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donstan18:
If you are a Guy reading this, please pay attention.



You see this?



You see this?


And this?


And this too....

You see those 4 parts I highlighted? They should be the reason why you should never expect much from GIRLFRIENDS, they are just hoes parading as Girlfriends.

The earlier you understand this the better for you. Thanks!!

I really do not understand the kind of girl or woman you are!

You had a boyfriend but you were frolicking with another guy till you fell in love with him.

Apparently, you already sized up the guy immediately you met him and saw that he was richer and more comfortable than you current boyfriend. Yes, that's happened. It's hypergamy, not all those BS you wrote about being interesting and shii.

Sadly, for you the new guy is a Playboy that knows his antics, that's why he gave you an ultimatum. the game is the game. He knew he could use his hypergamy over you and you as a girl with low self-esteem fell for it. He's already in your panties, whether you date or not as he WILL be able to have sex with you if he wants at this point.

You have already cheated on your boyfriend immediately you gave another guy your time while in a relationship. You might as well go ahead with it. You belong to the streets and there's where you should return.

Relationship isn't about dating the best person, it's about choosing a person and remaining committed. There's always going to be a richer, finer, more interesting person.

Go and frolic with the new guy, you're in your hoe phase (probably between 20-25) but don't cry to us here when you start having problems because you definitely will.

gaius01:
well I understand your point let's talk this talk out of the basket. like you said no signs of abuse neither unfaithfulness. Do you know a girl could break up with you because of lack care, incompatibility, too boring and lots more. from what I can deduce her boyfriend ain't giving her the vibes the other was giving her can you imagine the qualities she listed. dam look at it again, and Las Las her boo is not cheating neither does he abuse her. when I was dating I never allow my chatting vibes to be low, I read alot of wide range so that when we start chatting men she won't have time texting those boys because I know if I don't occupy her with vibes others will

one problem with we Nigerians is that when our Bea is cheating, look at your self, take a deep scan through, ask your self, What makes that guy different from me not getting angry or shouting at her every body want a lively boo no one boring, faithful dude. learn new ways to be Romantic, learn her phycology so that you can inflict it for your sef. if she love your vibes trust me she woñt look out albeit you been faithful.

is that what you want to become in your life...

rather you go focus on your life

olamide I've said it all... you can't satisfy woman[b]

gaius01:
well I understand your point let's talk this talk out of the basket. like you said no signs of abuse neither unfaithfulness. Do you know a girl could break up with you because of lack care, incompatibility, too boring and lots more. from what I can deduce her boyfriend ain't giving her the vibes the other was giving her can you imagine the qualities she listed. dam look at it again, and Las Las her boo is not cheating neither does he abuse her. when I was dating I never allow my chatting vibes to be low, I read alot of wide range so that when we start chatting men she won't have time texting those boys because I know if I don't occupy her with vibes others will

one problem with we Nigerians is that when our Bea is cheating, look at your self, take a deep scan through, ask your self, What makes that guy different from me not getting angry or shouting at her every body want a lively boo no one boring, faithful dude. learn new ways to be Romantic, learn her phycology so that you can inflict it for your sef. if she love your vibes trust me she woñt look out albeit you been faithful.

is that what you want to become in your life...

rather you go focus on your life

olamide I've said it all... you can't satisfy woman[/b]

gaius01:
well I understand your point let's talk this talk out of the basket. like you said no signs of abuse neither unfaithfulness. Do you know a girl could break up with you because of lack care, incompatibility, too boring and lots more. from what I can deduce her boyfriend ain't giving her the vibes the other was giving her can you imagine the qualities she listed. dam look at it again, and Las Las her boo is not cheating neither does he abuse her. when I was dating I never allow my chatting vibes to be low, I read alot of wide range so that when we start chatting men she won't have time texting those boys because I know if I don't occupy her with vibes others will

one problem with we Nigerians is that when our Bea is cheating, look at your self, take a deep scan through, ask your self, What makes that guy different from me not getting angry or shouting at her every body want a lively boo no one boring, faithful dude. learn new ways to be Romantic, learn her phycology so that you can inflict it for your sef. if she love your vibes trust me she woñt look out albeit you been faithful.

is that what you want to become in your life...

rather you go focus on your life

olamide I've said it all... you can't satisfy woman... wan ma do

donstan18:
If you are a Guy reading this, please pay attention.



You see this?



You see this?


And this?


And this too....

You see those 4 parts I highlighted? They should be the reason why you should never expect much from GIRLFRIENDS, they are just hoes parading as Girlfriends.

The earlier you understand this the better for you. Thanks!!

God bless you whether you like it or not.

tomdon:
How are you people trying to force someone against their wish?
Nobody is under any obligation to stay with anybody! Na by force?
Everyone should have freedom of choice but the only problem being that she alluded to having assessed the first guy before commencing dating, so what happened?Still, one cannot but go where the heart is, but if it doesn't work out then that's her problem

did they force her to date the first guy....when has dating become trial and error or experiment. Let's take it for example that every woman on earth uses your analogy to date and test you. You spend lots on 5 women who dated you but left coz they saw another better guy like hers only for you to end up being bankrupt, would you date another woman who comes your way again?

Mcslize:
What will make a man to make up his mind to marry a lady? Please kindly answer with all honesty.


If you are dating a girl and you find out she is double dating with some random guys aside you, will you boldly want to.marry such a lady?

If you go on marrying a girl that double dated when you were courting her, do you believe such a girl will be loyal to you in marriage? Can you boldly marry a lady that is cheating on you with other guys even though you are aware?

If you can answer those questions with capital YES then those are the kind of girls you will keep on attracting because you believe a girl who is in a serious relationship that will lead to marriage should keep on cheating because to you she is Still very single.

But you forget that it is from dating that you will know whether to marry someone or not. And if she is the cheating type, you will still go ahead to marry such. Don't be surprised when a woman hang another man's child on your neck without you being aware.

Don't ever give excuse for promiscuous ladies. You can't compare guys that cheat to ladies because it is men that will wife them. Every lady should learn how to control their sexual fantasies and emotions when in a serious relationships with the exceptions of those that just want to fvck around and in the end become too damaged for men to marry as wives.

Marry a hoe and watch how she will fvck around in your absence and born you another man child.

A smart chick or lady don't need to tell her so called committed boyfriend that she is fvcking another guy or seeing another guy or considering another guy because we men are sexual hypocrites, we will judge and crucify such lady, she only needs to be smart, play smart and make the best decision to end up with the right man ready to wife her.


So many ladies were loyal to their so called boyfriend or fiancé they wished would marry them at the end the guy goes and marry one lady he met after a one night stand, so what do you have to say


Not all guys marry ladies they courted or dated for too long cos of see finish and it become boring too, many guys marry any sweet lady to them they meet when they are ready to settle down irrespective of how many guys she had dated in the past.


Ladies should learn to keep their mouth shut about the guys they are seeing cos men are hypocrites who judge them but refuse to subject themselves to judgment also.


How many sexually active guys here can swear that they have had sex with only their main girlfriend If they dare it, many go fall and die

But they want their girlfriends to keep herself only for them while they fvck around, whose girlfriend are they fvcking and chasing around like hegoat Maybe ghost


The world has evolved already beyond anybody's absolute control and beyond any gender's control so we men need to wake up to the reality that our girlfriends and fiancé's and even wives are also being fvcked codedly nowadays and there is nothing anybody can do about it, at worst you go to the monastery and turn to a Monk and face serving the Lord but if you want to date, do relationship and even marry, you must prepare your mind to take any boomshyyyyt that may come; bear in mind that your girlfriend, fiancé, or even wife may fall once in a while and get fvcked without you knowing and life goes on.



Many guys making noise here, if the table were turned and cute rich ladies start approaching guys for date, flings, etc, all the guys yanning dust here will be fvcked anyhow by these ladies if tables were turned so let's cut ladies some slack, they are humans.


Do you think it's easy for a pretty lady who is dating a guy that's struggling financially, not that handsome, nothing special to resist uncountable handsome looking guys with loads of cash, goodies and amazing profile Don't you know ladies too fantasize about their dream man, and when they come across such a man you think its that easy for them to resist him just because of one yeye boyfriend that she don't even know where the relationship is heading to


I have seen ladies who remained loyal and faithful to their so called boyfriend for years and at the end nothing good came out of the relationship

Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.

Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.

One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.

This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.

Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.

Other girls has left him even with those qualities you claim he has.

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larryking540:
see as u harsh for the babe ,

No reason am,i just dey say the truth

dukeprince50:
dont go and make up ur mind, be here doing DELAYtionship and decamping from one man to the other every three months,
U think relationship is build on physical qualities? In life u will always find someone more attractive than the one u are currently dating, wen that time comes, emotional maturity will help u, self control will come to ur rescue and commitment will keep u going, u think happily married couples dont see better qualities, Relationship should not be build on qualities but understanding that commitment is ur greatest arsenal, u can fall in love with anyone but building a relationship takes more than that, but u are just 16yrs, u wont understand
dicey dice u there, Rubbish

this is end of discussion because you have answered her already

donstan18:
If you are a Guy reading this, please pay attention.



You see this?



You see this?


And this?


And this too....

You see those 4 parts I highlighted? They should be the reason why you should never expect much from GIRLFRIENDS, they are just hoes parading as Girlfriends.

The earlier you understand this the better for you. Thanks!!

this is end of discussion because you have summarize it bro. God bless you more than you want!!!

Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.

Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.

One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.

This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.

Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.

u will keep finding someone better. Get used to it. Be contented with what u have. Ur main bf must have seen someone better but chose to snub her just to be with u. Why can't you do the same?

Indeed shit happens

What kinda f**kery is this

Marriage is much more than being well spoken. Is he enduring? Is he rugged? If he losses His job, is he rugged enough to find his level or will be looking out for hand outs?

Someone like that wants you to himself alone...you might be losing friends and acquaintances just by dating him.

OP theres nothing wrong , however just know that if it turns out south, its your own doing. I understand Love is not enough for marriage these days, but ensure you know what you are doing and understand the consequences because once you tow that line there's no room for going back nor regrets. Relationships people breakup e dey happen.

[quote author=donstan18 post=92307481]If you are a Guy reading this, please pay attention.



You see this?



You see this?


And this?


And this too....

You see those 4 parts I highlighted? They should be the reason why you should never expect much from GIRLFRIENDS, they are just hoes parading as Girlfriends.

The earlier you understand this the better for you. Thanks!!




You reason with me.

konkonbilo:
lmao.. Werey plenty for this nairaland, aswerugod

lolxxxxx hahahaha na nau u jus dey know? me wey be say if I don too vex I go just come here to read come and laff my sorrows away

FluxEmpire:
I'd put things clear as apt as it is... If you say you love the second guy, then you never loved the first... You can't love two people at the same time; it's impossible.

If you wanna go for the second guy, then do so and stop using the first as leverage or collateral to keep whenever the new guy is unavailable.

Furthermore, you'd be doing more good than harm in leaving your first boyfriend because as it is, you clearly don't love him because love goes beyond what you just see physically. It's accepting one's shit and excesses and loving them for who they are.

Give your first boyfriend the respect he deserves by leaving him and stop loving him out of pity. You're only making him a lovelorn. If you actually knew that the new guy had all you needed in a man, courtesy states that you remain single till you get to meet such guy even if it takes 100 years but outta being lonely, you opted to date your first and now the man of your dreams appeared, the first seems to fade in your eyes...

YOU CLEARLY DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT

Give the first boyfriend the honor he deserves and let a woman who is worthy of him be with him. You can't eat your cake and have it. Next time, carry a TO-DO-LIST about your expectations with you henceforth because it seems if another guy should sweep you outta your feet better than the second, you might as well put the second in the corners.

I might have been rude but pardon my unfriendliness; the TRUTH hurts.

God Almighty bless you and your words.Amen.You sound good so far

Women can't be trusted

The life of women sucks. You don't "trust easily" and do you think you're trustworthy, yourself, with this behavior?

Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.

Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.

One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.

This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.

Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.

Girls are like walking, talking POS machines. Any guy that slots and they see more mula, forget it, they migrate to 'better options'. they can't help it.
So as a guy you see Betty butter, change network.

Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.

Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.

One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.

This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.

Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.

Favour2323:
Please don't dissuade those that want to offer their opinions.

This is my story and it's not fake.

What are the qualities though

linked:
Don't be a door without a lock. It is clear that you are not committed to your present relationship. Now that's a big problem. It speaks more to your character than anything else. The problem is not whether you like the new guy more than your guy, but that you don't understand that commitment is essential for a healthy relationship.

Maybe you are not matured enough to know that in life you will always meet someone more interesting, more handsome, more wealthy, more nice than whoever you chose to date or marry. Las las I suspect you will end up a wretch if you do not discipline yourself with self control.

You should date or marry a person not because you have not found someone better than them. Rather it should be because you CHOSE to be with them. Even when you find someone better (which will definitely happen), it wouldn't matter to you.

dis mata don close because u don answer d hoe

Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.

Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.

One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.

This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.

Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.

Madam new tyn Sabi sweet

What makes you think you wouldn't see a guy with better qualities than this ur new guy: then you jump on him again, nxt new guy, u jump on him again, nxt new guy jump, next new guy x15
Just get married ooo

Okay



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Mcslize:
It's ladies like you that will cheat in marriages. You see where the issue of hypergamy in women is coming from?

Do you know you are already cheating? If you can leave your boyfriend for one random play boy that appeared from no where and start falling for him, what makes you think you won't leave that same new guy for another when you see another person you think is better than the new guy?

You are simply a hoe nothing else. You are typically unstable. A girl like you is to be used and dump cuz you are one of those damaged goods that are being spoken about by redpillers.

Let's take an instance. If perhaps your boyfriend had paid your bride price and you meet this new guy, will you say you want to leave your boyfriend for a random guy you just felt a mere attraction for? What makes you think this new guy won't use and dump you? When that happens, you will now crawl back to your ex boyfriend you are already cheating on and start begging him to take you back right?

You are simply a hoe. Ladies like you are not always stable. They jump from one guy to another. If people in serious relationships or marriage commit the evil you are about to commit now, will you see them getting married or staying long in their marriages? Or do you think ladies that decided to remain faithful and stable in their relationships are not coming across other men whom they feel attraction for on daily basis?

You lack self control. That's all I can say. And a lady that lack self control is nothing but a hoe who can't just remain put with one guy in a relationship and stay faithful. Any guy who marry a girl like you is doomed for a divorce in the future cuz you will definitely cheat.

Watch the 18 minutes video below and see why I said you are not fit for a serious relationship or marriage. You are a time bomb ready to explode.

Bet me, that new guy will use and dump you. You don't deserve your boyfriend because he is a nice guy.

This video sum it all:

If a woman cheats on you


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V9Rjlr1RCqM

Brother you're sounding so hurt. Your message almost looks personal like you've had an experience. Calm down o

dukeprince50:
dont go and make up ur mind, be here doing DELAYtionship and decamping from one man to the other every three months,
U think relationship is build on physical qualities? In life u will always find someone more attractive than the one u are currently dating, wen that time comes, emotional maturity will help u, self control will come to ur rescue and commitment will keep u going, u think happily married couples dont see better qualities, Relationship should not be build on qualities but understanding that commitment is ur greatest arsenal, u can fall in love with anyone but building a relationship takes more than that, but u are just 16yrs, u wont understand
dicey dice u there, Rubbish

Mature mind like yours is very rare, I recognize your maturity

Guy Calm Down...


The Boys Also Fall Into This Situation so Dont Turn This Lady Into An Experiment To Study Ladies.


FAVOUR2323

see in life you cannot have it all, when we meet people they have no intention to show their ugly sides until they have seen enough of you. just stay with you guy


what you want to do is a show of selfishness, ungratefulness and lack of contentment.

the guy has more good qualities than your boyfriend, have you checked to see if his bad qualities are more than your boyfriend's?


if not for foolishness and lust, common sense tells us that when you choose one person stay with that person and overlook others no matter how attractive, before one picks somebody you should keep it in mind that thousands are better


relationship is a sacrifice

Bigfish121:
Just imagine.well I pity boys who actually go into relationship though.if you are a boy you better forget about relationships and focus on your life.
In her boyfriend's mind he is into a relationship.rubbish.

so how will you marry

Do not play the politics of decamping from one party to another and then back to the former party like our politicians do over here with relationship.

Take a step back and define and know what kind of relationship you desire.Going by what you have said ,so if you see another guy in the next 6 months and he has all the qualities you desire you will leave this one also?

And another thing how well do you know this new guy that you want to jump ship?If after you jump ship you start seeing some undesirable things is it going to be on the next one,on the next one,on to the next one continuously?

paul100:
No reason am,i just dey say the truth

I understand,na Tru