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gigante:
Brother please calm down, like you I'm a law undergraduate in 300 level at the same age with you. Yes admission frustrated me, i sat for jamb 4/5 times. Please calm down.

As for broke, aren't we undergraduates all broke? I know you feel like a failure but please calm down. Are you on WhatsApp? Can we talk privately?

I'll love to talk too

YoungandDepress:

I know the sins of my past are catching up with me. Karma is hitting me from all directions.
I see my mates riding nice cars, living in their rented apartment, I cry.

Most of my classmates I finished secondary school with are now responsible graduates and here I am, stuck in 200level.

I see them in the street and I hide myself in shame and disgrace because I can't answer the catching up questions.

I still ask 500 naira from my parents just to go out.

I stayed through out the month of June without earning even one thousand naira by myself.

Sometimes I curse the day I was born and why I came through a mid level family and not a rich family.

God has abandoned me. I can't remember the last time I prayed. Not that I even care now.
I am turning into an atheist because of my frustrations.

Sometimes I think why not just die and end it all, I mean we are all going to die one day so what is the point, but then I think of my family and the shame it will bring upon them and at the same time I think what if I die and heaven and hell is real. It's funny how the thought of hell keeps me going and trying to do good with my life when I don't really believe in God anymore.


Safe to say, my suicidal tendencies are very low to non existent but I hope I have the courage to keep pushing. I hope one day, I just don't loose it completely.

Even my phone I am using to type this has a damaged screen which I'm half managing but it is what it is, I have no funds to fix it and no relative to help.

I mean I'm just here watching the days go by, taking evening walks around the neighborhood and thinking how my life would have been if I didn't mess it up or did all these happen to me so I can be a testimony to others if life decides to smile on me?
I have no idea.

I'M JUST A YOUNG, BROKE, MISERABLE AND DEPRESSED MAN.

I PRAY MY SOUL FINDS THE PEACE THAT IT DESPERATELY SEEKS.


I just wanted to table my emotions here and vent out all the frustrations in my head because I have no one to talk deep with me. I hope to find little relief and seek solace in the peace of others.

it's time like this where there are no clear path that, I understand why people pray

My brother your own still better, if you hear my story you will cry on my behalf, I lost my parent before I even graduated from secondary school. But my fiance advices and encouragements and my motivation song still hold me till now....
I tried many opportunities sometimes I win sometimes I lost. But I still keep pushing.... Brother please calm down and never loss hope.

YoungandDepress:
My story is quite a sad and long one.
I wish I could write it all out. My life has been a terrible mess.
Where did it go wrong for me, I have no idea.

I am writing with so much emotion, my heart is full and heavy.
Life is bitter.

I am a 23 years old guy.
My life all started to go in the negative direction when I gained admission at age 16.
A 16 years old boy in the university, so much freedom and exposure.
I messed up my life, I became addicted to bet9ja virtual gambling I lost focus, Gambling killed me, I started failing exams, at the end I dropped out without my parents Knowing, but the truth came out when I was supposed to graduate, I could not hide it anymore. I told them the truth, my parents forgave me like the prodigal son.

They still believed in me especially my mom, she keeps reminding me of how intelligent I used to be.

Well I'm not here to talk about my past life but here to talk about how it is still affecting me today.

Ever since I started university all over again, I have been miserable and frustrated. Nothing has been working in my favour. I'm currently now in 200level hoping to graduate before 25.
All my mates I started with have done their NYSC.

I'm still stuck in the same stage.
I have no idea what I am doing with my life. I'm young, broke and depressed. I get irritated over little things. I feel disgust at how I uselessed my youthful life. How gambling destroyed me.

By the grace of whichever god exists, I am no longer addicted to gambling. I have quit the addiction for almost a year now but nothing changed, I still feel miserable. I hate having people around me even my family members including my mom.

I have no true friends. Nobody checks on me, nobody calls me.

At this age, I can't boast of having 500 naira in my account.
I'm broke and miserable.

I have started hating God and question my belief in God. I hate Sunday's. I hate hearing about God, I don't blame God for my troubles but I'm angry at the fact that despite my parents being dedicated Christians, things are not working well in my family.
My elder ones are graduates, but no solid job yet.

Only my eldest brother who is doing quite well now and I thank God for his life but we don't talk. I can't remember the last time I called him on phone. They don't hate me, I hate myself.
I have disappointed them a lot.


I just lost the last #1000 I had in my life today and I cried. The money fell out my pocket when I went to get something.

At 23 years, I have no idea what I will do with my future.
I still live with my parents and I have never rented an apartment of my own even in school.

What is wrong with me, why am I miserable?

I have no good clothes. My clothes are all worn out.
I have nothing doing, i live off my parents.

Since schools were shut down, I have been at home doing nothing.
Completely broke, damaged and miserable.

Can my life be any better. What do I do. I am depressed.
I keep asking myself these questions but there
Seem to be no answer.

Can we talk?

Hello dude,
I bet, its actually God's mercy that inspired you to share your present predicament here bcuz He knows you've lost confidence in Him, church and close acquaintances, but here you'll get much desired sympathy, empathy and divers solutions towards lifting you out out of the valley of despondency and depressive stupor which no God or human was responsible for but you alone. So discard your resentment against any external entity.
However, from the tones of responses so far, you can see that many people have similar or worse experience than you, yet we all are showing solidarity to you bcus we believe that what lies in your future is far greater than what you've lost. Garner the pool of advises you get here and sieve them and choose the ones congruent with your convictions and inclinations, then implement on them. Time does not he's any wound, it only reveal your actions or inactions towards healing your wound. Get into action towards self recovery.
Finally bro, I tell you the truth, you're still far too young to even finish this course, go to service and still get a job here in Nigeria if that's what you need.
Finally, finally, God's factor is very crucial, He can pick you from the bottom of the ladder of success and thrust you in the front without anybody questioning nor charging Him to court. Ask Joseph et al. Make peace with Him now( He never contributed to your problem but you've accused Him harshly on your self inflicted quagmire.
I must say thanks to everyone who has proffer one solution or another to this 'ONCE' Young and Depress dude. After today, your story should change in Jesus name.

paulolee:
guy pls calm down, we all think that our case is worst until we hear others, the positive i got from your story are
1..you are still an undergraduate, my guy so many nigees for street no even get bar to buy jamb form and i know of a close friend that hustle money to get the form and was given admission but still not in school because him sponsor wey bin promise am letter change plans and fail the gee
2..you have 500 in ur aza and you are complaining, what about some that dnt even know what thier aza looks like because they gat no hope about anything concerning alerr and who to wire them..
lastly i went to play ball with my guys last sunday and a guy refused playing because he was very Hungry and sounds soo depressed saying he wants to end his life, we gathered money for him to eat, up to 2k and asked him to keep the change..
but he got the shocker when my team captain told him the story of his elder bro is in prison for 15yrs now because he was with 2 of his neighbors watching football in a bar when trouble happened, there was a little argument as they were watching the match and one of his friend ended up stabbing and killing the only son of a military man...
presently two of the guys are awaiting trial till now because one of them died due to health complications...
the school refused pleading for them saying that they are cultist and the painful part about the story was that the military man letter died since last 6 years leaving the case on pending and now they have nobody to plead because the wife died while birthing the late boy...na GOD hand the matter still de like this, thats if they are still in good condition..

I will like to get details of this matter perhaps assign it to a human rights activist. So this guy could get his freedom

Have faith bro.non of us came from rich background.we all had to struggle.put ur head down.graduate from sch and find ur bearing.our parents may not have much but they had to sacrifice much in order for us to go thru sch.when u look at the sacrifice u will have no option than to succeed.and ensure u graduate even if u wont need the cert.thats wat gives them joy..then find a job or employ urself.nerver remain idle .I wasted 10 years of my life submitting c.vs .until I took a decision to stop.learnt woodwork.tru my cert away. Before I got a job I didn't apply for...so u are just 23...I was depressed ..at 29 couldn't boost of 20k in my acc.but today it's a different story.at 23 I never start life self

My friend, life may seem not to be fair with us, especially when we make mistakes. But we just got to forgive ourselves for the wrongs we have done and try as much as we can to correct our wrongs, since we are opportune to be alive.
In correcting your wrong, you have to think more of the present, less of the future and more less of our past. And remember your time line is different from that of your friends or mates. Base on your age, you are still a young man full of life and strength, so you ought to use it wisely.

DatProudIgboGuy:
So let me give you a brief Intro and Motivation Bro...

I wrote Jamb 7times before I got admission, I passed all exams yet nothing to show and by this time most of my mates were graduates and some were even living their dream...

I felt left out of life, but I worked as a factory worker for that 7years, survived till I got admission and when I did, no money for school fees(mind you I was not a waster,just not ready to give more details)...

I wore 5shirts, 2 jean trousers and a Pam slippers for a year just to survive, slept in classrooms, mind you by then I was in my mid 20s, had to survive by doing bouncing jobs, working in construction sites and anything I could lay hands on to put food on my table...
There was a time I had just N50 for 2weeks, no outside Jon's to feed and I survived..

After struggling to come out with a 2:1, no job for another 2years, started a Bizness and was duped, had to start working for 40k(2years) to pay off the debt accumulated via d dupe...

Am in my 30s, Life has not been a bed of roses but we can all do better by not giving up...

You can do better than me, You have age on your side, try n get mentally stable friends that have sense too...

✊✊✊

I raise cap for u

YoungandDepress:
My story is quite a sad and long one.
I wish I could write it all out. My life has been a terrible mess.
Where did it go wrong for me, I have no idea.

I am writing with so much emotion, my heart is full and heavy.
Life is bitter.

I am a 23 years old guy.
My life all started to go in the negative direction when I gained admission at age 16.
A 16 years old boy in the university, so much freedom and exposure.
I messed up my life, I became addicted to bet9ja virtual gambling I lost focus, Gambling killed me, I started failing exams, at the end I dropped out without my parents Knowing, but the truth came out when I was supposed to graduate, I could not hide it anymore. I told them the truth, my parents forgave me like the prodigal son.

They still believed in me especially my mom, she keeps reminding me of how intelligent I used to be.

Well I'm not here to talk about my past life but here to talk about how it is still affecting me today.

Ever since I started university all over again, I have been miserable and frustrated. Nothing has been working in my favour. I'm currently now in 200level hoping to graduate before 25.
All my mates I started with have done their NYSC.

I'm still stuck in the same stage.
I have no idea what I am doing with my life. I'm young, broke and depressed. I get irritated over little things. I feel disgust at how I uselessed my youthful life. How gambling destroyed me.

By the grace of whichever god exists, I am no longer addicted to gambling. I have quit the addiction for almost a year now but nothing changed, I still feel miserable. I hate having people around me even my family members including my mom.

I have no true friends. Nobody checks on me, nobody calls me.

At this age, I can't boast of having 500 naira in my account.
I'm broke and miserable.

I have started hating God and question my belief in God. I hate Sunday's. I hate hearing about God, I don't blame God for my troubles but I'm angry at the fact that despite my parents being dedicated Christians, things are not working well in my family.
My elder ones are graduates, but no solid job yet.

Only my eldest brother who is doing quite well now and I thank God for his life but we don't talk. I can't remember the last time I called him on phone. They don't hate me, I hate myself.
I have disappointed them a lot.


I just lost the last #1000 I had in my life today and I cried. The money fell out my pocket when I went to get something.

At 23 years, I have no idea what I will do with my future.
I still live with my parents and I have never rented an apartment of my own even in school.

What is wrong with me, why am I miserable?

I have no good clothes. My clothes are all worn out.
I have nothing doing, i live off my parents.

Since schools were shut down, I have been at home doing nothing.
Completely broke, damaged and miserable.

Can my life be any better. What do I do. I am depressed.
I keep asking myself these questions but there
Seem to be no answer.

pls sir read Lamentation 3 vs 25-36, may the Lord be with you and change your reasoning just as he had done with me

YoungandDepress:

I know the sins of my past are catching up with me. Karma is hitting me from all directions.
I see my mates riding nice cars, living in their rented apartment, I cry.

Most of my classmates I finished secondary school with are now responsible graduates and here I am, stuck in 200level.

I see them in the street and I hide myself in shame and disgrace because I can't answer the catching up questions.

I still ask 500 naira from my parents just to go out.

I stayed through out the month of June without earning even one thousand naira by myself.

Sometimes I curse the day I was born and why I came through a mid level family and not a rich family.

God has abandoned me. I can't remember the last time I prayed. Not that I even care now.
I am turning into an atheist because of my frustrations.

Sometimes I think why not just die and end it all, I mean we are all going to die one day so what is the point, but then I think of my family and the shame it will bring upon them and at the same time I think what if I die and heaven and hell is real. It's funny how the thought of hell keeps me going and trying to do good with my life when I don't really believe in God anymore.


Safe to say, my suicidal tendencies are very low to non existent but I hope I have the courage to keep pushing. I hope one day, I just don't loose it completely.

Even my phone I am using to type this has a damaged screen which I'm half managing but it is what it is, I have no funds to fix it and no relative to help.

I mean I'm just here watching the days go by, taking evening walks around the neighborhood and thinking how my life would have been if I didn't mess it up or did all these happen to me so I can be a testimony to others if life decides to smile on me?
I have no idea.

I'M JUST A YOUNG, BROKE, MISERABLE AND DEPRESSED MAN.

I PRAY MY SOUL FINDS THE PEACE THAT IT DESPERATELY SEEKS.


I just wanted to table my emotions here and vent out all the frustrations in my head because I have no one to talk deep with me. I hope to find little relief and seek solace in the peace of others.

please listen to me. You can make money while at home,even if it is small. I am jobless for now,so I write for opera news. I would have pasted the link but I will be banned. Go too Google and type how to earn money from opera news by being a writer. I earned 19,000 naira last month. You earn based on the people that read your article or news. Read the rules and follow it. Create an opay account with your phone number.They will send your money every 15th day of the month. They also award money to best writers of the week and month. You can create more than one account. If you need more enquiry mention me. You don't need a laptop.Manage your phone for now.Opera gives free 500mb for browsing everyday

Also please check this link,it will be useful.Read page 1 and 2

https://www.nairaland.com/4746122/online-deliverance-dreams-interpretation-god/320#92533870

Premiumwriter:
You want to fly when you're supposed to learn how to crawl.

You want to fly when you have not even started crawling.

I'm older than you and still about to start 100l.

Go and learn a skill. Your parents are supportive... I have no parents but I don't sit inside pitying myself.

I learned to write and buy all my clothes from the trade, give some money to my sisters for their cloths. Thank God my uncle helped with the skul fees.

I'm currently using this holiday period to learn Python for programming. Just started yesterday self.

The problem is you're lonely and bored and at the same time broke.

Go and learn a trade and stop complaining about your life. You expect manna to fall from heaven abi you hear say money de waka cum meet people for house?

Better start learning a trade and stop this pity story. I know guys on Facebook who dress better in the app than me, get more likes but beg me in real life for money.

What you see sometimes is not reality. Some are just mirage. All of us are struggling to survive. The only way out is to know your lane and remain there instead of lookin at other people in their own lane.

dont mind him

dayveed1:
very important. You have sense sah.

I

I agree with you.... It's very important....

Drop your number and your account number

creepsyme:
Can we talk?

Yes ma. Thanks for reaching out.
Do I send you a mail?

GboyegaD:
To all those who have tried reaching out to him to encourage him, you guys are the MVP.

OP, just calm yourself and remind yourself that your race is against yourself and not others.

at his age I just wonder why he's depressed, plus he's not first born. If I should give him my own episode eh, he'll beg God for forgiveness. I'm 30.

My brother the Bible say if any man be in Christ he is a new Creature, instead of blaming yourself and thinking much about the future, Please go through the following portion of the Bible Matt.6:33, John14:6, Math.11:28, Psalm 119:9 2Con.5:17 1John1:9.
Please I would also advice you surrender your life genuinely to Jesus Christ and you would see an instant change.
God bless you.

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O.p u are very fortunate.as long as u have not eaten fufu and red oil for 4 days .sir u are fortunate pls dont remind me of my past.i have outgrown it now.the thought alone can make me depressed

trippleKAY:
at his age I just wonder why he's depressed, plus he's not first born. If I should give him my own episode eh, he'll beg God for forgiveness. I'm 30.

Different strokes for different people and in an economy where most was raised with the mindset of competing with others negatively, his case is understood. He will come out of it.

pinkygurl:
Send me a dm

I sent you a mail ma.
Thanks for reaching out

Listen bro, I'm 32 and in 200 level, a friend of mine is now a big boy with convoys when ever he is coming back home, It's not my own fault things turned out this way. you have alot of time to make things right, I will probably meet you in nysc camp in future and we will laugh this trying times off, I don't want to even start my own sermon about my life here, but then, I have met people who have helped me and showed me love along the way. you will be fine trust ms

Hathor5:
You were very young when you got hooked on gambling. Addicts are sick and some of them never recover. So instead of whining and comparing yourself to others and where you could be right now, be very grateful, like extremely grateful, that you have recovered. How old young are you again? 23? Don't make me slap you. You have your entire life ahead of you and you have many possibilities to turn it around. Not everybody has a supportive mother who believes in them even after they have messed up. Another reason to count your lucky stars.

YOU ARE VERY YOUNG!

Don't look back. Look forward. And make the best of it.

In some years you will look back and smile.

Amen. Thanks. I appreciate your kind words.

I quit gambling addiction completely since last year, at least I'm grateful for that alone.

And my mom, the thoughts of doing something that will make her happy at least is what keeps me over thinking. I feel if she sees how responsible and financial stable I have become, that will put things in better perspective.

Thanks for reaching out.

My guy calm down ooo. You still dey school at least. Check around you will stilll see people way older than you in your level, what of those of us that graduated at 27 only to discover our admission was scam. Nearly committed suicide but that shit no easy oo. But after everything God still made a way and the school later considered us after we had gone through help. Let me stop here but all I have to tell you is quit masturbation, and viewing status of you mates that making you feel like u re a failure.

GboyegaD:
Different strokes for different people and in an economy where most was raised with the mindset of competing with others negatively, his case is understood. He will come out of it.

surly!

Take life easy bro! Life is not a bed of roses...In a any situation you find yourself, always talk to God

BianoJay:
Bros, calm down. You're just 23, and you have a whole great life ahead of you.

Let me summarize my story, maybe it will encourage you: I wasted my youthful days pursuing a football career and at the end of the day it went south, but I braced myself at 26, wrote jamb, passed very well and got admission in a very good university. I graduated at 30+ plus, and with a 2.1. At this time all my mates were already getting married, buying cars and doing good, but I didn't let it weigh me down; at least I went back to school and did good.

5 solid years after graduation, I'm yet to get a job; you can imagine how old I am now, but I still believe, I still keep hope and faith alive, and I still keep my hands clean and believe that one day my story will change.


So, brace up, bro! At 23, you still have your life all in front of you. Just quit comparing, regretting and living in the past. You can't change the past, but you can make the future whatever you want it to be, so focus your energies on what you can change not what you can't.

Never stop believing!

Thanks sir, God bless you. I pray heaven smile on you too

My one and only advice to you OP as a young hustling Nigga also is to tell you to lrun away from Scam see forget about Yahoo, 419 Bec and co.

u will make the money buh will never have the rest of mind.


brace up, keep your pali (certificate) go out and hustle. see my story worst pass your own o, better still drop out from see forget about anything about school now,hustle, do business.

do small salary work to gather money to start some business, or blog.

have try suicide before buh i know that is not d result to my predicament so forget about suicide and move on learn something or go for salary work be it baba ijebu agent,bet agent or sales boys.

aminusodiq:
life can be funny bro.. I had friends who had admission late, some graduated @30, while some @25.... At 23, u still have hope of doing something for yourself... Urwriteup showed how brilliant u we're, and how intelligent u should be. There is nothing bad in living off ur parents as a student.

Try ur possible best to learn a skill, even if u hav to involve ur eldest brother, maybe he can be of help, they can only forgive a sin of such magnitude if dey realize u ar doing somtin for urslf!

I won't advice u work for small business DAT pays a merger salary, better u sacrifice dis time for the future, either online or offline, there are alot of skills u can learn!!

I'm a realistic pencil artist, and I do various forms of graphics designs too, picture frames, 3d canvas, wall panels etc... I can help with the latter skills if u have a laptop, and I can teach u arts (FREE) if u have the passion and the talent inert My link is there on my signature!

Boss abeg I fit follow learn....Jahbless

The day I cried was the day a young undergraduate narrated his story on Emmanuel TV. An intelligent young undergraduate who gained admission into a higher institution. Because he refused to join cult he was framed with murder. He spent years in jail awaiting trial. He was later given death sentence for a crime he did not commit. (I think the matter involved the death of the school vice Chancellor's son who swore to deal ruthlessly with whoever is the culprit). He was in prison in Abakiliki.

It was At this point that an evangelist in a prison reach out spoke to him about Christ and encouraged him to pray always and to watch Emmanuel tv. God sent a barrister from Lagos nowhere who has never known him before to appealed his judgement. To cut the story shotAfter about 12 years of jail and legal battle he regained freedom without paying a dime. Calm down for Jehova.
This corona period, things has been rough even for the rich.

VanTee20:
Gambling is fairly easy to stop. Just go to the bet shop one day without cash and start to predict games. Calculate the losses you would have incurred if you had gone with money. Do this multiple times and that should be enough to open your eyes. Do you really think you can get rich playing virtual games? Money flows in the direction of value that you provide. What value do you provide by playing virtual games? You are merely placing your happiness, your hopes in the hands of some 2D characters moving around on the screen. Characters that have been programmed to make the company gain more and to make the bettors lose their money.
God is not your problem, bro. You are your own problem. Learn to take responsibility for your actions. It is true that you can't change the past, so you must not let it weigh you down. Reminisce on your past solely for the lessons you have to learn, not to regret. At 23, you are still in the morning stage of your life.
As for being an undergraduate at your age, I don't see anything wrong in it. Are you the oldest in your department? I'm sure you are not. Even if you are, what does it matter? What if you see your age as an advantage? Unlike most of your teenage colleagues, you have experienced more in life. It would be easy for you to understand that school life is beyond academics. Getting a side hustle, cultivating valuable relationships and networks, discovering your talents and using them appropriately, learning in demand skills, all these things are just as important as studying your courses while you are in school.
Your mates that you are comparing yourself to are completely different people with different life journeys. Live your life, bro. It's not by who left school first or who served first or who started living large first. The future is pregnant, you don't know where God or life is taking you.
If you have a flair for writing articles or stories, I can connect you to people who will give you writing jobs steadily. If you are dedicated, you will make enough to get little things for yourself. If you could this post with your phone, then you can do writing jobs on your phone. Send me a DM if you are interested.

vantee ,i hope i am not intruding, but i am interested in the article writing, but i don't know how PMs are sent here on Nairaland. my number is 08167559348