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ibechris:
Why can't she politely tell the guy say she no want any relationship rather than trashing the guy.

The girl messed up.

Big time, she should not have given him her number. But another thing self is that if she did not give him op might still come to NL to disturb. I as a guy don't like the way Nigerian men just walk up to a girl you don't know at all and collect number, what sort of thing is that?

Account2Many:
yes because i can't fathom how she would reject me cos I possessed all the features.
She's a hardcore lesbian. why would she turn down a Date at one of the most beautiful and expensive sit out?

You possessed what....

Fvck mehnnnnnnn

Listen up OP ,
Do you know that girls who forms hard to get are the sweetest to fvck in the oza room?

Step up your game , the man fvcking her might not even be up to your standard

Ensure you fvck that girl oooo, hope she get big breast cuz I no they use big breast play mehnnnnnnnnnnnn

Eya sorry about dat

Account2Many:
I met this pretty tall and gorgeous looking girl 3 months ago, we exchanged numbers but she hasn't been calling which is a sure sign that she isn't into me and I understood.
I'm the only one that has been doing all the calls and checking up but she has never for once flashed, even when she misses my calls she will never call back.
So I recently came back after I travelled cos I'm on my annual leave, I called her and told her I'll like to see her, she said she isn't always chanced but obliged to see me after she closes from work by 6pm then she'll drop by a certain rendezvous we agreed on.
So by 5:30pm I got myself well dressed went to the ATM withdrew some cash, and waited for her but she closed from work and went directly back home without calling me, I waited till 7pm and since I didn't see her calls, I now called thrice, she wasn't answering, then I later called the fourth time and she picked the call and started blasting me with words like "why am I disturbing her life? am i that jobless? go find a job and all those profane words"
I now asked her where she is and she responded that where she is it's not important to me" I should stop disturbing her life and go get something useful to engage in.
Mehn after she insulted and embarrassed me on phone I just kukuma ended the call and went back home.
I'm suspecting she's a lesbian.
Honestly I'm so ashamed of myself, it's not easy coping with rejection or insults from female folks

in life nobody owes you acceptance. Since you knew she wasn't into you, you could have deleted her number. Focus on the people that love you and not the ones that tolerate you

Account2Many:
I met this pretty tall and gorgeous looking girl 3 months ago, we exchanged numbers but she hasn't been calling which is a sure sign that she isn't into me and I understood.
I'm the only one that has been doing all the calls and checking up but she has never for once flashed, even when she misses my calls she will never call back.
So I recently came back after I travelled cos I'm on my annual leave, I called her and told her I'll like to see her, she said she isn't always chanced but obliged to see me after she closes from work by 6pm then she'll drop by a certain rendezvous we agreed on.
So by 5:30pm I got myself well dressed went to the ATM withdrew some cash, and waited for her but she closed from work and went directly back home without calling me, I waited till 7pm and since I didn't see her calls, I now called thrice, she wasn't answering, then I later called the fourth time and she picked the call and started blasting me with words like "why am I disturbing her life? am i that jobless? go find a job and all those profane words"
I now asked her where she is and she responded that where she is it's not important to me" I should stop disturbing her life and go get something useful to engage in.
Mehn after she insulted and embarrassed me on phone I just kukuma ended the call and went back home.
I'm suspecting she's a lesbian.
Honestly I'm so ashamed of myself, it's not easy coping with rejection or insults from female folks

does her name starts with an "M and ends with a T"?
Cos I know someone that best describes the character

Account2Many:
yes because i can't fathom how she would reject me cos I possessed all the features.
She's a hardcore lesbian. why would she turn down a Date at one of the most beautiful and expensive sit out?

Because it's either She Accepts OR Rejects you, not every girl will say Yes.
Doesn't mean she is a lesbian.
There's something called CHOICE.

Account2Many:
I met this pretty tall and gorgeous looking girl 3 months ago, we exchanged numbers but she hasn't been calling which is a sure sign that she isn't into me and I understood.
I'm the only one that has been doing all the calls and checking up but she has never for once flashed, even when she misses my calls she will never call back.
So I recently came back after I travelled cos I'm on my annual leave, I called her and told her I'll like to see her, she said she isn't always chanced but obliged to see me after she closes from work by 6pm then she'll drop by a certain rendezvous we agreed on.
So by 5:30pm I got myself well dressed went to the ATM withdrew some cash, and waited for her but she closed from work and went directly back home without calling me, I waited till 7pm and since I didn't see her calls, I now called thrice, she wasn't answering, then I later called the fourth time and she picked the call and started blasting me with words like "why am I disturbing her life? am i that jobless? go find a job and all those profane words"
I now asked her where she is and she responded that where she is it's not important to me" I should stop disturbing her life and go get something useful to engage in.
Mehn after she insulted and embarrassed me on phone I just kukuma ended the call and went back home.
I'm suspecting she's a lesbian.
Honestly I'm so ashamed of myself, it's not easy coping with rejection or insults from female folks

OP why not use that money you wanted to spend on her and bless my life....

OP, are you a female troll hiding behind a male moniker? If your story is true, I would say you are a pathetic, desperate, and narcissistic simp. You have a big but fragile ego, and no self-respect. If I were your father, I would sell you for a gallon of fuel. Mtewwww. Just kidding.

I have a girl i met last week Sunday. I told her i am only interested in a serious relationship. Now the issue is that she doesn't return my calls. But when she eventually picks and i ask her about it, she will say she was really busy and apologize for not returning my call. She's also nice to me when we speak on phone. But then she repeats it again. Also, sometimes she reads my Watsapp message and hardly replies. Normally, I should have deleted her number and completely avoided her but now I am confused about this cos she still apologises and give me reason of being really busy with work. She's a nurse. I don't like wasting my time if it's not worth it. Can someone really advice me?

Openbusiness:
your smartphone is your bestfriend.

So if you can get my smartphone, you can figure me out?

vindisick:
I have a girl i met last week Sunday. I told her i am only interested in a serious relationship. Now the issue is that she doesn't return my calls. But when she eventually picks and i ask her about it, she will say she was really busy and apologize for not returning my call. She's also nice to me when we speak on phone. But then she repeats it again. Also, sometimes she reads my Watsapp message and hardly replies. Normally, I should have deleted her number and completely avoided her but now I am confused about this cos she still apologises and give me reason of being really busy with work. She's a nurse. I don't like wasting my time if it's not worth it. Can someone really advice me?

Someone who's truly into you will try to make out time for you irrespective of their schedule .

KrustyKrab:
Lesbian bawo? Say another thing op.
She is definitely not into you.. The signs were there but you nonchalantly refused to heed to it.

Carry whatever is left of your esteem and move the hell on. The last time i checked, girls never finish.

Use your head.


I Love Krabby Patty..

OK MR Krabs

I'm still wondering how guys put energy and wasted time in chasing ladies. If my first call,text,chat are not welcome I'm on the move..

Op
Just let her be, waste no time or money on planning something funny. Na u carry urself go meet her

If she is truly yours your path will cross again then you can ignore or embrace her

Account2Many:
did I ever lack it.
sense was still intact before and after the scenario.
The way I just sacrificed time and the stress to look good is what is vexing me

If you need girls contact me I'll give you girls for free. Stop going about chasing hoes that their pussy will be smelly at the end of the stress. Chase the bags

Sixfeetbelle:
So if you can get my smartphone, you can figure me out?

You're not catching up fast enough. I don't need your smartphone to figure you out. If I wanted to figure you out, I can just scroll through your social media posts to build a profile about you. But this matter isn't about "figuring you out", this is about getting you laid. Every girl is "attached" to her phone. There's a very strong attachment. Her phone is like her PA, her confidant, her bodyguard, her bestfriend. She spends a lot of time everyday with her phone, she gets a lot of emotional charge through her phone. 95% of the time, if you are gonna have regular access to her, you gotta go through her phone. It's the major access point. Now, for example, a guy meets a girl randomly, maybe he get 5 minutes or less or 10 minutes tops to interact, because she's up and about going somewhere to do something and spending the whole day with a complete stranger is not on her agenda. If he hits the right notes and there's a hint of curiosity or attraction, or interest or a benefit of a doubt (or even if it's just to cut the convo and be on her way), eventually she will give him her house address? NO! Or will she give him her office address? NO! Will she tell him her favorite hangout spot, or tell him her schedule where he can meet up with her on the way again? NO, NO, and NO. She will introduce him to her "bestfriend", which is her phone number! She will give him her number or email etc, which is still smartphone jurisdiction. Then they go their separate ways. Whether or not he's gonna be able to get her laid after that first meeting point, or even get to see her again, build a bond etc, depends on how familiar the guy gets with her "bestfriend" = her smartphone. If he can't win her over through her smartphone, then he won't be able to do it outside of that space. But if he clicks and flows well with her through her "bestfriend" (smartphone), the he can go from bonding with her in a virtual space to making things happen in the physical space etc. For example, if they get to the point where they start talking intimately inside her phone, then there's a 99.99% chance the guy is gonna get her laid in the world outside of her phone.

Openbusiness:
You're not catching up fast enough. I don't need your smartphone to figure you out. If I wanted to figure you out, I can just scroll through your social media posts to build a profile about you. But this matter isn't about "figuring you out", this is about getting you laid. Every girl is "attached" to her phone. There's a very strong attachment. Her phone is like her PA, her confidant, her bodyguard, her bestfriend. 95% of the time, if you are gonna have regular access to her, you gotta go through her phone. It's the major access point. Now, for example, a guy meets a girl randomly, maybe he get 5 minutes or less or 10 minutes tops to interact, because she's up and about going somewhere to do something and spending the whole day with a complete stranger is not on her agenda. If he hits the right notes and there's a hint of curiosity or attraction, or interest or a benefit of a doubt (or even if it's just to cut the convo and be on her way), eventually she will give him her house address? NO! Or will she give him her office address? NO! Will she tell him her favorite hangout spot, or tell him her schedule where he can meet up with her on the way again? NO, NO, and NO. She will introduce him to her "bestfriend", which is her phone number! She will give him her number or email etc, which is still smartphone jurisdiction. Then they go their separate ways. Whether or not he's gonna be able to get her laid after that first meeting point, or even get to see her again, build a bond etc, depends on how familiar the guy gets with her "bestfriend" = her smartphone. If he can't win her over through her smartphone, then he won't be able to do it outside of that space. But if he clicks and flows well with her through her "bestfriend" (smartphone), the he can go from bonding with her in a virtual space to making things happen in the physical space etc. For example, if they get to the point where they start talking intimately inside her phone, then there's a 99.99% chance the guy is gonna get her laid in the world outside of her phone.

Okay. Makes sense

Sixfeetbelle:
Okay. Makes sense

of cuz it does, I wrote it

Account2Many:
yes because i can't fathom how she would reject me cos I possessed all the features.
She's a hardcore lesbian. why would she turn down a Date at one of the most beautiful and expensive sit out?

this might be one of the reasons she turned you down

Account2Many:
I met this pretty tall and gorgeous looking girl 3 months ago, we exchanged numbers but she hasn't been calling which is a sure sign that she isn't into me and I understood.
I'm the only one that has been doing all the calls and checking up but she has never for once flashed, even when she misses my calls she will never call back.
So I recently came back after I travelled cos I'm on my annual leave, I called her and told her I'll like to see her, she said she isn't always chanced but obliged to see me after she closes from work by 6pm then she'll drop by a certain rendezvous we agreed on.
So by 5:30pm I got myself well dressed went to the ATM withdrew some cash, and waited for her but she closed from work and went directly back home without calling me, I waited till 7pm and since I didn't see her calls, I now called thrice, she wasn't answering, then I later called the fourth time and she picked the call and started blasting me with words like "why am I disturbing her life? am i that jobless? go find a job and all those profane words"
I now asked her where she is and she responded that where she is it's not important to me" I should stop disturbing her life and go get something useful to engage in.
Mehn after she insulted and embarrassed me on phone I just kukuma ended the call and went back home.
I'm suspecting she's a lesbian.
Honestly I'm so ashamed of myself, it's not easy coping with rejection or insults from female folks

The first signs a lady isn't interested in you is when she doesn't call you or when she doesn't call you back after missing your calls.

Same applies to SM like WhatsApp, telegram, Facebook etc. If you're always the one chatting her up, if you're always the one trying to make conversation, she isn't interested in you.

Move on, and learn from the encounter

vindisick:
I have a girl i met last week Sunday. I told her i am only interested in a serious relationship. Now the issue is that she doesn't return my calls. But when she eventually picks and i ask her about it, she will say she was really busy and apologize for not returning my call. She's also nice to me when we speak on phone. But then she repeats it again. Also, sometimes she reads my Watsapp message and hardly replies. Normally, I should have deleted her number and completely avoided her but now I am confused about this cos she still apologises and give me reason of being really busy with work. She's a nurse. I don't like wasting my time if it's not worth it. Can someone really advice me?

Ignore her. If she reaches out to you by herself and shows interest, then you can continue. Some people are not like the girl the OP met; who would tell you outrightly if they don't like you. She might just be trying to play nice not to hurt your feelings or just enjoying your attention (and probably that of other toasters like you as well); meaning that she dey take you catch cruise but she's being humane about it.

So, as painful as it may be for you, ignore her. If she reaches out to you after a while, then you define the problem and tell her you won't take it this time (you now hold some leverage). If she doesn't, move on forever!

Account2Many:
yes because i can't fathom how she would reject me cos I possessed all the features.
She's a hardcore lesbian. why would she turn down a Date at one of the most beautiful and expensive sit out?

Lol. Not every woman would fall for you. I repeat not every woman would fall for you. If you like be Jeff Bezos, Bill Gates, Aliko Dangote combined not every woman would fall for you.

Learn and move on.

op get a job or get engaged with your studies

when u are engaged with something u wont have that time be calling numbers of girls
ladies avoid men when they have the impression that such men are jobless
and u have just proved to the girl that u are jobless and idle

iInjureHerYansh:
If you need girls contact me I'll give you girls for free. Stop going about chasing hoes that their pussy will be smelly at the end of the stress. Chase the bags

lol omo this one weak me
I'm motivated and edified by this.
Probably she doesn't worth all those stress

lefulefu:
op get a job or get engaged with your studies

when u are engaged with something u wont have that time be calling numbers of girls
ladies avoid men when they have the impression that such men are jobless
and u have just proved to the girl that u are jobless and idle

did you read that I'm on my annual leave?

dairykidd:
Mtcheeww... all these women worshippers. A girl that can't sacrifice even 50 bucks airtime to call u even after seeing ur missed calls u still went ahead to arrange to meet the goat. Wetin dey una head when una dey put all these nonsense girls on pedestals Girls with no single levels

That was his second mistake, arranging a date after it was obvious she wasn't interested.

dairykidd:
Mtcheeww... all these women worshippers. A girl that can't sacrifice even 50 bucks airtime to call u even after seeing ur missed calls u still went ahead to arrange to meet the goat. Wetin dey una head when una dey put all these nonsense girls on pedestals Girls with no single levels

u don already talk am before and i will say it again
only jobless men the first thing they wake up in the morning they start calling a girl"s number to bug her
no man who is engaged doing something would have that time to be calling the phone contacts of girls
imagine girl bounce ur call and u still calling and calling and sending text
any man who does is such is a jobless man and no sane female would want to be with such a man

Account2Many:
did you read that I'm on my annual leave?

so u will spend the annual leave calling the phone contacts of girls who now bounce ur calls and u feel cool about it?
tell me are u dat ugly?
get some self esteem man

Account2Many:
what do you mean by wasting my youth?
Oga if you read that thread well you know that I'm on one month leave from work, I been just want to use this opportunity to bed her, that's all.
when I resume work I no get time again

Then you're wasting your own time. As soon it became obvious that the lady wasn't interested your should have moved on.

A little tip I learnt from a play boy back in uni, when you're trying to get a woman don't be asking one at a time, instead be asking 3 or 4 or more at the same time. That way if 1 or 2 disappoints, you have at least 2 women to fall back on.

TOMSY:
I guess a lot of people are just toxic, and they resonate with each other. That's the same reason why you see many people donating money to that Erica lady on big brother and they won't talk of Nengi's manipulation, only Ozo's fault.

So OP, just assess people's attitude to life before you get close to them.

Thank you very much for this.
The bolded is a very clear message I've received

SegFault:
Big time, she should not have given him her number. But another thing self is that if she did not give him op might still come to NL to disturb. I as a guy don't like the way Nigerian men just walk up to a girl you don't know at all and collect number, what sort of thing is that?

@bolded like seriously?