Ephemeralbeing:
Good morning, please I really do appreciate this platform and it's inspired me alot during this tough and trying period.

Please I need the advise and opinions of other members in that platform. Keep my name.

Okay so i've been depressed, battling with anxiety.

I got married at 26.

Before our marriage, things we going pretty fine and okay.

6 years later with two female kids. I secured this awesome paying job for my wife. But eversince then they go for conferences in other states representing her company which I'm aware of.

But after the third conference in Calabar. she's LOCKED her phone with a new password and times without number I've requested for it but she would say that there's nothing to check on her phone. (Meanwhile before this job, we knew each other password and are entitled boths phones)

Long story cut short, she now communicate with men and Stay up late texting and if I ask her who she's texting with she said her female colleagues at work.

Until last weekend when a whatsapp text came in on the notification from JOHN saying I miss you and I want to be with hold you again.

I inquired about who John was and holding her means, she said I shouldn't mind him.

Then I asked for her password she said don't you trust me.

Please I want to know does this matter cos I've been worried?

Why would she change her passwords?

Why can't i know who she's texting up late?
Do partners hide phone passwords from eachother after years of knowing one another password?

Am I just feeling insecure or something?

Please I need the opinions of other matured minds in the platform so I don't ACT WRONGLY PLEASE.

Ephemeralbeing:
Good morning, please I really do appreciate this platform and it's inspired me alot during this tough and trying period.

Please I need the advise and opinions of other members in that platform. Keep my name.

Okay so i've been depressed, battling with anxiety.

I got married at 26.

Before our marriage, things we going pretty fine and okay.

6 years later with two female kids. I secured this awesome paying job for my wife. But eversince then they go for conferences in other states representing her company which I'm aware of.

But after the third conference in Calabar. she's LOCKED her phone with a new password and times without number I've requested for it but she would say that there's nothing to check on her phone. (Meanwhile before this job, we knew each other password and are entitled boths phones)

Long story cut short, she now communicate with men and Stay up late texting and if I ask her who she's texting with she said her female colleagues at work.

Until last weekend when a whatsapp text came in on the notification from JOHN saying I miss you and I want to be with hold you again.

I inquired about who John was and holding her means, she said I shouldn't mind him.

Then I asked for her password she said don't you trust me.

Please I want to know does this matter cos I've been worried?

Why would she change her passwords?

Why can't i know who she's texting up late?
Do partners hide phone passwords from eachother after years of knowing one another password?

Am I just feeling insecure or something?

Please I need the opinions of other matured minds in the platform so I don't ACT WRONGLY PLEASE.

iLegendd:
Sorry — wipe your tears.
you are a man.you really said my mind.

I get upset when I see posts like this. Too many weak men getting married when they aren't ready or when they don't know much about the opposite gender.

Before a man should get married, he MUST know and master 3 things, else suffer.

1. How to handle women skill
2. How to make money skill
3. How to manage money skill

Unfortunately, 90% of Nigerian men focus on

1. How to go to school and get at least 2.1
2. How to get a job
3. How to get married early to a bleached up slay queen
4. How to have lots of children

At the end of the day, when their wives start misbehaving, they run to Nairaland and start crying.

Let me tell you the truth: Your woman is sleeping with John and he is great in bed. Unfortunately, your woman hasn't even told him she is married.

My brother, a woman that has been f*cked can't be unf*cked.

Note: Women don't hide password from real men — they only do it to either weak men or men they don't really love, fallen out of love with (but still pretend to love).

No woman hides password from me. The moment I request for it, they submit instantly. A woman will respond to you and be submissive based on your level of leadership and control without being controlling.

My dear, there is no mature advice on Nairaland. Maturity is when you understand women before you get married and not when you get married and start looking for a way to understand your wife. I hate when men do this. It pisses me off.

I have the solution to your problem, but let me just watch you burn.

iLegendd:
Sorry — wipe your tears.

I get upset when I see posts like this. Too many weak men getting married when they aren't ready or when they don't know much about the opposite gender.

You took the words from my mouth...Too many weak men getting married...
Your wife is obviously cheating...Guy...Find prove and send her packing.

Before a man should get married, he MUST know and master 3 things, else suffer.

1. How to handle women skill
2. How to make money skill
3. How to manage money skill

Unfortunately, 90% of Nigerian men focus on

1. How to go to school and get at least 2.1
2. How to get a job
3. How to get married early to a bleached up slay queen
4. How to have lots of children

At the end of the day, when their wives start misbehaving, they run to Nairaland and start crying.

Let me tell you the truth: Your woman is sleeping with John and he is great in bed. Unfortunately, your woman hasn't even told him she is married.

My brother, a woman that has been f*cked can't be unf*cked.

Note: Women don't hide password from real men — they only do it to either weak men or men they don't really love, fallen out of love with (but still pretend to love).

No woman hides password from me. The moment I request for it, they submit instantly. A woman will respond to you and be submissive based on your level of leadership and control without being controlling.

My dear, there is no mature advice on Nairaland. Maturity is when you understand women before you get married and not when you get married and start looking for a way to understand your wife. I hate when men do this. It pisses me off.

I have the solution to your problem, but let me just watch you burn.

iLegendd:
Sorry — wipe your tears.

I get upset when I see posts like this. Too many weak men getting married when they aren't ready or when they don't know much about the opposite gender.

Before a man should get married, he MUST know and master 3 things, else suffer.

1. How to handle women skill
2. How to make money skill
3. How to manage money skill

Unfortunately, 90% of Nigerian men focus on

1. How to go to school and get at least 2.1
2. How to get a job
3. How to get married early to a bleached up slay queen
4. How to have lots of children

At the end of the day, when their wives start misbehaving, they run to Nairaland and start crying.

Let me tell you the truth: Your woman is sleeping with John and he is great in bed. Unfortunately, your woman hasn't even told him she is married.

My brother, a woman that has been f*cked can't be unf*cked.

Note: Women don't hide password from real men — they only do it to either weak men or men they don't really love, fallen out of love with (but still pretend to love).

No woman hides password from me. The moment I request for it, they submit instantly. A woman will respond to you and be submissive based on your level of leadership and control without being controlling.

My dear, there is no mature advice on Nairaland. Maturity is when you understand women before you get married and not when you get married and start looking for a way to understand your wife. I hate when men do this. It pisses me off.

I have the solution to your problem, but let me just watch you burn.

kaymart:

don't you see this comments of yours as a little bit insensitive?
To watch him burn? are you "GOD"?
you also stated confidently that one can't get mature advice on this platform, I utterly disagree with you on this. This platform meant and serve different purposes for different people. For some, it's a business platform, for others it's entertainment. While a good number see it as a counselling chamber, networking zone, employment avenue et.c. It's left for one to know how to decipher between the good real advise and the playful and seemingly taunts
The guy came seeking advice. If you are knowledgeable enough, render your kind advise without words of prejudice. If you ain't endowed enough upstairs, you may steer clear and give room for individuals that are magnaimous enough to help him out.
I sense pride and jealousy in you going by your comments here. I may be wrong though.
Perharps, you wished you had what OP already has. Dear friend, life doesn't work that way. You need to understand this phenomenons of about Life and imbibe hard work, perseverance, patience and pray that fortune smile at you. Until then, get rid of unwarranted enmity.
Cheers dear friend.

stanliwise:
hmmm
This one strong o.

Am I just feeling insecure or something?
No you’re not, if something look too good to be true then it is certainly too good to be true. Something has changed about your wife and now you can see it.

Why can't i know who she's texting up late?

Because she don’t wanna tell you, you deserved to know, you are worth knowing and she owes you the explanation. Demand it when appropriate.

Why would she change her passwords?
She don’t want anyone else to get access to her phone,

I've requested for it but she would say that there's nothing to check on her phone.
This means including you!! She don’t want you near her phone.


if I ask her who she's texting with she said her female colleagues at work.
She is obviously telling you what you want to hear, and certainly she mentions a specific gender, which makes things weird. Maybe you should stop asking the question.

Until last weekend when a whatsapp text came in on the notification from JOHN saying I miss you and I want to be with hold you again.


We can’t be sure what this means but it is rude to send that message to a married woman. I guess maybe JOHN don’t know about you.
Maybe it could still be a harmless message.
BUT THIS IS WHAT SHE DON’T WANT YOU TO SEE.

WHAT TO DO
Drop those insane question of who are you talking to and asking for her password. Desist from all method of inquiry and fact finding from her. Next time you need to know something she is doing secretly then go find it secretly. Lite note

Now here is it, arranged a table with good food and drink. Then make it clear to her
“I THINK YOU’RE CHEATING ON ME”
“I ALSO DON’T TRUST YOU ANYMORE”
“I THINK YOU ARE HAVING SEX OUTSIDE OUR MARRIAGE”
IF THINGS GO ON LIKE THIS I WILL DO .......(strong threat she would fear e.g discussing it with someone she respect or divorce).

Avoid too much long talk, spend most of the time hear her confess and try to defend herself. As she keep defending her self add more pressure to it. It’s a matter of psychology. She would crack and hand you the phones and password to remove her head from the string.

IF SHE DIDNT RESPOND OR GET DISTURBED, RUN FOR YOUR LIFE. Her mind is made up and your marriage is gone.

Thank me later.

rasheylaw:
If you no pity yourself pity your female kids
And don't listen to nairaland guys, most of them are under age with no experience of marriage

Any decision you are making concern your children they are your number one priority their future matters