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Forgive and forget, she's changed. And if you can't forgive, let her know, let her go and move on.

In all of these what's your sister's position in marrying her?

proxillin:
She has been mounting pressure on me to follow her to meet her parents. We have been in this relationship for a year now. Although she is not the only one I am dating. I am not sure of the other lady, but atleast this one is ready to marry me.

I am not sure if I genuinely love her or not, but a part of me love her..A part of me want to treat her bad, whenever I remember what she did to me in the past.

3 years ago, I started noticing and showing interest in her being my junior sister’s friend. I discussed with my sister who encouraged me to approach her that she had no boyfriend. We were on talking terms before which was an opportunity. So I leveraged on that to get closer to her. When she noticed I was getting closer, she started giving me attitudes, stopped talking to me. Finally she stopped coming to our house. She would give my sister thousands of excuses why she was not chanced to come to our house.

We met at a friends birthday party, to my surprized, she warmed up to me, greeted me. I though she must have repented. While the party was on, I asked her to come to my table and spend sometimes with me, she said “ok”. I waited for hours, she didn’t come. I later saw her in the room with the celibrant. I jokingly said to her “You dey whine me abi”. She just went off, started ranting, she said I should say whatever I want to say now infront of everyone..infront of her friends. “Why do you want me to come and sit with you?” say it now “let the whole world hear”. It was so embarrasing for me. I just said to myself “whats there..are they not aldult?..dem never toast all of them before”.

My sister was there, got angry and left us. She had already warned me to leave her alone. That I am interfering with their friendship. On my birthday, she replied to my whatsapp pictures with love and kiss icons. She went to facebook to like all my birthday pix. Facebook was alerting me as she was clicking. She finally sent me happy birthday..where is my cake..we started gisting again. She apologized for what she did that day, that she was not in a good mood that day (someone who met, joked and laugh with me, even agreed to come sit with me on my table).

We continued chattin for weeks, I made sure I didn’t get intimate with her. One day, my sister was playing with my phone, then saw our chats, read through our chats. She was mad at me. She confronted me and nearly slapped her for disrespect. She later calm down and explain to me that if I knew what this girl said about me on group chat, that I would shoot her if I have a gun. She said she didn’t tell me so that I wont feel bad.
She then show me their caucaus group chat discussing me. Tears was just coming out of my eyes. I felt cold. They were just laughing at me. My sister was just fighting for me shutting them off.

This lady said “how come some men behave like he goat. Why can’t he leave me alone?” “am I the only girl on the planet? Oh God I hate that idiot.” “Gosh, I can never be close to such person talkless of dating him” ANOTHER girl said “That’s how those guys are…you need to disgrace him more next time he try something stupid with you. Blahblah.

That’s when I closed her chapter. Blocked her on facebook, whatsapp, instagram. I moved on. My sister did photoshoot for her birthday and some of her friends came. I saw her and just greeted her, minding my business. Then I was dating another girl then, so it’s a win win for all. She stayed behind, when everyone left, she asked my sister to help her beg me. She knelt infront of me started telling me “she was sorry..she was being childish” This was someone that was in her 24 when I was chasing her. I said I forgave due to pressure from my sister. Since then, she will come to my apartment, do my laundary, cook soup inside my freezer. When she is coming from work, she will branch at my place prepare food on my table. At times she offered to sleep overnite, that she cooked till late in the night, which I will refuse.

But one thing led to another, one day, we had sex. And that changed everything. I couldn’t resist her again. But a part of me still hate her whenever I remember those disgraceful moments. Now she is 26, she want us get married. If I marry her, I may treat her bad.

In a dilema seriously and its giving me headache.

Guy try get sense ooo to avoid stories that touch. She's acting nice because you are now the only option left for her for marriage other guys don chop clean mouth don't make the mistake of a lifetime

I feel for you because you are even considering marrying a girl whose ONLY reason for wanting to marry you is cos she knows she is running out of time.

Marriage is a very tough institution and to go into it with a person who has shown openly that she doesn't truly love you is a recipe for disaster.

Don't put your sister to shame.

Find another girl. There are plenty out there and not all are bad.

proxillin:
Make i no lie you, I still habour hate for her. U got me there. I remember those disgrace everyday.
At times, I mistreat her, she will go and still come back..

she wont just go away.

I was in love with her until I got to know her personality. I still remember those moment I fantasize about her. Her physique, beauty and all The moment that made me approach her. I think thats what is keeping me with her.

proxillin:
She has been mounting pressure on me to follow her to meet her parents. We have been in this relationship for a year now. Although she is not the only one I am dating. I am not sure of the other lady, but atleast this one is ready to marry me.

I am not sure if I genuinely love her or not, but a part of me love her..A part of me want to treat her bad, whenever I remember what she did to me in the past.

3 years ago, I started noticing and showing interest in her being my junior sister’s friend. I discussed with my sister who encouraged me to approach her that she had no boyfriend. We were on talking terms before which was an opportunity. So I leveraged on that to get closer to her. When she noticed I was getting closer, she started giving me attitudes, stopped talking to me. Finally she stopped coming to our house. She would give my sister thousands of excuses why she was not chanced to come to our house.

We met at a friends birthday party, to my surprized, she warmed up to me, greeted me. I though she must have repented. While the party was on, I asked her to come to my table and spend sometimes with me, she said “ok”. I waited for hours, she didn’t come. I later saw her in the room with the celibrant. I jokingly said to her “You dey whine me abi”. She just went off, started ranting, she said I should say whatever I want to say now infront of everyone..infront of her friends. “Why do you want me to come and sit with you?” say it now “let the whole world hear”. It was so embarrasing for me. I just said to myself “whats there..are they not aldult?..dem never toast all of them before”.

My sister was there, got angry and left us. She had already warned me to leave her alone. That I am interfering with their friendship. On my birthday, she replied to my whatsapp pictures with love and kiss icons. She went to facebook to like all my birthday pix. Facebook was alerting me as she was clicking. She finally sent me happy birthday..where is my cake..we started gisting again. She apologized for what she did that day, that she was not in a good mood that day (someone who met, joked and laugh with me, even agreed to come sit with me on my table).

We continued chattin for weeks, I made sure I didn’t get intimate with her. One day, my sister was playing with my phone, then saw our chats, read through our chats. She was mad at me. She confronted me and nearly slapped her for disrespect. She later calm down and explain to me that if I knew what this girl said about me on group chat, that I would shoot her if I have a gun. She said she didn’t tell me so that I wont feel bad.
She then show me their caucaus group chat discussing me. Tears was just coming out of my eyes. I felt cold. They were just laughing at me. My sister was just fighting for me shutting them off.

This lady said “how come some men behave like he goat. Why can’t he leave me alone?” “am I the only girl on the planet? Oh God I hate that idiot.” “Gosh, I can never be close to such person talkless of dating him” ANOTHER girl said “That’s how those guys are…you need to disgrace him more next time he try something stupid with you. Blahblah.

That’s when I closed her chapter. Blocked her on facebook, whatsapp, instagram. I moved on. My sister did photoshoot for her birthday and some of her friends came. I saw her and just greeted her, minding my business. Then I was dating another girl then, so it’s a win win for all. She stayed behind, when everyone left, she asked my sister to help her beg me. She knelt infront of me started telling me “she was sorry..she was being childish” This was someone that was in her 24 when I was chasing her. I said I forgave due to pressure from my sister. Since then, she will come to my apartment, do my laundary, cook soup inside my freezer. When she is coming from work, she will branch at my place prepare food on my table. At times she offered to sleep overnite, that she cooked till late in the night, which I will refuse.

But one thing led to another, one day, we had sex. And that changed everything. I couldn’t resist her again. But a part of me still hate her whenever I remember those disgraceful moments. Now she is 26, she want us get married. If I marry her, I may treat her bad.

In a dilema seriously and its giving me headache.

Take it or leave it, she's into another man when she said those words in WhatsApp group she belonged with your sister (I understand ladies to some extent) but comes back to you when things goes sour as regard her relationship with the other guy

You on the other hand, I don't know the pleasure you derive in double dating (although I understand some will say they are doing that for the sake of in case a gal messed them up).

To the best of my knowledge, I don't think you love her that much but only keep her just because of fun you had together. Also, I think she settled for you cos she thinks you love & time is not on her side that much of which nobody can guarantee what becomes of her person should you guys marry each other

Above all, we must find space in our hearts to forgive whoever that hurt us even your legally married wife can say more than that to your face just because of little misunderstanding

Ladies should be careful with what comes out of their mouth even if you are not interested in a man, there's no need to speak evil of such man, love is not by force

Fvck her and dump her

Don’t marry her

That girl don't have any fault. It's normal shakara of girls. You, still remembering the past sins of three years shows the kind of mind you have. Haven't you offended her before?

Nothing you listed above portray that girl in a bad light. You need to read books about character and how to forgive (Joel Osteen books will help u).

My guy, forget all what she said cos the people she discussed it with has forgotten it and don't care. If you have love for her, see u see ur wife before u regret.

Go quickly and marry her and cut off all other girls cos they're the reason you are having second thought. Good luck

Demayour:
How I wish we can build up muscles like this and beat the h*ll outta all those thieving crooks milking our nation. But alas, it's to look and stare and waste resources building our bodies while our brain rots of tribalism and our nation of corruption.

Lfmao..remember bullets easily penetrate muscle. Gone are the days of muscles, Na gun d talk now. Na guys without muscles the fall strong men with jus a bullet to the head or chest.

Don't be a fool. Marry her in the presence of her friends. That is the only way you can get your revenge.

Both of you are kids... Won't you rather some growing up B4 u marry..?

proxillin:
She has been mounting pressure on me to follow her to meet her parents. We have been in this relationship for a year now. Although she is not the only one I am dating. I am not sure of the other lady, but atleast this one is ready to marry me.

I am not sure if I genuinely love her or not, but a part of me love her..A part of me want to treat her bad, whenever I remember what she did to me in the past.

3 years ago, I started noticing and showing interest in her being my junior sister’s friend. I discussed with my sister who encouraged me to approach her that she had no boyfriend. We were on talking terms before which was an opportunity. So I leveraged on that to get closer to her. When she noticed I was getting closer, she started giving me attitudes, stopped talking to me. Finally she stopped coming to our house. She would give my sister thousands of excuses why she was not chanced to come to our house.

We met at a friends birthday party, to my surprized, she warmed up to me, greeted me. I though she must have repented. While the party was on, I asked her to come to my table and spend sometimes with me, she said “ok”. I waited for hours, she didn’t come. I later saw her in the room with the celibrant. I jokingly said to her “You dey whine me abi”. She just went off, started ranting, she said I should say whatever I want to say now infront of everyone..infront of her friends. “Why do you want me to come and sit with you?” say it now “let the whole world hear”. It was so embarrasing for me. I just said to myself “whats there..are they not aldult?..dem never toast all of them before”.

My sister was there, got angry and left us. She had already warned me to leave her alone. That I am interfering with their friendship. On my birthday, she replied to my whatsapp pictures with love and kiss icons. She went to facebook to like all my birthday pix. Facebook was alerting me as she was clicking. She finally sent me happy birthday..where is my cake..we started gisting again. She apologized for what she did that day, that she was not in a good mood that day (someone who met, joked and laugh with me, even agreed to come sit with me on my table).

We continued chattin for weeks, I made sure I didn’t get intimate with her. One day, my sister was playing with my phone, then saw our chats, read through our chats. She was mad at me. She confronted me and nearly slapped her for disrespect. She later calm down and explain to me that if I knew what this girl said about me on group chat, that I would shoot her if I have a gun. She said she didn’t tell me so that I wont feel bad.
She then show me their caucaus group chat discussing me. Tears was just coming out of my eyes. I felt cold. They were just laughing at me. My sister was just fighting for me shutting them off.

This lady said “how come some men behave like he goat. Why can’t he leave me alone?” “am I the only girl on the planet? Oh God I hate that idiot.” “Gosh, I can never be close to such person talkless of dating him” ANOTHER girl said “That’s how those guys are…you need to disgrace him more next time he try something stupid with you. Blahblah.

That’s when I closed her chapter. Blocked her on facebook, whatsapp, instagram. I moved on. My sister did photoshoot for her birthday and some of her friends came. I saw her and just greeted her, minding my business. Then I was dating another girl then, so it’s a win win for all. She stayed behind, when everyone left, she asked my sister to help her beg me. She knelt infront of me started telling me “she was sorry..she was being childish” This was someone that was in her 24 when I was chasing her. I said I forgave due to pressure from my sister. Since then, she will come to my apartment, do my laundary, cook soup inside my freezer. When she is coming from work, she will branch at my place prepare food on my table. At times she offered to sleep overnite, that she cooked till late in the night, which I will refuse.

But one thing led to another, one day, we had sex. And that changed everything. I couldn’t resist her again. But a part of me still hate her whenever I remember those disgraceful moments. Now she is 26, she want us get married. If I marry her, I may treat her bad.

In a dilema seriously and its giving me headache.

Trust me, she is doing the cooking to win you over. Once she gets what she wants(Marriage) she will return to her normal self.

Move on, like she said "She's not the only girl on this planet"

Also as a guy you have enough time to select your life partner.

Or tell her that you still want to be friends for now. Test her patience, don't give her that relationship easy.

If she's yours, you will know by following your heart AFTER she pass your tests, then you give her the ring.

Trust your sister, she will guide you.

You remain a challenge. Your presence, your time, is a gift - she has to earn it every day. The more she works for it, the more she will appreciate it

I read ur story quite well and I must say that: you still bear grudges against her. It's obvious you haven't let go that painful experience. Love covereth multitude of sin; as such, if you are really sincere, you'll agree that you do not love her.
Truth however is that you can't force love but for your healing process, you should forgive and let go. Imagine if God is to judge us all for every iota of sin we've committed?!
Since you can't force the love, why not have an heart to heart discussion with her. Make her realise your feelings and emotions for her aren't deep and strong. Perhaps, you may find closure.
Above all, make God ur greatest ally. I wish you the best

when it come to b!tches, your past is your future, don't let emotion over rule you, don't marry any woman that put pressure on you

Your sister is only to help you in this situation. Tell your sister about your feelings on her for what she has done to you. If she says you should marry go ahead but if she says you shouldn't believe she knows her friend more than you.

proxillin:
She has been mounting pressure on me to follow her to meet her parents. We have been in this relationship for a year now. Although she is not the only one I am dating. I am not sure of the other lady, but atleast this one is ready to marry me.

I am not sure if I genuinely love her or not, but a part of me love her..A part of me want to treat her bad, whenever I remember what she did to me in the past.

3 years ago, I started noticing and showing interest in her being my junior sister’s friend. I discussed with my sister who encouraged me to approach her that she had no boyfriend. We were on talking terms before which was an opportunity. So I leveraged on that to get closer to her. When she noticed I was getting closer, she started giving me attitudes, stopped talking to me. Finally she stopped coming to our house. She would give my sister thousands of excuses why she was not chanced to come to our house.

We met at a friends birthday party, to my surprized, she warmed up to me, greeted me. I though she must have repented. While the party was on, I asked her to come to my table and spend sometimes with me, she said “ok”. I waited for hours, she didn’t come. I later saw her in the room with the celibrant. I jokingly said to her “You dey whine me abi”. She just went off, started ranting, she said I should say whatever I want to say now infront of everyone..infront of her friends. “Why do you want me to come and sit with you?” say it now “let the whole world hear”. It was so embarrasing for me. I just said to myself “whats there..are they not aldult?..dem never toast all of them before”.

My sister was there, got angry and left us. She had already warned me to leave her alone. That I am interfering with their friendship. On my birthday, she replied to my whatsapp pictures with love and kiss icons. She went to facebook to like all my birthday pix. Facebook was alerting me as she was clicking. She finally sent me happy birthday..where is my cake..we started gisting again. She apologized for what she did that day, that she was not in a good mood that day (someone who met, joked and laugh with me, even agreed to come sit with me on my table).

We continued chattin for weeks, I made sure I didn’t get intimate with her. One day, my sister was playing with my phone, then saw our chats, read through our chats. She was mad at me. She confronted me and nearly slapped her for disrespect. She later calm down and explain to me that if I knew what this girl said about me on group chat, that I would shoot her if I have a gun. She said she didn’t tell me so that I wont feel bad.
She then show me their caucaus group chat discussing me. Tears was just coming out of my eyes. I felt cold. They were just laughing at me. My sister was just fighting for me shutting them off.

This lady said “how come some men behave like he goat. Why can’t he leave me alone?” “am I the only girl on the planet? Oh God I hate that idiot.” “Gosh, I can never be close to such person talkless of dating him” ANOTHER girl said “That’s how those guys are…you need to disgrace him more next time he try something stupid with you. Blahblah.

That’s when I closed her chapter. Blocked her on facebook, whatsapp, instagram. I moved on. My sister did photoshoot for her birthday and some of her friends came. I saw her and just greeted her, minding my business. Then I was dating another girl then, so it’s a win win for all. She stayed behind, when everyone left, she asked my sister to help her beg me. She knelt infront of me started telling me “she was sorry..she was being childish” This was someone that was in her 24 when I was chasing her. I said I forgave due to pressure from my sister. Since then, she will come to my apartment, do my laundary, cook soup inside my freezer. When she is coming from work, she will branch at my place prepare food on my table. At times she offered to sleep overnite, that she cooked till late in the night, which I will refuse.

But one thing led to another, one day, we had sex. And that changed everything. I couldn’t resist her again. But a part of me still hate her whenever I remember those disgraceful moments. Now she is 26, she want us get married. If I marry her, I may treat her bad.

In a dilema seriously and its giving me headache.

If this words still gets to you at your age, then I must say you are an HSP ( Highly Sensitive Person).

Don't get married to any woman for now, go work on yourself esteem and ego. You need to read more books on emotional intelligence.

But before discharging this lady, consider her good side. Cos good women are hard to come by these days.

Can you discuss and plan a good future together? How does your dream correlate 5,10,20,30 years down the line?

Don't let any woman drag you into marriage if you are not read. And clearly, you are not ready as you are yet to find yourself, much more becoming a husband and a father.

Free advise: Your wife will say worst to you when she is agree. She will blame you for everything and anything.

Your ability to handle things makes you matured. If your wife goes haywire when angry and says unprintable things about you, will you act like Buhari and divorce her , or will you chill like Jonathan and let it die?

This is life and people will do things to you that are far worse than this. Your closest persons are those that will hurt you the most. Never forget that.

The choice is yours.

proxillin:
But one thing led to another, one day, we had sex. And that changed everything. I couldn’t resist her again. But a part of me still hate her whenever I remember those disgraceful moments. Now she is 26, she want us get married. If I marry her, I may treat her bad.

In a dilema seriously and its giving me headache.

Nothing disgraceful there. You were just really creepy then. And girls hate creeps.

Just forgive her and go meet her parents. Good luck.

Bro, if it's me i will dump her honestly. i can never marry such a girl..u better dump dat girl for your own good cuz u will never forget what she did to you the pain u went through. Most girls can be so foolish and immature.

Enjoy the coochie while it last, but don’t get it twisted of thinking marriage... no pressure, when you are ready you go know....

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You're obviously an option to her, especially now that she feels she's getting old.

Ditch her bro

When i got to one thing lead to another,I told myself e don happen.

baiaon:
When you first met her,she was in the age bracket of 22 to 23years old.She must have had alot of suitors and options.Hence her nasty attitude towards you because you weren't her spec.Fast forward 3 years and the suitors and options have dried up hence her desire to get married as soon as possible to any available option that's why you see her cooking,sweeping and other bullshit that easily impresses Nigerian men
If you eventually marry her,she will change back to her nasty attitude when you first met her.Classic bait and switch

Dorothy( of BBN) breast milk on you. That's why I tell people, women can be who they were created to be if they want. They all know what we want, but will never do it until they can gain something from it. Op, any girl that sweeps, cooks and shows love then have to coerce you into following you her to her parents is pretending and trying to manipulate you. That's not her true colors.She is just under pressure from her parents, and desperate to bring someone home. Why can't she disgrace you privately instead of publicly , being your sister's friend?

GiantParrot:
What are the facts here?

1. She ridiculed you when she was at her prime

2. She's now on the decline, with much fewer suitors. So she's settling for the patient, nice guy. Where is your self respect?

3. You don't love her enough. Seems like the sex is the real deal here.

Marriage takes a toll on a person's finances and mental health. If you choose to tow that line, is she really worth it?

she is 26, which also means she has 3 yrs of playing around (based on societal standards this modern days). So she is still at her prime.

You want to go back to your vomit. SMH

If she has not done anything apart from the one you narrated , forgive her.It is very good you people started on a very slight rough note,I can assure you it would end well if both you get married.Right now she is in love..do not hate her she is being
previously childish .Now she will never again subjected her man to such .She has begged you forgive her..Go and see her parent..you will later in some years to come to thank me for this poor advise..Old man talk!!!

Guy!!! Forgive her and let go..... She's a good Girl..... She's been childish then...... It's one of those things

she comes when see you with another girl. she belongs to the street �

Donpaper:
Dorothy( of BBN) breast milk on you. That's why I tell people, women can be who they were created to be if they want. They all know what we want, but will never do it until they can gain something from it. Op, any girl that sweeps, cooks and shows love then have to coerce you into following you her to her parents is pretending and trying to manipulate you. That's not her true colors.She is just under pressure from her parents, and desperate to bring someone home. Why can't she disgrace you privately instead of publicly , being your sister's friend?

Nice point made. But it is not wise to hold up the part she disgrace the OP for so long na, it was the past and people could be naive.

@proxillin One thing I learnt about life with regards to women/relationship...


NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS BECAUSE IF SHE WERE TO BE YOUNGER AND PRETTIER, YOU MAY NOT EVEN BE HER CHOICE


just tell her early enough that you can't marry her because you can't be happy in the marriage knowing the insults you went through because of her... Be firm about it... If she wants to remain in your life as a fuckmate; it's her choice...

proxillin:
She has been mounting pressure on me to follow her to meet her parents. We have been in this relationship for a year now. Although she is not the only one I am dating. I am not sure of the other lady, but atleast this one is ready to marry me.

I am not sure if I genuinely love her or not, but a part of me love her..A part of me want to treat her bad, whenever I remember what she did to me in the past.

3 years ago, I started noticing and showing interest in her being my junior sister’s friend. I discussed with my sister who encouraged me to approach her that she had no boyfriend. We were on talking terms before which was an opportunity. So I leveraged on that to get closer to her. When she noticed I was getting closer, she started giving me attitudes, stopped talking to me. Finally she stopped coming to our house. She would give my sister thousands of excuses why she was not chanced to come to our house.

We met at a friends birthday party, to my surprized, she warmed up to me, greeted me. I though she must have repented. While the party was on, I asked her to come to my table and spend sometimes with me, she said “ok”. I waited for hours, she didn’t come. I later saw her in the room with the celibrant. I jokingly said to her “You dey whine me abi”. She just went off, started ranting, she said I should say whatever I want to say now infront of everyone..infront of her friends. “Why do you want me to come and sit with you?” say it now “let the whole world hear”. It was so embarrasing for me. I just said to myself “whats there..are they not aldult?..dem never toast all of them before”.

My sister was there, got angry and left us. She had already warned me to leave her alone. That I am interfering with their friendship. On my birthday, she replied to my whatsapp pictures with love and kiss icons. She went to facebook to like all my birthday pix. Facebook was alerting me as she was clicking. She finally sent me happy birthday..where is my cake..we started gisting again. She apologized for what she did that day, that she was not in a good mood that day (someone who met, joked and laugh with me, even agreed to come sit with me on my table).

We continued chattin for weeks, I made sure I didn’t get intimate with her. One day, my sister was playing with my phone, then saw our chats, read through our chats. She was mad at me. She confronted me and nearly slapped her for disrespect. She later calm down and explain to me that if I knew what this girl said about me on group chat, that I would shoot her if I have a gun. She said she didn’t tell me so that I wont feel bad.
She then show me their caucaus group chat discussing me. Tears was just coming out of my eyes. I felt cold. They were just laughing at me. My sister was just fighting for me shutting them off.

This lady said “how come some men behave like he goat. Why can’t he leave me alone?” “am I the only girl on the planet? Oh God I hate that idiot.” “Gosh, I can never be close to such person talkless of dating him” ANOTHER girl said “That’s how those guys are…you need to disgrace him more next time he try something stupid with you. Blahblah.

That’s when I closed her chapter. Blocked her on facebook, whatsapp, instagram. I moved on. My sister did photoshoot for her birthday and some of her friends came. I saw her and just greeted her, minding my business. Then I was dating another girl then, so it’s a win win for all. She stayed behind, when everyone left, she asked my sister to help her beg me. She knelt infront of me started telling me “she was sorry..she was being childish” This was someone that was in her 24 when I was chasing her. I said I forgave due to pressure from my sister. Since then, she will come to my apartment, do my laundary, cook soup inside my freezer. When she is coming from work, she will branch at my place prepare food on my table. At times she offered to sleep overnite, that she cooked till late in the night, which I will refuse.

But one thing led to another, one day, we had sex. And that changed everything. I couldn’t resist her again. But a part of me still hate her whenever I remember those disgraceful moments. Now she is 26, she want us get married. If I marry her, I may treat her bad.

In a dilema seriously and its giving me headache.

where you can know if she has changed is first the way she apologised to you, the circumstances that led to it too, you said she knelt down and apologised which shows some form of sincerity, two who coarsed her in coming to apologise to you And three in the last two years how has her behaviour been alround especially when you guys have misunderstandings, this would guide you in forgiving her wholeheartedly. My brother no body be saint