virginprincess:
Well i have nothing to say to you, because the op has giving you the best reply himself, nigeria men & their stupid mentality.

In as much as I understand your frustrations with his opinions, I think it's disrespectful to term Nigerian men stupid because of the shenanigans of one e-rat.

My sister, make we respect our men so dat dem too go respect us.

lereinter:


My struggle abroad is for my children first, my family second

Except if my wife is the one that link me abroad

everybody with his or her story... if your wife is not among your priorities, you know the reason why.......

Sisijetue:
*Deficient emotional vacuum* no dey feed mouth

lolssss. You sef..

foolbuster:


You were brought up right and you will raise real men.

Don't mind all these dogs that call themselves men. No standards, No morals, No discipline. The only thing they know is stick their penis into anything female.

So with the abundance of fine young women scattered everywhere, it is somebody's wife with 2 kids that they'll be lusting over
Tragic thing is they see nothing wrong in it.

Thank you for your kind words dear.. I appreciate

BKsoul:
everybody with his or her story... if your wife is not among your priorities, you know the reason why.......

Smh in Spanish. Women with scathing remarks

lefulefu:
probably the man might have married over there as well.Wen u see a guy overseas who is married and he"s not concerned about bringing his wife over then know for sure he has a woman there .Its not that complex when u overseas and want to bring over ur spouse to join u..except if u there illegally

This is not entirely true. There are also those with the right status that are also unable to bring their spouses and children over due to economic and or social reasons.
Economic reasons could be that he hasn't been able to raise the funds he requires to make such a move for his family. The social reasons are vast and I won't bother mentioning any. Though I do know of one person that refused to bring his wife to his country of residence cos he says she is terror but then he was going home every year to impregnate her and she has 5 children. Anyways, it's irrelevant trying to speculate the reasons. Every man on his own

Meteng:
So that she will not kill him or collect everything he's ever worked for if she goes over there

This your mentality, nah something else

SweetBrownBuns:



Smh in Spanish. Women with scathing remarks

which one be scathing remarks kwa? he feels his wife is not worthy enough for him to make her one of his priorities, he knows better and he has his reasons, that i am sure of, but if it was a woman that dropped that comment, nairaland will be on fire.... all i know is that THERE IS NO MANUAL TO MARRIAGE. what works for couple a may not work for couple b,

BKsoul:
which one be scathing remarks kwa? he feels his wife is not worthy enough for him to make her one of his priorities, he knows better and he has his reasons, that i am sure of, but if it was a woman that dropped that comment, nairaland will be on fire.... all i know is that THERE IS NO MANUAL TO MARRIAGE. what works for couple a may not work for couple b,

Smh vigorously in French.


You go be bad person to pick fight with. Make I run abeg

SweetBrownBuns:




Smh vigorously in French.


You go be bad person to pick fight with. Make I run abeg

lol... am a sweet soul, but you see, in this life, i wish people can always state thier reasons for going into marriage, it would be better, when you love someone, believing the person loves you too, then you find out she or he loves you for your money, you will be disappointed.

BKsoul:
lol... am a sweet soul, but you see, in this life, i wish people can always state thier reasons for going into marriage, it would be better, when you love someone, believing the person loves you too, then you find out she or he loves you for your money, you will be disappointed.

My dear I can see you still having firey romantic fantasies as your comment indicates. I nor get power abeg. Thus generation and marriage, na only God fit solve the equation, ma real Almighty formula marriage generation

SweetBrownBuns:




Smh vigorously in French.


You go be bad person to pick fight with. Make I run abeg

The moment one discovers thier love for a person seems outrageous and cannot be controlled then its high time you take a break instead of living a lie.

BKsoul:
The moment one discovers thier love for a person seems outrageous and cannot be controlled then its high time you take a break instead of living a lie.

Hmm, dem Don do o b4

.. Licks lollipop in Togolese

MJluv:

In as much as I understand your frustrations with his opinions, I think it's disrespectful to term Nigerian men stupid because of the shenanigans of one e-rat.

My sister, make we respect our men so dat dem too go respect us.

Good one dear.. We can discus in a civil manner

Chino4NAUTH:

I won't mount her bro.. Let another man do... Seriously I wonder as well why men do such, living this fine young woman without any touch of a man for years.

Ogbeni, i have seen alot of faithful women.. Not all of them are as bad as the one you encountered.

virginprincess:
I have been noticing how you give bad advice on this forum,why you advice him to sleep with someone else wife, very bad.

some people are nt God fearing at all

Chino4NAUTH:
I have been hearing about women who married their husbands and the man happens to be staying in overseas or moves to overseas thereafter for economic reasons to Carter for the welfare of his family.. Why it is good and fine economically it has left a deficient emotional vacuum for the wife and children esp if it's a young family..
I have a woman in our building whose husband stays abroad but she's always looking forward to talking with me and even trying to make me her confidant but I know the risk associated and had to find my away not to get more closer to her.she has only 2 kids fresh and cute.. Mind you she's still very much pretty and young.. I never knew she was married till I saw her fine kids

Share your experience with us

Same thing here. She has just 1 kid. She has turned me to enemy o because of this. I keep ignoring her. I love minding my business. The other lady in my compound's husband is also abroad but she minds her business.

Chino4NAUTH:

I won't mount her bro.. Let another man do... Seriously I wonder as well why men do such, living this fine young woman without any touch of a man for years.

Please don't.

This is to remind 'Christians' that fornication is a sin

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virginprincess:
I have been noticing how you give bad advice on this forum,why you advice him to sleep with someone else wife, very bad.

I quite understand you but the guy is being realistic.

Ask any Nigerian above the age of 40years if a 28yr old wife with a kid whose husband traveled to the UK since 2016 hasn't slept with any man since then.

lereinter:


So because of wife I should not travel

No I want to see good side of life so that I will be able to value heaven

just that the advantage be say if u are not married yet u can travel where u want to travel without fear or be thiking weda ur best friend in naija will be making moves on ur wife or weda ur wife will go outside .there are guys who can afford to travel but they know what their wives are capable of fear no let them waka .But if u are married and its quite important for u to migrate maybe to a PHD programme or masters which might elevate u in ur place of work u might have no choice than to move.Most times wen situation arise like that u really have to sit down with ur wife and make some heart to heart talk without her.And this is another reason wey a man suppose know the type of woman wey u marry ..very essential.If d woman wey u marry na d type of person wey sabi go outside then u suppose know.And also as a married man when u travel for some matter weda school or anything it should be a temporary base and not permanent and if it should parmanent then u should bring ur wife over.To me oo it does not make sense as a married man to just stay in a foreign country for yrs and abandon ur wife in naija and just be sending her monthly stipends.money is not everything biko..she needs to see u,feel u and be around u.some married men should be understanding abeg.If its just girlfriend and boyfriend issue and u want to travel u can easily break up with that one and get a fresh girl overseas wen u get dere..but not a wife...u cant break up with a wife.

Mrscarter:


It all depends on Ur state of mind. How U think n see things.
It can be lonely without your partner's cuddles n kisses n attention n time together. But sex itself well konji can be eased yourself n it's not the same but gets U past the urge

You are NOT wiser than God.

You are NOT more disciplined than God.

You are NOT more faithful than God.


When God created Adam and Eve, he put them in the same location- this is the order of nature.

However when humans try to be smarter than nature by doing the opposite, it often leads to problems.

This is akin to telling a Fish that it can survive for long and even thrive by living on the burning desert sand through more 'disciplined'

drnoel:


This is not entirely true. There are also those with the right status that are also unable to bring their spouses and children over due to economic and social reasons.
Economic reasons could be that he hasn't been able to raise the funds he requires to make such a move for his family. The social reasons are vast a I won't bother mentioning any. Though I do know of one person that refused to bring his wife to his country of residence cos he says she is terror but then he was going home every year to impregnate her and she has 5 children. Anyways, it's irrelevant trying to speculate the reasons. Every man on his own

hmm long distance marriage no be marriage oo..except u doing it for a temporary phase of time due to some unpreventable issues but if na for permanent basis that is not marriage.I sometimes wonder how wives whose husbands are overseas and whose husbands come once in a blue moon are able to cope.Many of these men who are not that reluctant to bring their wives over to join them where they reside are mostly married where they reside or have girlfriends.You know many of these whites dont like comptetion.They are not like nigerian women who can tolerate a second wife or a side chic..their society no be like that..men who cheat in their society hide to do it.not like us who flaunt our own.If the man is not married over there and is single there he would be more than willing than willing to bring his wife over.There some nigerian men living in germany and france who enroll their wives in naija into language schools so as to have the certificate of language studies which is one of the requirements to have if u travelling to some non english speaking european countries.thats to tell u how serious they are.When a naija guy is giving excuses why he doesnt want to bring his wife over then my brother he is married or engaged to some lady over there ..we all know this nau .The other guy u were saying he is refusing to bring his wife cos she is troublesome did he not see the troublesome nature of hers when he married her? i am sure dat one na just his excuse.Anyway most long distance marriage the help of God e dey survive oo.There some men they will just abandon their wives and kids and cut off all communication and begin a new life.Thats why u see many of their wives in naija sometimes having numerous lovers.

virginprincess:
Well i have nothing to say to you, because the op has giving you the best reply himself, nigeria men & their stupid mentality.

There's us nothing wrong with his advice. It's you who is too blind or whatever to understand. He said if the op doesn't mount another man will mount. He didn't say Op should mount. Note the difference. And the truth is since Op will not mount, which if I were in his shoes I wouldn't mount too, another man will eventually mount it's just a matter of time.

oyatz:



You are NOT wiser than God.

You are NOT more disciplined than God.

You are NOT more faithful than God.


When God created Adam and Eve, he put them in the same location- this is the order of nature.

However when humans try to be smarter than nature by doing the opposite, it often leads to problems.

This is akin to telling a Fish that it can survive for long and even thrive by living on the burning desert sand through more 'disciplined'

Lol sex is natural but so is having control of yourself.

MJluv:

In as much as I understand your frustrations with his opinions, I think it's disrespectful to term Nigerian men stupid because of the shenanigans of one e-rat.

My sister, make we respect our men so dat dem too go respect us.

He is not an e-rat I didn't buy the opinion at first but after his second post I understood him more. From your post he is actually more intelligent than you. His crime was he was blunt with the truth and I can relate because I've been insulted for saying the truth bluntly too.

Chino4NAUTH:

You passed through a normal hoeing phase most ladies pass through.. This one is just an afterthought which those currently hoeing now will also regret.. You enjoyed the fun and night stands while it lasted.. You only needed to settle down and now found out it wasn't needed having one night stand with random dudes when u can have a man all alone to yourself
Good you've found what suits u now

I only ever had a cpl one night stands but mostly my ex I was on n off with for many years he slept around cheated alot n I kept having him bk thinking I loved him n let him use me cos of it. I realised one day it wasn't love I felt it was just comfortable I'd know mostly just him n for so long n I wanted something real n better than that.
Wen U meet the right one U see things differently but even before that I was tired of settling for less than i really wanted.
Besides it isn't hard to control yourself especially wen U believe in your reasons for doing so

MrBrownJay1:


I wouldn't expect any less from a man... Thus I would certainly understand if this woman does the same. All you hypocrites would see nothing wrong with her husband going abroad to marry and/or fukc some woman for green card but then would look down on the wife doing the same thing. Who are we kidding here?

Now, remember, I am not saying that cheating on your spouse is right, I am just saying that I understand why such lady would lose her damn mind after being "sexually miserable" for so long.

Bro please stop replying this blockheads. If they can't see that your emphasis is on the lady not the Op then they can never understand you. Can't you see they are bringing you back to the man that will fvck the lady and not the lady that wants to be fvcked.

Meteng:
So that she will not kill him or collect everything he's ever worked for if she goes over there

if u have that type of believe to the woman u are married to and is the mother of your kids then it would have been better you didnt get married to her at all.Its weird when u married to a person u view as an enemy.

oyatz:



You are NOT wiser than God.

You are NOT more disciplined than God.

You are NOT more faithful than God.


When God created Adam and Eve, he put them in the same location- this is the order of nature.

However when humans try to be smarter than nature by doing the opposite, it often leads to problems.

This is akin to telling a Fish that it can survive for long and even thrive by living on the burning desert sand through more 'disciplined'

Lol.. Words on a marble

lefulefu:
if u have that type of believe to the woman u are married to and is the mother of your kids then it would have been better you didnt get married to her at all.Its weird when u married to a person u view as an enemy.

as in ehn, i tire.

MrBrownJay1:


I wouldn't expect any less from a man... Thus I would certainly understand if this woman does the same. All you hypocrites would see nothing wrong with her husband going abroad to marry and/or fukc some woman for green card but then would look down on the wife doing the same thing. Who .

it happened in my state sometime ago
the guy hustle im way to yankee when im marry one old yankee white woman.at first the guy wife in naija agreed to the plan with the pressure of the guy"s parents and everything was going on well for him in yankee.I think the plan was to get married to the old american woman divorce her then bring his wife over but the naija wife later lost her patience and sent a threatning facebook message to the guy"s american wife for her to leave her husband alone..dat the guy is her husband and they both have a child and she showed the american wife proof of the marriage .Bros had to run before im american wifey accuse am then posted the matter on the internet.But the guy"s parents chased away his naija wife for breaking up the racket.