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Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Nobody: 10:30am On Aug 11, 2020 |
ogbuefi677:You done? |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by SweetestIfy279: 10:34am On Aug 11, 2020 |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by bbode1(m): 10:40am On Aug 11, 2020 |
This is more than what u think. Sometimes the boy might be the only one catering for the family. his mum might be sick. He might not be financially buoyant. It might be his dream to own a house just like the parent. The family house he lives might even be very convenient. Maybe he as his own apartment. The woman should be Wise In her choice. It shows she can't do everything for the guy. She's avoiding future quarrel which might never even happen. Since she can't stay. Maybe they should use their wedding money to build the house half way first. Then move inside. Later they can do the wedding. But I think if paying the house rent his her husband problem. She should pay it for peace to rain |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by ImaIma1(f): 10:41am On Aug 11, 2020 |
dominique: I don't even know how some guys think from the comments I have been seeing. But I suspect those ones are kids. He really needs a knock to reset his brain. I have seen marriages like that where the man can't leave his mum and it never ends well. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by bonnyhope: 10:44am On Aug 11, 2020 |
Mgtowmonk: Hmmmm.. So marrying a girl means favour to her? |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by vickydevoka(m): 10:44am On Aug 11, 2020 |
ogbuefi677: They lady is a typical "City open eye gal". Such gals Don't tolerate, the are highly manipulative, if their husband goes bankrupt de husband is finished in life, is either he dies an early death (as a result of hbp) or he will be used as rag by de wife. They truth is dat This our tym men prefer outside beauty than innner beauty unlike our fathers n dis is as a result of social Media. Dats y marriages don't last any more. Those days Women work on their character more than their face n body buh dis days women work on their body without even thinking of wat people will say about dere character 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by kurlz(f): 10:44am On Aug 11, 2020 |
Chii59: Not just that sis. All the women in his life are cursed just as he said. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by kurlz(f): 10:46am On Aug 11, 2020 |
georgeiyke009: The most sensible comment on this topic ever. Infact I love you for this. God bless you |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Nobody: 10:48am On Aug 11, 2020 |
bbode1:My uncle was catering to my grandparents for many years. When it was time to marry, he got his own place. They have someone who stays with them and looks after them. And he goes to visit them often since he lives in the same city with them. There's no excuse at all. |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by ImaIma1(f): 10:49am On Aug 11, 2020 |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by vickydevoka(m): 10:51am On Aug 11, 2020 |
ogbuefi677:Not all de tym. Dats y u are man , wat will have dis days are simps n wimps not men. Is as simple as dis wen u wife disallows ur people disallow hers too. U will act lyk a typical Anambra man without hiding any feelings |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Johnson5258: 10:52am On Aug 11, 2020 |
See, don't talk like this, this thing is mutual therefore it has to be in the duo's alignment. Yes you can propose it but if she disagree then rearrange. She can't be staying in a house that's not hers. If he wishes to build a house, he should start from being a tenant first. Besides that, has he gotten the land before making his wife a glorified slave? It should be on hold till when there's resolution. Thanks. J111333: 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Johnson5258: 10:54am On Aug 11, 2020 |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by ImaIma1(f): 10:56am On Aug 11, 2020 |
GboyegaD: This over pampering is a serious problem. From the comments from some men here, I just feel ashamed of how they are being brought up. They have no business thinking about marriage before the become a nuisance to their wives. As you said, it's except they have a flat to themselves in the family house. If not, it's not advisable and it doesn't mean she doesn't love his mum. It's good to have a healthy distance from family to avoid rifts |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by ogbuefi677(m): 10:56am On Aug 11, 2020 |
okine4real:Speak for yourself alone! Unfortunately for you,you have a terrible mother who would open her mouth to call her DIL ashawo no matter the provocation and apparently dysfunctional family since you have a sister in the same league as your mother. Another place you are unfortunate is you come from a below average family as your parents still need to pay rent even as they have a son of marriageable age. Even Okada ppl manage to put together a small 3 bedroom apartment in the outskirts of the town before they reach retirement age. My room in my family house is so large it contains a big bed and 2 other foams plus a 3 seater settee, space for the fridge,in built wardrobe and of course it's own restroom so if anything takes me back to my state,I will stay there at least 6 months to 1 year with pride b4 renting a house or speed up building my own house. How will my mum have time to call some1 ashawo when she has lectures to deliver,students to supervise and mark their scripts,200 bird poultry to tend,choir and church waka,village women meeting,the finances and 2 female and 1 male teenage relatives to tend to her needs and cook whatever choice of food she likes? When she go get time to look DIL face and call her ashawo? Popsy sef,anytime my wife is around,na to de pack Mr Biggs food,suya etc de come house anytime he goes out. Last born sister is 28yrs and has been lecturing in a federal polytechnic for the past 3 yrs with a recent business she started which pays her more than d lecturing job so even if she comes around,no time to look somebody face. Speak for yaself and ya so called alpha self alone 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Johnson5258: 10:59am On Aug 11, 2020 |
Leave that one abeg, I'm a man. An ambitious man will always want to get things right. He has money for wedding but doesn't have money to rent house, na 5k dem dey sell cow or rent hall? You can only speak for yourself but not for others. If the ball is already rolling I'm sure the lady will not went to pend her marriage but support him in completing what he has started. God bless our ladies. So supportive. You never buy land you come dey scope your wife. How will they be sharing kitchen? zed7: 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by ogbuefi677(m): 11:00am On Aug 11, 2020 |
ImaIma1:You people never ever have d duty to provide for anything,it must be the man. Even as students,your fellow students who are unfortunate to be male must pay everytime,una own na just to de collect and be provided for. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by MaziIgwe007: 11:00am On Aug 11, 2020 |
OluwaLina1: He gave you a sensible advice, just that it's the bitter truth and you don't like it. let me ask you this, if your brother's wife orders him to treat ur mum like this, will you be happy?? |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by vikgreen01(m): 11:02am On Aug 11, 2020 |
See op you or ur sis is over doing it I have female siblings and I'm the only male three of my sis are no more living with us Just me and my lil sis wic I'm certainly my lil sis will leave someday too... She's done with nysc last year So we are living in three bedroom apartment(with big cpd ) even this my mom complain to our elder sis's how we no dey talk to her wella sometimes wic make me thinking if my lil sis leave nd I decide to leave as well to start up a family else where.... How will this woman cope It's not a matter of SIMP all this my brother and sis are shouting here about but then ur sis needs to evaluate her points right.... I see some people saying is the house very space enough? Yes pls consider if the house is not just a random small house. . Living with MIL is no bad choice and the man is doing himself of saving up money rather spending it on rents wic I'm very sure will hinder him of building a house.... Paying huge rents sorting family expenses and building house is no easy task I see some people saying is he the only son are there no people in the house.... Yes ur sis sud look into if there aren't too many people in the house to avoid dramas ... If it just the son nd mother then that place will b peaceful to a bit and it's not they living there for life. Why do some ladies run for there MIL see I'm considering any lady that will wanna b with me lucky cos my mom isn't drama mother at all.... She has four female child nd pray to God everyday for there to b okay in there marriage why will she want to spoil her own son marriage.... This technology age has brain wash so many ladies why won't u want to stay with ur MIL... But then if u notice some harsh behaviour of your MIL pls my dear sis don't stay in that house!!! And moreover if ur sis has both MIL and FIL pls don't let her leave in that house she should stand on her ground of him renting an apartment All what I'm nailing is pls try and consider these single mothers who suffered and struggle enough to brought up man!!! Good luck in decisions to her!!! |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by ImaIma1(f): 11:03am On Aug 11, 2020 |
loneprof: So the men who stay in their own apartments with their wives were not trained with their mums blood? Or the wife that is leaving her own mother wasn't trained with her mums blood. Or do they love their mothers less? Anyone who is not ready to leave his/her mother and get married should not think about getting married. Let the guy ask his mother if she got married to his father and went to live with his mother. Let's try to be objective in matters and not turning it into a gender war. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by lightpurple: 11:05am On Aug 11, 2020 |
PapaNnamdi:So in your little mind, you’re doing a woman a favor by getting married to her? It’s bad luck that will make your future spouse marry you. People like you will be very irritating to live with |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Nobody: 11:05am On Aug 11, 2020 |
ogbuefi677:I can literally feel the pain in your words. You're pained that a fellow man sees the wrong in living together with one's parents. Sorry ehn. You too speak for yourself. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Nobody: 11:06am On Aug 11, 2020 |
MaziIgwe007:If your sister's fiancé insists on her living with his mom, what will you do, boy? |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Nobody: 11:07am On Aug 11, 2020 |
vikgreen01:Just like technology washed your sisters brains leaving them expired spinsters, right? |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by ogbuefi677(m): 11:08am On Aug 11, 2020 |
Chii59:lolz.You are so wrong. I de pity all of una including you who come from loveless, poverty stricken families, where everyone is forever suspicious of each other and of course there is hunger and poverty to always stress your relationships even among siblings. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Nobody: 11:09am On Aug 11, 2020 |
ogbuefi677:Yada yada yada... You're stale Yawns |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Nobody: 11:10am On Aug 11, 2020 |
ImaIma1: My dear, I totally understand your perspective and I am only speaking against the extremes. I for one, do not think any guy should think of settling down in his parents house (unless you're Indian which is their culture). So trust me, we agree on the privacy issue. But if you check the issue well, it looks awkward to say they're just disagreeing on where to settle after making marriage plans. If the lady in question isn't the one putting the man under pressure for marriage (which is commonplace with ladies), I see no reason why they shouldn't have agreed on a place. It seems to me like a last minute U-turn after weighting her options, which is why I think some ladies are just selfish. Furthermore, I think a lot of ladies must understand that men, generally, have a soft spot for their mothers and should try to reduce the whole jealousy thing. There's a place for everyone in a man's heart and no man would abandon his wife just because of the mother. Ladies must stop competing with their mother in laws. |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by vickydevoka(m): 11:12am On Aug 11, 2020 |
Chii59:A good lady is always a good lady no Mata wat. She will endure until de husband build his. |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Nobody: 11:13am On Aug 11, 2020 |
loneprof:Men have a soft spot for their moms, and women hate their own mothers? Do you even read what you write? Do you Who's talking about abandoning one's parents? Do you nl boys lack comprehension or what? OP sister wants her own place, even if it's face me I slap you, and says she doesn't mind mother in law coming to visit every now and then. Is it so hard for you to digest? |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Nobody: 11:14am On Aug 11, 2020 |
vickydevoka:Tell that to the lady unfortunate enough to marry you. Yawns |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by vikgreen01(m): 11:15am On Aug 11, 2020 |
Chii59: This is one of the stupid lady u should always stay away from I see how miserable your family is which render u useless and uncultured You must be stupid for uttering those words but then I don't think I'm talking to u in anyway!!!! And to what I said three are married wic the one left is the last born!! I wonder who the heck is chasing after u 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Nobody: 11:16am On Aug 11, 2020 |
vikgreen01:Yawns The noise of a barking dog |
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