SoccerUSA:
As seen in the topic, I have two friends that travelled to the U.S, One travelled 2014 and the other one 2017, though before they left we had a good vibes we were both close if not best friends before they left.

The one of 2014 stopped texting me at 2018 or so even when I wished him birthday wishes and same with the other. I knew this because I only texted them on Facebook and you will know when they read and not reply.

I don't hold any grudges against them though
Did you guys think it's normal? Like if I leave Nigeria, Would I also ignore my friends text even if they do not request anything from me?

Please can someone just explain to me so I won't see my friends (maybe former friends) as bad ones.

humilitypays:
It is more common among ladies.


Guys only ignore their friends in Nigeria when they travel abroad mostly if their friend in Nigeria is broke and not doing well financially in Nigeria.


If your friends abroad see you as a burden or if they feel you are broke and struggling financially, most will ignore you because they are scared you would start asking them for financial favors which they believe they labored so much to make $1 and therefore no person deserves a dime from their sweat, poverty mentality



Another reason is, life abroad is hard, some work 14 hours, 16 hours, 18 hours a day to meet up several obligations and be able to save to send back to Nigeria for investment or family projects, so that hour they spend at work changes their normal good mood and turn them to angry people who now feel that people in Nigeria are Lady and idle while they work their ass off, but as stupid as some of them think, they forget many Nigerians in Nigeria are ready to even work 24hrs but they can't even see any job to do.



lastly, those were never your true friends. Anyway, ladies are never true friends to their fellow ladies sha, na competition friends ladies are to their fellow ladies.


99% of my friends live abroad, but they know I can be in that country they are any moment I wish if not for Covid-19, so they no born them well not to call me in a week, not even me calling or texting them, na me de form busy for them cos I am truly very busy more than coca cola production line



So my dear face your life, once your financial life becomes sweet or once u marry a well to do man like us, na those your friends go se rush you oh cos you will be going on vacation and returning back to Naija at your own will

otipoju:
First of all...the time difference. Some of my very stupid friends will be chatting or calling me at 2 am after I have explained severally that Nigeria is most times five hours ahead of me and it's best we talk on the weekends. Last last the whole talk will boil down to come and give me money.

Secondly... the mindset, the western world is not a laid back environment..you are constantly on your feet working to pay your bills and thinking of taking advantage of the next opportunity so you dont get left behind . "Abeg sir"no dey there if you fail to pay on the due date, you get a penalty fee which you must pay. If you dont they disconnect the service. End of story.

Compare this to Nigeria where men can chill every evening after work with beer or soccer and party every weekend until maybe 3 months to pay the annual rent then you begin hustle the money to pay rent..and can owe nepa for 9 months sef. If dem cut light,you tap from your neighbour.

Lastly most Nigerians just want to beg for money whether they are in need or not. Some if you dare give them once dem go open office for your head. Them no get shame and na to dey carry real and imaginary problem come every month or three months. No self respect...when you compare that begi begi mindset with that of the west where everyone is self dependent you'll understand why your friends or relatives eventually ghost you.

I have a relative who will be sending me prayer and happy new month messages. Every 3 month he will always have one problem or project that needs support.

Recently I decided to borrow him money instead of the usual give. 3 weeks turned into three months. Na so so excuse every month. Not paid back one kobo.

Last week the person had the guts to send the proposal of a business plan along with voice note that he needs my support. Meanwhile there is a group that we are both on that he does not know that I am on as well that where he was suggesting to them that they contribute money for independence day party.

I just shook my head and blocked his number.

EVILFOREST:

The TRUTH is
The moment you arrive a country like the United States..... especially for the First Time, you will need time to learn a lot of things.
Most especially the LAWLESSNESS you carry with you must be dropped at the Nigerian Airport.
Never Never Never think of carrying that along with you, else Nigeria will be like Paradise 4u.
So, your FRIENDS need time to adjust since we have been exposed to such Life back home.

Again, Most Immigrants from Developing Nations go back to school.... which comes with so much commitment.
Again, there are a lot of BILLS to be paid in the United States and for your Information you can't cheat them or evade anyone.
Yes! everything is provided 4, but u must pay for them.
And when it's your RIGHT to receive your benefits from the GOVERNMENT u will receive such without putting up a single fight.

So your FRIENDS must WORK to Pay their BILLS.
There are lots of JOBS, but they must WORK to earn.
I used to think people in the United States don't work that much until I relocated too.

Dey work more dan those in most parts of the WORLD.
When I first came, I was paying monthly rent of 550k Naira equivalent and u must be seeing to be paying that few hours to the expiration of the previous one.
U don't owe in the US...
People believe you have got a JOB and there are Jobs for real.

In a NUTSHELL, your FRIENDS do not HATE you neither have they deserted you.
They just need your PRAYERS, PATIENCE and SPACE. PEOPLE don't pluck money in the United States, they work and toil for it.

abdul824:
Distance usually have a bad toll on relationships. you communicate more with those around you, most of us here are leaving in cities, when last did you have a 5 minutes long conversation over the phone with a kin in the village? you see! they are now replaced by neighbors and colleagues from work place.. it's just life, not hard feelings.

Adex2442:


Are u saying there are alot of jobs in the US??
Jobs available for anyone who wants to work?

Beautyaddy:



lol!...I have never heard that though

Or is it because the US is Immigrant friendly to people from most Third World Countries?

I guess Trump was right when he was lamenting that the US has been overused by Immigrants from most Shithole Countries especially from Africa...and that it's about time the US makes their Immigration System to be more Merit Base than low class of family chain migration.

As for the Healthcare system not being universal in the US that might be changing soon hopeful if the Democrats get power in majority to make that happen.

Those Europeans Countries you listed you claim have Universal Healthcare...is it free? Or aren't they paying for all those free social services with very high taxes.

But on a more Serious Note unless all those people who came up with that foolish name against the US ARE ALL HIGH CLASS IGNORANT AND JEALOUS FOOLS.

All those Countries you listed up there are all Obsolutely Nothing Without the US.

They Should all go read about the Post 2nd World War Treaties and what each of those Countries Especially Germany had to sign before they became what they are today.

Naijaforeigner:


Brachaa how have you been? Longest time.

Just checking up.

SoccerUSA:
As seen in the topic, I have two friends that travelled to the U.S, One travelled 2014 and the other one 2017, though before they left we had a good vibes we were both close if not best friends before they left.

The one of 2014 stopped texting me at 2018 or so even when I wished him birthday wishes and same with the other. I knew this because I only texted them on Facebook and you will know when they read and not reply.

I don't hold any grudges against them though
Did you guys think it's normal? Like if I leave Nigeria, Would I also ignore my friends text even if they do not request anything from me?

Please can someone just explain to me so I won't see my friends (maybe former friends) as bad ones.

SweetCunt97:
Stingy man. Will it kill u to send her something?

humilitypays:
lies from the pit of hell!! If I wooz you eh, u go stop that lies u are telling there, nansense

For your jnfky, I have friends who are Doctors in UK, Australia, very busy schedule, some in the US military, some nurses, and still they make out time to call me or WhatsApp or Facebook, so who u be , its all about money, if your friends in Nigeria are doing better than u abroad u will be the one connecting back to them.



If El Rufai son or Buhari's son or Rochas Okorocha's son is your friend in Nigeria and you are in US working hourly job, will you ignore his message if he wishes you happy birthday, swear it, ode



Na fear of poverty, once a poor Nigerian person travels abroad, he or she feels he has escaped poverty by the grace of God and therefore must avoid any poor or struggling person (friend oh, relative oh) from Nigeria


Its all about the money, get money and the world is yours no matter where you are, Baba God I thank you so much for your blessings in my life, I wonder how people for de treat me


To all the broke and struggling people out there reading this, don't give up, God will reward your hardwork, keep on working and keep planning and dreaming big, just time.


But when you make it in Nigeria or travel abroad, don't be like those mumu people abroad op is talking about, be a difference.


I speak what I am doing. I am a blessing to all my friends home and abroad and even those in the village and I want to even become more blessing to more, so help me God!

humilitypays:
lies from the pit of hell!! If I wooz you eh, u go stop that lies u are telling there, nansense

For your jnfky, I have friends who are Doctors in UK, Australia, very busy schedule, some in the US military, some nurses, and still they make out time to call me or WhatsApp or Facebook, so who u be , its all about money, if your friends in Nigeria are doing better than u abroad u will be the one connecting back to them.



If El Rufai son or Buhari's son or Rochas Okorocha's son is your friend in Nigeria and you are in US working hourly job, will you ignore his message if he wishes you happy birthday, swear it, ode



Na fear of poverty, once a poor Nigerian person travels abroad, he or she feels he has escaped poverty by the grace of God and therefore must avoid any poor or struggling person (friend oh, relative oh) from Nigeria


Its all about the money, get money and the world is yours no matter where you are, Baba God I thank you so much for your blessings in my life, I wonder how people for de treat me


To all the broke and struggling people out there reading this, don't give up, God will reward your hardwork, keep on working and keep planning and dreaming big, just time.


But when you make it in Nigeria or travel abroad, don't be like those mumu people abroad op is talking about, be a difference.


I speak what I am doing. I am a blessing to all my friends home and abroad and even those in the village and I want to even become more blessing to more, so help me God!

SoccerUSA:
As seen in the topic, I have two friends that travelled to the U.S, One travelled 2014 and the other one 2017, though before they left we had a good vibes we were both close if not best friends before they left.

The one of 2014 stopped texting me at 2018 or so even when I wished him birthday wishes and same with the other. I knew this because I only texted them on Facebook and you will know when they read and not reply.

I don't hold any grudges against them though
Did you guys think it's normal? Like if I leave Nigeria, Would I also ignore my friends text even if they do not request anything from me?

Please can someone just explain to me so I won't see my friends (maybe former friends) as bad ones.

SoccerUSA:
As seen in the topic, I have two friends that travelled to the U.S, One travelled 2014 and the other one 2017, though before they left we had a good vibes we were both close if not best friends before they left.

The one of 2014 stopped texting me at 2018 or so even when I wished him birthday wishes and same with the other. I knew this because I only texted them on Facebook and you will know when they read and not reply.

I don't hold any grudges against them though
Did you guys think it's normal? Like if I leave Nigeria, Would I also ignore my friends text even if they do not request anything from me?

Please can someone just explain to me so I won't see my friends (maybe former friends) as bad ones.

heendrix:


The guy is just so funny cause when he should be proud is when he's attain the rank of a major or Lt.Col atleast

one thing I've learnt bout Life is Don't kick the ladder away that carried you up. The guy that helped me reach where I am today is a friend that never went to University, while I was in the university but I never looked down on him I would always even go to visit him at home and today after school who would ever believe he'll be the one to help me

You can see this life is indeed not balanced

SoccerUSA:
As seen in the topic, I have two friends that travelled to the U.S, One travelled 2014 and the other one 2017, though before they left we had a good vibes we were both close if not best friends before they left.

The one of 2014 stopped texting me at 2018 or so even when I wished him birthday wishes and same with the other. I knew this because I only texted them on Facebook and you will know when they read and not reply.

I don't hold any grudges against them though
Did you guys think it's normal? Like if I leave Nigeria, Would I also ignore my friends text even if they do not request anything from me?

Please can someone just explain to me so I won't see my friends (maybe former friends) as bad ones.

SoccerUSA:
As seen in the topic, I have two friends that travelled to the U.S, One travelled 2014 and the other one 2017, though before they left we had a good vibes we were both close if not best friends before they left.

The one of 2014 stopped texting me at 2018 or so even when I wished him birthday wishes and same with the other. I knew this because I only texted them on Facebook and you will know when they read and not reply.

I don't hold any grudges against them though
Did you guys think it's normal? Like if I leave Nigeria, Would I also ignore my friends text even if they do not request anything from me?

Please can someone just explain to me so I won't see my friends (maybe former friends) as bad ones.

Obinnau:

I am in Nigeria, I haven't traveled. But I have received the same treatment from friends that have traveled. One way to look at it is to put yourself in the shoes if people outside the country.
A lot of people will usually use the guise of checking up on them to 'bill' them. Also there is a reason why they went to the abroad in the first place and it's usually overwhelming to adjust to the new place and still keep up with others.
What I would advice you to do is to leave them a voice message or call directly if you can afford it. Well... That's the way I handle my own business

domino4211:

Could be because of your bad grammar..
If I had a friend who speaks or types like you do,I will stop replying them too..

ekerintee:
Imagine somebody waking up as early as 3am to go to work and after closing from first work goes to another work .comes home exhausted and his phone is filled with messages that can give high blood pressure.i need this,we want that,so most people generally want to avoid dying early.The stress is much abroad,why most Nigerians are sleeping,some are already at work ,so I think that most Nigerians abroad are careful in giving out numbers,I see messages on my phone but I reply very important once when am free,not replying mesages does not mean the person hate you but he or she is not in the position to answer at that moment or in the mood.i hold my friends high wether in Nigeria or anywhere ,if you are a friend and send message ,I reply when free.








quote author=Brachaa post=93564498]Busy schedule plus the time zone are different. Like America is 7 hours ahead ( i think) of Nigeria. So, when you're awake, they are sleeping and when you're sleeping, they are busy round the clock with 5 to 6 jobs to be able to meet up with bills.

adahgold:
Truth be told all these excuse like time difference and all that, a true true friend will always check on you no matter how stressed they are! Do they think we are not stressed here in naija too? One of my friend in uni those days we stayed in one room from 100- 200 level after NYSC he travelled abroad and blocked me on all social media. Let me be clear I'm financially OK. So is a personality thing. That same guy wanted some thing after some years he wanted me to help him he then unblocked me, I read his messages but never replied he is still saying sorry till date I read and I will not replied he went to the extent of chatting my other friends up to plead with me I told them I have moved on so they should help me tell him that. Truth be told if any of your friends ignore you today please ignore that person that's life for you. True friends will never get stressed up for replying or checking up on you. Are they trying to tell us they don't have phones or check there social media? Who ignore you ignore the person jare no time to say no time.