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Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by anungangampu: 11:01am On Jul 19, 2020 |
dalass: So true, she is looking for Love where there might be more pain. 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by dalass(f): 11:02am On Jul 19, 2020 |
stanliwise: Her mom isn't lost... Let her mom find her! A mom that left and never bothered to look out for me? His things were with me O can never look for that person oh if true Late! 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by dalass(f): 11:03am On Jul 19, 2020 |
stanliwise: Her mom isn't lost... Let her mom find her! A mom that left and never bothered to look out for me? How things were with me I can never look for that person oh if true Layelaye |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Charleys: 11:03am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28: He returned your mum's bride price? Where are you from? |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by EzePaschal(m): 11:03am On Jul 19, 2020 |
[quote author=Godlovesyou28 post=89779166] My grandparents are all late. My dads pastor sadly is not an option trust me.[/quot Go on social media (preferably Facebook) and tell your story just the way you did here but with your personal details and you will find your real mom's or her relatives in less than 24 hours. She may not be alive though but you deserve to know who you are....your story. The world is just that small now, you will find out on social media and don't ashamed of your efforts in unmasking you. Put it up there. Blogs will carry it too with your Facebook name on it |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by ifko: 11:04am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28:Report him to any human right organization, they will sue him for uu |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by dalass(f): 11:04am On Jul 19, 2020 |
anungangampu: I tell you... 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Ejanla07: 11:05am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28:If dis story is true Go to your dads village find out the people who don't like him.. Go to his village financially induce people they will sonf 3 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by whodeyhere: 11:05am On Jul 19, 2020 |
OP ..So sorry for you are going through at the moment, I really can't imagine your pain. I realized you are curious for a lot of answers and maybe vulnerable at moment. Please I beg you to be very careful especially people you may meet from here. Not all of them are really sincerely ready to find answer with you. Stay woke.. I pray God help me find a closure very soon. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by BarrElChapo(m): 11:06am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Wizvicky: well the law cannot help here. It would have been a different scenario if there's another woman claiming to be her mother so they're trying to find the truth. What if she sues him and he and he refuses to show up or she claims she was kidnapped as a child they run a DNA test and he is her father but he claims amnesia to who her mother is ? Las las she will have to find the truth out through the back door 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by phemmyfour: 11:06am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28:Please don't stop until you find her. She's probably trying to get in touch with you too judging by your father's reaction |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by AuroraB(f): 11:06am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28:Talk to a lawyer for advice, rather. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Imustreturn(m): 11:07am On Jul 19, 2020 |
I can help you. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by awa(m): 11:07am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Jullima: Contact me via DM for private investigation |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Eazie351(m): 11:07am On Jul 19, 2020 |
some stones are better left unturned. look too much and you may find an ugly truth that will hurt you more. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Bonjovi13: 11:07am On Jul 19, 2020 |
My dear I can feel the pain and confusion going through your mind and I pray that God will comfort you. My advice is this...if you cannot change a situation(atleast at the moment) the only remedy is to change your reaction to the situation. I understand that you need to know who your mother is...every child deserves to know their mother. However your need or rather desperation to know your mother is interfering with your life.Your dreams, goals and personal aspirations have been negatively impacted by this need.Your mother would not like that To put one's life in proper perspective all the time, one must place themselves in the shoes of those who one is more fortunate. Put yourself in the shoes of someone who does not know their father or their mother ir an orphan who has lost both parents and is unloved by relatives.Most feel lost and unidentified. You said you look like your Dad.So you have a heritage, a foundation and an Identitiy.Most dont. You said you have a business and you employ people. Most dont. You said your step mum did not maltreat you extremely, some orphans were maltreated so much they lost their lives. You said you had a home and a roof over your head.Some are destitutes wandering aimlessly and begging for food and clothes You wrote good English meaning you are educated.Some even with known parents are illiterate and would never have any form of formal education. Summary...Be grateful to God for the life he has given you and find peace with the knowledge he has allowed you to gain. All what you have are gifts that you don't deserve because you could have been born in circumstances that are far worse. Be grateful.Thank and praise God.Ask him to forgive you for allowing the devil to take hold of your mind. Take back your life and find contentment in the life that you have now. After you have done that go spiritual...There is nothing God cannot do.The heart of kings are in the hands of God. Fast and pray that God will not give your father rest until he reveals who your mother is.Watch God move. My sister you don't nees to uproot your life.God's plan is to bless and prosper you and bring you to an expected end.It is well with you 11 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by EzePaschal(m): 11:08am On Jul 19, 2020 |
dalass:Don't talk what you don't know. Why was she being hiden from her? Why are the parents still refusing to tell her about the real mom even now that she has found out? You don't buy a single story. She should find her mum and hear from her 11 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by AuroraB(f): 11:08am On Jul 19, 2020 |
dalass:That's you Everyone else ain't you 7 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by awakmfon03(m): 11:09am On Jul 19, 2020 |
[quote author=Godlovesyou28 post=89778454]I type this with so much pain and sense of loss. I found out about two years ago that my step mum is not my real mum (everyone keeps wondering why am just waking up to the obvious). I grew up being hated by my mum's (now step mum) family, usually beaten, overworked and deprived; but I was told that I was being trained to be strong since I was the first daughter by my mum (now step mum). At age seven I cooked all the meals except my (dads soups) and did all the cleaning. By age ten I cook every single meal at home, wash all the cloths and Iron, clean the house and run all the errands while my siblings both older and younger play and watch TV. I always felt my mum (step mum) will love me just a little bit more if I worked harder; Why not pay a visit to NAPTIP OFFICE and make a report. They could help you invite that your relation to ask some questions that will reveal everything. Note: your relation will not be arrested |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Tsolutionifede(m): 11:10am On Jul 19, 2020 |
anungangampu:material achievement is different from love. He needs someone that he can truly call his. If the rubbish step mother has truly shown motherly love to him. There won't be much pain looking for his mum 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by stanliwise(m): 11:10am On Jul 19, 2020 |
dalass:Wrong mindset! Op said no one is telling her anything, and they denied her the truth of her real mother till she became independent not even when she became an adult. The water of this story is muddy and one has to swim down to know what happens. Father isn’t wanting to speak on it. I smell rat. Don’t ever jump in conclusions till you understand just enough. 7 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by JOACHINpedro: 11:11am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28:Just be strong, you will come out of this. You have to use one-step-at-a-time method. Your life is now haphazard due to desperation and frustration. Take a time out, you need to refresh, focus on taking good care of yourself(engage in your favorite outdoor sporting activities) and return to your business. Most guys on nairaland are counting on you now. #Bring back your quality life. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by KingRollins01(m): 11:11am On Jul 19, 2020 |
[/quote] Pls what's ur gender,ur real name, age,dad's 1st name, complexion, and city location? All those info u left out in ur story. They're are important as it may help narrow the search. Ur story sound like one I know of. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by BigTableShaker(f): 11:12am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28:So sorry dear, honestly if you were Igbo, then you must be a product of baby factory. There are too many pple like you out there. It's either you accept your fate, move away and stay afrrash or visit the nearest police station to arrest your motherphuking dad. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by jeff1993: 11:12am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28:....... Madam u are truly trying to break HP the family with hour senseless whining and crying. If your Dad does not want to tell u.... it's fine..... stop crying and causing trouble Upandan.... Go and do your own investigation and stop disturbing the peace of the f amily. That person that spilled the bean to you.... Have I sat down to ask yourself why did the person tell u this??.... why didn't the person wants to tell u more??.... I hate Gossips who can't give u complete news. If I were you... I would keep calm and not disturb the Oldman again..... perhaps something hurtful happened that made him don't want to even remember or hear the name of your mother. Go and find out by yourself and stop crying like a little girl who lost her ice cream. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by anibi9674: 11:12am On Jul 19, 2020 |
I think your mum might be your step mum sister, that your dad impregnate. 6 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by whodeyhere: 11:12am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Ejanla07: Op please try this one and very carefully, dont rush. take it step by step. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by BigTableShaker(f): 11:12am On Jul 19, 2020 |
KingRollins01:No search here. The op is a product of baby factory. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by dalass(f): 11:13am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28: You are depressed.... Please calm down first. Take a deep breath... You're old enough now... Your father and step mom are your parents... You're grown up and don't need anyone to approve or disapprove your existence... Some are bastards, dumped in dumpsters etc but you still have parents and family yet you must look for that careless woman who left you? Who do you did thing? Don't kill yourself cause many others are in worse conditions than you! Yes you! Get out of this low point by leaving things as they are and I'd say if your birth mother wants you, let her seek for you or she not need your recognition disruption in her life right now... Just think if she is remarried and did not tell her husband or kids about you?.. Will she want to acknowledge you? Pls stop it and move on... You're here. Live your life to the fullest! Cheers!!! 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by here: 11:13am On Jul 19, 2020 |
If you’re in Abuja locate Federal Ministry of Women Affairs I think they can help you. While you are at it go to Berekete Family radio the convener he his way with police high authorities so your matter is on air and they pick your father to tell them what happened to your mother and hope they didn’t harm her. How come you don’t have uncles and relatives something is wrong in this story. Truly hope she is safe for everyone to refuse talking about her and why will the person who told you not tell you who she is 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by obataokenwa(m): 11:14am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28:Your step mum used a strong spiritual force on your Dad so as to hate ur mum. Her leaving was not normal. Ignore them, promise to keep quiet and swear an oath to the woman that gave u the information abt ur mum...spend on her and she will tell you the whole truth. She didn't trust ur maturity yet. Don't bring it up to ur Dad or step mum again. But stay Abit far away for now and becareful. Thanks 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by dazzlingd(m): 11:15am On Jul 19, 2020 |
So sorry dear, such is life.. Live it on making yourself a better person and leave the past behind...you just have to move on and live 1 Like 1 Share |
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