx:
Theres no place in Nigeria where bride price costs 585,000.

Fake stories

It's not bride price. it's the family's demand.
When we went for my coursemates trad, the father demanded 300k after the BP was paid. He had to pay itoo after over 4 hrs that guests have been waiting. We didn't even eat cos the family chopped the money meant for catering and presented one stupid looking colored half cooked rice without meat. Shame catch her that day
The guy was very livid! Someone that paid her school fees from yr 2 to yr 5 yet no mercy from the father.


Poverty and greed is the cause.

The story is so nut.

Your Husband spent 540k traditionally on you with no support from you(the wife) or from your brothers( the in-laws)...now one of your brothers is about getting down traditionally and you people are billing him 120k support bill.

FVCK YA FAMILY!.

No right-headed law will back a SIL fending for the wife's family. He gat a family too.

Finally, marry a girl that is making some bills and with brains.

God bless the Men. Amen!.

It is unfortunate, but d truth is that ur family got it wrong from that traditional marriage.... it is happening to many young families today...it was not ur fault cos u pleaded then..but my advice is that u support ur husband for now to build ur family, he will come down but 4 now, u ve a lot to do....
1. Support him
2. Encourage him in his doings
3. Dont judge him, he is angry
4. Pray that u get a job to support him

rawpadgin:
Let me not type what's on my mind. Because it won't come out well

I agree with you absolutely, if I share what is on my mind it will be terrible. I am really scared of black women, especially Nigeria women, I just imagine 70K monthly salary at this time when things are very expensive.

You want to destroy hour marriage before you even start.
Is he marrying you or your family? Go and get yourself something to do so that you will know how difficult it is to earn money

Give that man a break. He's been trying to be a mature man, which he's proved to be despite the treatments he believed was too much for him. From your story, he was earning 70k eight months ago (which might still remain till now).
I beg, the marriage is still young for this man to die. It's a time to plan and build together. If you can't be +, don't multiply the -.
God bless your marriage

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BABANGBALI:
na that rubbish be the koko jare

smh why am I not surprised?

Don't be surprised that this story might actually be true. Wonders shall never end. Things we do for love ehn

this issue is nothing oo.. it only require simple arithmetic... lets calculate it nao. out of the 580k ur family collected for ur husband traditional wedding make dem remove 120k grom it give ur brother come keep the change... ... this people na vampire dem be.. na pesin wey dem go drink dry dem dey find... ur husband na Odumodu the wise man i like him mehn

Vyzz:
Look out



How will ur husband contribute money for ur brother to marry....



[/b]That's how all these slay queens go around and call men broke[b]...



Men that are better than their brother...



The man na start man... Ur dad wants to milk him

Sorry, are you referring to Onyi22 here?

Your husband is right, he owes none of you nothing

This looks like a fiction to me.

Mstick:
What kind of shameless family is this? Since your brother doesn't have money to sponsor his own wedding isn't it obvious that he shouldn't be getting married?!

Calling your husband irresponsible because he refused to bear your brother's responsibility shows that the entitled mentality of your family is hereditary.

Nor be small entitlement mentality o Bros.
I Taya.!!
What a family! Dem nor get 1kobo shame o. Even the wife sef Taya pass her family o, cos na she suppose to even put her family for them position. The brother need better whipping.
Him nor go put him prick inside trouser if e Sabi say him never get power to marry wife
Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew

elektra:
You and Your family are a bunch of entitled clowns.

Why should your husband be paying your parents salary? Are they his employees? What are they doing for him? Your mouth did not even heavy you to ask, seeing as you are a not bringing in any income. Your head is not correct at all.

Your father sef! When he was insisting on >500K he did not think of the future. Now the same fate has befallen his son. Shame did not catch him to demand money from his in-law? Your father is a shameless man.

Very shameless sisterly

Donald3d:
Even she as the sister is not obligated to contribute to her brother's wedding. She can if she wants to, but she should not be bullied and emotionally blackmailed into doing it.
This is one of the things I hate most about a lot of Nigerian families. They don't care about your financial status or burdens, they like bullying their family members into making contributions without caring how it affects them, just because they share the same blood.
The audacity with which they gave a price tag sef. If they really needed help they could have at least said something like "anything you can help with", they just said 120k, like he sent them message or he is going to share the new wife with the brother.

Ur right but I never see family wey go try am with me. Them kukuma Sabi me..when I say NO! I Stan NO
Rubbish and ingredient

When they tell you run away from poverty people

My dear, why are you just not considering yourself and your husband?

Think about it, where is he going to get another N120,000 to waste?

How will you and him survive if he even pays that money?

Why do you have a brain and you are refusing to use it?

Did any of your brothers contribute to your own dowry when you husband marries you

HABA!!!

is your husband breathing because of ur family please don't suffocate him the only thing I do for my in-law is by sending them Xmas goodies annually which is sure, stay married and forget about your family shit but that does not mean your husband should just shun them cos no man marry woman for free.

Mstick:
What kind of shameless family is this? Since your brother doesn't have money to sponsor his own wedding isn't it obvious that he shouldn't be getting married?!

Calling your husband irresponsible because he refused to bear your brother's responsibility shows that the entitled mentality of your family is hereditary.

that's what you get when somebody decides to marry a woman with low IQ... You will just see fine girl and you don't care if she is dumb... The wife in the first place is not suppose to tell her husband cos it is shameful....

The family have no shame and it also shows in their daughter's attitude.

After paying exorbitant bride price without concession, he is expected to give them monthly salary and help their son son pay his own bride price. Them try

Sometimes we fail to understand that marriage is not a do or die affair whatever decision your husband takes now he is right just the same way your parents were right when they gave him a huge bride price

Donald3d:


The way people think sef, and their disgusting entitlement mentality

Coming from a woman who doesn't work .

So if he pays the 120k, who would fend for the home ?

120k is almost his salary for 2 months .

Instead of her to be fighting for him to save and be prudent to better their lives, she is making unreasonable demands.

Your bride price list alone took about 8-9 months of his salary, not to talk of the other wedding expenses.

The oga is still probably paying debt from the wedding.

No matter what you do folks, never marry someone who has the mentality of a child !!!
Never marry into a family that always feel entitled , even if you do, make sure your spouse doesn't think like them.
I detest things like this

Thank you very much.... I always say this that don't just see a beautiful lady without testing her IQ... I'm very sure this kind of woman can transfer her dumb behavior to her children... Beware of toxic women

Wettoid123:
is your husband breathing because of ur family please don't suffocate him the only thing I do for my in-law is by sending them Xmas goodies annually which is sure, stay married and forget about your family shit but that does not mean your husband should just shun them cos no man marry woman for free.

He didn't marry her for free. He paid bride price. If shunning means not paying them salary and not contributing to their son's bride price, he should please shun them.

That kind of family will never appreciate what he does and will keep demanding for more as long he obliges them.

Young girl, you stupid and your family members are bigger idiots. All of your family members and your stupid self need serious mental re-examination.

I'm very pissed right now.

Well, this story can't be true, so I need not bother. Nonsense!

ImaIma1:
He didn't marry her for free. He paid bride price. If shunning means not paying them salary and not contributing to their son's bride price, he should please shun them.

That kind of family will never appreciate what he does and will keep demanding for more as long he obliges them.

we are in the same boat if the brother of the wife is getting married the man can willingly give out something to the boy but not tax or must

oluwasegun007:
Question :

Did she try to find a job and did not get one or she didn't make attempt at all.
I might be wrong though, but if she's doing well financially it's possible she won't put that burden on you, right?
Men are supposed to protect their wives with security in every aspect which include financial security..

Like I said it's just my opinion..

In conclusion, do your possible best to make you a wonderful and respected husband, inlaw and father.
Remember nothing is as special as having a loving family.

Sorry must be your surname.
Can't you that the lady's (which lady? The stupid girl's) family is shamelessly debased?

I believe the story is fake but if it is true, the man does not own his in laws anything, Africa and thier yeye mentality

This marriage seems to me, a poverty alleviation strategy and the husband just found out.