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You are very stupid paddy mi ... No dey spend money on your girl friend or fiancee you no go hear ..sholo mad ni .... naira Marley said if you have girl na just your turn .. tomorrow if see better over she go leave you ... you no go hear .. anyway sorry shaaa ..you go don wise now

KristaPretty:
You choose not to make it fun!

nooooo.... Come into my life to make it fun

SeunDobo:
You are very stupid paddy mi ... No dey spend money on your girl friend or fiancee you no go hear ..sholo mad ni .... naira Marley said if you have girl na just your turn .. tomorrow if see better over she go leave you ... you no go hear .. anyway sorry shaaa ..you go don wise now

Alaye calm down....i have tried to understand this his situation..and this is my conclusion, based on, he dodged replyng my last post.

They were in an open relationship. He coukd fvck anybody he wanted where he was, she also could fvck anybody shw wanted where she was. In other words, she was a runz girl, of which he knew.

Then he moved to her town ans they.started cohabitting because he was spending on her. She started looking fly and was cool, with the cash, but she now wnated exclusivity.

Baba agreed because he was now in love and for her it was convdnient, because he would only be spending on her now. After awhile,she felt bored and wanted her freedom perhaps cos ahe is atill young, the 22ish range, by which time, baba had already fallen in love.

She started looking for excuses or faults to leave him then she stumbled on a message, and she ended it, then later acceeted to come back, but no sex(perhaps she was now seeing another man she was having sex with and wont want to sleep with another man)

She left him and he is still heart broken, which has happened to me too, happens to many of us

RavagedHeart:
I had to create a new account for this thread. Please try to read everything, so you would know what to say

It's been more than a year now, but I still hurt badly. I entered a relationship with this girl when I was in my 200L and she was still a jambite. She was beautiful, but it didn't show because she was suffering at that time. I was equally a handsome campus guy. Everything was fine between us and the journey was so sweet. In her, I found all the important things I needed in a relationship, and the love blossomed. Though she's got her bad sides, which is pride and stubbornness. I overlooked this believing love conquers all. At some point, I began to give her a third of my upkeep every month.
Fast forward to early last year, she was already in her final year. One thing led to another and we had to cohabit, and this required me to move to the state she schools. I quit my job in my state and focused on getting something better in the Internet space, and it worked for me. The whole arrangement felt like it was made in heaven. We lived happily like in the movies and more money was starting to flow in.
All this while, everything I earned was channeled to seeing her through the university, as she's got almost no financial support from her home. I'll say I was her provider 85% of the time all through her school days.
When I got the big job online that paid roughly $1,500 per month, money became surplus. I began to polish and furnish her with everything she needs to look good. She responded well to the spending and within months she dressed and looked like the daughter of a politician. During all this time, I never thought to invest or even polish myself to look better. I was only focused on her happiness.
Before we began to cohabit, I had some girls I do with, because of the distance between my state of residence and her school. Besides, she is not the type that fancies sex. Because she knows she's not giving me enough shots (like once in 4months), she doesn't make serious quarrel when she finds out I am doing other girls.
Within a few weeks of staying together, she asked me to stop sleeping around, that she's not comfortable with that anymore. She said I should leave all my girls that she would give me anything I want from a girl. I was convinced and that was what I even wanted all along. Cheating has never been my ideal. So, I left all my girls and clung to her. We both agreed to marry and everything was good, at least for a while.
After two months of this faithful arrangement, and about 3months into my dream job. Something happened.
Out of curiosity, she went searching through my phone and reading all my chats with other girls. She did this for weeks especially when I'm asleep after some shots.
What she found in her search made her believe I was still dating one of the girls.
One morning, she broke up with me saying that I still cheat on her. She broke up a 5years relationship. I tried to explain and make her understand her assumptions are wrong. I even called the accused girl in her presence with the phone on speaker and asked her to tell my girlfriend my position in her life. The accused girl confirm it to her that we are now just casual friends and nothing more than that. But my girlfriend didn't believe that. She changed overnight. She began to disrespect me she stopped doing anything with me and even left the house and stayed where I believe is her girlfriend's place (though not sure). I took her as my everything and when she left, my whole life crumbled before my eyes. I turned from a vibrant intelligent and happy lad, into a depressed, unproductive, and confused person.
The emotional blast caused me to lose concentration and I began to make mistakes with my job. I woke up one morning to see a sack email sitting in my inbox. This was the second blast and at that moment I wished I could die. Everything that made me happy was no more with me, and I cried most of the time.
When she comes home to take clean clothes and drop dirty ones, she'll just walk in and out of the rain like I wasn't there. Even when it's written all over me that I was dying for the heartbreak, she seemed very happy unconcerned seeing me in that state.
This went on for like 5months. During this time. She still comes home only to eat the food I cooked and to change her clothes, after that she's gone again. At some point I noticed a little remorse in her as she began to come home more frequently, but her pride won't allow her talk to me, not to talk of apologise.
One day I thought I should apologize for doing nothing. I called her to come home. She came home that evening and I asked her to forgive anything I did to annoy her and come back to me. She reluctantly accepted with the clause of no more sex and no extreme romance. I objected to this because I can't stay without doing something once in a while. She said that I'm not yet serious, packed some clothes and left the house. She never talked to me except she needs money which I still gave, thinking it would bring her back. But I thought wrong.
This was how it went on till I went bankrupt and completely broken.
I continued trying to get her back as that seemed to be the only thing that can restore life to the creature I have become. But the more I tried, the more I was burnt.
Because she's now polished and looking the path, she began rolling with very rich men as some used to drop her off with exotic cars when she comes to pick clean clothes. When I try asking she'd tell me he's just asked her out but nothing is happening.
After one year of suffering from heartbreak induced depression. I decided to help my self. I began to pick up girls again, I tried having a lot of sex, but it only helped for a moment. No matter how good my new girls are, and how well they do the do. No one seemed to fill that hole in me. I still hurt and I'm still depressed.

Fast forward to this day. She's gone, my money and dream job also gone. But the hurt and emotional damage remain. I had to go back to my family house as my finance doesn't permit me paying rent, and my new business is not receiving the best of efforts.

Now the problem is. How do I move on? How do I get to heal? How do I find the vibrant and happy me that once was? How do I erase her memory so I can find love again? How do I become a man again because time is no longer surplus like that for me?
It's been more than a year but I still feel betrayed and broken, as if it all happened yesterday.


Mods please. Let this get the maximum exposure

You were supposed to be a king. But see what an ordinary vagina has turned you into.

message me on whatsapp bro 08081874627.

It actually takes about 2years to get over someone. Be patient , stop calling her, change your SIM, relocate to another state. Start afresh.

Congrats you just Invested on someone else future wife

wetin you gain?

I doubt if you were created by God, the amount of stupidity abound in your write up is astonishing.... No no I can't deal with this

Davidoff2000:
Alaye calm down....i have tried to understand this his situation..and this is my conclusion, based on, he dodged replyng my last post.

They were in an open relationship. He coukd fvck anybody he wanted where he was, she also could fvck anybody shw wanted where she was. In other words, she was a runz girl, of which he knew.

Then he moved to her town ans they.started cohabitting because he was spending on her. She started looking fly and was cool, with the cash, but she now wnated exclusivity.

Baba agreed because he was now in love and for her it was convdnient, because he would only be spending on her now. After awhile,she felt bored and wanted her freedom perhaps cos ahe is atill young, the 22ish range, by which time, baba had already fallen in love.

She started looking for excuses or faults to leave him then she stumbled on a message, and she ended it, then later acceeted to come back, but no sex(perhaps she was now seeing another man she was having sex with and wont want to sleep with another man)

She left him and he is still heart broken, which has happened to me too, happens to many of us

Yes, she may be young. But nothing close to a runs girl and I don't think she was doing with anyone during those times.
Me that was doing with other girls wasn't on her license. She gets mad whenever she finds out, but never makes big quarrels. Maybe because she knows she's not there to do it.
So, it's not like we're in an open relationship. We were in a serious relationship and I trust she wasn't dating another. Although some very rich men use to come around her.

harsysky:
Love can make us do stupid things, but that is what it is. I have this belief, and that is if you can't make yourself happy, no one will do that for you. Having to be cut off from someone you love dearly is heartbreaking, but would you rather you lose yourself while your once beloved partner remains happy forever?

you can't eat your cake and have it. Take whatever you had with her before as bygones. If you continue the way you are doing, even that girl and the current ones you meet will see you as a play ground for weaklings.


You are a man and above all things, a man has got to take responsibility for self before others. Inotherwise, if you don't look after yourself, you can't even look after another. depression can only be managed when we pour out those burdens through speech or writing, which you have done. Now is time to heal. Remember, the beautiful ones are not yet born likewise the good ones

Thanks you for your comment, especially for the bolded.
Most people here thought I just made up the story, a even went further to call it fun. I guess they have never been in a difficult situation before.

RavagedHeart:
I had to create a new account for this thread. Please try to read everything, so you would know what to say

It's been more than a year now, but I still hurt badly. I entered a relationship with this girl when I was in my 200L and she was still a jambite. She was beautiful, but it didn't show because she was suffering at that time. I was equally a handsome campus guy. Everything was fine between us and the journey was so sweet. In her, I found all the important things I needed in a relationship, and the love blossomed. Though she's got her bad sides, which is pride and stubbornness. I overlooked this believing love conquers all. At some point, I began to give her a third of my upkeep every month.
Fast forward to early last year, she was already in her final year. One thing led to another and we had to cohabit, and this required me to move to the state she schools. I quit my job in my state and focused on getting something better in the Internet space, and it worked for me. The whole arrangement felt like it was made in heaven. We lived happily like in the movies and more money was starting to flow in.
All this while, everything I earned was channeled to seeing her through the university, as she's got almost no financial support from her home. I'll say I was her provider 85% of the time all through her school days.
When I got the big job online that paid roughly $1,500 per month, money became surplus. I began to polish and furnish her with everything she needs to look good. She responded well to the spending and within months she dressed and looked like the daughter of a politician. During all this time, I never thought to invest or even polish myself to look better. I was only focused on her happiness.
Before we began to cohabit, I had some girls I do with, because of the distance between my state of residence and her school. Besides, she is not the type that fancies sex. Because she knows she's not giving me enough shots (like once in 4months), she doesn't make serious quarrel when she finds out I am doing other girls.
Within a few weeks of staying together, she asked me to stop sleeping around, that she's not comfortable with that anymore. She said I should leave all my girls that she would give me anything I want from a girl. I was convinced and that was what I even wanted all along. Cheating has never been my ideal. So, I left all my girls and clung to her. We both agreed to marry and everything was good, at least for a while.
After two months of this faithful arrangement, and about 3months into my dream job. Something happened.
Out of curiosity, she went searching through my phone and reading all my chats with other girls. She did this for weeks especially when I'm asleep after some shots.
What she found in her search made her believe I was still dating one of the girls.
One morning, she broke up with me saying that I still cheat on her. She broke up a 5years relationship. I tried to explain and make her understand her assumptions are wrong. I even called the accused girl in her presence with the phone on speaker and asked her to tell my girlfriend my position in her life. The accused girl confirm it to her that we are now just casual friends and nothing more than that. But my girlfriend didn't believe that. She changed overnight. She began to disrespect me she stopped doing anything with me and even left the house and stayed where I believe is her girlfriend's place (though not sure). I took her as my everything and when she left, my whole life crumbled before my eyes. I turned from a vibrant intelligent and happy lad, into a depressed, unproductive, and confused person.
The emotional blast caused me to lose concentration and I began to make mistakes with my job. I woke up one morning to see a sack email sitting in my inbox. This was the second blast and at that moment I wished I could die. Everything that made me happy was no more with me, and I cried most of the time.
When she comes home to take clean clothes and drop dirty ones, she'll just walk in and out of the rain like I wasn't there. Even when it's written all over me that I was dying for the heartbreak, she seemed very happy unconcerned seeing me in that state.
This went on for like 5months. During this time. She still comes home only to eat the food I cooked and to change her clothes, after that she's gone again. At some point I noticed a little remorse in her as she began to come home more frequently, but her pride won't allow her talk to me, not to talk of apologise.
One day I thought I should apologize for doing nothing. I called her to come home. She came home that evening and I asked her to forgive anything I did to annoy her and come back to me. She reluctantly accepted with the clause of no more sex and no extreme romance. I objected to this because I can't stay without doing something once in a while. She said that I'm not yet serious, packed some clothes and left the house. She never talked to me except she needs money which I still gave, thinking it would bring her back. But I thought wrong.
This was how it went on till I went bankrupt and completely broken.
I continued trying to get her back as that seemed to be the only thing that can restore life to the creature I have become. But the more I tried, the more I was burnt.
Because she's now polished and looking the path, she began rolling with very rich men as some used to drop her off with exotic cars when she comes to pick clean clothes. When I try asking she'd tell me he's just asked her out but nothing is happening.
After one year of suffering from heartbreak induced depression. I decided to help my self. I began to pick up girls again, I tried having a lot of sex, but it only helped for a moment. No matter how good my new girls are, and how well they do the do. No one seemed to fill that hole in me. I still hurt and I'm still depressed.

Fast forward to this day. She's gone, my money and dream job also gone. But the hurt and emotional damage remain. I had to go back to my family house as my finance doesn't permit me paying rent, and my new business is not receiving the best of efforts.

Now the problem is. How do I move on? How do I get to heal? How do I find the vibrant and happy me that once was? How do I erase her memory so I can find love again? How do I become a man again because time is no longer surplus like that for me?
It's been more than a year but I still feel betrayed and broken, as if it all happened yesterday.


Mods please. Let this get the maximum exposure

which kind simpness be this. you allow one girl do you this kind thing. you loose your job, turn to broke man, and also loose ur home. chaiiiiii. and you still went ahead to apologize to her. this kind creature ehn

Jack005:
A woman just ruined you because of your weak nature and stupidity!! More idiots keep sprawling out from God knows where,time and time again we've seen threads like this and we will keep seeing them since a large number of guys have refused to learn from others experience.

and they keep upgrading their simp version.

This is why the red pill is so useful. The OP is a great simp.

argent412:
and they keep upgrading their simp version.

I have seen many calling me a simp. I may have been a voluntary simp for this particular girl, but I have not been a simp all my life.
Love caught me, everything was perfect and I gave in totally. It could happen to anyone, not only the simp.

dingbang:
nooooo.... Come into my life to make it fun

You!
ya following me everywhere.
Are you corona virus??

Op , U ARE A FOOL.

the moment you come to realize that in life no feeling is final weather love or hate,you will then realize how stupid you have been clinging to that word "I still love her"

RavagedHeart:
I'm not going to mention the job to avoid pointing fingers to my real self.
And she didn't school in a small town. But I won't mention that too.
I think her pride made her stand by her decision, and she's got other richer men coming her way. I just don't know.
You haven't met girls with excessive strong head

if her father can't pay and take care of her need and the sugar daddy around u did her favour and she betray you bro curse for 600years she will not have peace for making you miserable and peaceless I stopped giving girls free money

RavagedHeart:
I'm not going to mention the job to avoid pointing fingers to my real self.
And she didn't school in a small town. But I won't mention that too.
I think her pride made her stand by her decision, and she's got other richer men coming her way. I just don't know.
You haven't met girls with excessive strong head

if her father can't pay and take care of her need and the sugar daddy around u did her favour and she betray you bro curse for 600years she will not have peace for making you miserable and peaceless I stopped giving girls free money, when many have tried to part away with my hard earn money over fabricated lies like my school fee is not complete, I asked why I got somethings for myself out of it like clothes and make up etc to impress their sugar daddy and attractive to more rich men... Stop beautifying a lady who is not yet ur wife else you are marketing her for prospect snatches gullible girls that can dumb you anytime anyday anywhere... Improve urself increase ur earning work harder on your dreams that what attract girls to u, u have option to select for the submissive, humble one among them not this poor proud riff raff wannabe claiming something from nothing

emmysmartt:
if her father can't pay and take care of her need and the sugar daddy around u did her favour and she betray you bro curse for 600years she will not have peace for making you miserable and peaceless I stopped giving girls free money

All I want is to heal and move on. Though I hate the things she did last last, but I don't want to curse anyone. If I wanted to hurt her in anyway, I'd have poisoned her when she comes home to eat my food.

As for giving money to a girl. I've learnt the hard way.

Sorry I don't mean any offence, but you're the biggest fool ever was!
I can't believe you could be that foolish and stupid at the same time.

Anyways, I don't know how you can heal from this, but believe me it's only a matter of time, you'll move on with your life. Just delete everything about her(pictures, contacts, social media etc) forget about her and see her as an enemy forever (except she comes to appologize). You'll be fine

Most times when I sleep. All I hope for is to wake up and realize I've been dreaming for all this time, or never wake at all. I can't just lay hold on the me I used to know, just a shadow of it.

KristaPretty:
You!
ya following me everywhere.
Are you corona virus??

nope, I like you

Here is the solution.

Fidelismaria:


<sup>bloody SIMP

your own mumu is raise to power 100

You no see your brother,sister, cousins, parents spend money on na hoelosho you go spend 85% of your income

Chai

you deserve the heartbreak</sup>

I've made my mistakes. But no one deserves a heartbreak.

The reason for this thread is to gather encouragement to help me heal.

proclinician:
Here is the solution.

About a year ago I thought in this direction, but not anymore.

u over did it any way. but, the girl was to serious all the same. u wanted to eat ur cake and have it. she will definitely suffer for neglecting u in ur suffering and moving with other men while still living in ur house. just get focus once again and try and live a clean life for once. sleeping around will worsen ur case. sex is more than meet the eyes.

She's been with me all the time that I cheated. 2months after I stopped cheating then she broke up with me.
Sometimes I think she left because I stopped cheating on her

RavagedHeart:
I'm not going to mention the job to avoid pointing fingers to my real self.
And she didn't school in a small town. But I won't mention that too.
I think her pride made her stand by her decision, and she's got other richer men coming her way. I just don't know.
You haven't met girls with excessive strong head

Jeez, you're still in love with her... and you still miss her.

Ishilove:
Jeez, you're still in love with her... and you still miss her.

True love doesn't die quick