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Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Nobody: 4:48pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
optimusprime2:All this your long grammar there's nothing tangible in it, someone that want to talk to you would do so after the person has settled for some time. My cousin traveled to the UK for masters degree, at first I had to allow him settle for some time before I talked to him. I bet you, USA is even better, in the UK like England you would be forced to pay tax through your teeth. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by olujastro: 4:50pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
It's our mindset. Both Nigerians in Nigeria and those abroad have succeeded in creating an impression that people abroad are better than those in Nigeria. Thus, living abroad is now something to brag about or raise shoulders for. I've heard someone say, "that guy used to be the best in our class...but today, I live in the US while he's in Nigeria." And I was like what When I was in Nigeria, I was working and earning well, but as a somewhat low key guy, people were not asking me for money as they couldn't tell I had a lot of it. But once I moved to Europe for my masters, see begging for money eh! From ordinary student oh! I had to leave Facebook and Instagram for them. As a real nigga, I still keep in touch with my very good friends and update them with what I'm up to in life here. And when I'm in Naija, I call them to hang out and enjoy their company. Ps: If you want to have a good relationship with your friends abroad, show interest in their wellbeing and discuss possible opportunities with them, instead of appearing like a money beggar to them. 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Cashio(m): 4:51pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Obinnau:baba..lie as Bleep 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by omomummy13: 4:53pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
SoccerUSA: 3 jobs on a roll, 7 days a week, direct debits coming in at the end of the month (power, water, phone, internet, etc), income tax, road tax, tv license, council tax and even black tax sef. G, abroad nor be beans, they are simply fighting their own battles. Since Nigerians generally assume you are well off after travelling overseas, nobody has the time to shalaye. You need an insider to tell you that In Nigeria, you can owe for some of this services, over there it is practically impossible. 8 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Nobody: 4:53pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
greggng:Wife od a military man? Do you know if the husband stopped her from chatting with any man,? You can't blame her 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by RTSC: 4:53pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Some people are wired like that. Just bad attitude. Even in Nigeria, some people get a good job and suddenly become unresponsive. it is the same thing. There was a school colleague that got a job in an oil servicing company right from college. He didnt even serve. The company sent him abroad for training. When he got back, I sent him messages on facebook and linkedin, he won't reply. This was a guy that beg either raw garri or soup from me very often while in the university, which i always oblige him. People just have bad character. 8 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by LyfeJennings(m): 4:56pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Oga go and hustle so U too can ignore them 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by chubinwa(m): 4:57pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Obinnau:This comment reeks of grand delusion and imaginary hullabaloo. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by LUCASC(m): 4:59pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
It depends on the person, I have friends who traveled abroad and when i chat them up they don't reply, I have friends who always call me on video calls and chats as well they stay abroad as well, coming to what Mr poster said, probably the person doesn't want your friendship again it's normal bro, I have even family members who are way more successful than I am even as they stay in Nigeria they snub me for no reason I live with it, not everyone will turn out to be your friend time will decide that for you, you ought to have known that by now. So don't get embarrassed just focus on your self God go surely bless you. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by ogongogames(m): 4:59pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Let me add my opinion to the matter. I am born and raised in the UK. I lived in Nigeria for about year in life for NYSC. I am still in contact with many of the friends made during that time but let me be honest. 99% make contact when they need money. Now, I have no hard feelings but in can be quite tiring, so some may be trying to avoid that conversation. Some genuinely don't make the time. This was the biggest adjustment when I lived in Nigeria, I felt Nigerians were laid back in their interactions. I thought they didn't value time. I am so used to planning my daily schedule to the minute which makes me quite inflexible. I don't have time for 20 mins phone call, or WhatsApp chats that are not productive. I think that once some Nigerians arrive abroad, they naturally fall into that lifestyle. I have extended family in the UK that I only speak to occasionally. I have an Uncle in the same UK who I haven't seen in 2 years or so. Doesn't me that we don't care for each other but the social life dynamics are different to Nigeria. 9 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by faceland: 5:00pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
They are in another world and preoccupied with challenges you can not relate to. They have grown apart from you so talking to you is like a task Although, if they hear you are doing well, they would have time for you. |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Cashio(m): 5:01pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
it's all about mindset. No one is so busy 24 hours a day. I've got friends who kept in touch after travelling and those who never contacted afterwards. stuff is, if I contact you as friend once or twice and get no response, no more. 7 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Temitopemo6e6(m): 5:03pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Petyprincess:na your papa born you |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by RTSC: 5:03pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
LyfeJennings:I have ignored one in canada. Blocked him completly. This guy went to canada and stopped picking calls. He was sending money home to build a house without realising that the brother was lavishing half and then using half for the building. When he found out, he started trying to reach me through someone else so that I can help him oversee the project. I told him to go to hell and don't call me again. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by abovecomsmyhelp: 5:05pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Abroad is a secret society and nobody can completely tell you what they are seeing or going through, tell SoccerUSA: 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by boookworm: 5:11pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Sometimes it's just plain pride. Some think they are better than you now that they are abroads and think u are now useless to them 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by CaseSensitive(m): 5:12pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
onyechez: What are you trying to arrive at? Referring to the bolded, settling takes a lot longer than just unpacking your bag and absorbing the "western breeze". And I assume they don't pay tax in Wales, Scotland and Northern Ireland but England? Finally what is tangible in your response? 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by greggng: 5:27pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
anastasius: To be honest with I am not pained in anyways ...I believe the man changed her. Let me give you one example , one day she begged me to take her to a gym place so that she can work on her body ...when I parked my car in front of her house ,I realise I had a flat tire....I started changing it ...suddenly , I saw her videoing me . I shouted at her and demanded reason why she is doing that ...she told me she is on video chat with the husband ....May be the man wasn't happy with the way I got angry over that act . Another incident was when the husband was shouting at her for allowing me take all her plate to my house ....yes she use to make sure I am well fed....she cares for me so much...that was why i had to stick out my neck to ensure she is okay ....The only thing we didn't do was sex but every other thing we did like brothers and sisters should do......I don't regret anything but I am not making any further contact 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Litmus: 5:33pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
SoccerUSA: Abroad aint as rosy as too many Nigerians make out: When the generic mate finally reaches abroad he or she discovers this and immediately realises and finds out practically later that he or she wouldn’t be able to keep the promises he/she made to everyone in Nigeria during the happy bright days of learning he/she is due or has qualified to go abroad. The typical Nigerian wants to help as much people as he/she can, whether it be dolling out advice, sharing stuff or dashing you things. The generic mate type would promise to work and send money home to family as well as promise to help his mates make it abroad too so that you and them could roll together. They and pals back home were going to live in the same house abroad, save money, study, do business, hang out with foreign boys and girls, buy flash cars, do this do that. Unfortunately abroad is a tightly run ship, very lean and mean, places where even something like luck, which is free in Nigeria and can strike anyone at any time, is controlled. For instance Lottery winners are likelier to come from areas where white people live because the Lottery is partly controlled in order to sanction freewheeling luck. In any case, given these realities – the half of it which I have not even touched – the beauty withers in the hearts of your freinds like autumn leaves hurled in wondering circles by cold reality. This friends learning that they will be of no help to you in Nigeria, they gradually decide not to keep up contacts. They know in their harts that keeping up chatty dialogue with you back home is ultimately pointless because what you in Nigeria really want is for your friend abroad to honour promises made. The tale of dashed hopes is as old as the hills as encapsulated in the line, ‘best laid plans of mice and men’. In the promises we make to others and ourselves before we step abroad, we are all Lennie Small. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Nobody: 5:39pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
RTSC:Like you would not cheat him too like his brother 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Ifesantos22: 5:48pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Sweetness4: Cos he must remember the yahoo guys in your group chat...naso life be. Work hard..God will do it .. |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by otokx(m): 5:49pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
What a thread? |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Ifesantos22: 5:50pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Etinosa1234: Bana God will do it..... |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by busomma: 5:50pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Stress of settling down in a totally different environment & work. Most Nigerian employees do all sorts of things while at work like answering ur fones & seating down for long doing nothing. Answering ur calls after some warnings from ur supervisor leads to firing. Meanwhile u hv bills due every month. Now u know. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Bennysam: 5:52pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
heendrix:If you haven't travel before , shut up |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by maasoap(m): 5:53pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
[s] EVILFOREST:[/s] You typed this after reading different posts here, it's either you're not listening to people or you're just a plain hypocrite |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Bennysam: 5:53pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Petyprincess:You are a complete lair my friend |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Bennysam: 5:55pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
SoccerUSA:Don't believe this trash, never call or don't reply doesn't show anything if you travel you will do the same thing 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Nobody: 5:59pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Bennysam:Lair means something else. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by SweetCunt97(f): 6:02pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
kellycute:OH well, u know her well and shouldn't b surprised. |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by vioment: 6:03pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
This is a good thread. Why dem no go run from beggars Association. Correct countries run from beggar countries. How many countries can Sierra Leone call their friends. |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by olajide21: 6:04pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
heendrix: So you think leaving outside Nigeria makes them way ahead of those leaving in Naija.? Mbanu! |
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