CanadaOrBust:


U can’t give real life examples - because it is only in theory. How many of these people with 4 wives or all sorts of girlfriends do u hear of their wives sleeping around? It is when they are NOT opposites - when BOTH are sleeping around that the marriage crashes

Only exception the man is a rich Muslim, or his culture is polygamous or he is rich or famous like 2face , Davido or wizkid
I have a lot e.g donald trump, tiger wood all cheated on their wives and their wives left them in the long run, both rich men. Mko abiola who had a lot of money and was a Muslim so he could afford have more 1 wife . Make an average person try that and see how far the marriage last. I lived long enough to see how many marriages crashed due to cheating husband.The wife go siddon look for awhile even years then one day you just hear that they break up or the husband was killed or the wife left the husband. Or the man discovered one of his children was from another man.

CanadaOrBust:


Don’t listen to them. This is hogwash. Pseudoscience of highest order

I believe in it oh abeg. I'm an astrologist myself

michaelpop50:


I believe in it oh abeg. I'm an astrologist myself

If u knew enough about astrology you’d know it is virtually useless as a predictor - about the same as flipping a coin. Google James Randi experiment on it

ImaIma1:


That's the picture you have in your head and that's actually your problem. You cannot claim to know how every last child in every family should be. So, do well to keep your conclusions to yourself.

There are always exceptions. But think about it - how and where would a last child learn self-sacrifice??

cooltola:


Only exception the man is a rich Muslim, or his culture is polygamous or he is rich or famous like 2face , Davido or wizkid
I have a lot e.g donald trump, tiger wood all cheated on their wives and their wives left them in the long run, both rich men. Mko abiola who had a lot of money and was a Muslim so he could afford have more 1 wife . Make an average person try that and see how far the marriage last. I lived long enough to see how many marriages crashed due to cheating husband.The wife go siddon look for awhile even years then one day you just hear that they break up or the husband was killed or the wife left the husband. Or the man discovered one of his children was from another man.

There are 200 countries in the world. U gave TWO examples from the same country, and none from your country! How about all the the thousands of serial philanderers from JFK to Bill Clinton from same country??

CanadaOrBust:


Well, if a poor guy like u marries Linda Ikeji, how won’t it benefit u??

How many Linda Ikeji do we have in Nigeria?

We have plenty of the below.

Q: Who are we?
Ans: Nigerian Girls!

Q: Who are we?
Ans: Nigerian Girls!!

Q: What's our slogan?
Ans: Buy for me naa

Hahahahaha � � � �

CanadaOrBust:


There are 200 countries in the world. U gave TWO examples from the same country, and none from your country! How about all the the thousands of serial philanderers from JFK to Bill Clinton from same country??

I gave 2face , and wizkid , Davido. You think that if Wizkid or Davido were not popular or rich if the women will stay around. Even cheaters know that their marriage do not last long. That is why some folks have baby mama

Youngzedd:


How many Linda Ikeji do we have in Nigeria?

We have plenty of the below.

Q: Who are we?
Ans: Nigerian Girls!

Q: Who are we?
Ans: Nigerian Girls!!

Q: What's our slogan?
Ans: Buy for me naa

Hahahahaha � � � �

Not true. Most Nigerian girls are not like that. Besides, his question is how can marrying possibly benefit any man

CanadaOrBust:


There are always exceptions. But think about it - how and where would a last child learn self-sacrifice??

Not exceptions. But many selfless ones depending on the kind of family you grew up in.

Families differ. While some last children are pampered and treated with utmost care, some are the official househelps of the house.

bigpicture001:
The cost of getting a wife is too much to bear on a dieing economy

1. You move away from one self con to a 2bedroom or rm ND palour self con

2. U start to furnish it
3.you get a car
4.you continue saving for bride prize and wedding and honey moon all at once...
While doing this you will renew your rent twice.
5.b4 life of man and wife begins with daily expenses on your head......

Guy! Load is too heavy

Broda man you made it more scary...

But you spoke facts.

CanadaOrBust:


That’s not the question. The question is wether a man can possibly benefit by marrying

Of course.
On rear occasions when he marry up

The replies on this thread is hilarious.

cooltola:


I gave 2face , and wizkid , Davido. You think that if Wizkid or Davido were not popular or rich if the women will stay around. Even cheaters know that their marriage do not last long. That is why some folks have baby mama

Let’s agree on this: a marriage is more likely to last if only one partner is sleeping around, than if both partners are sleeping around. Look around u - even poor men stay married to same woman for life, despite being womanizers

profilemessages:
To me its seems people don't want to end up in divorce or on any other problems and issues related with marriage any longer.
All that is usually seen are single guys still remaining single for along time.

Or am I dreaming or something

What do you think?

Many reasons, the primary one being the economy situation of the country. Research has shown that when the economy improves, weddings pick up. When the economy crashes, weddings falls. This is very simple, I think.

CanadaOrBust:


If u knew enough about astrology you’d know it is virtually useless as a predictor - about the same as flipping a coin. Google James Randi experiment on it

Abeg leave me alone.

ImaIma1:


Well...that has helped me for the past 5yrs. It's not all about me. If there's one meat left in the pot, I will make sure he has it...lol

Love that
Whatever you give same thing you get back in multiple times!!
At least you want your union to work
It's a plus and positive reinforcement for your union

Keep it up!!!!

Xeeex:


Why buy the cow when the milk is free?
Why marry the girl when sex before marriage is available?

HIV is free too

CanadaOrBust:


Let’s agree on this: a marriage is more likely to last if only one partner is sleeping around, than if both partners are sleeping around. Look around u - even poor men stay married to same woman for life, despite being womanizers

I am telling you it does not last and even though it lasts. It always end in divorce ,separation or death or a child with another man. If one is going to cheat, then one should not get married.

ImaIma1:


Not exceptions. But many selfless ones depending on the kind of family you grew up in.

Families differ. While some last children are pampered and treated with utmost care, some are the official househelps of the house.

Like I said, exceptions. The vast majority of lastborns are babied without ever having to baby any sibling

So true. Nigerians have copied western marriage system to their own detriments which has now led to trust issues between both sexes. Copy copy kill my culture and ways of life, smh

GODPUNISHUNA:
I am scared of marriage. With what I see everyday. Even in the office there is a married woman that's being disturbing my life, I warned her to stay off or I report to HR. Married couples don't hide it anymore.

It's like the western system of open marriages is now accepted here, where each partner sleeps around with whomever they want to. No trust anymore.

Nah I'm not even thinking of marriage anytime soon

cooltola:


I am telling you it does not last and even though it lasts. It always end in divorce ,separation or death or a child with another man. If one is going to cheat, then one should not get married.

U r talking in theory. Look around you, marriages in Nigeria rarely end because the man has a concubine. It ends if the wife is also doing same

CanadaOrBust:


Like I said, exceptions. The vast majority of lastborns are babied without ever having to baby any sibling

What you say is not the gospel. It's just your opinion based on your own exposure. The last child in your family doesn't mirror last children in all families.

As soon as I could reach the sink, I started doing dishes and I did most of the cooking when I was old enough. And it's not peculiar to me. I know last children like me.

So all that "last children are spoilt and pampered" has always been a fallacy to me.

CanadaOrBust:


Let’s agree on this: a marriage is more likely to last if only one partner is sleeping around, than if both partners are sleeping around. Look around u - even poor men stay married to same woman for life, despite being womanizers

yes,many marriages last even when the woman or man is cheating,the problems starts when the man or woman will ignore his responsibility and foolishly fall in love with their cheating partner,I have seen many examples of husband's that love their wife and family but has a sexmate for casual or one night stand,such men or women don't have permanent cheating partner but can cheat occasionally when the opportunity to presents itself,for many individuals sex is just a reflex action and any small gesture or action can turn them on,I have seen situations when perfect strangers spontaneously have sex without even knowing their names ,many perfectly normal people don't even attach any big deal to sex,to them it is as natural as going to the toilet or urinating.

CanadaOrBust:


U r talking in theory. Look around you, marriages in Nigeria rarely end because the man has a concubine. It ends if the wife is also doing same

a perfect example of my theory, keeping playing the man is a player game and see what will happens at the end. a concubine does not count because Madam self know say the marriage is polygamous from the beginning and money dey . But for a one man and one woman type of marriage Madam go vex one day then eye go opens and people go wonder ,just saw this tread today https://www.nairaland.com/5945952/osun-wife-damages-husbands-genitals#90987957

Blackmoran:
The institution marriage in our generation is not realistic.. The main purpose of people getting married is to stay and live a monogamy life with your partner which is hard to practice, because both sexes now a polygamous in nature, with the invent of social media and technology both sexes have the ability to meet with a lot of people and are been distracted.... So what is the purpose of marriage when the vow you make deep down you know its likely you break it. And secondly how does marriage benefit a guy.... Pls give me 3 reason and don't tell children and cooking I can achieve that without getting married..

Are we monogamous by tradition?

Satanic programming has happened here for long. Everyone shall surely reap...

Fidelismaria:


Marriage has long outlive its usefulness

It hasn't outlived it's usefulness imo, I'd say just like the many other institutions...it has been grossly abused, hence the understanding of it's sacred purpose/use lost.

Consider this scenario;

Marriage = Corporation/Investment/Company/Institution
Couples = Partners/Investors/Associates
Child/Children = Raw material/Gift/Talent/Human resources
Family/Friends/Neighbours = Support structures
Society/Globe/Universe = Marketplace


With the above structure, we can see clearly that 'the marriage' is an institution divinely established to "discover/nurture/refine" these talents/gifts (kids) so they can become established and be a blessing
(value) to the world around them and beyond.

Family is an essential unit in the construct of any social environment (society) and to achieve results in the above enterprise, it's expected that two become one (Bible has it that except two be agreed, they can't walk together).

Instance1: It's breakfast and you and I have a loaf and an egg only, I want scrambled eggs but you earnestly desire to have your bread with boiled egg. How do we settle this matter and don't end up eating breakfast at noonday?

Instance2: Mr F and Sir Q have a production company, if their ethics and work attitude don't align....how can they meet their goals and objectives without missing their targets while still producing quality products?

Bet your response is for all to come to be in AGREEMENT.



Marriage is a great enterprise, both parties involved have to realize that they are both entrepreneurs (Partners) who should strive to see that the REASON why they are partnering up (marriage) is achieved.



-Lloyd

francisgodstime:
Are we monogamous by tradition?

no especially guys, but girls then majority of them are virtuous, meaning they are loyal... But now we are competing..

daewoorazer:


With this your “rachetness”, you’re only useful in the bedroom to scream “daddy destroy me” and wet our beds.

After which any guy(Even an homeless guy in this case) will run away, who wants to spend the rest of his life with an empty barrel?

Go and ask those big OSU aunties in the U.K, They are all married to an Army of dildos...

wish I could like this reply more than once

cooltola:


a perfect example of my theory, keeping playing the man is a player game and see what will happens at the end. a concubine does not count because Madam self know say the marriage is polygamous from the beginning and money dey . But for a one man and one woman type of marriage Madam go vex one day then eye go opens and people go wonder ,just saw this tread today https://www.nairaland.com/5945952/osun-wife-damages-husbands-genitals#90987957

U obviously don’t know the mordern definition of concubine - it means same as girlfriend, mistress.
I’m glad u said THEORY. Because in practice, in our country, marriages rarely crash because the man has an outside fling. Of course there are exceptions, and it’s not ideal, but it is the truth

Youngpo413:
I was expecting an insult...you must be new here...keep it up.

Lol... Not exactly but Ive leant to be civil overtime cos its only a mad fellow that goes about insulting people you dont know for airing their own views. Not worth it.

Alfather:
you might change my orientation.
so, what make's you a wife material?

I won't tell cos you are not the right one. When HE comes, he'll be in a better position to assert that. .