Liposure:
isnt it risky considering the saying that your friend could be your worst enemy.

emmabest2000:
Police is your friend
Marry police

ImaIma1:


You don't know who your friends are?

But in case you don't know, let me borrow from tobechi74

"anybody that adds value to your life"

joseph1832:
One would think they're promoting homosexuality. Lol. Then again, hardly have I seen a man having a woman as his best friend and hardly have I seen a woman having a man as his best friend.

HembaqMbk:
Marriage counsellors keep advising singles to always marry their friends. My question is - who really is your "Friend" ?. I believe answer to this question will help us understand all these "Marry your friend" preaching.

See thread where such advice was give - https://www.nairaland.com/5971268/marry-best-friend-bishop-chris


Please I implore married men and women on this forum to tell us what it means to marry your friend and who your friend is in the context of marriage.


Thanks.

lexy2014:


Adding value in what sense?

Alexaonfleek:
Hmm.

But if you look at it from another angle,marrying your friend might make you overfamiliar with him/her.
Which might kill the sexual attraction.

My opinion

Omar09:


In Actual Sense

ImaIma1:


Please de-mobilize them

peterangelo:
wat if she don't wonna marry u

lexy2014:


Adding value in what sense?

Ishilove:
Naptu2, what are we waiting for?

Righteousness89:
Before Marriage, seek God's Face for Direction. Very Important

As Humans, we are Extremely Limited..

God Speaks! God Directs! God Reveals! All you need is to seek Him with a Honest Heart!

Don't seek God Almighty with a Choice in mind! If not devil may also give u a dream...

I remember telling God years ago, that if I don't hear him, I won't Marry! I had so many people around me who were willing to marry me but my mind was made up.

Glory to God, He Gave me His Choice for me..

Hearing God eliminates Struggles! When things are looking funny, HE Shows up and fixes it because HE is only Committed to where He sends you!

It's what God Gives that He is committed to!

ImaIma1:


Adding value in every sense that benefits you.

lexy2014:


So if a person doesn't add value in every sense that doesn't benefit me, then that person isn't a friend?

Champneys:


Ori e ti daaru, iwo odensin yi!
Ubiak fokasibe your life dia.

Alexaonfleek:
Hmm.

But if you look at it from another angle,marrying your friend might make you overfamiliar with him/her.
Which might kill the sexual attraction.

My opinion

mrkings84:
My friend is my friend na...
Abi my friend na your friend??


On a serious note, the only advice I will give to couples or intending couples is, LOVE SOMEONE YOU MARRY, DONT MARRY SOMEONE YOU LOVE.

Don't be confused about that statement. It means, even if it's an unavoidable situation that made u both become husband and wife just love yourselves cos that's the only way your marriage can be successful.

Saying u should not marry someone u love doesn't mean u should marry someone u hate..NO, but u will agree many people were lusting cos of maybe the current qualities their spouses had then, so what happens when those qualities are no longer available Hatred sets in, and the family is torn apart.... Love your wife, love your husband!

honest1480:
Marrying your friend means getting married to a lady or a man you both started without marriage intention at the initial point, but along the line you found that person to possess the qualities you desire in your future partner. It is not advisable to marry a stranger because the understanding you both need to live together as husband and wife might not be available. Meanwhile, to a greater extent, you understand your friend. I got married to my wife whom I met as a friend during our 200 level back then in Uniabuja. To the glory of God, we are living so happily as best of friends because we so much understand each other.

ImaIma1:


Sai! A tang iko nte idad. Aya do ok.

ImaIma1:


Answer the question yourself. Is that person your friend?

There are more qualities that a friend should have. I am sure you can figure it out

ELibraryNG:
If you ask me na who I go ask?

On a Serious note, if you have a best friend from the opposite sex, marry the person

Modified. - All those shouting FTC always, how much Una dey collect from nairaland?

joseph1832:
are you proposing?

Ishilove:

Naptu2 is even far. You sef what are we waiting for??

Kenny9857:

Awon space booker

Slynation:

This was exactly a similar scenario I thought about yesterday...
I have few ladies as friends which has lasted for about 4-8years & still counting, I mean very good friends, no sex attached neither do they have the parasitic behavior of exploitation & manipulation (perhaps to me tho) ...As a guy, it was quite difficult because as we all know, the preeq is autonomous and charges at will, sometimes the thought of going naughty on her do pops up but I was usually restrained by the choice of losing the friendship in case of rejection or satisfying my sexual urge.

So I was just thinking about my love journey yesterday, I noticed all the girls I've dated so far, Our relationship didn't start on gradual process, it accelerated from 0 to 60 under 1week...And I can guarantee you they all ended in tears

So now I want to channel my love to one of my female friends that can lead to marriage let me see how it goes...So OP pray for me oO, because I will be giving you a feedback of my personal experience