this matter tie wrapper oh

lalasticlala ... this need to reach promise Land oh

Nothing beats privacy but cancelling wedding plans is her going too far.


My cousin lived with her mother in law and father in law for one year+, till they finally decided to gift them their own house, it could be a test of faith.

She's right,the guy is a mummy's boy

OluwaLina1:
Advice needed
Don't mind my typo errors.

My sister cancel her wedding plans all because her husband to~be insists they are going to be living with his mum after the wedding before they will build their own house.
Now,my sister said she won't go on with the wedding plans if he didn't rent an appartment,even if it's face-me-i-slap-you room,she will be okay with it,she won't even mind if the mother come to spend days with them.
Is my sister doing the right thing?

She is doing the right thing if she vows to pay for the rent till the house project is completed....

OluwaLina1:
The issue is that the man don't want to leave his mum place

Pls let him marry his mother.

OluwaLina1:
Advice needed
Don't mind my typo errors.

My sister cancel her wedding plans all because her husband to~be insists they are going to be living with his mum after the wedding before they will build their own house.
Now,my sister said she won't go on with the wedding plans if he didn't rent an appartment,even if it's face-me-i-slap-you room,she will be okay with it,she won't even mind if the mother come to spend days with them.
Is my sister doing the right thing?

Well to me, it depends on the strength of their love

Cancelling the wedding because of family house is not really a good idea

She can't be a full time house wife, so she will be going out and coming back

The house the husband is talking about, has he bought land already or yet to think of that

But why can't they join hand and get even if its a room alternatively, if she has the money, let her rent a room let them start from there

I know that your sister's worries is because of family and inlaw wahala staying in a family house

And no matter how hot it gets, it doesn't burn her husband but her

Anyway like I said, it depends on the weight of their love

Don't be surprise the guy is up to something, if by now he hasn't budgeted for land talk more of building it

It depends, how big is the house?

zed7:
The question should be is the husband going to take the right decision? Your sister has made her choice. Is the man going to be smart enough to let her go without begging her?

You can't love me and not love my family, there's no point. It's not like they are going to stay there forever, probably to save up some money first. No man who doesn't like his independence, it circumstances that makes people take some decisions.

I'm not saying your sister doesn't have a right to her decisions, the man just has to be wise enough to let her go to avoid future problems.

Bro you're wise, sometimes love and affection isn't enough, this marriage is already dead on arrival. The wise thing to do is stay away from such a woman. But it will only take a man with a complete set of functional brains to look over feelings and affection in matters like this.

OluwaLina1:
Advice needed
Don't mind my typo errors.

My sister cancel her wedding plans all because her husband to~be insists they are going to be living with his mum after the wedding before they will build their own house.
Now,my sister said she won't go on with the wedding plans if he didn't rent an appartment,even if it's face-me-i-slap-you room,she will be okay with it,she won't even mind if the mother come to spend days with them.
Is my sister doing the right thing?

Ur sister is an ode. Her love for him is not strong. She should have used her onions to convince him to rent an apartment and use a greater part of her onions, woman-to-woman to pull her mother-in-law and all fondly memories out from that house into the new house.

If the man's mum is aged and he is the only son/child, it can be accommodated, other than that, it's is a no no

Mgtowmonk:
can't your sister rent an apartment with her own money?
The guy is doing her a favor by marrying her yet she still dictating how he should live his life

So she should go and rent d house without her husband constent abi or u didnt read d part dat he said he cant live without his mum. All dez small kids using phones u ll just b thinking with ur fingers rather dan ur head

Your sister is doing the right thing,cos no matter how loving his mum is,she would assume control of their marriage and hence become an intruder dictating for the man how to run his marriage..From the beginning it was not supposed to be so,who says he can't rent an apartment before he can build his own house,that's a weak excuse..let your sister hold unto her decision,if the guy is man enough he will do the right thing which is moving out from his mother and father's house to live with his wife..

OluwaLina1:
Advice needed
Don't mind my typo errors.

My sister cancel her wedding plans all because her husband to~be insists they are going to be living with his mum after the wedding before they will build their own house.
Now,my sister said she won't go on with the wedding plans if he didn't rent an appartment,even if it's face-me-i-slap-you room,she will be okay with it,she won't even mind if the mother come to spend days with them.
Is my sister doing the right thing?

If the man is an only child and the house is big, why not?

Don't mind those people wey dey talk nonsense.. Your sister did the right thing.. What kind of a simp would marry only to be living with his mother, that's very very unnecessary.. If he's not financially buoyant to rent a simple 2 rooms then he shouldn't be talking of marriage at all.
Even the Bible said a man an a woman would both leave their parents house and start a new one by themselves and they 2 will become one

Powerfly:
I dunno oo.
let's just wait for the Alpha~male elders to arrive.. I'm sure they will have what to say, and advice to give..
the only problem is.. They might call the guy wanting to marry your sister a simp!

He's indeed a SIMP!

sexy74:
Your sister never ready marry.
She should try and know the reason why the guy wants it that way and try to reach a compromise.
The guy has known his mother all his life and there might be a strong bond between both of them., she cannot just come and destroy it because he wants to marry her.
That your sister will chase the guys family from him.

Your sister has pride let her keep it to herself .

U r nt crious

kullozone:

He's indeed a SIMP!

i talk am nah.

this one never sit down for house do her now?

He is not serious. Ur sister is a visionary. She can see what will happen in that hse later on. That man will not build any house.

OluwaLina1:

he said he can't do without his mum

luxx24:


U r nt crious

For saying the truths or what ?

bold step from your sista. But where it leads i dont know

sexy74:

From the way you write and insult shows you are not properly brought up.
People like you will kill your mother in-laws forgetting that one day you too will be one.

You didn’t answer any question you ran to insults. Don’t worry, there’s divorce so I won’t have to kill anyone.

I love my mother in-law but would I want to live with her permanently? Heck no!
As much as I love my sons, would I want them to live with me when they're married? Heck no!

That she doesn't want to live with her fiance's mother does not mean she does not love or respect the mum. She just craves her space and privacy like every newlywed should. She should not be shamed or insulted for this. It's the man that's too attached to his mother's apron strings that needs a resounding knock on his head.

There is something your sister saw that she is trying to avoid.
Perhaps, the mother-in-law will treat her like a maid if they live in her house.

If your sister's husband is sensitive and considerate, he can rent an apartment since he is well to do. Your sister may never be comfortable living in her mother-in-laws house.

zed7:
The question should be is the husband going to take the right decision? Your sister has made her choice. Is the man going to be smart enough to let her go without begging her?

You can't love me and not love my family, there's no point. It's not like they are going to stay there forever, probably to save up some money first. No man who doesn't like his independence, it circumstances that makes people take some decisions.

I'm not saying your sister doesn't have a right to her decisions, the man just has to be wise enough to let her go to avoid future problems.

the man is not mature, maturity Is not all about age,and stature.you must be financially mature before he gets marry,their won't be privacy if they stay with the parent,and also rift and problem may start btw the wife and mother inlaw.the best thing for them is to get an apartment first,after den they can think of getting married

ademola1580:


the man is not mature, maturity Is not all about age,and stature.you must be financially mature before he gets marry,their won't be privacy if they stay with the parent,and also rift and problem may start btw the wife and mother inlaw.the best thing for them is to get an apartment first,after den they can think of getting married

zed7:
The question should be is the husband going to take the right decision? Your sister has made her choice. Is the man going to be smart enough to let her go without begging her?

You can't love me and not love my family, there's no point. It's not like they are going to stay there forever, probably to save up some money first. No man who doesn't like his independence, it circumstances that makes people take some decisions.

I'm not saying your sister doesn't have a right to her decisions, the man just has to be wise enough to let her go to avoid future problems.

the man is not mature, maturity Is not all about age,and stature.he must be financially mature before he gets marry,their won't be privacy if they stay with the parent,and also rift and problem may start btw the wife and mother inlaw.the best thing for them is to get an apartment first,after den they can think of getting married

dominique:
I love my mother in-law but would I want to live with her permanently? Heck no!
As much as I love my sons, would I want them to live with me when they're married? Heck no!

That she doesn't want to live with her fiance's mother does not mean she does not love or respect the mum. She just craves her space and privacy like every newlywed should. She should not be shamed or insulted for this. It's the man that's too attached to his mother's apron strings that needs a resounding knock on his head.

Thumbs up!

ademola1580:


the man is not mature, maturity Is not all about age,and stature.you must be financially mature before he gets marry,their won't be privacy if they stay with the parent,and also rift and problem may start btw the wife and mother inlaw.the best thing for them is to get an apartment first,after den they can think of getting married

the man is not mature, maturity Is not all about age,and stature.he must be financially mature before he gets marry,their won't be privacy if they stay with the parent,and also rift and problem may start btw the wife and mother inlaw.the best thing for them is to get an apartment first,after den they can think of getting married

Thank you