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Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by ibietela2(m): 11:25am On Jul 06, 2020

A friend said she doesn’t want to date a friend (me)

Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by Nobody: 11:26am On Jul 06, 2020

Eulalia:
What of us who don't have friends?

See ehn... I think its best to marry Someone who's friendly. If you know what I mean. Cos me I don't have friends let alone male friends.

Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by Righteousness89(m): 11:26am On Jul 06, 2020

alramon:

righteousness
the Bible says, "he who has found a wife has found a good thing and obtained favor from the Lord".. "found" not "revealed" open ur eyes b4 u pick, u will not see her in ur dreams believe me. Open ur eyes and pick and pray over the person u are choosing...

SUMMARY .........don't expect God to show u who to marry in ur dreams.....

Keep Decieving yourself! You are the one who will feel it!

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Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by tunize(m): 11:26am On Jul 06, 2020

PureGoldh:
This question looks rhetorical in nature

This is also another serious issue the question should be "Is your friend willing to marry you?.
And additionally imagine u been a friend to a girl/guy and u try to ask that person out u hear stuff like i respect us been friends.

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Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by Omoboricash(m): 11:27am On Jul 06, 2020

What it means to marry ur friend is
A friend who u can share anything with
Someone who is ur companion
A friend who knows in and out of u
Who has no hidden secret
By marrying a person with those quality I mentioned above , ur marriage would last like olumo rock

Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by connecttunde31: 11:27am On Jul 06, 2020

Marry your neighbor �

Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by Munzy14(m): 11:27am On Jul 06, 2020

akaahs:
Ur friend in marriage is someone U have real affection, someone U re fond Of or U like, someone U have strong bond, someone that support and feel deep connection.
Summary ur friend is someone U can play, pray, or eat together.

another deep words!

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Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by Yada01(m): 11:28am On Jul 06, 2020

A friend is one who is not ashamed to tell you how they feel about you, a friend is one who will not be boastful when they are around you, a friend is one who understand and trust you. A friend is one who will cry and be happy with you. A friend is one you can tell secrets and they will keep it.

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Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by SmartPolician: 11:28am On Jul 06, 2020

Boss13:
@OP ignore this new breed of marriage counselors that know nothing about marriage but keep repeating talking points created by Hollywood, American Advert Companies, and Fantasy writers.

These people have sold a deception and got a lot of people confused about marriage.

Marriage has nothing to do with love.

For all intent and purposes, this is FALSE

There may be a lot to marriage, but LOVE is the foundation

Love makes the two parties endure the individual differences in each other

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Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by seanwilliam(m): 11:29am On Jul 06, 2020

GboyegaD:
Whoever you choose to marry, beyond the love, make him/her your friend. Be interested in what s/he is interested in, be willing to be that person s/he looks to spend quality time with.

so if the person is interested in anal, and u no dey interested, wetin go happen? grin

Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by 2cribz: 11:30am On Jul 06, 2020

I got no best friend and all the girls i tried being friends with wantrd to extort me. God forbid

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Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by bignero: 11:30am On Jul 06, 2020

Boss13:
@OP ignore this new breed of marriage counselors that know nothing about marriage but keep repeating talking points created by Hollywood, American Advert Companies, and Fantasy writers.

These people have sold a deception and got a lot of people confused about marriage.

Marriage has nothing to do with love.

See this one..
You seemed to be making sense only to end up in NON sense..

Anyways when we have 15 and 16 year Olds on here dishing out advice.. . Take any advice here at your peril

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Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by alizma: 11:30am On Jul 06, 2020

HembaqMbk:
Marriage counsellors keep advising singles to always marry their friends. My question is - who really is your "Friend" ?. I believe answer to this question will help us understand all these "Marry your friend" preaching.

See thread where such advice was give - https://www.nairaland.com/5971268/marry-best-friend-bishop-chris

Please I implore married men and women on this forum to tell us what it means to marry your friend and who your friend is in the context of marriage.

Thanks.

The other side of the question they don't treat is " are you your best friend's best?
As a married man, I will advise you to marry someone you can tolerate when he/she is in his /her worse moment. That boiled down to acceptance and understanding. Before you get to the alter to say I do, access your ability to manage your partner's worse moment than focusing on the good time you are going to enjoy together because good time rarely leads to separation but bad time does.

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Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by CharlesJok3r: 11:30am On Jul 06, 2020

I am male and my friend is also male. I doubt he will be interested in marrying me.

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Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by Simvan: 11:31am On Jul 06, 2020

Klass99:

Interesting question, I am curious to know as well.

Not long ago a lady shared her story here about being married to a man who was taking her and their marriage for granted.

She said they were friends before lovers and before getting married.

Trust NLanders with yeye for body nah Someone asked on that thread "where are those marry your friend crew" ?

Lol

Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by GboyegaD(m): 11:31am On Jul 06, 2020

seanwilliam:
so if the person is interested in anal, and u no dey interested, wetin go happen?

Is this what interest means to you?

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Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by seanwilliam(m): 11:32am On Jul 06, 2020

mrkings84:
My friend is my friend na...
Abi my friend na your friend??

On a serious note, the only advice I will give to couples or intending couples is, LOVE SOMEONE YOU MARRY, DONT MARRY SOMEONE YOU LOVE.

Don't be confused about that statement. It means, even if it's an unavoidable situation that made u both become husband and wife just love yourselves cos that's the only way your marriage can be successful.

Saying u should not marry someone u love doesn't mean u should marry someone u hate..NO, but u will agree many people were lusting cos of maybe the current qualities their spouses had then, so what happens when those qualities are no longer available Hatred sets in, and the family is torn apart.... Love your wife, love your husband!

stop confusing yourself jare... I wish I could hold u sir and give you a knockout... grin

I read the bolded pass 5 times

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Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by Nobody: 11:33am On Jul 06, 2020

Righteousness89:

Keep Decieving yourself! You are the one who will feel it!

okay show me anywhere in the Bible, that a man dreamt of his wife or a woman dreamt of her husband........
is it Abraham or Isaac or who do u even want to mention?....

I'll be waiting here for u, if u've seen one verse let me know...

I'm waiting o

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Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by Mutaultope(m): 11:33am On Jul 06, 2020

sometimes Friends don't see you as spouse .....
Friends can marry each other and later the marriage turns sour .
Any one you fall in love with is your friend jor

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Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by seanwilliam(m): 11:33am On Jul 06, 2020

GboyegaD:

Is this what interest means to you?

it might sound funny..but interest comes in different form sir

Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by Nobody: 11:34am On Jul 06, 2020

eni4real:

What?

Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by Ishilove: 11:34am On Jul 06, 2020

Naptu2, what are we waiting for? cheesy

Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by ednut1(m): 11:35am On Jul 06, 2020

Righteousness89:
Before Marriage, seek God's Face for Direction. Very Important

As Humans, we are Extremely Limited..

God Speaks! God Directs! God Reveals! All you need is to seek Him with a Honest Heart!

Don't seek God Almighty with a Choice in mind! If not devil may also give u a dream...

I remember telling God years ago, that if I don't hear him, I won't Marry! I had so many people around me who were willing to marry me but my mind was made up.

Glory to God, He Gave me His Choice for me..

Hearing God eliminates Struggles! When things are looking funny, HE Shows up and fixes it because HE is only Committed to where He sends you!

It's what God Gives that He is committed to!

even pastors that talk to God still marry wrongly

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Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by thesolutions(m): 11:35am On Jul 06, 2020

Your friend is some one that you can give any of your valuable item to in time of need. But marriage is an agreement. If you have such a friend and you both negotiate marriage and agree to the terms, you both are in for a happy life.

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Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by honest1480(m): 11:36am On Jul 06, 2020

Marrying your friend means getting married to a lady or a man you both started without marriage intention at the initial point, but along the line you found that person to possess the qualities you desire in your future partner. It is not advisable to marry a stranger because the understanding you both need to live together as husband and wife might not be available. Meanwhile, to a greater extent, you understand your friend. I got married to my wife whom I met as a friend during our 200 level back then in Uniabuja. To the glory of God, we are living so happily as best of friends because we so much understand each other.

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Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by Bostin(m): 11:36am On Jul 06, 2020

The only friend we have is Jesus ,forget every other friends on earth. Worldly friends are the people that can never get tired of you no matter the situations , a true meaning of for better and for worse. True Love is to love the unlovable ...It doesn't exist in this generation ..just live it and leave it ..

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Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by Righteousness89(m): 11:37am On Jul 06, 2020

alramon:

okay show me anywhere in the Bible, that a man dreamt of his wife or a woman dreamt of her husband........
is it Abraham or Isaac or who do u even want to mention?....

I'll be waiting here for u, if u've seen one verse let me know...

I'm waiting o

You don't need to wait for Abramham or Adam before you know you need God's Choice in your life..

The institution of Marriage is founded by God Almighty!
If you need a Stressless marriage on Earth then you must Ask and seek God for His Choice..

Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by delkuf(m): 11:37am On Jul 06, 2020

Righteousness89:
Before Marriage, seek God's Face for Direction. Very Important

As Humans, we are Extremely Limited..

God Speaks! God Directs! God Reveals! All you need is to seek Him with a Honest Heart!

Don't seek God Almighty with a Choice in mind! If not devil may also give u a dream...

I remember telling God years ago, that if I don't hear him, I won't Marry! I had so many people around me who were willing to marry me but my mind was made up.

Glory to God, He Gave me His Choice for me..

Hearing God eliminates Struggles! When things are looking funny, HE Shows up and fixes it because HE is only Committed to where He sends you!

It's what God Gives that He is committed to!

I did, but what I am getting out of this marriage is killing me. I don't know if God really answered my prayer

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Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by Simvan: 11:38am On Jul 06, 2020

emmabest2000:
Police is your friend

Marry police

Lol why this? grin

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Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by Righteousness89(m): 11:39am On Jul 06, 2020

ednut1:
even pastors that talk to God still marry wrongly

How does being a pastor correspond to hearing from God! You must be a baby!

It's persons like you that can be Deceived and toiled with any how!

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Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by jaxxy(m): 11:40am On Jul 06, 2020

HembaqMbk:
Marriage counsellors keep advising singles to always marry their friends. My question is - who really is your "Friend" ?. I believe answer to this question will help us understand all these "Marry your friend" preaching.

See thread where such advice was give - https://www.nairaland.com/5971268/marry-best-friend-bishop-chris

Please I implore married men and women on this forum to tell us what it means to marry your friend and who your friend is in the context of marriage.

Thanks.

Ur frnd is the person who likes u, respects u and ur frndship with them and sticks to that frndship at all times. **A frnd doesn’t Change when circumstances change around u**.

In other words nobody is ur frnd. Only God.

I’m joking oo grin

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Re: "Marry Your Friend" - Who Then Is Your Friend? by Nobody: 11:42am On Jul 06, 2020

Righteousness89:

You don't need to wait for Abramham or Adam before you know You know you need God's Choice in your life..

The institution of Marriage is founded by God Almighty!
If you need a Stressless marriage on Earth then you must Ask and seek God for His Choice..

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