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Wow! Where is the writer writing from?

Mizflo:
Thanks for the advice. I have lost faith in Jesus because if he was there I wouldn’t have been suffering like this . I don’t want to look for him because he has never care about me and I don’t want to know him

What do you really want? Giving up your child might look easy now but it will surely hunt you in future.

A poster asked a similar question- what do you really want?

Too many scammers in nairaland these days so we take each story at face value.

If you can really prove your situation is ideal - by allowing someone come check to verify your story is genuine you could get some assistance from this platform to start over no matter how small. People in similar situation like yours have received help in the past from this forum. We might be arrogant misogynists, feminists, tribalistic, abusive but there are some sane few ones ( very few - the rest are all mad ) here.

The ball is in your court

I don't know why I find it difficult to believe this story, or maybe because the write up is too much for a JSS 2 dropout who had left school for over 5years.

May God Himself take care of you darling girl. May your story change for the better. Pele...all will be well with you and your daughter. Pele.

I can help ur Daughter but I don't know why I said so. Maybe Impulse. I still don't know.

Grace can solve this for. Look for Pastor Walter O. Zach in Port Harcourt a seasoned Deliverance Minister.. He can break this yoke.. I see this is What he describe as Ugly Pattern.. And if not taken care all your ordeals will happen to your Daughter. Remember the cause of Abraham and Isaac..

Mizflo:
Please I need your advice. I had created this account because I am well known here with my main account because I am always active and I want to remain anonymously.

Am 21 a single mum with 1 girl age 5 , her dad rejected me when I was pregnant he left when I was 4 months pregnant with her .

I had a difficult time growing up , my mum died when I was 8 years and my dad denied me claiming my mum had cheated on him and there’s no way I could be his daughter.

My aunty who was supposed to care for me had never bothered about me , she was always out leaving me in the house all alone without food , whenever I complains she will beat me telling me to go to my mum graveyard to ask her for assistance.

I have suffered in the hand of my aunty she didn’t care about my education if I have managed to complete my primary school till jss2 was thanks to this aunty who was a teacher at my school and a good friend of my mum , she sponsored me , And when I was 14 my aunty landlord kicked her out of the house because of rent arrears she said I am the enemy of progress she cant take me to her boyfriend house because he won’t accept me to stay there that I should go and look for a place , I cried and pleaded with her to take me along with her but she refuse I beg her to show me where my dad is she said he will not accept me because he hated my mum but I beg her to take me to him .

She took me to him it was my first time seeing him I looked just like him with one eye big one small but he insulted the hell out of us saying he will never accept me because my mum was a cheater she had so many boyfriends that I should ask her who my real father is but my aunty insisted that my mum had told her before she passed on that he was my dad even taught I resembled him still he denied and kicked us out like we were dogs I cried and my aunty was angry because of the insult so she left me all alone in the street but later came to me .
Since that day my life situation has worsened because I was forced to stay with different people where I was being abused , my baby dad came as a guardian angel to my life he took care of everything i needed by promising me heaven on Earth I taught he will get me out of my hard situations but I was wrong i find out he was married with kids I was heartbroken because I didn’t want to live the same lifestyle as my mum had lived but history has repeated itself just like my mother had me with a married man but she knew he was married but me I didn’t know , but it was too late for me to moved on because I was already pregnant for him and I didn’t want to abort my baby I have decide to continue the relationship but when I was 4 months pregnant he left me and blocked me from all his contacts , this is the man that has never bothered to asked about his child for 5 years now..

My little girl dont even know her dad the same way I did not know mine until
I was 14 which break my heart anytime I think about it.

My daughter and I are staying with my madam the lady tat I serve her for now 3 years but things here hasn’t been easy for us because my madam children don’t like me they keep accusing of things I don’t do like I stole their money , clothes and many more before my madam was telling them to stop with their bad attitudes towards me but I have noticed that whenever they had accused me she start getting angry with me sometimes we can go days without her not talking to me which I think I have overstayed and I am not longer wanted here I want to leave this house and to go and hustle but I feared for my daughter because I don’t want her to end up like me.

If I leave this house we will be on the street for a long time till I will be able to get somewhere else to stay with her also I don’t think I can give her the best education because if she stay with me she will end up being a teen mother just like I did something I don’t want to happen to her and I came across someone who’s willing to help me by taking care of my daughter to give her the best life something that I have always wanted for her , she promised to take care of her till university and she will give me the money to rent a room and start up business she said she will take things to the right direction like adoption but I don’t know how she will do it because I have no idea that I will have to sign up papers for agreement i have agreed because I think is really a good opportunity for me even taught I have accepted but sometimes I am getting worried about giving her my daughter I am having sleepless nights and thinking all nights.

I am just tired of living this life I didn’t ask to be born my parents created me and now I am suffering from their mistakes something I didn’t consented and I don’t want my daughter to suffer because of my mistake I think giving her up for adoption is a good thing , but I don’t know if I am doing the right things.

please no insult what is your advice for me.

Thanks

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Mizflo:
Thanks for the advice. I have lost faith in Jesus because if he was there I wouldn’t have been suffering like this . I don’t want to look for him because he has never care about me and I don’t want to know him

My sister please dont give up your daughter.Where are you based at the moment?
Try to contact Mr Oriyomi Hamzat in Ibadan.
The no to call is 08186877362.

Or
Ijele speaks

Mizflo:
Thanks for the advice. I have lost faith in Jesus because if he was there I wouldn’t have been suffering like this . I don’t want to look for him because he has never care about me and I don’t want to know him

u can not get Jesus with this mind set. couple with fact that you had never walk in his part.

Madam go and hustle, if you have a trustworthy friend keep your daughter with her for awhile, go out and look for anything to do even if it is runs,at least it is better than giving up your child, life is not a bed of roses.

Sorry about everything that happened.





You will have a reason to rejoice soon

If you know that you won't make use of the advice given here why did u create this post, I was only able to go through the first and second page and there are better options than the one you have made up ur mind on even b4 creating this post!

Your decision will only bring a short term temporary relief but you will live the rest of your life regretting this decision!

May God have mercy on You and help you change your Mind.
Stay blessed

Mizflo:
Thanks everyone for your advice and words of encouragement I live in asaba I love my daughter so much more than anything in this world but I think she deserve better than me the reason I want to give her up for adoption is because she will be better off without me over there she will have both parents that will train and guide her to the right path something I never had the change to have so I want her to be greater than me because I don’t have anything good to offer her , I trust this aunty that will adopt her because she has helped me a lot in the past I know my daughter will be in a good place but I just don’t understand why am I having sleepless nights about giving her away I guess is normal for any mother that love her daughter to feel the same way I am feeling because it’s not easy for me to give her away but she had to go because I want her to be happy and I hope one day she will thanked me for making the right decisions for her. Thanks

spiralwedge:
Mizflo,
Give her up for adoption. That's the right thing now.

It will be tough at first, but best you adjust and face your life squarely while she's in safe hands.

If you don't, you will suffer her for nothing and it will affect you getting the best out of the remaining years in your life.

Never be tired of this life, always make use of new opportunities even if it is not conventional or popular. In this case, your opportunity is to be able to make something out of your life while your daughter grows elsewhere to be an adult.

You will be fine, she will be fine too. Which state are you?


Modified:
I just read other people's comments above mine. Please ignore them. They sit comfortably typing without empathy and with the typical Nigerian mindset.

Adoption is very good, your daughter will have people she can look up to as parents/guardians. She needs that foundation at least till when she is 18. You are merely 21 and this is your chance to restart your life. If you don't take this chance, you will suddenly reach 40, depressed, broke, miserable and suicidal. Please take this chance, especially for your daughter to have a home.

Gbam.
Righteousness89 and his religious insensitivity and the other one accusing op of blasphemy.
If you've never been in her situation you don't know how it feels.
OP, I'll advice you give her up for adoption to a good family. Tested and proven. And like someone said, get a lawyer to read up the agreement before agreeing to or signing any document.
I wish you well.

unclemaths:
You are an embittered soul in serious need of help.

Whao, you needed help and you actually said the quoted?!

Maybe all those talks about you were true by the way.

Haven't you read about Biblical Job? Joseph? Hanna? Sarah?

Please, don't add blasphemy to your issues.

Nothing do your daughter..
You are the one in serious need of help.

See you shouldn't call her Embittered!!! Have you really gone through half of what she's been through It's easy for one to just say things we know nothing about!!! See if you have anyway to assist her do and please don't say that abeg!! I had a very bad experience in my life and for once I had to question the existence of God!!! See this life isn't fair to some people I swear.....I wish I was buoyant enough I would have assisted her

ceereelee:
the reason he didn't show up was because you made your decisions without him and you refused to follow the designed pattern for sexual relationship. If he helps you without your consent, you will not know he is the one and others will not learn.


If you don't believe in Jesus as your savior then sincerely help is far from you but if you are ready to humble yourself and throw off the mindset of"it's my life, i live it the way i want" then in the next three months (guaranteed) you will heal from your past even to your own amazement and you will know that Jesus has been waiting for you to give him a chance.


As for the precious little girl, never let her pay for your sins. You will surely regret than action because you can never silence your conscience.
Such action can also lead to curses. Many are child less today because of some decisions they made when they were young.


For you,pls you need to restrategise your life. You have seen that what is wrong is bad, leave it now that you still have the time to correct your life because it can be too late.
Consider Jesus. He loves you.

Thanks.

I love you

Is this how Jesus will defend himself for not being there for her?
God's problem with Moses is because he represented him poorly before the children of Isreal.

Be sure you are representing Jesus well before men.

Hello Mzflo,for your adoption cases can you send a mail to chiefenoch@gmail.com I am interested in your case and will like to help you.
Thank you.

If this is true call me on 08096950404, let's me adopt her legally and be a father to that child that deserves a good life.

Mizflo:
Please I need your advice. I had created this account because I am well known here with my main account because I am always active and I want to remain anonymously.

Am 21 a single mum with 1 girl age 5 , her dad rejected me when I was pregnant he left when I was 4 months pregnant with her .

I had a difficult time growing up , my mum died when I was 8 years and my dad denied me claiming my mum had cheated on him and there’s no way I could be his daughter.

My aunty who was supposed to care for me had never bothered about me , she was always out leaving me in the house all alone without food , whenever I complains she will beat me telling me to go to my mum graveyard to ask her for assistance.

I have suffered in the hand of my aunty she didn’t care about my education if I have managed to complete my primary school till jss2 was thanks to this aunty who was a teacher at my school and a good friend of my mum , she sponsored me , And when I was 14 my aunty landlord kicked her out of the house because of rent arrears she said I am the enemy of progress she cant take me to her boyfriend house because he won’t accept me to stay there that I should go and look for a place , I cried and pleaded with her to take me along with her but she refuse I beg her to show me where my dad is she said he will not accept me because he hated my mum but I beg her to take me to him .

She took me to him it was my first time seeing him I looked just like him with one eye big one small but he insulted the hell out of us saying he will never accept me because my mum was a cheater she had so many boyfriends that I should ask her who my real father is but my aunty insisted that my mum had told her before she passed on that he was my dad even taught I resembled him still he denied and kicked us out like we were dogs I cried and my aunty was angry because of the insult so she left me all alone in the street but later came to me .
Since that day my life situation has worsened because I was forced to stay with different people where I was being abused , my baby dad came as a guardian angel to my life he took care of everything i needed by promising me heaven on Earth I taught he will get me out of my hard situations but I was wrong i find out he was married with kids I was heartbroken because I didn’t want to live the same lifestyle as my mum had lived but history has repeated itself just like my mother had me with a married man but she knew he was married but me I didn’t know , but it was too late for me to moved on because I was already pregnant for him and I didn’t want to abort my baby I have decide to continue the relationship but when I was 4 months pregnant he left me and blocked me from all his contacts , this is the man that has never bothered to asked about his child for 5 years now..

My little girl dont even know her dad the same way I did not know mine until
I was 14 which break my heart anytime I think about it.

My daughter and I are staying with my madam the lady tat I serve her for now 3 years but things here hasn’t been easy for us because my madam children don’t like me they keep accusing of things I don’t do like I stole their money , clothes and many more before my madam was telling them to stop with their bad attitudes towards me but I have noticed that whenever they had accused me she start getting angry with me sometimes we can go days without her not talking to me which I think I have overstayed and I am not longer wanted here I want to leave this house and to go and hustle but I feared for my daughter because I don’t want her to end up like me.

If I leave this house we will be on the street for a long time till I will be able to get somewhere else to stay with her also I don’t think I can give her the best education because if she stay with me she will end up being a teen mother just like I did something I don’t want to happen to her and I came across someone who’s willing to help me by taking care of my daughter to give her the best life something that I have always wanted for her , she promised to take care of her till university and she will give me the money to rent a room and start up business she said she will take things to the right direction like adoption but I don’t know how she will do it because I have no idea that I will have to sign up papers for agreement i have agreed because I think is really a good opportunity for me even taught I have accepted but sometimes I am getting worried about giving her my daughter I am having sleepless nights and thinking all nights.

I am just tired of living this life I didn’t ask to be born my parents created me and now I am suffering from their mistakes something I didn’t consented and I don’t want my daughter to suffer because of my mistake I think giving her up for adoption is a good thing , but I don’t know if I am doing the right things.

please no insult what is your advice for me.

Thanks

You refused to learn from your own personal experience and dropped yourself into the same trap.....

You could have used your experience to break this unfortunate cycle. Rather, you dived in knee deep........

If you cannot cater for the child, give her up for adoption.........

How can you even think about giving up your own child?

unclemaths:
You are an embittered soul in serious need of help.

Whao, you needed help and you actually said the quoted?!

Maybe all those talks about you were true by the way.

Haven't you read about Biblical Job? Joseph? Hanna? Sarah?

Please, don't add blasphemy to your issues.

Nothing do your daughter..
You are the one in serious need of help.

Blasphemy on who? A white God no one had ever seen? Pls if u don't have a logical answer, shut up!

Mizflo:
Thanks for the advice. I have lost faith in Jesus because if he was there I wouldn’t have been suffering like this . I don’t want to look for him because he has never care about me and I don’t want to know him

Call on Him, He's ready to turn things around for ur good.

Please don’t give up your child for adoption, Nigerians don’t take care of other’s peoples kid like their own, your daughter might be raped, kill or used anyhow, please don’t, I’m actually typing this with a heavy heart, I just wish I could be of hello one way or the other. Please can we move this Op case to Instagram please, we can tag tundeednut , instablog and other’s, I just don’t want your baby girl to suffer, I know what I’m saying o [sup][/sup]

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Rubbish.

big pile of rubbish

olusipimp:
Call on Him, He's ready to turn things around for ur good.

Call who? If u can't help, leave this thread. Y'all are so annoying! Religion cancer

spiralwedge:
Mizflo,
Give her up for adoption. That's the right thing now.

It will be tough at first, but best you adjust and face your life squarely while she's in safe hands.

If you don't, you will suffer her for nothing and it will affect you getting the best out of the remaining years in your life.

Never be tired of this life, always make use of new opportunities even if it is not conventional or popular. In this case, your opportunity is to be able to make something out of your life while your daughter grows elsewhere to be an adult.

You will be fine, she will be fine too. Which state are you?


Modified:
I just read other people's comments above mine. Please ignore them. They sit comfortably typing without empathy and with the typical Nigerian mindset.

Adoption is very good, your daughter will have people she can look up to as parents/guardians. She needs that foundation at least till when she is 18. You are merely 21 and this is your chance to restart your life. If you don't take this chance, you will suddenly reach 40, depressed, broke, miserable and suicidal. Please take this chance, especially for your daughter to have a home.

But did you read the part where she has to sign papers she doesn't understand?

Also, what the person is offering her is too good to be just adoption, it's more like the person wants to buy the child.

Or you missed the part where the person promised to get her a house and business after adopting the baby?

What happens to renting the house for her and setting the business up for her while she still has custody of her child?


Or you just read the title and jumped to comment?

Because some of those comments above yours are actually very reasonable.

loneprof:
So you think you know everything going on in the country? You haven't heard of welfare before? Stay there...

Instead of you to answer question, you are still asking me.

What State operates this law?

Is it a Federal law?

I am looking for enlightenment, but you refuse to offer it, because you would rather pick offense than give clarification

Mizflo:
Please I need your advice. I had created this account because I am well known here with my main account because I am always active and I want to remain anonymously.

Am 21 a single mum with 1 girl age 5 , her dad rejected me when I was pregnant he left when I was 4 months pregnant with her .

I had a difficult time growing up , my mum died when I was 8 years and my dad denied me claiming my mum had cheated on him and there’s no way I could be his daughter.

My aunty who was supposed to care for me had never bothered about me , she was always out leaving me in the house all alone without food , whenever I complains she will beat me telling me to go to my mum graveyard to ask her for assistance.

I have suffered in the hand of my aunty she didn’t care about my education if I have managed to complete my primary school till jss2 was thanks to this aunty who was a teacher at my school and a good friend of my mum , she sponsored me , And when I was 14 my aunty landlord kicked her out of the house because of rent arrears she said I am the enemy of progress she cant take me to her boyfriend house because he won’t accept me to stay there that I should go and look for a place , I cried and pleaded with her to take me along with her but she refuse I beg her to show me where my dad is she said he will not accept me because he hated my mum but I beg her to take me to him .

She took me to him it was my first time seeing him I looked just like him with one eye big one small but he insulted the hell out of us saying he will never accept me because my mum was a cheater she had so many boyfriends that I should ask her who my real father is but my aunty insisted that my mum had told her before she passed on that he was my dad even taught I resembled him still he denied and kicked us out like we were dogs I cried and my aunty was angry because of the insult so she left me all alone in the street but later came to me .
Since that day my life situation has worsened because I was forced to stay with different people where I was being abused , my baby dad came as a guardian angel to my life he took care of everything i needed by promising me heaven on Earth I taught he will get me out of my hard situations but I was wrong i find out he was married with kids I was heartbroken because I didn’t want to live the same lifestyle as my mum had lived but history has repeated itself just like my mother had me with a married man but she knew he was married but me I didn’t know , but it was too late for me to moved on because I was already pregnant for him and I didn’t want to abort my baby I have decide to continue the relationship but when I was 4 months pregnant he left me and blocked me from all his contacts , this is the man that has never bothered to asked about his child for 5 years now..

My little girl dont even know her dad the same way I did not know mine until
I was 14 which break my heart anytime I think about it.

My daughter and I are staying with my madam the lady tat I serve her for now 3 years but things here hasn’t been easy for us because my madam children don’t like me they keep accusing of things I don’t do like I stole their money , clothes and many more before my madam was telling them to stop with their bad attitudes towards me but I have noticed that whenever they had accused me she start getting angry with me sometimes we can go days without her not talking to me which I think I have overstayed and I am not longer wanted here I want to leave this house and to go and hustle but I feared for my daughter because I don’t want her to end up like me.

If I leave this house we will be on the street for a long time till I will be able to get somewhere else to stay with her also I don’t think I can give her the best education because if she stay with me she will end up being a teen mother just like I did something I don’t want to happen to her and I came across someone who’s willing to help me by taking care of my daughter to give her the best life something that I have always wanted for her , she promised to take care of her till university and she will give me the money to rent a room and start up business she said she will take things to the right direction like adoption but I don’t know how she will do it because I have no idea that I will have to sign up papers for agreement i have agreed because I think is really a good opportunity for me even taught I have accepted but sometimes I am getting worried about giving her my daughter I am having sleepless nights and thinking all nights.

I am just tired of living this life I didn’t ask to be born my parents created me and now I am suffering from their mistakes something I didn’t consented and I don’t want my daughter to suffer because of my mistake I think giving her up for adoption is a good thing , but I don’t know if I am doing the right things.

please no insult what is your advice for me.

Thanks

...... From the depth of my heart i feel your pains but giving your child up for adoption isn't a welcome idea.... The person you want to give her to now may promise you heaven and earth but when the child gets into her home.... It may become a very different story..... She may be maltreated, she may be abused.... She may not be catered for the way u can cater for her..... My story is similar to yours because i lost my job when my girlfriend was pregnant and same week i lost my accommodation too...... I thought about giving my child up for adoption because i ran into multiple debts as a result of the hardship.... Almost all the loan companies in Nigeria know me because I've borrowed from them and not been able to pay back but when i think of all i have been through because of my girl..... It makes me wanna endure the more..... See how i can fix things and make things work out.... I'm encouraging you to do the same dear..... Look back at what you have been through with that girl.... No one can be a better mother to her than you..... Things will work out soon..... If with all what I'm going through i didn't give up, trust me, u can do it.... Your baby will understand when you don't have and will bear with you.... Just be the best mom u can be to her..... Forget about how bad people treat you..... We are going through challenges to brace us up for a stronger and more prosperous finish..... God no go shame us...... If no be say things no balance with me, i for ask for your account number make i push even if na 1k give you but aunty..... Things no balance now..... We go dey alright last last.... Don't give up that baby for adoption..... If the person wen Wan adopt am really care about her.... She will provide for you to take very good care of her..... She won't offer to separate u from her.... Stay blessed my sister.... God will see us all through!!

Mizflo:
Thanks for the advice. I have lost faith in Jesus because if he was there I wouldn’t have been suffering like this . I don’t want to look for him because he has never care about me and I don’t want to know him

Good.... Give ur daughter up for adoption, hope she goes into a nice family, and hustle ur way out if the mud...
She will definitely find u wen she is older, u can even keep in touch with the family, it depends

I will advice you not to give her up for adoption. Pm me let me see how I can help you.

Fake story....Nothing more nothing less.....Let's do some simple analysis and bust another storyteller:

1. She's 21 years but acts as if she dropped out of nowhere? Where's your mama's family?
2. Daughter is about 5 years so that would mean she gave birth at 16
3. How many 13, 14, 15,16 year olds are dating married men?
4. She dropped out at Jss2 but can clearly compose several paragraphs with approporiate flow.
5. Use of fake account! Your story is serious enough, what are you trying to cover up? Whom of all people should use real information? What's the basis for your write-up? Was it for people to tell you to/not to adopt or was it to find people to help you?

InSanety:
Instead of you to answer question, you are still asking me.

What State operates this law?

Is it a Federal law?

I am looking for enlightenment, but you refuse to offer it, because you would rather pick offense than give clarification

I apologize! I thought you were asking just to contest the facts.Well I reside in Lagos state and I know Lagos state sure does have it. I believe every other state too, under certain ministries and also the court as the custodian...