bukatyne:


Brother Ollins,

If this lady is as terrible as this, how were you able to get an erection to stick it into her?

How did you start the toasting to get her into your bed and arms?

The same magic you worked to get her pregnant, use it again.

It is in you like peak!

LOL. I would say she was an “easy-catch” for him.

Why are ladies talking as if marriage is supposed to be a righteous punishment for this man? Is happiness not part of the ingredients of a good marriage?

The woman is not happy too. Why punish yourself just because the man would feel the heat too? That’s self-destructive.

Ollins, divorce her as soon as your lawyer says you can. It’s for your own sanity and hers. As for the kid, he/she would be better off with two sane parents separated rather than living with two bitter parents.

My mom always say this to me " make sure the lady you're having flings with is someone you know you can marry (your spec) should in case of pregnancy. But as it is now, I'd advise you to make her into your kind of woman

ollins:
Let me cut the story short. Had a fling with this girl, along the line she got pregnant. You know all that talk of "if you could sleep with her, then you must marry her" "if you got her pregnant then you must marry her", Iooking back now, I wished I hadn't listened to all those voices.

I knew in my heart that I didn't love her, even she knew but the pressure from the family was too much, I had to marry her. On my marriage day I was practically crying within me.

Her character is just opposite of all I wanted in a woman, she's barely educated, loud and loquacious.

That's my cross I am carrying today, stuck in a loveless marriage.

The warmth and Romance is absent from our home, we have not had intimacy since beginning of the year till now, we just have no interest anymore in each other. We are just living together for the sake of our child.

My question now is how does one cope�? Is this how I am going to live the rest of my life?

If this story line is true, then you (the writer) is as confused and untruthful as the father of all lies.

Look at your statement:
" Had a fling with this girl"
" knew in my heart that I didn't love her"
" Her character is just opposite of all I wanted in a woman"

And you had a sexual relationship with a person you knew in your heart you didn't love, who has a character opposite of all you wanted in a woman? Fine!

Yet you kept banging her p*$$y constantly, only Devil knows how long this lasted, maybe six months plus.

All of a sudden you now hate her!

Because you have seen someone out there better or perfect that her, a marriage out there perfect than yours.

My mother once told me a word of wisdom "all our problems are caused with our own hands and actions"


Better love her up and enjoy your marriage if the story is true (I repeat for the second time), or "end up in had I know"

mrchineke:


Ok, come and marry me by force na. See if you will not be 6ft under in 6 months.

Who is this one? Do you realize you just made a threat of killing someone? Just because you are on the internet you can talk as you like.

Anyways my life is not bound to be lost in the hands of another human being, because I'm also careful not take stupid decisions and I watch my company, so the day I will meet a demon like you who has the intention of killing, God will take you first to that 6ft under you so desire such that I never even get to know you existed.

Let everyone be responsible for their actions. You don't like a woman but can sleep with her recklessly to get pregnant and I should be sorry for the person? I don't waste my sympathies on nonsense.

ollins:
Let me cut the story short. Had a fling with this girl, along the line she got pregnant. You know all that talk of "if you could sleep with her, then you must marry her" "if you got her pregnant then you must marry her", Iooking back now, I wished I hadn't listened to all those voices.

I knew in my heart that I didn't love her, even she knew but the pressure from the family was too much, I had to marry her. On my marriage day I was practically crying within me.

Her character is just opposite of all I wanted in a woman, she's barely educated, loud and loquacious.

That's my cross I am carrying today, stuck in a loveless marriage.

The warmth and Romance is absent from our home, we have not had intimacy since beginning of the year till now, we just have no interest anymore in each other. We are just living together for the sake of our child.

My question now is how does one cope�? Is this how I am going to live the rest of my life?

haha brother, I dey laugh because people like u always think is all about you you, do u think that she don't have her own dreams, or are u thinking u are all she wants in life, baba she wants dangote son too, all u need to do is tell her what u dislike in her, let her work on it, then if she refused to work on it, that is when u can take a walk, because who ever u are going to marry again, u will still find fault, people like u don't know what u want, I don't stick my thing in a girl I don't fancy, how did u get in there when she has all this fault u mentioned. Brother work on yourself and her too thanks

donbachi:
I rather marry 10 times,than die in one..their is no coping in hell,no amendments,no repentance...u just stay there and burn.

Wawu

Unnerve:

Funny question, but not surprising coming from a woman. Lol

You don't understand the unique electrical impulses of a man's brain. Most men don't need to believe a woman is great or the best before sticking it into her.
The problem usually begins when he gets carried away by how good the sex was and then marries her just because of it, e.g the OP

Funny

Don't listen to that divorcee. He is from a broken home!

ollins:
hmmmm

UjuJoan2:


That's if she was truly even waiting for him. He has probably been her plan B, C or even D all these while.

So a woman will just stay and be waiting patiently for a man she has never met for four good years. Odiegwu.



Let him be there deceiving himself.

Ssssshhhh

I didn't want to say so too..... but I believe he was part of the buffet .... fear woman but when he said Yoruba girl....sigh! She may have been waiting true true...
Yoruba girls can wait. (I am Yoruba but mo to ja)

Abi idiot and dindinrin ni eleyi ni...u put yourself in d mess all in the name of flirting around with ladies...is it until when we tell you that brain is an app before you start using it.... everyone like you that want to flirt and dumb d lady may God always put you to shame...she is not educated abi take her to Babcock, convenant or landmark University and sponsor her...foolish guy.

gudvibz:
Try and get to know her, try understanding her and get all to her. Both of u need to sit down and talk about you (both) and ur likes and dislikes, virtually about everything, if nothing changes well separation or u bear it till the end.

You know love is grown

I disagree.

If the bond is not there, is not there.

I have been there and know how it feels.

bukatyne:


Brother Ollins,

If this lady is as terrible as this, how were you able to get an erection to stick it into her?

How did you start the toasting to get her into your bed and arms?

The same magic you worked to get her pregnant, use it again.

It is in you like peak!

Lol! Exactly. Why would you have sex with someone you claim not to like and not use condom?

You allowed your third Leg to control you,and that is the price


Is only God's mercy that will help you.


Repent from Your Sins

Receive Jesus as Your Lord and Personal Saviour

Ask for His Mercy

IamDavid:

I'm happy you explained how you're not a tribalist. I initially thought you were anyways. This (your explanation) is exactly how I feel about Igbo ladies. I love them, they're usually light skinned and beautiful (oh my gosh) but to gather strength to ask them out, na war for me. I was so close to one like that, we were next door neighbours in a rented apartment and we got so well together. I was getting emotional already but this tribe thing ehn... I'm Yoruba btw

I know, everyone wants a piece of Igbo ladies

They are like the Jewel in d Savannah.

ImaIma1:
I guess sex happened or she just fell pregnant.

If not, why get intimate with someone you can't seem to stand.

...and not use a condom. Why would anyone have raw sex with a person they don't like.

Raymeg7:
haha brother, I dey laugh because people like u always think is all about you you, do u think that she don't have her own dreams, or are u thinking u are all she wants in life, baba she wants dangote son too, all u need to do is tell her what u dislike in her, let her work on it, then if she refused to work on it, that is when u can take a walk, because who ever u are going to marry again, u will still find fault, people like u don't know what u want, I don't stick my thing in a girl I don't fancy, how did u get in there when she has all this fault u mentioned. Brother work on yourself and her too thanks

You just made me remember that Michael W. Smith's song.

I'm going back to the heart of worship
Where it's all about you
It's all about you Jesus.

Make I go download am.

ELKHALIFAISIS:
so what will be the reason he hate her if not any of this

if he is sincere he will tell you he still wants to fuc.k around.
He doesn't want to settle down yet.
Or he is looking at other grasses he considers Greener, which in actuality is not.

The problem is from the guy... Simple

Oga pls carry it, its your cross, be thanksful say, you dont finger the devil here,


you are talking of her character, when you were banshing her you no remember ni?


There is always a way outta it man,

start by polishing her up a little, take to fun spots, try and get to know her,


you can make her to have all those quality you need in a woman, brush her up to ya teste man,

then come back and tell us how many goals you score

ollins:
Let me cut the story short. Had a fling with this girl, along the line she got pregnant. You know all that talk of "if you could sleep with her, then you must marry her" "if you got her pregnant then you must marry her", Iooking back now, I wished I hadn't listened to all those voices.

I knew in my heart that I didn't love her, even she knew but the pressure from the family was too much, I had to marry her. On my marriage day I was practically crying within me.

Her character is just opposite of all I wanted in a woman, she's barely educated, loud and loquacious.

That's my cross I am carrying today, stuck in a loveless marriage.

The warmth and Romance is absent from our home, we have not had intimacy since beginning of the year till now, we just have no interest anymore in each other. We are just living together for the sake of our child.

My question now is how does one cope�? Is this how I am going to live the rest of my life?

veave:



You didn't need to quote me in order to give your own advice. Rage comes actually from an accumulation of past and present resentments unattended to. You'd be surprised to know that 85% of spousal murder-suicide started softly like this. I'm all for everyone having peace and sleeping well at night. Wait, do you think a woman would thrive well in a house she's not loved and wanted?
I don't understand what you mean by mess the young woman's life... Kindly explain this.

I actually had to quote you because I am replying to your advice to the guy.

Talking of murder, who told you that the lady won't murder the guy if he leaves her now after making her a mother, she probably didn't plan for?

What mess is more than a guy getting a woman involuntary pregnant?

As much as I understood in this post, the woman is not the problem, the guy is. He should stop looking at other side thinking it's greener and build his home.

That's the simplest thing for him to do.

Hahahahahaha sister you badt gannn,,,

seriously its sometin about the gal, that give him a strong pile, to drill the hole, after him don see oyel finish, e no wan refine am

bukatyne:


Brother Ollins,

If this lady is as terrible as this, how were you able to get an erection to stick it into her?

How did you start the toasting to get her into your bed and arms?

The same magic you worked to get her pregnant, use it again.

It is in you like peak!

Bro it is not that you don't love her. the problem is, she didn't meet up to your spec. I will advise you to accept her the way she is. then the love will come. if not you can never lover her.

U die there, till death separate you.

And you are now a Dad, that should make you know her and try to make things work.

Bro let me tell no one is perfect,their surely b something in her dat u like build on dat.u can change her to ur own taste.but d secret is that their is someone else u love and adore try and forget d girl and move one.remember ur daughter too deserves happiness in her marriage so make someone's daughter happy

ImaIma1:


I pray the exercise keeps the OP's marriage fit.

Nah we don't have sex with who we love...we make love it's different

But he should get the Bleep out this one,marriage nor be by force,nothing should bait one into marriage in 2020. They shouldn't raise a kid in a home where no love exist

donbachi:
I rather marry 10 times,than die in one..their is no coping in hell,no amendments,no repentance...u just stay there and burn.

abi

You failed to zip up, if not you would have taken your time to pray for the right one,

ollins:
Let me cut the story short. Had a fling with this girl, along the line she got pregnant. You know all that talk of "if you could sleep with her, then you must marry her" "if you got her pregnant then you must marry her", Iooking back now, I wished I hadn't listened to all those voices.

I knew in my heart that I didn't love her, even she knew but the pressure from the family was too much, I had to marry her. On my marriage day I was practically crying within me.

Her character is just opposite of all I wanted in a woman, she's barely educated, loud and loquacious.

That's my cross I am carrying today, stuck in a loveless marriage.

The warmth and Romance is absent from our home, we have not had intimacy since beginning of the year till now, we just have no interest anymore in each other. We are just living together for the sake of our child.

My question now is how does one cope�? Is this how I am going to live the rest of my life?

God is Love, Love is God, anyone that does not know God, cannot truly Love.
Give your life to Christ and then Love her, the way God commanded you to Love her

ollins:
Let me cut the story short. Had a fling with this girl, along the line she got pregnant. You know all that talk of "if you could sleep with her, then you must marry her" "if you got her pregnant then you must marry her", Iooking back now, I wished I hadn't listened to all those voices.

I knew in my heart that I didn't love her, even she knew but the pressure from the family was too much, I had to marry her. On my marriage day I was practically crying within me.

Her character is just opposite of all I wanted in a woman, she's barely educated, loud and loquacious.

That's my cross I am carrying today, stuck in a loveless marriage.

The warmth and Romance is absent from our home, we have not had intimacy since beginning of the year till now, we just have no interest anymore in each other. We are just living together for the sake of our child.

My question now is how does one cope�? Is this how I am going to live the rest of my life?

God is Love, Love is God, anyone that does not know God, cannot truly Love.
Give your life to Christ and then Love her, the way God commanded you to Love her and your marriage will turn around, even though the foundation of your marriage was faulty, God can show you mercy and help set the solitary in your home, but first, give your life to Christ

If u spread her legs u beta learn to love her n live wit her
Man no b we go put asunder!

Ningen:
You only live once man. Don't waste it.

You don't have to cope, grow old and die in a loveless marriage, when you can divorce each other and move towards a very happy life.

Staying for your child??

He will do better with happy parents!
Regardless if the parents are together or apart.

Mr man in as much you made sense you have to realize divorce doesn't usually go down well for the divorced wives. You think a once married woman to marry again is that easy? C'mon man that's peak selfishness! OP knows his only probs is on the lack of education/exposure characters exhibited by the wife but he won't tell us, he supposedly thought she'd fix up.

donbachi:
I rather marry 10 times,than die in one..their is no coping in hell,no amendments,no repentance...u just stay there and burn.

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