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Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by smasher1(m): 5:57pm On Aug 23, 2020
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Klass99:


What choice do any of us have in such a situation, except to move on? You wan kill the betrayers before? cheesy

Nengi is married now with kids of her own, but she told me years later that, that was her first and last heartbreak ever. She was the one breaking hearts afterwards. grin

As for Adams Oshiomole's lookalike and her cookies, I won't completely rule out jazz like others said. I wasn't exaggerating when I said she looks like Adams, she has his stature (short and masculine) with a slightly better looking face than Adams though.

What would make a man in his right thinking mind to give up a Nengi for Adams, if not jazz? grin

It doesn't have to be jazz. I don't believe that either. Beyond looks which make men love at first sight, men see character and that can't be bought in the market. If it was jazz or whatever you call it that relationship would have long ended.

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Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by Angelacruz: 5:58pm On Aug 23, 2020
wow
Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by yarimo(m): 5:58pm On Aug 23, 2020
Masonkaycares:
I'll be back in 7years later to answer this
make sure you come along with videos and pictures

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Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by CanadaOrBust: 6:00pm On Aug 23, 2020
emkz:


I am not in the business of convincing anyone. I make my piece and if someone is interested in refuting within reason, we can discuss and learn from each other, shake hands and move on. With your fixated mindset, you won't understand even if I explain to you that punishment is a manifestation of true love. Let's leave it at that until you can puncture my points with well reasoned and mature arguments. Then we can discuss.

U r the one fixated and unreasoning because u r afraid saying the truth: God does not love everybody; all mothers do not love all their children all the time

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Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by Juliusmomoh: 6:00pm On Aug 23, 2020
Karmatyra:
They didn't.
They didn't what ?
Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by Juliusmomoh: 6:00pm On Aug 23, 2020
Karmatyra:
They didn't.
They didn't what ?
Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by alllivesmatter(m): 6:01pm On Aug 23, 2020
UyaiIncomparabl:


Nope. Should be the other way round. Stop churning BS advice to suit your gender.

Uyai...are you from where I think you are ??
Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by Fxwarrior: 6:01pm On Aug 23, 2020
Klass99:


Like what pls? Educate me.

And recall I said Nengi had a good character in addition to her hot looks.

Who decides the character?

You or her guy?

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Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 6:02pm On Aug 23, 2020
noriene:
thanks im gradually getting over it, even though it has haualted my job fending for the baby has not been easy. it is well .
I can only imagine.
Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by smasher1(m): 6:02pm On Aug 23, 2020
Klass99:


I am not Nengi and character never hides itself, it always shows. I've been described as difficult and hard to please. So, if I say someone has a good character from assessments made, based on continuous interaction with them, you best believe me.

What I liked about Nengi was that, with all her beauty she wasn't arrogant or self conceited. She was in her prime with loads of boys/men chasing her but she maintained a level head, pleasant and decent persona.

Guy las las just say, you no get anything to talk and don't try to spin this around as ''only the people in a relationship knows who has good character'' People outside of a relationship can tell good character too.

You are totally wrong. Only a spouse knows their co spouse character. Neither parents or friends know the character of someone. They say if you want to know someone, live with them and husbands and wives know that well than anyone.

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Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by neonbash0: 6:02pm On Aug 23, 2020
pythondance2020:
Just before any relationship comes to an end, there are certain sure signs we begin to notice that the love is completely dead and there is nothing to hang on to anymore. This is a thread to help those in such relationships that are on the brink of collapse to have an idea so that they can brace themselves for life ahead.

Mine was within the first few months of my marriage, my wife suddenly became obstinate and started going to her parents house whenever we had an argument and would never call back till I called her to please come back and soon after she announced her plans to migrate to another country for good on one of those her return visits from her parents house.
At this point I realized I was alone and had to start planning my life ahead without her.

Please tell your experience, it may not necessarily be someone you were married to, any form of relationship would still fit in.
It could be an ex boyfriend/girlfriend, fiancee etc
Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by Fxwarrior: 6:03pm On Aug 23, 2020
eazzzy1:


Only the people in the relationship knows who has good character. Except maybe perhaps you happen to be Nengi.


Even if shes Nengi. She can't judge herself by herself.
Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by King123456: 6:04pm On Aug 23, 2020
Klass99:


What choice do any of us have in such a situation, except to move on? You wan kill the betrayers before? cheesy

Nengi is married now with kids of her own, but she told me years later that, that was her first and last heartbreak ever. She was the one breaking hearts afterwards. grin

As for Adams Oshiomole's lookalike and her cookies, I won't completely rule out jazz like others said. I wasn't exaggerating when I said she looks like Adams, she has his stature (short and masculine) with a slightly better looking face than Adams though.

What would make a man in his right thinking mind to give up a Nengi for Adams, if not jazz? grin

I have in the past giving up 'a Nengi' for an 'Oshiomole' and I had/have no regrets. As a woman you would easily think beauty is everything for every man but how wrong are you. I for one can't stand a girl that lacks control over her mouth. When I dumped a pretty ex she cried to my place when she found out I was with a very less attractive girl. She was screaming and asking me what I saw in 'that ugly girl'. My friends and hers asked the same and some said I was under a spell. A lazy girl that can talk is nothing in my books and I don't care if you had the beauty of Indians mixed with Porto Ricans.

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Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by poweredcom(m): 6:04pm On Aug 23, 2020
@womenareapes come and advise these fellas that naija gals ain't got love o

They won't hear word ...many naija girls have lost it finally

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Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by smasher1(m): 6:04pm On Aug 23, 2020
Eghavribiee:
When she stopped giving me sex

If it was sex, a woman or man can give you sex and kill you that night. That is not an indicator.

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Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by dhdeue(m): 6:06pm On Aug 23, 2020
Chiomatimo:
Wow, I really love her, everything was going on fine, I would have rounded up from uni but Corona kept me home, we visited each other, planned together, I was even raising money for a wedding in December before going back to school if school will eventually resume, I see don't know what happened, just started been cold towards me, picks her call anytime she wants, no more visits, I still don even go beg today, she nor even collect the gift wey I buy
I really love her
Let her be. Probably one Benefit boy(Young rich guy) is now in control. Don't force it or else you may regret later. You will be fine, do not worry, time heals everything.

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Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by Fxwarrior: 6:06pm On Aug 23, 2020
Klass99:


I am not Nengi and character never hides itself, it always shows. I've been described as difficult and hard to please. So, if I say someone has a good character from assessments made, based on continuous interaction with them, you best believe me.

What I liked about Nengi was that, with all her beauty she wasn't arrogant or self conceited. She was in her prime with loads of boys/men chasing her but she maintained a level head, pleasant and decent persona.

Guy las las just say, you no get anything to talk and don't try to spin this around as ''only the people in a relationship knows who has good character'' People outside of a relationship can tell good character too.

Be humble enough to learn. A fellow guy is telling you what's up. You still arguing.


Okay, continue.

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Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by Omotaday(m): 6:07pm On Aug 23, 2020
judedwriter:


I discovered that to truly love someone of the opposite sex, you must be good platonic (non sexual) friends for at least 1 year!

Dating is a SCAM! The sooner people know, the better for them.
This one is a hard test o grin
Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by abbey621(m): 6:07pm On Aug 23, 2020
In any situation you find yourself in life, always think about the worst case scenario. In relationships the one that has the most to lose usually hurts the most. Love is the key but peace is the goal, if the person you're with does not give you peace then he or she ain't worth it!

Ask yourself before you commit to anyone, WHAT IS THE WORST THAT CAN HAPPEN?

1. He/she leaves you?
2. He or she cheats on you?
3. He or she bankrupts you?
4. He or she kills you?

Once you have these scenario locked down and you envision what you can do to protect yourself against all or some of it, then you're golden! How do you do this?

1. While dating, look out for signs of rage, signs of not being content and signs of greed.
2. Check out family history, someone without a good upbringing or fear of papa or mama cannot make a good spouse.
3. Ensure there is a belief in God
4.If you do decide to marry, make sure you don't put all your hopes in him or her. Financially always have a Plan B, if you have kids make sure to get a DNA test done. When you marry, try to have children as quickly as possible, this often humbles people and erases doubts.

FINALLY, accEpt that NOTHING IS GUARANTEED IN LIFE except for DEATH, so if he or she leaves you, ACCEPT YOUR FATE & ON TO THE NEXT ONE grin grin

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Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by emkz: 6:08pm On Aug 23, 2020
CanadaOrBust:


U r the one fixated and unreasoning because u r afraid saying the truth: God does not love everybody; all mothers do not love all their children all the time

Apart from this time only, I shall respond subsequently when you start making sense as I do not want to derail this thread with you.
Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by Omotaday(m): 6:09pm On Aug 23, 2020
Peace666:
As soon as i told her that Iyabo doesn't look like me nor her.


She said i was accusing her of infidelity even though she had cheated on me in the past.

Please was i wrong to state my observation?
Have you carried out a DNA test or you are still waiting?

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Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by Tokenism: 6:09pm On Aug 23, 2020
pythondance2020:
Just before any relationship comes to an end, there are certain sure signs we begin to notice that the love is completely dead and there is nothing to hang on to anymore. This is a thread to help those in such relationships that are on the brink of collapse to have an idea so that they can brace themselves for life ahead.

Mine was within the first few months of my marriage, my wife suddenly became obstinate and started going to her parents house whenever we had an argument and would never call back till I called her to please come back and soon after she announced her plans to migrate to another country for good on one of those her return visits from her parents house.
At this point I realized I was alone and had to start planning my life ahead without her.

Please tell your experience, it may not necessarily be someone you were married to, any form of relationship would still fit in.
It could be an ex boyfriend/girlfriend, fiancee etc

Sorry bro, I feel your pain.
Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by spiceadole: 6:09pm On Aug 23, 2020
MISSCONGENIALITY:
The babe this what many girls get carried away by love and time spent then end up missing the perfect men for them while wasting their youthful hue on a school boyfriend who know deep down within that he will never marry her

Igbo girls are usually very smart about this.
They know the difference between boyfriend and husband..

Getting married is not dating ..Igbos generally marry very well based on recommendation(arrangee) and its cool as long as it works for them.

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Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by dingbang(m): 6:09pm On Aug 23, 2020
Fxwarrior:


I hope you won't mistake desperation for love.
Some women can act pass Genevieve.
I can smell desperation and I can smell love
Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by nonxo007(m): 6:09pm On Aug 23, 2020
Klass99:


What choice do any of us have in such a situation, except to move on? You wan kill the betrayers before? cheesy

Nengi is married now with kids of her own, but she told me years later that, that was her first and last heartbreak ever. She was the one breaking hearts afterwards. grin

As for Adams Oshiomole's lookalike and her cookies, I won't completely rule out jazz like others said. I wasn't exaggerating when I said she looks like Adams, she has his stature (short and masculine) with a slightly better looking face than Adams though.

What would make a man in his right thinking mind to give up a Nengi for Adams, if not jazz? grin
Well to me I believe every man knows what he wants and at the end goes for it. It could be that he saw a wife in "Adams Oshiomole", something he didn't see in Nengi that's why he settled with "Adams". Marriage isn't all about beauty, but a person who would give you peace of mind. I believe that's what the guy went for. My thought though.

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Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by Johnny4President: 6:10pm On Aug 23, 2020
SPOLO:
When she start missing my calls without trying to flash nor call me back..

Last one as i notice i just stopped communicating too na so e end...

Dx days she still say Hi sha ....
i'v been there bro. embarassed

heartbroken, but i moved wink
Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by CanadaOrBust: 6:11pm On Aug 23, 2020
Palema007:
If your partner stop loving you, he or she never really loved you. Love don't die.

Another falacy. Genuine love can die and even turn to hate for all sorts of reasons

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Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by jeff1607(m): 6:12pm On Aug 23, 2020
Slimsly100:
Omo! Na shock I shock the guy Las Las. I had been heartbroken before and I almost died(my mum and friend were my godsent) so I didn't want to experience such again. Though I loved the new guy and we dated for almost four years. But in the third year he started to jonce, I approached him severally and he boldly told me he had 3women in his life and each had his purpose. When I ask what my purpose was, he gave me the silent treatment. After thinking about how he had been disrespectful to me and so many things, I pulled myself together and moved on without even telling him.
The next thing he heard was that I was getting married


imagine if your husband sees this , that's if you are truly married ,there are things better left unsaid
Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 6:12pm On Aug 23, 2020
spiceadole:


Igbo girls are usually very smart about this.
They know the difference between boyfriend and husband..

Getting married is not dating ..Igbos generally marry very well based on recommendation(arrangee) and its cool as long as it works for them.
90% of the arrangee marriages work out just fine.

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Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 6:13pm On Aug 23, 2020
dingbang:
I am the one that always grow cold in all my relationships so let me sit down and school you ladies ...


Try get sense


Be hardworking.


Sex is not everything, think of business ideas and work hard to create something.

Act like a lady and think like a man! Yeah!

Even with that, you still go on every thread writing "I am looking for a wife between the ages of 21-27. grin. One would think that with your badass style of how you grew cold on your girls, more girls will come kneeling at your presence asking for marriage, but shamefully, it's the other way round.

How ironic for a self-acclaimed relationship counselor and NL Alpha male to go that low, after you grew cold on each of them.

Everyone is now a relationship counselor these days. cheesy

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Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by CanadaOrBust: 6:15pm On Aug 23, 2020
emkz:


Apart from this time only, I shall respond subsequently when you start making sense as I do not want to derail this thread with you.

God gave u a brain. Start using it. Stop being a religious robot who mindlessly repeat everything he is told, even when evidence to the contrary is starring u right in the face!

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Re: When Did You Realize Your Spouse Stopped Loving You? by austinofo(m): 6:16pm On Aug 23, 2020
UyaiIncomparabl:


Nope. Should be the other way round. Stop churning BS advice to suit your gender.
That's no bs but facts

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