humilitypays:
Ladies are their own problem.


relationship is not marriage. Until a guy pays your full dowry, you don't owe him any explanation to walk away or fvck another sweeter dick.



Why must u seek for permission from others to date a guy u find attractive for your taste.



We guys are hypocrites, we make too much noise, we want ladies to be what we can never be.


Can that your boyfriend swear that he hasn't fvcked other chicks since u guys started dating And if he says yes he has not, then he is broke, ugly, not classy



You better your eyes and explore, guys do same. Don't listen to guys opinion on this cos we are hypocrites, we want ladies not to double date while dating us but we fourtiple abi fiftiple date and heavens haven't fell.




Don't break up with your boyfriend, just flow along with both of them and stop brandishing one yeye boy that have not paid your bride price in the name of girlfriend boyfriend that most times don't lead to anywhere good at the end!!



You mustn't tell every guy you meet that you have a boyfriend, you ladies are demarketing yourselves by doing that. You are single until you are legally married!!!

inasmuch as i dont wont to agree with u, but this is the darkest truth. everybody is a mudafuckin hypocrite, inasmuch as we no cast like Bbnaija. we r good.

The way you sound @op you look like a bitch,slut jumping from one man to another.it simple.this are the type of girls that leave Mr A for B when she see better money an pretend say na quality,soon you will leave MR B for C that is how the cycle continue before you no it she go get Belle for 20 different men.you look like confused fellow,you girls are the cause of your problem.you don't no what you want.Them they find already made men.if you as a woman you can not put hands together with your husband or guy to make him successful you are not worthy to be a woman.yiu you rather remain a slut.A slut jump from one man to another for a price without minding who is involved.A slut can Bleep daddy an son together without shame.who quote me hug transformer.

donstan18:
If you are a Guy reading this, please pay attention.



You see this?



You see this?


And this?


And this too....

You see those 4 parts I highlighted? They should be the reason why you should never expect much from GIRLFRIENDS, they are just hoes parading as Girlfriends.

The earlier you understand this the better for you. Thanks!!

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donstan18:
If you are a Guy reading this, please pay attention.



You see this?



You see this?


And this?


And this too....

You see those 4 parts I highlighted? They should be the reason why you should never expect much from GIRLFRIENDS, they are just hoes parading as Girlfriends.

The earlier you understand this the better for you. Thanks!!

You correct well joor. this is why we need to shine our eyes very very well to avoid a liability as a partner with nothing to offer only sex all the time

tomdon:





You're speaking of your own personal experiences.
But the truth remains that one shouldn't manage a partner, there won't be joy. Better to pull out and remain single. But there's a period of observation which can be called dating. If within this period you find someone better, will you rather choose to stay with the former person??

find someone better in what perspective... Do you go into dating loving someone for what she is or who she is? Was the girl in question blind on their first date and subsequent ones; didn't they go through the stages of friendship before actually becoming boyfriend and girlfriend and as such, was the friendship stage not enough for her to know he wasn't her dream man? We should ask her how she'd feel if places were exchanged rather than siding some baby mentality.

Ladies actually knows how to multi-play their league. If u are done with the first guy, let him know. The new one u admiring will soon get u bored

You are a bad girl. Y should u be jumping from one boy friend to another. Probably u are one of those girls that run after fine boys. Lastly , u must b a flirt

Mcslize:


Don't pity ladies that cheat. You need to reprimand them. Women will always take nice guys for fools. As a guy, don't think by handling a woman with care and love and being all that nice to them that will make them stay with you.

When your woman do something wrong, don't be too soft when reprimanding her. Women mistake niceness for weakness. Don't be a weak man when reprimanding a cheating woman.

I agree sha. It all boils down to hone training. If a lady is well brought up and she is not broke. Then chances are that she already knows what she is doing. Girls from very broke background with eyes on big things don't really stay in one place because they didn't experience life at home. But a mature lady that has a stable income will do reasonably okay in terms of commitment in my opinion

Bigfish121:
Is it difficult for a successful man to get married??

Hmm... I once thought like you sha so I understand.

When I was in school. I never even learned how to relate with females. Maybe I was timid I can't really say. But I believed with money comes good women. The reality of it is... Life is just so complex. With money and success, you have more plastic relationships and fake associate. The dangerous thing is that: this can only be tested and learned once in a life time and its usually a fatal blow

laughs in misogyny �
i fear who no fear woman

donstan18:
If you are a Guy reading this, please pay attention.



You see this?



You see this?


And this?


And this too....

You see those 4 parts I highlighted? They should be the reason why you should never expect much from GIRLFRIENDS, they are just hoes parading as Girlfriends.

The earlier you understand this the better for you. Thanks!!

She's just a LovePeddler but she doesn't know

nairaland is not the best place for advise. most of us here are young. we all know how people are suffering in this country. so most advise given to you will be the same. you are not married yet, take your time and pray about it. Go to elders for advise, let your mum and dad toogive you advise. try to be friends too both and see who come out better. relationship is a risk, nobody is perfect. your frist boy might dump you too like wise your second.. some boyfriends are not matured enough to handle their grils most especially if their is not much age diffrence and the one much older than you might be a control kind of a guy that dont take shit. psalm 23 every night 7 times and God will reveal to you. God bless.

jayboy007:
Op, why put us through the stress of reading this your story, just summarize that the new guy is richer than your boyfriend, we will understand. Qualities kee u there

Weray your head dey there

But do you also know that girls that are infatuated by male looks are the easiest to bang?
And they make out the highest percentage of hoes in the entire universe

gaius01:


well I understand your point let's talk this talk out of the basket. like you said no signs of abuse neither unfaithfulness. Do you know a girl could break up with you because of lack care, incompatibility, too boring and lots more. from what I can deduce her boyfriend ain't giving her the vibes the other was giving her can you imagine the qualities she listed. dam look at it again, and Las Las her boo is not cheating neither does he abuse her. when I was dating I never allow my chatting vibes to be low, I read alot of wide range so that when we start chatting men she won't have time texting those boys because I know if I don't occupy her with vibes others will

one problem with we Nigerians is that when our Bea is cheating, look at your self, take a deep scan through, ask your self, What makes that guy different from me not getting angry or shouting at her every body want a lively boo no one boring, faithful dude. learn new ways to be Romantic, learn her phycology so that you can inflict it for your sef. if she love your vibes trust me she woñt look out albeit you been faithful.

You go out learning and brainstorming vibes on a wide range just to please a girl so she won't leave you for a finer/richer guy?
Eew

FluxEmpire:
I'd put things clear as apt as it is... If you say you love the second guy, then you never loved the first... You can't love two people at the same time; it's impossible.

If you wanna go for the second guy, then do so and stop using the first as leverage or collateral to keep whenever the new guy is unavailable.

Furthermore, you'd be doing more good than harm in leaving your first boyfriend because as it is, you clearly don't love him because love goes beyond what you just see physically. It's accepting one's shit and excesses and loving them for who they are.

Give your first boyfriend the respect he deserves by leaving him and stop loving him out of pity. You're only making him a lovelorn. If you actually knew that the new guy had all you needed in a man, courtesy states that you remain single till you get to meet such guy even if it takes 100 years but outta being lonely, you opted to date your first and now the man of your dreams appeared, the first seems to fade in your eyes...

YOU CLEARLY DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT

Give the first boyfriend the honor he deserves and let a woman who is worthy of him be with him. You can't eat your cake and have it. Next time, carry a TO-DO-LIST about your expectations with you henceforth because it seems if another guy should sweep you outta your feet better than the second, you might as well put the second in the corners.

I might have been rude but pardon my unfriendliness; the TRUTH hurts.

You have done we my brother, this is how confuse ladies can be, the want what they don't want and want what they want, u see how confuse that statement was it's how confuse ladies are and mostly dumb too, many are roaming only few wise ones

Mehn, see as men dey para




All the guys telling her off should know that its still her decision. She might end up having her happily ever after with the second dude. I know it hurts, but life no balance. I just hope she has the decency of informing her bf that she has fallen out of love.

YOLO.

Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.

Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.

One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.

This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.

Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.

Hmm pray about this dear. Grass ain’t always green on the other side. If you truly love this other guy and you have conviction go for it, but just know if it doesn’t work out with the other guy you might not be able to come back. Sometimes it’s human nature to want what we can not have, this does not mean it’s the best thing. Your bf has been good to you. Nothing is wrong, why throw it away?

You are very correct about that.thatis why you need to be careful in all that you do and don't get engaged with the so called slay queens because you are successful.

Kokaine:


Hmm... I once thought like you sha so I understand.

When I was in school. I never even learned how to relate with females. Maybe I was timid I can't really say. But I believed with money comes good women. The reality of it is... Life is just so complex. With money and success, you have more plastic relationships and fake associate. The dangerous thing is that: this can only be tested and learned once in a life time and its usually a fatal blow

donstan18:
If you are a Guy reading this, please pay attention.



You see this?



You see this?


And this?


And this too....

You see those 4 parts I highlighted? They should be the reason why you should never expect much from GIRLFRIENDS, they are just hoes parading as Girlfriends.

The earlier you understand this the better for you. Thanks!!

Legend

Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.

Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.

One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.

This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.

Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.

I don't need to say anything again on this your thread. great minds have done that. you already have enough to learn from and make the best decision for you.

I wish you well.

Kokaine:
I agree sha. It all boils down to hone training. If a lady is well brought up and she is not broke. Then chances are that she already knows what she is doing. Girls from very broke background with eyes on big things don't really stay in one place because they didn't experience life at home. But a mature lady that has a stable income will do reasonably okay in terms of commitment in my opinion

Exactly. Home training is one thing that separate some girls from others and it's very important. I have noticed that ladies that stay with just one of the parent for example mostly single mothers hardly possess that serious home training required of ladies cuz most of the times, some mothers can't control their female children once they clock that adult age.

They go clubbing, hang out with friends with bad influences and do all sorts of things. Some even go on taking hard drugs, smoking and drinking and hanging out with random guys.

Majority are not ready to have something doing for themselves. They mostly depend on guys for a living. That's why many double date, dating up to 3 to 5 guys at the same time. And the funny thing is that they take money from all the guys they are dating.

Give these sets of girls money to start something for themselves , they will squander it up to buy irrelevant beauty stuffs, bags, make up and the rest. They believe guys will remain their only source of income for life.

But those who are well brought up with both parents present do possess some atom of discipline and mostly homely. They have this motivation to have something doing for themselves that will give them money.

That's why guys are advised to go for girls that at least have something doing for themselves not slay queens. Those types know nothing order than hopping on different dicks on a daily basis.

For guys who want to go into serious relationships should avoid slay queens and date well brought up girls.

Those ones are more homely than the ones that received no home training from their parents from young age till their adult age.

That's why, a girl's background and the way she is brought up matters a lot.

FluxEmpire:
find someone better in what perspective... Do you go into dating loving someone for what she is or who she is? Was the girl in question blind on their first date and subsequent ones; didn't they go through the stages of friendship before actually becoming boyfriend and girlfriend and as such, was the friendship stage not enough for her to know he wasn't her dream man? We should ask her how she'd feel if places were exchanged rather than siding some baby mentality.

Well, maybe she wanted to just manage but just couldn't do it anymore.
She prolly hadn't chosen finally. Once anyone makes a final choice, they stick to it

but the girls you are talking about are 20 percent out there. situation in the country have broken homes, some are orphans, some girls may be single parents which most guys in their 20s to early 40s avoid. and remember their are so many females than men, so guy when they get older they want to get rid of their long time girlfriend for younger ones. guys have choice and can marry late but grils must marry and have kids b4 35, if not you might not fine anyone. some guy when they are rich and sucessful go for younger one, so this is now making girls of today to wise up and dont trust boys of today. its not like the old day when the country was good and you can live with 100 naira a week. families are in poverty nowadays. go out of lagos how much does a secoundry teacher earn? and they will not pay you for 8 months. nowadays hunger is more powerful than love.

I have said this countless times. Guys who chase girls about re fools. Chase this money with all your strength . Forgetting Nigeria girls most of them go for the highest bidder. Awon ti won cheap....

Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.

Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.

One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.

This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.

Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.

so because they are cheap you no go marry? abi you no go Bleep somebody? money naa luck nowadays. no jobs or few jobs, no better salaries, the country is getting bad and it will get worse, and this have changed guys not to be better lovers. guys travelling out of the fucking country leaving their ex and getting married to citizens of that country, watin you wan the girl do? Bleep herself or Bleep her dad? I live in the west,many guys have left their grilfriend in the cold in niger. this has made girls to think twice. i have a friend that left his grilfriend with 2 kids and he dosnt pick her calls anymore. the guy has his paper now and only gives the ex 50 pounds a month. sio if that gril goes for upper bidder b4 having those 2 boy you think her mother will call her a fool? i beg guy things have changed in the country. even grils have lesbian lovers to survive. for niger now only prayer and God fit help for this matter oo

All I can say and ask you is
Do you think married couples don't see other people with better qualities?

What bond do you think holds even married couples without kids or riches?

tomdon:




Well, maybe she wanted to just manage but just couldn't do it anymore.
She prolly hadn't chosen finally. Once anyone makes a final choice, they stick to it

Goodluck to her then; I just hope the new man treats her right and we'd not hear she wanna do a comeback...

kelvinovie25:


You have done we my brother, this is how confuse ladies can be, the want what they don't want and want what they want, u see how confuse that statement was it's how confuse ladies are and mostly dumb too, many are roaming only few wise ones

So what will u do if u see another stranger who is better than the new guy, will u cling on him as well??

I can't even say u are confused.

I shake head for u.

Hoe in disguise.

luxury of so many easy options don spoil you and your kind. loyalty takes understanding and mental strength most women are incapable of this. go and have it your way like a confused and disloyal weakling.