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Sixfeetbelle:
Let's do this.

Prior to writing this topic, I have been opportuned to view various writeups by other members who advise men not to date broke ladies or actually, ladies with entitlement mentality. And while the sagacious ones will pick the heart of the message and move on, the foolish ones will gather like crows to feast on the carcass, throwing insults and jabs like little boys that were denied treats at a Christmas party, thus picking nothing relevant from the post by the end of the day. I hope they know that It isn't the messenger's fault that comprehension is a difficult trait to acquire for some people.

Due to this behavioural menace, I have decided to tow a different path with my message today. Having said that, I'll like to reiterate for those hard of understanding that: Broke girls are cool to date but once she starts exhibiting entitlement mentality, end the relationship. To the ladies, I'll say this as well: Broke guys are cool to date but once he starts going on and on about prospects and dreams that look like castles in the air, please discard the relationship and move on. Since this thread is purposefully meant for the ladies, I'll give them reasons why I made that statement. Feel free to correct any mistakes you see and I'll rectify them. NB: Only corrections made without insults and/or jab will be considered.

[center]Characteristics of men without prospects[/center]

1) They are day dreamers: Inasmuch as I believe in struggling together with your man through his hard days, I always know human beings are fickle and loyalty isn't always rewarded. That said, some men who claim to be hustling are actually daydreamers who are too proud to work in the mud. They are hardly steady at any job, always dreaming and fantasising about the day they'll become millionaires or own a private jet or a mansion in banana island without actually making grand plans to achieve that. If care is not taken, it's very likely that he has changed jobs more than ten times in the past five years. While it's good to dream, it's best to have laid down plans that will connect your days of humble beginnings to your glorious future.

My take: Ladies, examine his prospects and see the viability of his dreams before making your decision.

2) They are charming: It always beats my imagination when I see visionless men get ladies so effortlessly. Then I realised the reason is because they're smooth talkers, as charming as a snake can be. I can't seem to understand the correlation between a passion for success and a need to swoon the ladies, and I believe that no man who is skillful in one will be that proficient in the other. While other men are hands and feet down in the mud striving to attain their future ambitions, his head and attention is buzzing like an antenna, waiting to pick up the next available lady, thus distracting him from achieving a single goal everytime.

My take: Ladies, take a good look at your relationship and recall how he wooed you. There are exceptions but a woman can always tell.

3) They are not loyal: Please, let's not dirty our minds and start imagining a cheating boyfriend, (although he may be one) rather, let's look at his life in general. He's never been in a position where his loyalty in life was tested. He's hardly the first child, thus never been in a position that makes him a core hustler. His siblings are doing much better than him, hence he may very likely live off of their crumbs. He's never had a successful relationship that ended due to health or tribal issues. They either ended due to his refusal to leave a job or his inability to keep one, more so the latter. It can be due to his inability to not avoid everything in skirt or his insecurity of the ladies' success as he'd be a trifle bit jealous of other's success as he can't seem to ever achieve his own. All in all, he's not one to trust to handle being the captain of the ship.

My take: Ladies, analyse him if you can and make your decision. But remember, dreamers who can't get what they want always end up jealous. He won't ever be that CEO he's always telling you about, not with the lackadaisical way he goes about it.

4) They are time wasters: This was supposed to be number one point, but the crows would have had a field day with my post if I did it that way. Anyway, men without prospects are invariably professional time wasters. No surprises there. And while their heart may be with you (they do know how to love greatly), they lack the wherewithal to do right by you in the appropriate time. Generally, they're never in a need to settle down or any of the other societal 'needs' that the rest of the population may desire because they lack the capacity to do so. Please do not confuse their inability to mean apathy. On the contrary, if they had their way, you'd be married to them before you can say Jack Robinson. However, their life will always be driven in whatever direction the wind takes them and when the dust finally settles, they'll find themselves approaching forty, with no reasonable evidence of their hustle in life and no lady by their side. Disclaimer: Not all men in that age gap were without prospects.

My take: Ladies, iron out your situation with him and see if you both can reach a compromise. If he won't accept outside help to start off your married life (highly unadvisable), drop him like hot coal. When he gets to 40, someone young will marry him.

Summary, ladies even as you strive to become independent, strong women, always weigh your options in every relationship you go into. Don't always sit and wait for the man to make his intentions known. Incite him to state his desires and see if they tally with yours. At the end, whoever you choose to date, always think of the future your children will have. Think of the children, sisters.

Thank you.

Jezking:
Sixfeetbelle, you're a very interesting moniker sha, your name alone makes me laugh every single time. You don't hold back your emotions thats what I like about you although I feel you should try to tone it down a little. Don't insult people because the did insult you, it brings you down to their level and you don't want that, or do you

Anyway, immediately I saw the thread, I almost unfollowed you because I thought you were going to start trolling people's children

You kept it simple and civil to an extent, you're humble enough to take corrections if they are (na your type I for like marry sha)

You were absolutely on point for me, you nailed it!

As for those trolling you, they're just the example of what you talked about so don't be bothered about them at all. Don't even quote/mention them

Have a splendid week ahead

paulolee:
Anoda one on a mondaY morning..

Magnito74:
You are very stupid. Idiot. I know you are an olosho. Mumu. Money cannot save your life

Sixfeetbelle:
Broke, entitled girls are wrong for men to date but broke men without future ambition are good for women to date?

@ the bold, Not everyone is like the calibre of girls you date

Sixfeetbelle:
It was actually posted on a Sunday afternoon

hashtagged:
I don't date ladies.
And pls stop with hypocracy, who said broke men are ok to date, in nigeria on a daily basis we get 1000+ talks about girls criticizing broke guys, like the ladies have money themselves.
Let me tell you since you lack sense, every single guy now is hustling for a better life in this hard country, and foolish ladies like you just come out and blab about broke guys, if it was so easy why una never make am. Pick the log inyour eyes before worrying about others, become rich before you talk(and i mean rich byyourself not leaching off an already made guy)
Idi0ts everywhere

paulolee:
owkay....tanks 4 dt info bt still tink dt this matta is already over flogged

Sixfeetbelle:
Let's do this.

Prior to writing this topic, I have been opportuned to view various writeups by other members who advise men not to date broke ladies or actually, ladies with entitlement mentality. And while the sagacious ones will pick the heart of the message and move on, the foolish ones will gather like crows to feast on the carcass, throwing insults and jabs like little boys that were denied treats at a Christmas party, thus picking nothing relevant from the post by the end of the day. I hope they know that It isn't the messenger's fault that comprehension is a difficult trait to acquire for some people.

Due to this behavioural menace, I have decided to tow a different path with my message today. Having said that, I'll like to reiterate for those hard of understanding that: Broke girls are cool to date but once she starts exhibiting entitlement mentality, end the relationship. To the ladies, I'll say this as well: Broke guys are cool to date but once he starts going on and on about prospects and dreams that look like castles in the air, please discard the relationship and move on. Since this thread is purposefully meant for the ladies, I'll give them reasons why I made that statement. Feel free to correct any mistakes you see and I'll rectify them. NB: Only corrections made without insults and/or jab will be considered.

[center]Characteristics of men without prospects[/center]

1) They are day dreamers: Inasmuch as I believe in struggling together with your man through his hard days, I always know human beings are fickle and loyalty isn't always rewarded. That said, some men who claim to be hustling are actually daydreamers who are too proud to work in the mud. They are hardly steady at any job, always dreaming and fantasising about the day they'll become millionaires or own a private jet or a mansion in banana island without actually making grand plans to achieve that. If care is not taken, it's very likely that he has changed jobs more than ten times in the past five years. While it's good to dream, it's best to have laid down plans that will connect your days of humble beginnings to your glorious future.

My take: Ladies, examine his prospects and see the viability of his dreams before making your decision.

2) They are charming: It always beats my imagination when I see visionless men get ladies so effortlessly. Then I realised the reason is because they're smooth talkers, as charming as a snake can be. I can't seem to understand the correlation between a passion for success and a need to swoon the ladies, and I believe that no man who is skillful in one will be that proficient in the other. While other men are hands and feet down in the mud striving to attain their future ambitions, his head and attention is buzzing like an antenna, waiting to pick up the next available lady, thus distracting him from achieving a single goal everytime.

My take: Ladies, take a good look at your relationship and recall how he wooed you. There are exceptions but a woman can always tell.

3) They are not loyal: Please, let's not dirty our minds and start imagining a cheating boyfriend, (although he may be one) rather, let's look at his life in general. He's never been in a position where his loyalty in life was tested. He's hardly the first child, thus never been in a position that makes him a core hustler. His siblings are doing much better than him, hence he may very likely live off of their crumbs. He's never had a successful relationship that ended due to health or tribal issues. They either ended due to his refusal to leave a job or his inability to keep one, more so the latter. It can be due to his inability to not avoid everything in skirt or his insecurity of the ladies' success as he'd be a trifle bit jealous of other's success as he can't seem to ever achieve his own. All in all, he's not one to trust to handle being the captain of the ship.

My take: Ladies, analyse him if you can and make your decision. But remember, dreamers who can't get what they want always end up jealous. He won't ever be that CEO he's always telling you about, not with the lackadaisical way he goes about it.

4) They are time wasters: This was supposed to be number one point, but the crows would have had a field day with my post if I did it that way. Anyway, men without prospects are invariably professional time wasters. No surprises there. And while their heart may be with you (they do know how to love greatly), they lack the wherewithal to do right by you in the appropriate time. Generally, they're never in a need to settle down or any of the other societal 'needs' that the rest of the population may desire because they lack the capacity to do so. Please do not confuse their inability to mean apathy. On the contrary, if they had their way, you'd be married to them before you can say Jack Robinson. However, their life will always be driven in whatever direction the wind takes them and when the dust finally settles, they'll find themselves approaching forty, with no reasonable evidence of their hustle in life and no lady by their side. Disclaimer: Not all men in that age gap were without prospects.

My take: Ladies, iron out your situation with him and see if you both can reach a compromise. If he won't accept outside help to start off your married life (highly unadvisable), drop him like hot coal. When he gets to 40, someone young will marry him.

Summary, ladies even as you strive to become independent, strong women, always weigh your options in every relationship you go into. Don't always sit and wait for the man to make his intentions known. Incite him to state his desires and see if they tally with yours. At the end, whoever you choose to date, always think of the future your children will have. Think of the children, sisters.

Thank you.

Sixfeetbelle:
Which matter exactly?

paulolee:
so much talking about genders and relationship goals...not all dt works for you would work for me plss

Sixfeetbelle:
Why are you angry though?

I didn't see you protesting when post about broke girls made front page. Isn't that the height of hypocrisy in itself? Besides if you had actually read my post, which I know you didn't with all these rants you wrote up there, you'd see I didn't condemn broke guys. On the contrary, I only highlighted ways to note broke guys that will never be successful aka the day dreamers so ladies can choose their cross wisely. No be everibori go make am for dis life so

NB: unlike you male folks that demean women as if you don't have mothers, I have a father and even though he isn't wealthy, he wasn't a daydreamer or my mother wouldn't have stuck with him.

Ps: Take your insults out of my thread. Thank you.

hashtagged:
So your dad isnt wealthy, so you are not, you have no right to demean broke guys when you dont even have change in your pockets. Listen cause you clearly lack sense. Between ladies and guys who demean each other more about being broke? You clearly know its ladies. So make some cash make them no use your pooverty make example. Shi shi you dont have in your pockets, poor scrab blabing about broke guys

Sixfeetbelle:
I'm not talking about broke guys for f#cks sake! Did you see broke guys in my topic or in my writeup? Seriously! Learn to read and comprehend.

hashtagged:
I read it, you put a meaningful topic with contents of hypocracy, even if you didn't say it you are referring to broke guys

Firstorderwizard:
How old are you when you realized that the guys that actually fvcks a girl do not comment on her Facebook photos

iyke926:
If prick is what makes men gods, you must have a microscopic brain. No vex.

But lemme educate you on why men are gods. Men made the world that we live in liveable. When you enter/see a plane or a chopper always remember it was a man that made it, the cars you drive was designed and made by men, the electricity that runs in our society today was made possible by men, during a natural disaster...those sent out to help save lives during those incidents are still men, those heavy cargo ships that sail on seas..they were fvcking made by men. If only science could produce an artificial womb, most women won't be useful to men.

While most women daydream...fantasize about having something, men use their intellectual property to bring dreams into reality because men naturally have the ability to handle complex tasks effectively. Only a god called man can do that.

The world would have been in shambles, if left in the hands of women because women are programmed not to handle complex tasks and are generally classified as a weak human specie.

Over the centuries, human race evolved to what it is today because men with pricks decided to make it super cool using their intellectuals, perseverance, loyalty, hardwork and the inbuilt agression in us. Even if there was some input by women, it is very very little...like 3%. Think about it.

And what form of thanks do we gods get... none. Just nagging and complaining but indirectly displaying their insecurities and inferiority complex while seeking for the attention of man.

I'm out.

Jezking:
Sixfeetbelle, you're a very interesting moniker sha, your name alone makes me laugh every single time. You don't hold back your emotions thats what I like about you although I feel you should try to tone it down a little. Don't insult people because the did insult you, it brings you down to their level and you don't want that, or do you

Anyway, immediately I saw the thread, I almost unfollowed you because I thought you were going to start trolling people's children

You kept it simple and civil to an extent, you're humble enough to take corrections if they are (na your type I for like marry sha)

You were absolutely on point for me, you nailed it!

As for those trolling you, they're just the example of what you talked about so don't be bothered about them at all. Don't even quote/mention them

Have a splendid week ahead

Sixfeetbelle:
Exactly what I said. It's those that have no future ambition that even have steady girlfriends, like how do they do it?

ubunja:
A man can either be good at women or business. It's impossibly hard to be good with women and with money simultaneously. Because the energy it takes to learn women is the energy you take to learn business. Visionless men are failures only so far as society judges. But biologically they're winners. Because they deal in a higher class product: women. Not mere money.

ubunja:
A man can either be good at women or business. It's impossibly hard to be good with women and with money simultaneously. Because the energy it takes to learn women is the energy you take to learn business. Visionless men are failures only so far as society judges. But biologically they're winners. Because they deal in a higher class product: women. Not mere money.

Zabiboy:

It's not hard for those who SLOWLY made their way to the top...

Stephenomozzy:
If you're a woman and you have prospects yourself, then please, don't date a man because he doesn't have prospects.

But if you as a woman is as directionless like a flag, then you don't have the right to choose. Because your prospectless ass should only get a guy without prospects too

Sixfeetbelle:
Money is better in all ramifications, cause one who has money can get women eventually. But one who has women are more likely to never have money

ubunja:
the best Players become Macks. They use women for money. Which is smart.

hashtagged:
I read it, you put a meaningful topic with contents of hypocracy, even if you didn't say it you are referring to broke guys

Sixfeetbelle:
That is for the smart ones. The average man isn't that smart and can't wield such power over women.