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Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by SmartyPants(m): 1:26pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Obinnau: Lol. What do you think happens in this "abroad"? 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Royalfurnitures: 1:26pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
For fear that you'd be asking them for money as most Nigerians have this mentality that once someone travels abroad,he/she will start swimming in money . Your home is incomplete without good quality furniture thats why we are here for you 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by panama789: 1:27pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Some of us even travel abroad and flex them..dont let anyone deceive u..Some re not better off than u! 7 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Auxtin85(m): 1:27pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Because e nor easy abroad either, my bestie from high school traveled in 2006, he sent me money on two different occasions and stopped communicating with me, i felt bad. Another one left in 2012 and also stopped communicating with me, I thought they were too much of themselves cos they have left Nigeria. When I left Naija in 2013 that was when I realized it wasn’t their fault. E nor easy anywhere 20 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by xtervaganza(m): 1:27pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
SoccerUSA:it's because you're broke or should I say you don't have enough money. If you have money you won't even have time for them. And you know one thing about money? Nobody ignores money 5 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Nobody: 1:28pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
I had three friends, and they didn't ignore me. One even called to inform me on the day he graduated from his master's program. I think it's best you give them space when they travel to settle down and then they can contact you or you contact them months later. Have some pride. 22 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by PureGoldh(m): 1:29pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
SoccerUSA: Lwkmd...you can't compare life here with life over there.....the difference is clear |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Comedian2019: 1:29pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
kellycute:Do you want him to tell you he's full whereas he is hungry? |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Nobody: 1:30pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Life abroad is not that Rosy. There's no time for idleness either |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Harmlesspill(m): 1:30pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Etinosa1234:. Life no be competition!! Live your life the way God created you. No be everybody Wey go abroad dey make am! 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by EgunMogaji2: 1:30pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
SoccerUSA: Though not your intention but he’s expecting the conversation to turn to begibegi at any moment. As hundreds of conversations before yours. My suggestion is to just be yourself. Say hello to him when you feel like it. Him not responding is not your issue. Are you religious and post Jesus stuff all the time? Do you post happy new month all the time? Do you share chain emails such as like this post and share to three people or you’ll die? I can tell you that I don’t take anyone like that seriously too. On another note, maybe it’s age but I’m looking for all my old friends and coworkers. Some need to get rewarded, those whose parents always fed us and gave small small changes back then. 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by duality(m): 1:30pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
When billing done too much. When some people call to greet you, you go run. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by kingsolomonjnr01(m): 1:30pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
optimusprime2: Still not a reason to forget ur bestie... I sincerely think is about ur personality. Mostly egoistic kind of human does that 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Pearly255(f): 1:31pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Inferiority complex dey worry them They feel they’ve arrived Some go even unfollow you for Instagram 5 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by emkz: 1:32pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
I remember when I was abroad. I was chatting one friend (who was also abroad in Eastern Europe). He ignored my chats thinking I was in Gabon. So I hailed him and mentioned the country I was in. He jumped into the conversation as if the doors of opportunity had opened for him. He was now the one chatting and I wanted to ignore. Some people abroad see their folks back home as leeches. And the folks at home contribute to this narrative. When I arrived newly and was lonely, I called someone I was close to, just to gossip, and the person asked for money I didn't have use for. A whole $100 for someone not working then. This was when I was still converting money in my head before spending. And this incident caused me not to contact that person again. There were also friends from secondary school who stayed in touch and never demanded anything. They'd check up on my mum and attend family occasions including my sisters' and brothers' weddings that I couldn't afford to attend. Those are the real friends and if I had money then, those are the ones I'd have given even without their asking. Not someone who'd contact you just to ask for assistance for his wedding. PS: So if you have folks abroad, use your credit to call them, give them your time, tell them about home gossip. If there is someone travelling abroad, grind crayfish, melon and ogbono and send. My sister sewed clothes for me and bedsheets and sent them by post. She also gave me a loan of 400k when I was broke. Tell me, why would I cut off from her if she was a friend? If you want to gain from a relationship, invest in the relationship. Everyone is struggling not only you. And please, if you must ask for money from someone abroad, ask for money to enrol for a professional course, purchase a generator for your barbing salon and contribute towards starting a bakery or purchasing a bus for interstate transport with the promise to pay back in a year. PLEASE, I beg you, don't ever ask for money to buy Brazilian hair or change your wardrobe or purchase DSTv or purchase the latest phone or pay your children's fees. Those demands are irritating and shows someone without class. And if you are given or not, be grateful and stay in touch. Someone complained here that after giving, he didn't hear from the takers until they needed to take again. Why won't he cut off? 36 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Nobody: 1:32pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Sweetness4:Haha but you do it to men too. |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Nobody: 1:33pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Petyprincess:I think I like this one 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by womenareapes: 1:33pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
SoccerUSA:shut up! we know you are looking for visa and how to get ya miserable arss outa this country hence the checking on them go check on your Nigeria friends. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Ibechris2: 1:34pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Friendship is by choice and whoever ignores u,should as well be ignored. Many abroad guys are not finding it easy all we talk about is; the guy no wan help,na wah oh. But for a fact,most guys in Nigeria are terrible beggars everything about them is hello,bros I need ur help oh kai Buhari wan kill us. Pls find me something to survive on. How can any sane man maintain such friends who are always demanding,demanding and demanding all because they are ur friends. What an unproductive friend! 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Whiteangel1234: 1:34pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
1-- Abroad is a constant stress your head works like clock trying to get many things done and responsibility 2-- Idle chat Irritate me personally I have block many friends just for asking HOW IS YOUR DAY , HOW YOUR NIGHT , HOW BUSINESS ? On a daily basis as if they are police i have to report my activities to WTF!! how is my night suppose to be ? Nobi to sleep and wake up ? 3--Personally I need positive vibes if your discussion does not add to me as in talking business deal on how to make more money but you constantly come to my inbox to complain how things are bad in Nigeria , how everything have slow down , I will either ignore or give you straight blocking . I don't need to hear or care about your problems i have mine to worry about 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by MajohBankz: 1:34pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
SoccerUSA:Sometimes, it's not an attitude thing but just a part of human composition. There are some that would leave your town but stay in the same state and you'll loose communication not because they chose to but because you're gradually fading from their consciousness and they've met new persons. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by 8stargeneral: 1:35pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
kellycute:Hahaha....baddest. |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by greggng: 1:35pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
I did everything a good friend can do for someone hevcares for. Took her like my sister ...I don't even know the colours of her pant let alone having sex with her even when people believed we have been sleeping with each other cos of the closeness. One day I accompanied her to a wedding where she met a USA soldier that eventually married her....the USA soldier is a Nigerian. When her visa is out, we both jubiliated and even went to market together to buy everything she needed for the trip ...she got to USA and called me for 15mins and we both were happy cos her dream came through .we did chat a few times ...suddenly , I noticed she stopped chatting ...even when my house caught fire , I sent her the pic and she didn't respond ...for me I u derstand she is married now ....I decided to stay on my lane....I am not pained but still don't understand why people suddenly change ...but she is still my friend anytime any day 17 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Mac2016(m): 1:36pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
kellycute:Many Nigerians are so disappointing tho but the truth is that being abroad doesn't make the abroadians richer than their 9ja friends they could seek help from if need be. Relationship is key but for me it's never by force! 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Mrcomputeru: 1:37pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
I am abroad, I have a few good friends in Nigeria, I still talk very well with the ones that understand i don't have enough yet because of expenses, but i have stopped chatting with those that continously ask for money with every opportunity they have, they ALWAYS complain about hard life, they dont care if I've even paid my rent sef 7 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by kunle75(m): 1:37pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
SoccerUSA: You're not jobless but like the man said, I can relate and you should know what I mean by that. From day one if your friends either of them didn't come into US with residents permit, they will to have work extra harder to get work permit and engage in all sorts of menial jobs which sometimes might not come cheap due to distance and location which they don't have any option than to jump at it in other to keep up with bills and also body and soul together. All that said , here in the states no body not even your family will help with a penny.And moreover you have a lot of aspirations that can not be achieved until you are a legal residents, they just might be leaving in fears and also immigration employs Nigerians who are also members of many forums here and are watching every thing people does or type. They will want to pipe low in other not to ruin their chances in the event they end up filling for their applications to remain permanent here, infact the hurdles is endless. All these put together are many of the numerous challenges that wont allows some of them to even remember their social media page talkless of calling please be patient with them or wait till you arrive here yourself. That is my little opinion. 7 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by sonofthunder: 1:38pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
SoccerUSA: My friend kpele oh..... Me self weak for this one. Just focus on yourself and other great relationship(s) you currently have. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by MrBigiman: 1:39pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
People travel abroad, and people that were never really close to them start inferring false closeness. Time zones, a difference in work demands, and trying to meet up with the many bills, and the expectation of family may make people respond less promptly to you when they travel abroad. Also a shift in paradigm, and mindset, may also reduce the percieved closeness. On the flip side, many abroad unintentionally have a false sense of security that they are now better off, and burn bridges with their old friends, confidants, and acquaintances. In the end life is a marathon race, and seemingly being ahead is just an edge, the future holds much more for everyone that endures, even a 3rd rated on his first lap if he keeps moving steadily no matter what part of the world he is situated or the resources at his disposal can make satisfactory progress and quantum leaps. Success is sure if we take intentional steps one day at a time. I know this because I spent so much time working, that I hardly took cognizance of what's going on in other peoples life. We must all be rich Bigiman 10 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Mac2016(m): 1:40pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
greggng:Imagine! She may think she's better than you now and eyes you condescendingly. Na their way... I naturally tend to ignore all my abroadian friends unless they are keen to keep our friendship. We see abroad as an achievement in Nigeria. That's the mentality with most Nigerians.. Beg beg from people wey dey Nigeria also make abroadians distant themselves from Nigerians. Its their bizness abeg! 7 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by toluleke(m): 1:41pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
When you begin beg too much. Imagine a friend you haven't spoken to for 3years and the first thing he ask you is to send him money. Most guys in yankee work their ass off while some will be here waiting to beg.. if giver no use sense give beggar go first am build house 7 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Goodnigga: 1:41pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
uboma:u self gbagaun.“ beggar” not “ begger” 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Patrix01: 1:41pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
I have lived in the UK for over 10yrs and I must say my close friends are my childhood friends, most of them live in Nigeria. We still catch up on different stuff, I try my best to assist financially when I can. However, there are some friends who only contact me when they need financial assistance, I don't see them as genuine friends. 10 Likes 1 Share |
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