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this is not good but u have to manage dear nothing good comes easily in life just be patient u will get there soon

Ariza:
Go back to your parents house. And there's nothing wrong in living alone at 22. But wait till you get a job before getting a place of yours.

Na so.
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ThothHermes:
Na so.
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I started living alone at 17 because I got admission into the Uni at that age. So what are you saying?

Pls don't go back home or leave just explain to her that you not fine to do all those work I hope she will understand even if she don't understand continue with her,you know the reason ppl are watching and things that change life are those things you do others don't value,finally I know the good work you are doing will bring you more good than evil.and don't be surprise that becos of your hard work your sis husband will vow to help you.

Hmmm

Please endure for a little time just pray and find a good job that can make you have your own apartment,some people don’t know your value until you leave them

Ariza:
I started living alone at 17 because I got admission into the Uni at that age. So what are you saying?

Who ask you?

I think you love been taken care of like a baby, even though it comes with you been used as a slave.

From what you are saying, your sister seems like a taskmaster that can be can be used tirelessly like a hapless maid, just because she accommodates and feeds you. You are supposedly an educated adult and you are not in the position to go it alone and stand on your own two feet.

Adunny07:
Please I just really need someone to talk to about this and I will like your candid advise..

So since my older sister got married I always come to her house and spend few weeks or months and go back. Al·through my university days, whenever school is not in session I always come down here to spend time with her and her husband.

Truth be told the husband is a very nice man and has helped me always financially, anytime I come here once my sister welcomes me the first day like this, from the second day she leaves all her house chores for me, I mean everything and she just relaxes. At times I get really tired and don't even feel like doing those chores but because most times when I come visiting she is heavy ( pregnant) so most times I just help her...

Thing is my sister doesn't appreciate all my effort, most times she complains self its the hubby that tells her that I am hardworking and at least she should give me credit for all I do.

Now the reason why am writing this is because am done with service (NYSC) and as it is its like I have to stay in her house because the state where she stays has more job opportunities compared to where our parents live... She stays in Abuja...I have been down with malaria for few days now and I have been on treatment, just because I can't do certain house chores because am not too strong my sis started complaining saying I can't be living in her house and be waking up whenever i like... Mind you I was always the first that wakes up when I wasn't sick, in fact I will wash the dishes, sweep, mop daily, cook food, bath her children and all those things.

The only thing she does is to bath her youngest baby, but now because for these few days she has been doing those work I do daily she is already saying she can't tolerate me sleeping and not waking up on time.

My question is this, does she have the right to be so angry at me because she is doing her house chores? I feel its her house and so she doing her house chores herself shouldn't be a problem since am not too strong to help her do it. She herself just sweep and doesn't mop, but she expects me to sweep and mop everyday.

Should i just go back to my parents house and get a job there? Me renting my own house is not an option because am a lady and am just 22...

Please i need you guys advice, what can I do?

Where are u in Abj?. Can u dm me lets link up...

Adunny07:
Please I just really need someone to talk to about this and I will like your candid advise..

So since my older sister got married I always come to her house and spend few weeks or months and go back. Al·through my university days, whenever school is not in session I always come down here to spend time with her and her husband.

Truth be told the husband is a very nice man and has helped me always financially, anytime I come here once my sister welcomes me the first day like this, from the second day she leaves all her house chores for me, I mean everything and she just relaxes. At times I get really tired and don't even feel like doing those chores but because most times when I come visiting she is heavy ( pregnant) so most times I just help her...

Thing is my sister doesn't appreciate all my effort, most times she complains self its the hubby that tells her that I am hardworking and at least she should give me credit for all I do.

Now the reason why am writing this is because am done with service (NYSC) and as it is its like I have to stay in her house because the state where she stays has more job opportunities compared to where our parents live... She stays in Abuja...I have been down with malaria for few days now and I have been on treatment, just because I can't do certain house chores because am not too strong my sis started complaining saying I can't be living in her house and be waking up whenever i like... Mind you I was always the first that wakes up when I wasn't sick, in fact I will wash the dishes, sweep, mop daily, cook food, bath her children and all those things.

The only thing she does is to bath her youngest baby, but now because for these few days she has been doing those work I do daily she is already saying she can't tolerate me sleeping and not waking up on time.

My question is this, does she have the right to be so angry at me because she is doing her house chores? I feel its her house and so she doing her house chores herself shouldn't be a problem since am not too strong to help her do it. She herself just sweep and doesn't mop, but she expects me to sweep and mop everyday.

Should i just go back to my parents house and get a job there? Me renting my own house is not an option because am a lady and am just 22...

Please i need you guys advice, what can I do?

please go back to your parent place when you leave she will appreciate you the more. She feel she is doing a favour by feeding you.
Note it won't be easy but you can regain your respect by moving out and only come to visit.

Adunny07:
Please I just really need someone to talk to about this and I will like your candid advise..

So since my older sister got married I always come to her house and spend few weeks or months and go back. Al·through my university days, whenever school is not in session I always come down here to spend time with her and her husband.

Truth be told the husband is a very nice man and has helped me always financially, anytime I come here once my sister welcomes me the first day like this, from the second day she leaves all her house chores for me, I mean everything and she just relaxes. At times I get really tired and don't even feel like doing those chores but because most times when I come visiting she is heavy ( pregnant) so most times I just help her...

Thing is my sister doesn't appreciate all my effort, most times she complains self its the hubby that tells her that I am hardworking and at least she should give me credit for all I do.

Now the reason why am writing this is because am done with service (NYSC) and as it is its like I have to stay in her house because the state where she stays has more job opportunities compared to where our parents live... She stays in Abuja...I have been down with malaria for few days now and I have been on treatment, just because I can't do certain house chores because am not too strong my sis started complaining saying I can't be living in her house and be waking up whenever i like... Mind you I was always the first that wakes up when I wasn't sick, in fact I will wash the dishes, sweep, mop daily, cook food, bath her children and all those things.

The only thing she does is to bath her youngest baby, but now because for these few days she has been doing those work I do daily she is already saying she can't tolerate me sleeping and not waking up on time.

My question is this, does she have the right to be so angry at me because she is doing her house chores? I feel its her house and so she doing her house chores herself shouldn't be a problem since am not too strong to help her do it. She herself just sweep and doesn't mop, but she expects me to sweep and mop everyday.

Should i just go back to my parents house and get a job there? Me renting my own house is not an option because am a lady and am just 22...

Please i need you guys advice, what can I do?

What happened to your father's house?
You can apply for jobs online and when you get an interview travel to Abuja for it.

YOUR SISTER IS A WINTCH AND DOESN'T WANT YOU TO PROGRESS.

SHE HAS TIED YOUR DESTINY AND WILL ENSURE THAT YOU NEVER FIND A JOB AND REMAIN IN HER HOUSE AS HER HOUSE MAID.


THE REASON SHE IS ALWAYS SHOUTING AT YOU AND COMPLAINING ABOUT YOU NOT DOING HOUSE WORK IS BECAUSE SHE BELIEVES THE HUSBAND LIKES YOU VERY WELL AND WANTS TO FVCK YOU.


VERY SOON SHE WILL ACCUSE YOU OF SEDUCING HER HUSBAND.


YOU , SHE AND THE HUSBAND ARE ALL VERY STUPID.

since doing it will not kill you I will advise you still do it while waiting for a job

@opp so u r running away from responsibilities n u r a woman for that matter, wouldn't u get married? Who will be doing all that for you?
U better calm down n be strong for her

jubrilELsudan:
YOUR SISTER IS A WINTCH AND DOESN'T WANT YOU TO PROGRESS.

SHE HAS TIED YOUR DESTINY AND WILL ENSURE THAT YOU NEVER FIND A JOB AND REMAIN IN HER HOUSE AS HER HOUSE MAID.


THE REASON SHE IS ALWAYS SHOUTING AT YOU AND COMPLAINING ABOUT YOU NOT DOING HOUSE WORK IS BECAUSE SHE BELIEVES THE HUSBAND LIKES YOU VERY WELL AND WANTS TO FVCK YOU.


VERY SOON SHE WILL ACCUSE YOU OF SEDUCING HER HUSBAND.


YOU , SHE AND THE HUSBAND ARE ALL VERY STUPID.

Make ur sis hubby no even try to bring any of his family member to live wit him cos if ur sis can be dis intolerant to u her blood I wonder wat she ll do to outsiders

Adunny07:
Please I just really need someone to talk to about this and I will like your candid advise..

So since my older sister got married I always come to her house and spend few weeks or months and go back. Al·through my university days, whenever school is not in session I always come down here to spend time with her and her husband.

Truth be told the husband is a very nice man and has helped me always financially, anytime I come here once my sister welcomes me the first day like this, from the second day she leaves all her house chores for me, I mean everything and she just relaxes. At times I get really tired and don't even feel like doing those chores but because most times when I come visiting she is heavy ( pregnant) so most times I just help her...

Thing is my sister doesn't appreciate all my effort, most times she complains self its the hubby that tells her that I am hardworking and at least she should give me credit for all I do.

Now the reason why am writing this is because am done with service (NYSC) and as it is its like I have to stay in her house because the state where she stays has more job opportunities compared to where our parents live... She stays in Abuja...I have been down with malaria for few days now and I have been on treatment, just because I can't do certain house chores because am not too strong my sis started complaining saying I can't be living in her house and be waking up whenever i like... Mind you I was always the first that wakes up when I wasn't sick, in fact I will wash the dishes, sweep, mop daily, cook food, bath her children and all those things.

The only thing she does is to bath her youngest baby, but now because for these few days she has been doing those work I do daily she is already saying she can't tolerate me sleeping and not waking up on time.

My question is this, does she have the right to be so angry at me because she is doing her house chores? I feel its her house and so she doing her house chores herself shouldn't be a problem since am not too strong to help her do it. She herself just sweep and doesn't mop, but she expects me to sweep and mop everyday.

Should i just go back to my parents house and get a job there? Me renting my own house is not an option because am a lady and am just 22...

Please i need you guys advice, what can I do?

If she is treating you that is her blood this way, I pity any outsider she brings in as house help.

She's 2 in 1 to that woman, a sister and house maid

You are having sense of entitlement. In as much as I don't support your sister turning you to a house girl, all she is doing should be a challenge to you to let you know that you need to be independent as quickly as possible.Who Told you that at 22 you can't live in your own house..eh! Your sister owes you nothing , for the fact that you have stayed in her house, you should also be grateful to her and not be offended in her.

Endure it dear, nothing last forever, remember * no event, no history*, God will surprise you soon with a good job and you will leaver her house for her, though am a man, same thing happen when i was staying with my Aunty but today im living large...oyes

I'm 26

Adunny07:
Please I just really need someone to talk to about this and I will like your candid advise..

So since my older sister got married I always come to her house and spend few weeks or months and go back. Al·through my university days, whenever school is not in session I always come down here to spend time with her and her husband.

Truth be told the husband is a very nice man and has helped me always financially, anytime I come here once my sister welcomes me the first day like this, from the second day she leaves all her house chores for me, I mean everything and she just relaxes. At times I get really tired and don't even feel like doing those chores but because most times when I come visiting she is heavy ( pregnant) so most times I just help her...

Thing is my sister doesn't appreciate all my effort, most times she complains self its the hubby that tells her that I am hardworking and at least she should give me credit for all I do.

Now the reason why am writing this is because am done with service (NYSC) and as it is its like I have to stay in her house because the state where she stays has more job opportunities compared to where our parents live... She stays in Abuja...I have been down with malaria for few days now and I have been on treatment, just because I can't do certain house chores because am not too strong my sis started complaining saying I can't be living in her house and be waking up whenever i like... Mind you I was always the first that wakes up when I wasn't sick, in fact I will wash the dishes, sweep, mop daily, cook food, bath her children and all those things.

The only thing she does is to bath her youngest baby, but now because for these few days she has been doing those work I do daily she is already saying she can't tolerate me sleeping and not waking up on time.

My question is this, does she have the right to be so angry at me because she is doing her house chores? I feel its her house and so she doing her house chores herself shouldn't be a problem since am not too strong to help her do it. She herself just sweep and doesn't mop, but she expects me to sweep and mop everyday.

Should i just go back to my parents house and get a job there? Me renting my own house is not an option because am a lady and am just 22...

Please i need you guys advice, what can I do?

I'm just 22 you say......that's the problem you should be concerned about.
Change your thinking......do what you have to do babe.

Can't please anyone

Chat me privately with your number

Let talk about Job & Accommodation, I can understand your pain..
But still be patience with your sister.

ThothHermes:
Who ask you?

You probably think everyone is still living under his or her parents roof like you

I have been in this shit before ... seriously i must tell you it was not an easy journey... you can tell your parents to talk sense into her..

Sometimes they forget they will not be kings forever... she doesn't know what God has for you...!!..

Just be strong and hold on... on the word of God...

gbagyiza:
I don't know the last time I applied for a job by going to the organization to submit my CV. I do it online. Please, I will encourage her to go back to her parent n find a way to subscribe for job advert online n also use that medium to apply because most of the job vacancies application today r done via online.

Exactly. Applications are done online and if she's invited for an interview she can always travel down, stay briefly and then go back home.

same thing happened to me after my Nysc, had to stay with my brother for about a year..apart from the house chores, I had to cope with some bullshits. Thankfully, I got a good job after a year and my first salary was enough to rent a 2 bedroom so I moved out..keep on doing those chores but keep your eyes on the prize. You will move out soon

Adunny07:
Should i just go back to my parents house and get a job there? Me renting my own house is not an option because am a lady and am just 22...

Please i need you guys advice, what can I do?

Just 22? Hmmm! Women are the ones that allowed the society to treat them like second class citizens. Why can the man live alone at 22 and you think you must live with your parents or with an elder sister at 22? 4 years older than the accepted adult age. Do you understand the word adult? You need to re-engineer your brain and start thinking right. Nigeria can make one lose sanity and think irrationally. I think you are an adult. If you have the means to live alone, do it. May God provide for your needs.

The same person that will go to her bfs house and form industrial cleaner now u can't clean in ur sisters house, weldone.

Adunny07:
Please I just really need someone to talk to about this and I will like your candid advise..

So since my older sister got married I always come to her house and spend few weeks or months and go back. Al·through my university days, whenever school is not in session I always come down here to spend time with her and her husband.

Truth be told the husband is a very nice man and has helped me always financially, anytime I come here once my sister welcomes me the first day like this, from the second day she leaves all her house chores for me, I mean everything and she just relaxes. At times I get really tired and don't even feel like doing those chores but because most times when I come visiting she is heavy ( pregnant) so most times I just help her...

Thing is my sister doesn't appreciate all my effort, most times she complains self its the hubby that tells her that I am hardworking and at least she should give me credit for all I do.

Now the reason why am writing this is because am done with service (NYSC) and as it is its like I have to stay in her house because the state where she stays has more job opportunities compared to where our parents live... She stays in Abuja...I have been down with malaria for few days now and I have been on treatment, just because I can't do certain house chores because am not too strong my sis started complaining saying I can't be living in her house and be waking up whenever i like... Mind you I was always the first that wakes up when I wasn't sick, in fact I will wash the dishes, sweep, mop daily, cook food, bath her children and all those things.

The only thing she does is to bath her youngest baby, but now because for these few days she has been doing those work I do daily she is already saying she can't tolerate me sleeping and not waking up on time.

My question is this, does she have the right to be so angry at me because she is doing her house chores? I feel its her house and so she doing her house chores herself shouldn't be a problem since am not too strong to help her do it. She herself just sweep and doesn't mop, but she expects me to sweep and mop everyday.

Should i just go back to my parents house and get a job there? Me renting my own house is not an option because am a lady and am just 22...

Please i need you guys advice, what can I do?

MASTERCHIEF0847:
Don't listen to this person. You barely know the sister apart from what is posted here and you've concluded already.

Dude.. Its a common thing among few sisters out there. I've had my fair share of this as well, even things I wouldn't be proud to post here. Last last everybody don dey hin lane now.

Go back to your parents house.
Staying with your family members can be very annoying. They will never appreciate your efforts.
But don't forget that there are still your FAMILY.
Love them no matter how there are.

What can't be cured, has to be endured.