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Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by zakkxx: 11:32am On Aug 01
Your mumu never do? You want to share you body around abi? The first guy has seen your body now you are crushing on the second guy which I believe it won’t take the guy one week to sleep with you because you don lovam finish. My Sister na infatuation they worry the second guy tell him you can start a relationship but no sex till marriage, tell him that is what you are doing with your first guy and watch how the second guy will bring out his true colors. That is the test, stop sleeping around with guys they will dump u and marry a hore that claim she is a celibate.
Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by eddieo(m): 11:36am On Aug 01
oluwatodimu1:
I pray that after 3years of marriage, you don't fall in love with another guy that has better qualities than your husband!
I don't know why some girls (although not surprised) keep being dumb (and silly) mostly.
I want to ask you this question, when you are trying to displace another person, would you be appearing lesser than your competition? I am sure your answer would be "better".
It's your life and your decision to make
Your points a valid but in this case the new guy is just getting to know she has a a boyfriend hence he is not trying to appear better than her current guy. He is just being a real man who can easily tell himself the truth and not allow any lady manipulate his emotions the reason he chose to cut contact with her.

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Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by AlwaysMotun(m): 11:44am On Aug 01
Do whatever your heart so desires, but remember nothing lasts forever
Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by jUeLiZ: 11:57am On Aug 01
okay we have heard... good luck on your quest
Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by TheRareGem1: 12:01pm On Aug 01
Contention is what you need.
Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by LordOfTheGame: 12:08pm On Aug 01
I am not going to try to insult women here but I think, most women are so confused and immature to know what they want. You're in a relationship with a guy who goes all our hiding his pains and struggles just to make you happy and possibly build his world around you and you want to leave him and go for a guy whose intentions you cannot ascertain for sure. Why are women this confused?
Well, just as everyone else has said, relationship is all about commitment and sacrifice. Looking beyond imperfections and not giving up on your partner. So, I will advise you to hold on to your boyfriend, talk with him about those qualities you saw in the other guy and give him time to improve. Create atmosphere to fall in love with him again and he fall in love with you as well. Things will surely improve for better.
Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Lildreezy(m): 12:12pm On Aug 01
dukeprince50:
dont go and make up ur mind, be here doing DELAYtionship and decamping from one man to the other every three months,
U think relationship is build on physical qualities? In life u will always find someone more attractive than the one u are currently dating, wen that time comes, emotional maturity will help u, self control will come to ur rescue and commitment will keep u going, u think happily married couples dont see better qualities, Relationship should not be build on qualities but understanding that commitment is ur greatest arsenal that destroy those unhelpful impulses if and wen it comes. u can fall in love with anyone, it takes little or no effort but building a relationship that could survive the test of time takes more than that, My dear, there is no already made relationship, u have to build one. but u are just 16yrs, u wont understand
dicey dice u there, Rubbish


I have a feeling i know you. From Jos. And i suspect this is not the first time you are doing this... As you have done a guy dirty with this same thing last year
Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Sojiboi(m): 12:17pm On Aug 01
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Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Boatswain(m): 12:45pm On Aug 01
Please don't be offended about what I am going to ask you but, what do you understand by the word commitment? If you do answer it correctly, then your answer lies there.
Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by richieray: 12:54pm On Aug 01
Na who go break una heart una dey always like.
Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by israelmao(m): 1:13pm On Aug 01
What kind of confusion have you put yourself?No one can get you out,you have to by yourself.
Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by tomdon(m): 1:16pm On Aug 01
FluxEmpire:
did they force her to date the first guy....when has dating become trial and error or experiment. Let's take it for example that every woman on earth uses your analogy to date and test you. You spend lots on 5 women who dated you but left coz they saw another better guy like hers only for you to end up being bankrupt, would you date another woman who comes your way again?



Hope the only person you will ever date will be your spouse. How many instances does this happen among humans? So they are all doing trial and error because they didn't end up marrying. It's even better to be true to yourself and say the truth than give flimsy excuses in order to exit a relationship, which is what many people do.

Sorry I don't spend on women. Neither do I take ladies monies even though I've had offers where I could've taken advantage of their maybe generosity or desperation. I don't like being encumbered.
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Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Slimsly100(f): 1:28pm On Aug 01
dukeprince50:
dont go and make up ur mind, be here doing DELAYtionship and decamping from one man to the other every three months,
U think relationship is build on physical qualities? In life u will always find someone more attractive than the one u are currently dating, wen that time comes, emotional maturity will help u, self control will come to ur rescue and commitment will keep u going, u think happily married couples dont see better qualities, Relationship should not be build on qualities but understanding that commitment is ur greatest arsenal that destroy those unhelpful impulses if and wen it comes. u can fall in love with anyone, it takes little or no effort but building a relationship that could survive the test of time takes more than that, My dear, there is no already made relationship, u have to build one. but u are just 16yrs, u wont understand
dicey dice u there, Rubbish


Straight from my mind cool
Bless you bro
Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Amaefuleteddy: 1:50pm On Aug 01
donstan18:
If you are a Guy reading this, please pay attention.



You see this?



You see this?


And this?


And this too....

You see those 4 parts I highlighted? They should be the reason why you should never expect much from GIRLFRIENDS, they are just hoes parading as Girlfriends.

The earlier you understand this the better for you. Thanks!!


On point bro!!!!
Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Amaefuleteddy: 1:53pm On Aug 01
DaddyRochie1642:
This is as a result of "SEE FINISH" grin grin

She don see her boyfriend Finish, that's why she wants a new Challenge

Always avoid "SEE FINISH"

I swear
Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by AK481(m): 2:03pm On Aug 01
donstan18:
If you are a Guy reading this, please pay attention.



You see this?



You see this?


And this?


And this too....

You see those 4 parts I highlighted? They should be the reason why you should never expect much from GIRLFRIENDS, they are just hoes parading as Girlfriends.

The earlier you understand this the better for you. Thanks!!

I have never seen a higher likes

2250!!!!

Click like if you liked this post.

Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by armylord: 2:34pm On Aug 01
Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.

Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.

One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.

This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.

Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.

u are still a kid, u have no emotional control whatsoever!! Ur boyfriend doesn't deserve u!! Having feelings for another while in a relationship. So when u get married. Then at ur work place u see a very intelligent, attractive man.. U gon start developing feelings for him too?? Then y date or Marry a man that doesn't possess those qualities u want?? Wawa kowai!!
Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by UTEWUOJO: 2:36pm On Aug 01
I have nothing to say!!!!

Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by ImaIma1(f): 2:43pm On Aug 01
oluplus:


I love this

Don't mind the op. She doesn't know that appearance is different from reality and the grass is not always greener on the other side. It is covertousness that makes people always long for something they think they don't have.

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Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by FluxEmpire(m): 2:59pm On Aug 01
tomdon:




Hope the only person you will ever date will be your spouse. How many instances does this happen among humans? So they are all doing trial and error because they didn't end up marrying. It's even better to be true to yourself and say the truth than give flimsy excuses in order to exit a relationship, which is what many people do.

Sorry I don't spend on women. Neither do I take ladies monies even though I've had offers where I could've taken advantage of their maybe generosity or desperation. I don't like being encumbered.
I've dated other ladies before and our reasons for the breakup weren't because there was somebody else around the corner... It was purely DISTANCE!!! A breakup shouldn't be at the expense of replacing one person for another all because you saw some physical features; it clearly means you never saw the worth of that person and decided to use the person to pass time till you get to your comfort zone...

That's shallow and a total lack of respect. There are certain circumstances that forces a breakup which is clearly understandable and not one party pushing for the breakup all because of selfish reasons. So, if a girl breaks up with you because your friend is richer, it sounds normal to you...sheesh!!!

Do you know if the guy would've been the richest man today if he never met her as his time, focus and resources would probably have been spent on doing something positive than give to a girl who has nothing to offer?
Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by senetorjboss(m): 3:12pm On Aug 01
Mcslize:


It's ladies like you that will cheat in marriages. You see where the issue of hypergamy in women is coming from?

Do you know you are already cheating? If you can leave your boyfriend for one random play boy that appeared from no where and start falling for him, what makes you think you won't leave that same new guy for another when you see another person you think is better than the new guy?

You are simply a hoe nothing else. You are typically unstable. A girl like you is to be used and dump cuz you are one of those damaged goods that are being spoken about by redpillers.

Let's take an instance. If perhaps your boyfriend had paid your bride price and you meet this new guy, will you say you want to leave your boyfriend for a random guy you just felt a mere attraction for? What makes you think this new guy won't use and dump you? When that happens, you will now crawl back to your ex boyfriend you are already cheating on and start begging him to take you back right?

You are simply a hoe. Ladies like you are not always stable. They jump from one guy to another. If people in serious relationships or marriage commit the evil you are about to commit now, will you see them getting married or staying long in their marriages? Or do you think ladies that decided to remain faithful and stable in their relationships are not coming across other men whom they feel attraction for on daily basis?

You lack self control. That's all I can say. And a lady that lack self control is nothing but a hoe who can't just remain put with one guy in a relationship and stay faithful. Any guy who marry a girl like you is doomed for a divorce in the future cuz you will definitely cheat.

Watch the 18 minutes video below and see why I said you are not fit for a serious relationship or marriage. You are a time bomb ready to explode.

Bet me, that new guy will use and dump you. You don't deserve your boyfriend because he is a nice guy.

This video sum it all:

If a woman cheats on you


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V9Rjlr1RCqM

Nice one
Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by aytuns(m): 3:14pm On Aug 01
Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.

Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.

One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.

This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.

Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.


so you leave the first boyfriend, and date second one.... You meet another guy, that tickles your fancy, has 'qualities', and three months down the line you catch feelings again..so you leave your second boyfriend for the third......Madam..you are your own problem.

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Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Mikat: 3:17pm On Aug 01
Your second choice is Infatuated otherwise he will not place you on condition of abandoning your first Boyfriend for him. He would do everything to impress you to the extent that on your own, you will abandon your boyfriend for him. Don't do what you will regret. A word is enough for the wise
Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by sylve11: 3:47pm On Aug 01
donstan18:
If you are a Guy reading this, please pay attention.



You see this?



You see this?


And this?


And this too....

You see those 4 parts I highlighted? They should be the reason why you should never expect much from GIRLFRIENDS, they are just hoes parading as Girlfriends.

The earlier you understand this the better for you. Thanks!!


Hahaha grin cool
Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by BluntNigerian: 3:57pm On Aug 01
Favour2323:


Please don't dissuade those that want to offer their opinions.

This is my story and it's not fake.
Then break up the first relationship totally and hook on with the second...
Stop double-dating..
You are already cheating on your boyfriend by always thinking about the new guy and wishing to be with him..
Then break off already and be free
Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by tomdon(m): 5:33pm On Aug 01
FluxEmpire:
I've dated other ladies before and our reasons for the breakup weren't because there was somebody else around the corner... It was purely DISTANCE!!! A breakup shouldn't be at the expense of replacing one person for another all because you saw some physical features; it clearly means you never saw the worth of that person and decided to use the person to pass time till you get to your comfort zone...

That's shallow and a total lack of respect. There are certain circumstances that forces a breakup which is clearly understandable and not one party pushing for the breakup all because of selfish reasons. So, if a girl breaks up with you because your friend is richer, it sounds normal to you...sheesh!!!

Do you know if the guy would've been the richest man today if he never met her as his time, focus and resources would probably have been spent on doing something positive than give to a girl who has nothing to offer?




You're speaking of your own personal experiences.
But the truth remains that one shouldn't manage a partner, there won't be joy. Better to pull out and remain single. But there's a period of observation which can be called dating. If within this period you find someone better, will you rather choose to stay with the former person??
Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by pich4real(m): 6:10pm On Aug 01
dukeprince50:
dont go and make up ur mind, be here doing DELAYtionship and decamping from one man to the other every three months,
U think relationship is build on physical qualities? In life u will always find someone more attractive than the one u are currently dating, wen that time comes, emotional maturity will help u, self control will come to ur rescue and commitment will keep u going, u think happily married couples dont see better qualities, Relationship should not be build on qualities but understanding that commitment is ur greatest arsenal that destroy those unhelpful impulses if and wen it comes. u can fall in love with anyone, it takes little or no effort but building a relationship that could survive the test of time takes more than that, My dear, there is no already made relationship, u have to build one. but u are just 16yrs, u wont understand
dicey dice u there, Rubbish
Twale!! Respect to you sir, your wisdom knows no bound.
Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by kolade560: 6:13pm On Aug 01
eni4real:
His current boyfriend must have come in contact with better girls too!!

This one is just trying to be smart... She will learn the hard way tho!!

It is obvious that his current boyfriend didn't allow her to take responsibilities!!
If she had invested well in the relationship, she won't be acting like an unstable teenager!!

oil dey your head
Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Jackienjoey: 6:13pm On Aug 01
Firstly I will say u are flirting already and that is called cheating
Secondly when u already know the first guy intentions why did u decide to hurt him what if he is spying on u my advice to u is to stick to your boyfriend and showing love there is a reason u said yes if u don’t love him at first u won’t said yes or maybe u feel lonely at first that is why u said yes to him

Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by pich4real(m): 6:14pm On Aug 01
donstan18:
If you are a Guy reading this, please pay attention.



You see this?



You see this?


And this?


And this too....

You see those 4 parts I highlighted? They should be the reason why you should never expect much from GIRLFRIENDS, they are just hoes parading as Girlfriends.

The earlier you understand this the better for you. Thanks!!
Bros, you dey vex oo.
Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by pich4real(m): 6:33pm On Aug 01
You found yourself a new toy and you're already lovey - dovey. It seems you don't understand that in relationships, you will always find someone who has better qualities than your present partner. Once you understand this then your unshakable as a rock.

Maturity, discipline, perseverance and understanding matters. So what if you fall into the arms of this new guy, you date for 3 months, then you meet someone far more better than he is, will you dump him and run into the arms of another?

But it's your call, because two things are involved, it's either you dump your boyfriend and for this new prince charming and regret it or you don't regret it, but you could be lucky, not all love stories like this end up tragic, it could be a "they lived happily ever after story"

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