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Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Nobody: 10:04am On Aug 07, 2020
sammycashly:
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I registered on the site also but I couldn't get free courses to start with....all the courses am coming across are telling me to pay...
Pls how can I get those free courses... Pls am waiting for your response


Use the search filter. You will see free, click on it.
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by yvelchstores(f): 10:05am On Aug 07, 2020
Your problem is that you like money too much and lack the discipline nor patience to make it as you should.

It's this same issue that caused your first mistake, trying to jump several steps ahead of yourself.

Calm down and take it one after the other. Stop comparisons, it's all in your head.

Find peace with your self and your God
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by pato47: 10:10am On Aug 07, 2020
Bro DM sharply
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by pato47: 10:13am On Aug 07, 2020
Bro DM sharply Or how can one reach you
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Darkskeleton: 10:30am On Aug 07, 2020
JBoss25:
I'm sure you're the type to advice person to start forex, there's no difference between forex and betting, you better open your eyes, all investments are risky. If you want to make it for this life you have to take risks.
There's a thin line between Forex and Betting. They aren't the same.
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Regex: 10:31am On Aug 07, 2020
Futurejoy:

You didn’t state that now. I was just scared for the poster and I thought you were depressed seeking for a depressed person ....it’s always fatal.

Oh. Ok. Nah... I'm not depressed.

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Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Sammez94: 10:34am On Aug 07, 2020
To be frank and honest with you, at 23, you are just getting started. Get a skill, learn a trade, follow the money trails and you will be fine.

I'm also in the same age range... And I still feel as young as f**k. You should too
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by ifeolamide00(m): 10:35am On Aug 07, 2020
hey bro, some of us have it worse, you still had the opportunity to go to school again? some didn't, your parents still regard you as theirs? some aren't, at 23 this is still your youth nigga, I know people still in school at 27
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by ifeolamide00(m): 10:46am On Aug 07, 2020
hustla:



Lol I wish I was 23 all over again

Put that anger and effort into graduating with good grades.

Do not look at your friends or run away when you see them, comparison is a thief of joy and those you see forming as if they have got it sorted out, na lie ooooooo


Life na like Instagram, no one go show you where e dey bite am or as e dey suffer

I suggest you learn new skills on Udemy, develop yourself and you'll start earning.. Pick up excel and software Dev skills if you can

You have plenty of living ahead of you..slow down and allow yourself
can someone get this skills for free?

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Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by ifeolamide00(m): 10:54am On Aug 07, 2020
JBoss25:
Uncle, stop making betting look so bad, people have really made money out of betting if you don't know, if you're talking about virtual then i agree with you because you will not gain anything and you'll constantly be losing your money. This week alone i've made a profit of 150k+ from 2 sure odds from a good punter, if you strategize well you can make a living out of it, I'm 22 now and i believe by the end of this year i'll be a millionaire from betting, in this life you have to be smart, there are many punters that can predict 2odd without failing and it's not hard to find them. People potray betting as bad but those who do that always play big odds that is why they keep losing, if you subscribe to a good punter you'll win weekly and that's a fact
pls how can I get this punter too? 2odd na something o abeg
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Elssa(f): 11:03am On Aug 07, 2020
@op this is just a phase dear. You have to constantly remind yourself that life isn't a bed of roses and we can't have it all. There's the hard times and the good times which don't often last. But then in the world we live in you have to learn to self-motivate because trust me every ones going through one thing or the other.

Try and get out of the house everyday, idleness breeds negative thoughts. Avoid isolation, when you in the house, try and communicate with your family more, learn a new skill, there's alot you can learn on the internet than you know. Draw closer to God, he alone can fill the void that you feel and stay happy (you owe yourself that).
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by hustla(m): 11:06am On Aug 07, 2020
ifeolamide00:

can someone get this skills for free?

Yes, there are free courses on Udemy ..and also you can watch out for discount periods where you can get courses for as cheap as 3K

smiley
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by kinah(f): 11:13am On Aug 07, 2020
YoungandDepress:
My story is quite a sad and long one.
I wish I could write it all out. My life has been a terrible mess.
Where did it go wrong for me, I have no idea.

I am writing with so much emotion, my heart is full and heavy.
Life is bitter.

I am a 23 years old guy.
My life all started to go in the negative direction when I gained admission at age 16.
A 16 years old boy in the university, so much freedom and exposure.
I messed up my life, I became addicted to bet9ja virtual gambling I lost focus, Gambling killed me, I started failing exams, at the end I dropped out without my parents Knowing, but the truth came out when I was supposed to graduate, I could not hide it anymore. I told them the truth, my parents forgave me like the prodigal son.

They still believed in me especially my mom, she keeps reminding me of how intelligent I used to be.

Well I'm not here to talk about my past life but here to talk about how it is still affecting me today.

Ever since I started university all over again, I have been miserable and frustrated. Nothing has been working in my favour. I'm currently now in 200level hoping to graduate before 25.
All my mates I started with have done their NYSC.

I'm still stuck in the same stage.
I have no idea what I am doing with my life. I'm young, broke and depressed. I get irritated over little things. I feel disgust at how I uselessed my youthful life. How gambling destroyed me.

By the grace of whichever god exists, I am no longer addicted to gambling. I have quit the addiction for almost a year now but nothing changed, I still feel miserable. I hate having people around me even my family members including my mom.

I have no true friends. Nobody checks on me, nobody calls me.

At this age, I can't boast of having 500 naira in my account.
I'm broke and miserable.

I have started hating God and question my belief in God. I hate Sunday's. I hate hearing about God, I don't blame God for my troubles but I'm angry at the fact that despite my parents being dedicated Christians, things are not working well in my family.
My elder ones are graduates, but no solid job yet.

Only my eldest brother who is doing quite well now and I thank God for his life but we don't talk. I can't remember the last time I called him on phone. They don't hate me, I hate myself.
I have disappointed them a lot.


I just lost the last #1000 I had in my life today and I cried. The money fell out my pocket when I went to get something.

At 23 years, I have no idea what I will do with my future.
I still live with my parents and I have never rented an apartment of my own even in school.

What is wrong with me, why am I miserable?

I have no good clothes. My clothes are all worn out.
I have nothing doing, i live off my parents.

Since schools were shut down, I have been at home doing nothing.
Completely broke, damaged and miserable.

Can my life be any better. What do I do. I am depressed.
I keep asking myself these questions but there
Seem to be no answer.




Brother
All will be well with you
Thank God you are out to seek help
Talk to Jesus about it.
Make him your senior partner.

Abandon the old you and embrace the new you.

He is the all in all.
Speak to Him heart to heart
Let Him in
Do good works.

Your tomorrow will be alright
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by ShopNextDoor: 12:30pm On Aug 07, 2020
YoungandDepress:
My story is quite a sad and long one.
I wish I could write it all out. My life has been a terrible mess.
Where did it go wrong for me, I have no idea.

I am writing with so much emotion, my heart is full and heavy.
Life is bitter.

I am a 23 years old guy.
My life all started to go in the negative direction when I gained admission at age 16.
A 16 years old boy in the university, so much freedom and exposure.
I messed up my life, I became addicted to bet9ja virtual gambling I lost focus, Gambling killed me, I started failing exams, at the end I dropped out without my parents Knowing, but the truth came out when I was supposed to graduate, I could not hide it anymore. I told them the truth, my parents forgave me like the prodigal son.

They still believed in me especially my mom, she keeps reminding me of how intelligent I used to be.

Well I'm not here to talk about my past life but here to talk about how it is still affecting me today.

Ever since I started university all over again, I have been miserable and frustrated. Nothing has been working in my favour. I'm currently now in 200level hoping to graduate before 25.
All my mates I started with have done their NYSC.

I'm still stuck in the same stage.
I have no idea what I am doing with my life. I'm young, broke and depressed. I get irritated over little things. I feel disgust at how I uselessed my youthful life. How gambling destroyed me.

By the grace of whichever god exists, I am no longer addicted to gambling. I have quit the addiction for almost a year now but nothing changed, I still feel miserable. I hate having people around me even my family members including my mom.

I have no true friends. Nobody checks on me, nobody calls me.

At this age, I can't boast of having 500 naira in my account.
I'm broke and miserable.

I have started hating God and question my belief in God. I hate Sunday's. I hate hearing about God, I don't blame God for my troubles but I'm angry at the fact that despite my parents being dedicated Christians, things are not working well in my family.
My elder ones are graduates, but no solid job yet.

Only my eldest brother who is doing quite well now and I thank God for his life but we don't talk. I can't remember the last time I called him on phone. They don't hate me, I hate myself.
I have disappointed them a lot.


I just lost the last #1000 I had in my life today and I cried. The money fell out my pocket when I went to get something.

At 23 years, I have no idea what I will do with my future.
I still live with my parents and I have never rented an apartment of my own even in school.

What is wrong with me, why am I miserable?

I have no good clothes. My clothes are all worn out.
I have nothing doing, i live off my parents.

Since schools were shut down, I have been at home doing nothing.
Completely broke, damaged and miserable.

Can my life be any better. What do I do. I am depressed.
I keep asking myself these questions but there
Seem to be no answer.




First thing to do is to forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. Realising and learning from our mistakes is a wonderful first step.

Two: whatever doesn't kill a man makes him stronger.

Thirdly, the great thing about being rock bottom is there is only one way left to go: UP

Don't live in the past. Don't fool yourself: you are not perfect. You'll probably make bigger mistakes in future. The worst thing you can ever do is live in the past, regretting. Pick yourself up. Every great story starts like yours.

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Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by officerfudo: 12:32pm On Aug 07, 2020
Guy, calm down, am 37 ,a federal worker with a wife and two beautiful children, averagely ok but am also fucking depressed and unhappy, the problem is not entirely yours, its the world we find ourselves. only 25 percent of the world population is genuinely happy. pick yourself up and live the life as well as you can.
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by sinqlepee(m): 12:33pm On Aug 07, 2020
guy we are walking in the same shoes bt mine is worst

i gained admission 2017 bt could't keep it cuz of lack of finance my secondry school class mates are all graduate now

ur own better person day way go even show u love of 5h
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by astute28: 12:37pm On Aug 07, 2020
YoungandDepress:
cry
I know the sins of my past are catching up with me. Karma is hitting me from all directions.
I see my mates riding nice cars, living in their rented apartment, I cry.

Most of my classmates I finished secondary school with are now responsible graduates and here I am, stuck in 200level.

I see them in the street and I hide myself in shame and disgrace because I can't answer the catching up questions.

I still ask 500 naira from my parents just to go out.

I stayed through out the month of June without earning even one thousand naira by myself.

Sometimes I curse the day I was born and why I came through a mid level family and not a rich family.

God has abandoned me. I can't remember the last time I prayed. Not that I even care now.
I am turning into an atheist because of my frustrations.

Sometimes I think why not just die and end it all, I mean we are all going to die one day so what is the point, but then I think of my family and the shame it will bring upon them and at the same time I think what if I die and heaven and hell is real. It's funny how the thought of hell keeps me going and trying to do good with my life when I don't really believe in God anymore.


Safe to say, my suicidal tendencies are very low to non existent but I hope I have the courage to keep pushing. I hope one day, I just don't loose it completely.

Even my phone I am using to type this has a damaged screen which I'm half managing but it is what it is, I have no funds to fix it and no relative to help.

I mean I'm just here watching the days go by, taking evening walks around the neighborhood and thinking how my life would have been if I didn't mess it up or did all these happen to me so I can be a testimony to others if life decides to smile on me?
I have no idea.

I'M JUST A YOUNG, BROKE, MISERABLE AND DEPRESSED MAN.

I PRAY MY SOUL FINDS THE PEACE THAT IT DESPERATELY SEEKS.
cry

I just wanted to table my emotions here and vent out all the frustrations in my head because I have no one to talk deep with me. I hope to find little relief and seek solace in the peace of others.


what you are going through is 5seconds pain in what I'm going through since 11years ago and I haven't find any solution to it I'm 30yrs old now thank God guy u still have a perfect health and you are still young, guy u are lucky u still gat parent at your back, guy u are lucky you are still in university, guy u are lucky your parent still gave u money..... U better thank God and stay focus...... My life is miserable at 30 I don't get any hope from no where my hope is on God only.... I'm depressed too but if I commit suicide I'm a coward.... That's why..... Guy brace up, cheer up face ur fear at 23 u are still at young age.. Sickness waste my life, I didn't know I have clock 30, my dream, vision, ambition, all wasted , guy brace up
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Nobody: 12:41pm On Aug 07, 2020
And last note op. Don't be optimistic, optimistic people will always end up failing, they make wrong direction decisions believing that it will always work and at the end nothing, be a positive pessimist, one that thinks it won't work but let me try, in life all choices are laced with regrets choose the best.

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Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Nobody: 12:44pm On Aug 07, 2020
astute28:
what you are going through is 5seconds pain in what I'm going through since 11years ago and I haven't find any solution to it I'm 30yrs old now thank God guy u still have a perfect health and you are still young, guy u are lucky u still gat parent at your back, guy u are lucky you are still in university, guy u are lucky your parent still gave u money..... U better thank God and stay focus...... My life is miserable at 30 I don't get any hope from no where my hope is on God only.... I'm depressed too but if I commit suicide I'm a coward.... That's why..... Guy brace up, cheer up face ur fear at 23 u are still at young age.. Sickness waste my life, I didn't know I have clock 30, my dream, vision, ambition, all wasted , guy brace up
It's never late until you die. Just live life the way it comes create your own aims and purpose. There is no such thing as destiny, it will only make you become what the herd wants you to be, be who you want to be, if it goes against the law it's your business if it doesn't still your business.
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by themaestro08(m): 1:14pm On Aug 07, 2020
Epositive:
Mr younganddepress,

Being in 300L at 23 shouldn't make you feel bad. I'm in 300L too, after spending 4 years at home. I thought my case was bad till I gained admission. When I saw mamas and papas dragging queue with me for screening in the faculty. I just calmed down. undecided

Again, you said you are broke. Lol, ain't we all broke? You can hook up with the hustlers in your streets even if it's car wash, waiter or any available job, try and engage yourself. You can't make money by mere crossing of legs and reminiscing. That you are intelligent won't automatically make you a fortune if you don't act on it. What's your talent and area of interests, what are you doing to develop them?

Look, it's not easy anywhere. Now that you have overcome the gambling habit, the next best thing is for you to look out for yourself. Bros, look for work and do. It's not advisable that you learn trade based on your narrative, but try and engage yourself. You seems too optimistic rather that staying in tune with reality. angry

Stop comparing yourself with others. It only breeds low self-esteem and self-loathing. undecided Don't be a victim of peer pressure and juvenile delinquency. Reduce your expectations. Reorient yourself and you will be fine. cool

NB: All the religious talks are inconsequential. Get over it and be realistic. undecided

I hate it when people say "its not easy anywhere". That is erroneous phrase and very untrue.
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by kamtrix(m): 1:53pm On Aug 07, 2020
YoungandDepress:


I sent you a mail sir and a message on your instagram page.

Thanks for reaching out Sir.
ok I've seen it
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by itzwell(f): 1:54pm On Aug 07, 2020
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I laugh.
Op, you are just 23 o....
Me is 28, no friends, not yet a graduate, no stable job, no skill, no relationship at all, not to talk of serious relationship. And I am a female o, and u know how african mentality is about females when age don dey add nah.
It's still veeeeeeeeery early to start afresh bro.
Despite my age, I still get hope, how much more you.
You have hope biko
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Nobody: 1:58pm On Aug 07, 2020
YoungandDepress:


Thanks ma. God bless you, I pray God grants your heart desires as well.
Thank you always try oh. Let me do like my momsigringrin
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by wax123(m): 2:06pm On Aug 07, 2020
Forgive your self first...most important

Always go out, is not good for a man to stay indoors always, u might get some menial jobs thru friends ...dont despise ur little beginning ....God will see u through
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by flyingpig: 2:08pm On Aug 07, 2020
UndauntedYOCA:

I want to know your story, not to laugh at or make mockery of you, I'm only interested.
you have my diary

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