My father has never beaten me before and the flogger which happens to be my mother stopped the moment I entered jss1 back in 2010.

Bonatheripper:
My grandma aim or Throw me pisu
Like pounding pisu at age 24
After I carried her N3000 to play bet9ja

you wicked

Originakalokalo:


You copied this from the western world.

See what their society has become?

Discipline can be done in love and not in anger.

Discipline helps.

So you’re gonna act like we do not have major and pervasive societal ills?
419, pervasive rape and abuse, corruption, ritual, e.t.c.
Can you honestly say that we have better values and morals than the western society?

I was probably 13 or 14 when my parents stopped beating me, tho it was not everytime... I still receive occasional slaps once in a while

13

Just once in a blue moon by mum! Maybe 20, couldn't remember vividly

Kingdemi212019:
2014 but I still chop slap around 2017 sha o

what age ode....read before you comment

Burgerlomo:


Your level of understanding and reasoning is very low.

says a nincompoop

Kingdemi212019:
2014 but I still chop slap around 2017 sha o

Lol

My mother!!!!
That woman flogged me ehn .From putting pepper in my eyes,garri Turner,her teeth ,shoe ,belt ,Cain . .

My dad rarely flogged me because I was his pet.He will flog you this meeting ,call you the next minute to come and eat with him.( Eating with him then was like Christmas, enough meats .Choi!!!).

But my dad flogged my elder brother . There was this Christmas my brother went to Man O War training and spent 3 days...My dad initially warned him to leave it and focus on his studies.

He came back,my dad left him till 12 am ,then started the beating till around 2 am .Neighbors had to come and beg when the noise and scream got too much.
My brother couldn't stand for days .

Mikkymilli:
In light of a recent trending video of a father flogging his daughter, a lot of people were of the opinion that she wasn't supposed to be flogged since she is 18 while majority (on twitter and nairaland) were in support of the father disciplining his daughter for going against his order.

On this note, I'll like to ask 'What age were you when your parents stopped flogging you?'
And also, 'What age do you think is the right age for a parent to stop flogging the child?'

As for me, I think i was 12 then. My mom would use different tools like garri turner, slippers, cane, etc. Looking back now, I know it was all to mould me into the gentleman I am today.
As for the second question, I think the flogging should stop before the child gets to senior secondary level so he/she won't develop an everlasting hatred for you (the parent) cos that teenage age can make or mar your relationship with your child. The child can be disciplined via other means, but not necessarily flogging.

The floor is open guys. What's your take on it?

I think 18 is ok

magicminister:
With due respect to everyone's opinions; i think whipping a child is tantamount to child abuse and a centimetre shy of slavery.

The average Nigerian child experience their first abuse in the hands of those that should protect them. I might get insulted for this but ever wondered why the average Nigerian is so aggressive? If you disagree with them, they retort to insults? Even wondered why the average Nigerian is very afraid of telling the truth?

It all boils down to upbringing like the one we saw in the video posted earlier. Children are individuals with minds of their own and the best way to raise a child is to win that mind over with any means but intimidation and force.

We have to break the cycle of Abuse!!
We must evolve to a better and greater society!
When you flog a child, you are not teaching them to not repeat same mistake, you are teaching them to make sure they don't get caught!


I challenge every Nairalander to take a different discipline approach this week! If your child mess up, call him or sit, sit them down and explain to them why what they did is wrong and why they must never do it again!! Give them one week punishment of dish washing and take away their phone or game or whatever they really enjoy with the promise to return when they behave better!!

We are not so concern about the way u raise ur child. But the problem we have is ur decision affect our society, and in such a way may have bad influence on our own well raise children.
In as much as we don't support abuse, there is nothing wrong in training ur child in the way they should walk.
Proverb 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.
Proverb 3:12For the LORD disciplines those he loves, just as a father disciplines the son in whom he delights.
He 12:6 FOR THOSE WHOM THE LORD LOVES HE DISCIPLINES, AND HE SCOURGES EVERY SON WHOM HE RECEIVES."

Training most of the time come with discipline.

missawele:
I think at the age of 12 or 13. My parents rarely flogged us anyway



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The last time I was flogged was in 2009 when I was 13...dad died that year cuz he was the only one beating me then

Can't relate. My parents never raised a finger on me.

geedot:
My parents never flogged me. But some unexpected slaps every now and then till I graded from secondary school, I guess.

But my Alfa for ile-kewu(Muslim school), holds the record for the person that flogged me the most, that man once flogged me about 50+ strokes of cane. The man wanted me to become a cleric as I was clearly the best student of his, so my flogging na raise to power 2 of other students.


But after beating upon beating, can't even
remember the last time I prayed.

Did you later become d "cleric" he wanted you to be?

geedot:
My parents never flogged me. But some unexpected slaps every now and then till I graded from secondary school, I guess.

But my Alfa for ile-kewu(Muslim school), holds the record for the person that flogged me the most, that man once flogged me about 50+ strokes of cane. The man wanted me to become a cleric as I was clearly the best student of his, so my flogging na raise to power 2 of other students.

But after beating upon beating, can't even remember the last time I prayed.

Now
Otí ya ọmọ kọ mọ

Smh

I wasn't flogged at all by my dad but my mom nah once in a while... Funny enough I love and respect my dad more before he will even finish speaking, I don do what he instructed me to do sharperly... I don't think TOO MUCH flogging is good for a child. Let's not over do it

lexxxino:
Omo, i don write jamb, get admission, 2nd yr second semester break.... I chop 6 strokes for nyash...... Not painful but humiliating........ That was 2 years ago.... Im 21 now

omo 2nd year?

legitimatefrank1:
Do you charge for your services?

Yes I do

i chop beating till after nysc i have seen something oh its marriage that stopped this parents of mine but the verbal lash still dey

The last time my parents flogged me was when I was 15.
Come to think of it,my parents rarely flogged me.

But the last time I had a cane on me was 16.

Now ehn,any mofo who dares to lay a finger on me,I'll give it to the person x3.

majamajic:

Don't worry I know what u did

lolz

I was konked courtesy of my old girl regularly, old boy was not much of a whipping parent but there were unique moments...

Till today if I screw up, old girl would not hesitate to throw in a flash konk before advising me.

NewDelhi:
When it comes to use of cane, belt, etc, they stopped when I was 12-13.

But physical fight continued till 19-20. Generally when a child clocks 14 and above or when puberty sets in he begins to feel he's above flogging. That's why you try to flog some kids and they hold the cane or restrict you from flogging then.. . I don follow my papa fight gidigbo before... E stubborn with him outdated mentality me sef I stubborn with my newage mentality.

From 21 to over 30 years now we just shout at each other on the phone when there's any disagreement.

Generally I think this African idea of flogging or physically assaulting a child is pure stupidity and inhumane. If you raise a child like an animal, then expect him to behave like an animal. Children like that end up being child abusers and wife beaters. There are different ways to correct a child, physical assault shouldn't be an option.

Stop promoting abusive parenting, kids that went through such will also want to use same method on their own kids too and the cycle continues.

Cc stonemasonn

You de follow your papa de hold ground?

Mine stopped the moment I got my jamb admission letter into the university [color=#990000][/color]

Mikkymilli:
In light of a recent trending video of a father flogging his daughter, a lot of people were of the opinion that she wasn't supposed to be flogged since she is 18 while majority (on twitter and nairaland) were in support of the father disciplining his daughter for going against his order.

On this note, I'll like to ask 'What age were you when your parents stopped flogging you?'
And also, 'What age do you think is the right age for a parent to stop flogging the child?'

As for me, I think i was 12 then. My mom would use different tools like garri turner, slippers, cane, etc. Looking back now, I know it was all to mould me into the gentleman I am today.
As for the second question, I think the flogging should stop before the child gets to senior secondary level so he/she won't develop an everlasting hatred for you (the parent) cos that teenage age can make or mar your relationship with your child. The child can be disciplined via other means, but not necessarily flogging.

The floor is open guys. What's your take on it?

My late dad was very good with advice. He never for once use his hand on anyone. A complete gentleman.

For my mum hmmmm a complete disciplinarian. She can flog for Africa.

The last time she flogged me was when I was in JSS 3. As I held her hand she knew I am now a man. Since then she no try me again. Lol.

Now she is aged and very welcoming compare to when she was young.

A calm father and a disciplinarian mother. Nice parents I got.

SonofLincoln:
My parents never spanked us but there are other kind of punishments we went through like not allowing us to go outside the house (grounded) or not giving us pocket money nor listening to music and watching TV. That's more painful to us than spanking and that's the way I deal with my kids.

This one na ajebutter lol

TonyeBarcanista:

You de follow your papa de hold ground?

Lol when growing up, they believed they were always right and my ideas were wrong. Before I left their house at 21, I made them realize I wasn't a kid anymore. If you see the way they always talked to me infront of my siblings, visitors and strangers ehn , u self no go gree that kind thing..

Saw your post , you said they still flog you at 30 years old? That's ridiculous

I have to fake a faint for my mum when I was in jss3 ever since then mum has been afraid to flog me. He reported me to the school authorities to cast out the demon in me. I got to school my proprietor call me and told me all what my mom said. I was afraid thinking I will be mocked at the assembly ground and disgrace for fainting but they forgot to take the matter up. At 25 I have to confessed to mum and tell her that faint demonstration I gave her that day was a fake one and she laughed when she heard that. I appreciate her for all the beating she gave me and I am who she has develope me to become. I already got a vertical mark from razor on my left face at 6. The mark almost touch my eyes. It was given to me by my mum. She was about to do the second one then a very good Samaritan saved me from having the second mark on my face. The scar is still on my face, mom will tell me today that she should put the second mark on my face. I will tell her that "mom! No way I can never forget the first one you did". Mom beating is always the best.