Marriage is hard work, lol u think say na beans.. do u know the stress a child alone can put parents through not to talk of house chores or financial aspect.. see building a family is no joke. You have to be ready, sometimes you will not get to sleep all because of children you birthed. Marriage works when there is effective partnership, if not someone will definitely break down because stress can kill.

Mayng01:
Make her happy, show her love & take good care of her , you will see she will never stop looking attractive. That problem lies with us, men, we are the reason why 90% of them stop looking attractive. She was and has been attractive while with her parents & she stopped looking attractive after you have taken her away. Take good care of your woman & spend time with her and the kids, just lavish her with affection. I pray for all men, may God help & strengthen you financially. Did fani Kayode’s wife stop looking attractive? You know the answer & I hope you get the message.

Seconded. Thank you.

arimahoseloka:
Marriage is hard work, lol u think say na beans.. do u know the stress a child alone can put parents through not to talk of house chores or financial aspect.. see building a family is no joke. You have to be ready, sometimes you will not get to sleep all because of children you birthed. Marriage works when there is effective partnership, if not someone will definitely break down because stress can kill.

Exactly.

no one seems to get the sudden change in woman after marriage.... ok i tell you why.... she has gotten are trophy she see no more competition, they get fatter even before getting pregnant, they dont mantain there self again.....same with men after marriage they lower the chase and passion...... i find this out among divorce couples and relationship..... if you having a hard time in your relationship i mean at point of breakup and all of a sudden your woman start visiting the gym, she get consious of how she dress and look. just know she is gone the relationship is over

sexylassie2:


Is it the wife family that will take care of the marriage? Is it the wife family that will pay school fees, pay clothes for the kids??

Don't get upset, I'm not Nigerian, I'm trying to understand your culture by asking questions.

1. How on earth will the wife's family take care of their marriage, sure the family can intervene when there are problems but only the couple can make each other happy. The family can't force them to be happy, they can only convince them to stay in an unhappy marriage, and where is the help in that?

2. What if the married couple only wished their family members would stay out of their marital affairs and let them handle things on their own, would that go against your culture?

3. Why is the wife's family paying all of these fees and buying clothes for the kids when that is the responsibility of the parents?

khia:

Don't get upset, I'm not Nigerian, I'm trying to understand your culture by asking questions.

1. How on earth will the wife's family take care of their marriage, sure the family can intervene when there are problems but only the couple can make each other happy. The family can't force them to be happy, they can only convinced them to stay in an unhappy marriage, and where is the help in that?

2 . Why is the wife's family paying all of these fees and buying clothes for the kids when that is the responsibility of the parents?

That is I believe, if a man wants to get marry, he needs to be financially stable, also the wife...combine income play a big role for families who are not doing well financially.

Here in Nigeria, some men want to marry without income.

DenreleDave:



Your generational family poverty problem (GFPP) isn't part of his responsibilities.....

Are all the men in your family disabled or paralyzed?

.. Chaiiii see finishing.

blackpanthar:



Because they prepared all their lives only for the Wedding day.

fact

sexylassie2:


That is I believe, if a man wants to get marry, he needs to be financially stable, also the wife...combine income play a big role for families who are not doing well financially.

Here in Nigeria, some men want to marry without income.

#1 I must make this statement number ONE. No person should get married without an income MALE or FEMALE.

#2. I believe both partners should be financially stable as well so they can provide for themselves and their future family. I believe it is very unfair and selfish to put the burden of providing for their parents, and siblings, which is something those parents should have provided for, onto this young couple starting out their new life together.

Sure there are times the family members may need help as well as the new couple, and help should be offered if they are able but to put the burden on this newly married couple as though they are the sole caretakers is ridiculous. Marriage is hard enough.

#2. If the wife's parents can afford to pay the school fees and clothing for their grandkids why is it expected of the daughter and her husband to provide for her parents, of course I'm not talking about caring for them in their old age?

#3. Is the gift of the GOLDEN TICKET also awarded to the husband's family or just the wife's? This sounds like a bunch of entitled leeches.

You don't burn midnight candle after passing an exam. You relax and enjoy your success.

Greatzeus:
You don't burn midnight candle after passing an exam. You relax and enjoy your success.

lol
That means you are implying that to look attractive is hardwork for them ladies

Because they feel they have landed the prize-which is the man, so there is no need for them to dress well or look good.

aristocrazzy:
its because men stop spending on them after marriage. they now rely on only one man for upkeep. that's why I advice women to be independent and make money before getting married because all those money that you were collecting from suitors will varnish after wedding.

Exactly.

arimahoseloka:
Marriage is hard work, lol u think say na beans.. do u know the stress a child alone can put parents through not to talk of house chores or financial aspect.. see building a family is no joke. You have to be ready, sometimes you will not get to sleep all because of children you birthed. Marriage works when there is effective partnership, if not someone will definitely break down because stress can kill.

i'm happy this is coming from a man, are you married?

Joycekkh:
Because they feel they have landed the prize-which is the man, so there is no need for them to dress well or look good.

not true

DenreleDave:



Your generational family poverty problem (GFPP) isn't part of his responsibilities.....

Are all the men in your family disabled or paralyzed?

are you not the same guy that people had to contribute money for so that he won't commit suicide Oh! You can think the internet forgets??

You wey be say hunger wan strangle you and you come Nairaland come beg

senatepresido:
how will your observation solve the security issue in the North

The north made their choice. Please let us focus on more pressing issues and help this man

DenreleDave:
God knows....

My wife wunt try gaining any useless fat...

God will provide me oo and I will work hard to be comfortable..

My wife must stay fit and sweet.. I have seen ladies who got married and even after 3 kids, you will still feel like fornicating with them...

So I don't understand why my wife wunt take care of her self....... Even after 3, she shud look sexy n attractive...

Na gay dey reign

sexylassie2:
When you marry a broke husband, you stop taking care of yourself to reduce burden and stop him from having heart attack.

If you dress beautiful for a broke husband he might start to think you are cheating.

The best is just be in the same level as he is, so that he won't have high bp.

That's not what marriage should be! You are to upgrade each other in all aspects

if u dont look after ur wife she will look ugly
if u kill her with house chorus it will overwelm her and tell on her body and make her look more older than her age hence she will look ugly
if she adds too much weight during marriage cos her life now is more sedentary she will look more unattractive to u
so u know what to do to encourage her to maintain her beauty when married

sexylassie2:


Is it the wife family that will take care of the marriage? Is it the wife family that will pay school fees, pay clothes for the kids??

hi lady a guy never broke but just that he time never come when he time come he know what to do with money

Keketu:
hi lady a guy never broke but just that he time never come when he time come he know what to do with money

That is what i heard too....but many are still broke till old age.

sexylassie2:
When you marry a broke husband, you stop taking care of yourself to reduce burden and stop him from having heart attack.

If you dress beautiful for a broke husband he might start to think you are cheating.

The best is just be in the same level as he is, so that he won't have high bp.

this has nothing to do with brokeness but more to do with small minded men and insecure men who believe wen their wife tries to look attractive other men will steal her from him.there was this guy who was my friend in school his dad was a prof in the agric dept.if u see this guy"s mom she always look untidy with her hair not well done selling soft drinks in the school carteen.even at home wen i visit the guy the mom is always sitting in the kitchen wearing not so clean clothes but the dad is always looking clean and smart.from what we heard the mom is not that educated but then this guy"s dad has a side chick by the side who is very sexy.So yes some nigerian men have that mentality that their wife must look ugly and dirty so other men wont look at her but such men tend to cheat on their wives.There was this carpenter i knew who is late...guy had a violent motor accident that killed him.He is a well known chronic womaniser and he has beautiful looking sidechicks all over the place cos he has money but if u see his wife ehn ..very dirty looking.After the carpenter died i didnt recorgnise the wife anymore cos as soon as the man died she now cleaned up and was frequenting some local club with a friend of hers.she now looks more attractive since the passing away of her husband.

No campaign after election is won

Marriage is highly overrated,that is why you can see the sadness /misery in the eyes of a high percentage of women after marriage.

From the Ops description it did not favour any of the three sisters,even the sister putting up weigh you will be surprised that it is depression making her add so much weight.

Ladies learn to make your own money .A man is never the ultimate price.Success in your career or business should always be the focus.If una like make una no hear.This generation of men is not ready to take care of anybody.Change with the tide.It is not business as usual.

Badboibipo:
The one that is my friend also married in 2018 and shes the only one that's manageable because her husband is very rich but still she has become fat and old looking in her face...this was a girl that was finer than again drago because she was too pretty. Very dark and beautiful..pointed nose, pouting lips and v face and her smile was heavenly but now shes just fat and old looking. Wtf? Why can't women remain pretty in marriage ?

this one is just pure laziness .there many house wives like that in naija.their own is to wake up in the morning,chop,den siddon for sofa for sitting room and start watching telemondo...they wil take siesta then wake up and chop then resume watching the telemondo.later in the evening go to the hairdresser saloon or boutique of their friend that is close by to gossip.their life style is heavily sedentary and when u too sedentary it makes u add too much weight and also makes u look older.for naija we think sedentary life na enjoyment but it has adverse effect on ur body.some of such wives even if their husband install treadmill for their house for her to exercise she wont even use it one day.exercise to her na punishment.

VeeVeeMyLuv:
Due to testosterone transferred to them during routine coitus. Don't forget Man is haggard by nature, what do you expect when the girls jam these hard rough beings?

Another reason is that the women are entirely the only ones cleaning and tidying the home, going to the market, preparing food, doing the laundry, taking care of the children, probably also going to 9-5 work, and still come back in the evening to service Oga almost on a daily basis.

This is more than machine work, haba, anyone that passes through all these will surely never ever remain the same again

Another reason for the haggard physical transformation maybe due to their spouse engaging them in what is known as rough coitus

dont know why many homes in naija tend to forbid making use of washing machines.at least using machines in the home will lighten the burden of home chorus.imagine in this modern day a lady will be bending down and washing clothes inside basin.and some husbands no even dey make am easy.they will be giving their suits and agbada to their wife to wash ..as if drycleaner no dey nigeria again

sexylassie2:
When you marry a broke husband, you stop taking care of yourself to reduce burden and stop him from having heart attack.

If you dress beautiful for a broke husband he might start to think you are cheating.

The best is just be in the same level as he is, so that he won't have high bp.

So if d guy is broke u too is supposed to be broke abi? I wonder when Nigeria girls would stop seeing guys as their way out of poverty

Twoclans:
Marriage is highly overrated,that is why you can see the sadness /misery in the eyes of a high percentage of women after marriage.

From the Ops description it did not favour any of the three sisters,even the sister putting up weigh you will be surprised that it is depression making her add so much weight.

Ladies learn to make your own money .A man is never the ultimate price.Success in your career or business should always be the focus.If una like make una no hear.This generation of men is not ready to take care of anybody.Change with the tide.It is not business as usual.

even a husband is really loving he could take his wife with him out when he"s execising.i have seen some married couples here who exercise together but it seems in naija its a taboo.everything na taboo inside naija

khia:

Don't get upset, I'm not Nigerian, I'm trying to understand your culture by asking questions.

1. How on earth will the wife's family take care of their marriage, sure the family can intervene when there are problems but only the couple can make each other happy. The family can't force them to be happy, they can only convince them to stay in an unhappy marriage, and where is the help in that?

2. What if the married couple only wished their family members would stay out of their marital affairs and let them handle things on their own, would that go against your culture?

3. Why is the wife's family paying all of these fees and buying clothes for the kids when that is the responsibility of the parents?

if both parents are unemployed.i have seen couples without a job whose marriage cot sponsored by their parents and wen they start bearing kids it is the grand parents who took over the upkeep of the kids