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pcguru1:
Left to me both you and the sisters should be kicked out, you are 23, as long as you are in someone's roof, you have to respect and deal with alot, he will favour his wife obviously. Besides its surprising how you feel so comfortable in someone's house and even complaining to the person housing you.

pcguru1:
Left to me both you and the sisters should be kicked out, you are 23, as long as you are in someone's roof, you have to respect and deal with alot, he will favour his wife obviously. Besides its surprising how you feel so comfortable in someone's house and even complaining to the person housing you.

veave:
Errrrrr. You go need patience oooo.

One thing you should know is that your brother is now married and is firstly responsible to his wife and kids before any other person so him allowing three extended family to stay in this hard times is an act of kindness and bravery please don't add more stress to his life by bickering with your in-laws. We women are troublesome by nature then when we see someone who has our time we extend the trouble. The truth is
1. There is no way the room would have been left for you while there are women in the house (they need privacy).
2. Why will you say that you will go to the village? Don't you know you give your brother some kind of security in the midst of his wife and her obviously troublesome sisters by staying with him? Has he asked you to leave yet?
3. You where wrong to slap the young woman, no matter what the grieviance is you don't touch a woman.
4. They where wrong to throw your mattress out but please forgive them and move on. Thank God your brother made provisions for a replacement.
5. Take this place as a training ground for your future, if it's anything you should be bothered about now, is to be more determined about gaining independence and making it in life.
6. Leave rofo rofo fight for women, in fact ignore them totally for your national peace.
7. Hustle!!! Hustle!!! Hustle oooooo!!!!

Hugs.

veave:
Errrrrr. You go need patience oooo.

One thing you should know is that your brother is now married and is firstly responsible to his wife and kids before any other person so him allowing three extended family to stay in this hard times is an act of kindness and bravery please don't add more stress to his life by bickering with your in-laws. We women are troublesome by nature then when we see someone who has our time we extend the trouble. The truth is
1. There is no way the room would have been left for you while there are women in the house (they need privacy).
2. Why will you say that you will go to the village? Don't you know you give your brother some kind of security in the midst of his wife and her obviously troublesome sisters by staying with him? Has he asked you to leave yet?
3. You where wrong to slap the young woman, no matter what the grieviance is you don't touch a woman.
4. They where wrong to throw your mattress out but please forgive them and move on. Thank God your brother made provisions for a replacement.
5. Take this place as a training ground for your future, if it's anything you should be bothered about now, is to be more determined about gaining independence and making it in life.
6. Leave rofo rofo fight for women, in fact ignore them totally for your national peace.
7. Hustle!!! Hustle!!! Hustle oooooo!!!!

Hugs.

Championxxx:
I am 23 years old guy I ave been staying with my brother in Abuja for the past 8 years , I help him with his shop and his house , everything was fine till he got married his wife carry his two sisters to the house 24 and 19 years old , he said I should leave my room for them I didn’t argue I let them have the room while I am sleeping in the parlour , during lockdown this girl will wake and come to the parlour to watch tv to disturb my sleep , I complained to my brother he said I should keep calm he will speak to his wife which he never does and these girls kept disturbing me meanwhile the older girl stopped but the younger one carry on and I told her to stop disturbing me she has a phone she can press her phone in their room , she insulted me and told me to go and marry I got angry and ask her to leave she said I should do my worst and I landed a thunder slap in her face she held me by my neck screaming when my bro and wife came his wife started hitting me on my back I had to leave the house and went outside to cool down , my brother followed me and said I didn’t do well by hitting his wife sister he said I should go and apologise to his wife and sister , I refuse and asked him why he didn’t stop them when I was complaining bitterly about them but he waited for me to take matter to my own hand now he blamed me he said I should apologise which I did to his wife but not to the girl but that small girl was expecting me to knelt down and beg her , I told her she will wait for eternity.

Since the incidence his wife stopped talking to me , she ordered her sister’s to stop giving me food , the older girl used to dish food for me sometimes when she is not around but I told her to stop because I don’t want her to be in trouble with her sister and I didn’t report to my brother, it’s not a big deal for me I buy foods and eat at work and I only go home to sleep , 2 weeks ago I came home to see my mattress outside in the rain soaking wet , I was confused because it was supposed to be inside the girl room that’s where I keep it and they always bring it for me when is time for me to sleep so how come it was outside in the rain , I asked them they both denied they didn’t take it out and I suspected my brother wife or her youngest sister were the one who did it because they didn’t want me in the house anymore , I told my brother he said I should sleep on the sofa and in the morning I will get a new mattress in his shop but the wife get angry that I will damaged her sofa she wanted me to sleep on the floor with a wrapper but my brother refuse and I slept on the sofa , the next day I spoke with my brother I told him because I am not wanted in his house I don’t have peace of mind there , I want him to rent a self cont for me closer to the shop so It will be easier for me to get to work he refuse saying when he has a bigger house why would I go and leave alone , he said he provide all my needs and the rest the way his wife and sisters are treating me it doesn’t matter that he will never allow me and I told him I want to go back to the village , he said if I leave his house he will disown me and I will not longer be his brother , for 3 days now he stopped talking to me even if I greet him he won’t reply I feel hurt. I love my brother I want to serve him but I don’t want to stay in his house . I don’t know if I did something wrong by asking him to rent a room for me to be living alone? Am confuse please advice me

cococandy:
1) Not all women are troublesome.
2) how can they sleep comfortably in their room and then come to the room where he is sleeping to disturb him very early ? It’s unfair. How long is he supposed to endure that?
3) he took the right approach by asking his bro to fix the issue at first. I don’t support hm slapping the girl but if his brother wasn’t too chicken to set boundaries, it wouldn’t have devolved to that.
4)I bet his brother doesn’t know he’s not even being fed in the house anymore. So much for caring about his own brother.

I won’t even be surprised if the wife manages to influence her husband not to settle him. I mean the guy is not longer responding to his greetings.

peropoliet:
you need a doctor privacy kill you

veave:
They're trying to kick him out and he's almost dancing to their tune. If you keep pouring water on stone in other to bore a hole, when you don't see any progress wouldn't you stop? Let me tell you, his brother's wife invited her sisters to torment him. If he's wise he'd ignore them and stay on his lane.

veave:
Errrrrr. You go need patience oooo.

One thing you should know is that your brother is now married and is firstly responsible to his wife and kids before any other person so him allowing three extended family to stay in this hard times is an act of kindness and bravery please don't add more stress to his life by bickering with your in-laws. We women are troublesome by nature then when we see someone who has our time we extend the trouble. The truth is
1. There is no way the room would have been left for you while there are women in the house (they need privacy).
2. Why will you say that you will go to the village? Don't you know you give your brother some kind of security in the midst of his wife and her obviously troublesome sisters by staying with him? Has he asked you to leave yet?
3. You where wrong to slap the young woman, no matter what the grieviance is you don't touch a woman.
4. They where wrong to throw your mattress out but please forgive them and move on. Thank God your brother made provisions for a replacement.
5. Take this place as a training ground for your future, if it's anything you should be bothered about now, is to be more determined about gaining independence and making it in life.
6. Leave rofo rofo fight for women, in fact ignore them totally for your national peace.
7. Hustle!!! Hustle!!! Hustle oooooo!!!!

Hugs.

veave:
Errrrrr. You go need patience oooo.

One thing you should know is that your brother is now married and is firstly responsible to his wife and kids before any other person so him allowing three extended family to stay in this hard times is an act of kindness and bravery please don't add more stress to his life by bickering with your in-laws. We women are troublesome by nature then when we see someone who has our time we extend the trouble. The truth is
1. There is no way the room would have been left for you while there are women in the house (they need privacy).
2. Why will you say that you will go to the village? Don't you know you give your brother some kind of security in the midst of his wife and her obviously troublesome sisters by staying with him? Has he asked you to leave yet?
3. You where wrong to slap the young woman, no matter what the grieviance is you don't touch a woman.
4. They where wrong to throw your mattress out but please forgive them and move on. Thank God your brother made provisions for a replacement.
5. Take this place as a training ground for your future, if it's anything you should be bothered about now, is to be more determined about gaining independence and making it in life.
6. Leave rofo rofo fight for women, in fact ignore them totally for your national peace.
7. Hustle!!! Hustle!!! Hustle oooooo!!!!

Hugs.

Acidosis:
Obviously? Because all men are leafy vegetables?

mariahAngel:
It's not like he's staying there for free.
He helps his brother in his business.
Also, why are you all talking as if 23 is too old to be supported? This is Nigeria o, let's be realistic.

For those who don't totally understand the situation: he's serving his brother so that he can learn the business and own his own in the near future.
Going back to the village will be a setback for him.

LadySarah:
He is an apprentice. There no wrong living there. It's obviously settlement money that's still keeping him there. Theres a concord!
The wife should treat everybody well regardless of who is who. Nobody knows 2moro.

veave:
They're trying to kick him out and he's almost dancing to their tune. If you keep pouring water on stone in other to bore a hole, when you don't see any progress wouldn't you stop? Let me tell you, his brother's wife invited her sisters to torment him. If he's wise he'd ignore them and stay on his lane.

Championxxx:
They were doing all this to frustrate me I think she brought them to the house with a mission to frustrate me so I can leave , the funny part is they don’t come to clean only to watch tv and making all kind of noises to disturb my sleep and if I am awake they will go back to their room to sleep till noon. These girls has never help around the house when I am around , I do everything mopping , sweeping , washing dishes when they around pressing phone my brother doesn’t say anything to them. I asked him if he is right for me to do all these chores when we have his wife sisters at home , he said before he married I was the one doing it and why am now I complaining , I told because it doesn’t sound right for me to be doing chores when the girls are busy pressing phone, anyway there is more but not everything is good to say on social media. If he refuse renting a place for me I think I will go back to the village because I am short tempered I don’t want to stay in the same house with that mannerless small girl because I don’t want to do something stupid that will land me to prison for life . I prefer to be in the village than staying somewhere where I am not comfortable

abimbola74:
You yourself knows you have limited time to stay with them cos you are of age already and soon you will be settled by your bruh so y do you want to sacrifice all you have laboured for cos of some mofos? Drink garri if need be just to achieve what you came to do

mrblessed:
The little-mindedness of an average Nigerian woman is on full display in your brother's house and, unfortunately, you have become the victim. To be Frank with you, your brother's wife has no respect for him, hence she is eager to maltreat you because she knows there will be no consequences to suffer. Even while I am not undermining your ordeals at the hands of that immature woman, I am more concerned about your brother's loss of authority in his own house. How come his sisters-law are having a field day in his house doing what they like, while you, his blood, is treated like a prisoner.

There is no quick fix to this problem since your brother has been thoroughly emasculated and rendered impotent. You have to make a mental note on how to treat and relate with them, banish the thought of stampeding your brother into renting a house for you, or outright leaving his house. Just wear patience as a garb, and pray that your effeminate brother will find his bearing very soon.

Championxxx:
They have parents also living in Abuja I think she carry them to the house because she wanted me to leave the house that is why they had been treating me bad

mariahAngel:
Happy birthday to you Mr Blessed
Your interesting comment led me to your profile

XX01:
When his apprenticeship is done, he can then be the master of his life.

sisisioge:
You can't serve your brother forever biko...they are telling you subtly to grow up faster than you were pacing yourself before. Its time to go...I hope you have something saved to start your own. You can't help them make money and be maltreated at the same time. Your brother is not being fair here. Go in peace...may God bless your path and hustle.

mrblessed:
Thank you for your kind wish to me. I think I know your main account, and you are one of the intelligent and troubleshooting ladies in this graveyard, even though it seems like you are serving a ban.

You see, today is also the birthday of former South African President, human rights activist, and philanthropist, Nelson Mandela. So, about a decade and a half, I decided to always celebrate this colossus, despite his obvious flaws and always downplay my own.

So, kindly wish Madiba a posthumous Happy Birthday.

Fhemmmy:
From your living arrangement, it is obvious that the house is a 2 bedroom, one occupied by your bros and wife and the other vacated by your occupied by your in-laws, so how big can that be, a 2 bedroom is called 2 for a reason, and i think it is already too small for you all . . .[b]BTW, what do you do for a living because you said you eat at work and being fed isn't a big deal for you, so why now save up and rent your own place because you are really no more a kid at 23[/b]

Katier00:
Don't leave now o until he settles you. Endure, it is the learning process

Championxxx:
They were doing all this to frustrate me I think she brought them to the house with a mission to frustrate me so I can leave , the funny part is they don’t come to clean only to watch tv and making all kind of noises to disturb my sleep and if I am awake they will go back to their room to sleep till noon. These girls has never help around the house when I am around , I do everything mopping , sweeping , washing dishes when they around pressing phone my brother doesn’t say anything to them. I asked him if he is right for me to do all these chores when we have his wife sisters at home , he said before he married I was the one doing it and why am now I complaining , I told because it doesn’t sound right for me to be doing chores when the girls are busy pressing phone, anyway there is more but not everything is good to say on social media. If he refuse renting a place for me I think I will go back to the village because I am short tempered I don’t want to stay in the same house with that mannerless small girl because I don’t want to do something stupid that will land me to prison for life . I prefer to be in the village than staying somewhere where I am not comfortable

pcguru1:
Left to me both you and the sisters should be kicked out, you are 23, as long as you are in someone's roof, you have to respect and deal with alot, he will favour his wife obviously. Besides its surprising how you feel so comfortable in someone's house and even complaining to the person housing you.

abimbola74:
You yourself knows you have limited time time to stay with them cos you are of age already and soon you will be settled my your bruh so y do you want to sacrifice all you have laboured for cos of some mofos? Drink garri if need be just to achieve what you came to do